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 what is wrong with me?
i dont know what is the matter with me. i want to change but i dont know what the problem is so i dont know how to fix it. firstly i dont have any feelings toward people. i mean i care about people ...


 serious guidance please!!! ="(?
i dont know myself anymore.. lately ive been doing a lot of bad stuff, ive been rebelling but i didnt know i was. im carlo and i am a cleptomaniac and i lie, i cheat, im mad, and i dont even know if ...


 Does this seem like a scam to anyone else? Regards depression.?
http://www.3-minute-depression-cure.com/index.php?s=&sid=62437&sma=antidepressants&lp=sc

Well apart from the date on the letter changing every day. It just seems too good to ...


 Hi, I'm 13 years old and i think I'm depressed. I'm not happy at all with my life and i really need help.
i havent been doing much latley, and well it feels like i dont have anyone to turn to. sometimes i find myself feeling ok and having a good time, but never am i truley happy. ive felt this way for ...


 How can raise my self esteem?
When i was 6 i was raped.....and since then i havent seen myself as beautiful or pretty or even cute! i jsut feel ugly and sinful and always call myself ugly even when i dont want to the thought is ...


 am depressed and i need someone to talk...someone who is concerned..someone who is willing to listen?
my family and friends are away from me..i have no one to talk to

heres my ym

summersaul_cool@yahoo....


 what herbs are good for depression?
Any help would be ...


 What is the percentage out of all death each year that by miss diagnosis kills people ???
This includes malpractice and everything that includes the wrong prescription, or what ever that from the wrong doctors diagnosis leads to death?...


 Why do I seem to cry about everything?
I'm 17 and I can't help, but cry about every little thing that bothers me. I cry when I leave people or when people leave me. I cry about things that aren't evn worth getting upset ...


 How can I be motivated to do stuff?
Im 16, and I have no hobbies, or interests, I have no motivation to work at school, I don't want a job, I never want to go out, I don't mind leaving my room completely horrible for months ...


 Can't get past son's suicide.?
My first born committed suicide at the age of 27. That was over 10 years ago. To this day I cry almost daily. I can't talk about it without crying. I can't visit his gravesite - it'...


 feeling depressed?????
i dont know what the **** is wrong i was so depressed lastnight that i cut on my shoulders and then i cried myself to sleep and then i kept telling myself i wanted to die.... but i dont wanna die ...


 Depersonalization cure help ?
hey i think i have Depersonalization because of loads of stress, i know i should see a doc but is there anything i can do at home and anything i can take, or what can i do to get rid of ...


 "The Secret" dose it work? please help me out ?
i downloaded the movie of piratebay.com anyway i watched and taught it was too good to be true but then i went on some froums and stuff and ppl kept bragging about how it worked for them

D...


 how do you keep up enthusiasm?
is a diminishing energy and enthusiasm an inevitable part of the aging process ?
are there any workable methods of regaining/maintaining them?...


 is there anything sort of natural that will help me sleep ?
i could sleep all day but i lie awake all night can anyone suggest something ?...


 What is the longest time youve gone without sleep?
And how did you feel? Once i couldnet get to sleep for 2 weeks and I felt really ill I felt like i was going to die.Have you got any cures for insommia? T...


 What are some pros and cons of having O.C.D.?
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 Does anyone know someone with a mental disorder?
I'm reading in psychology about different disorders like multiple personality, schizophrenia, etc... I'm very interested in personal stories that people may have. Maybe someone you know or ...


 I tried to overdose on pills and i want to try again?
I was so upset then i found a guy and he was my everything..i don't have many friends cause i push them all away and, so today all these terrible things happen to me and my boyfriend dumps me ...



shattered heart
help! my bipolar disorder is ruining my relationships with friends and family!?
my boyfriend of 8 months recently broke up with me (and by recently i mean about 3 hours ago) and i know he did it because of my dramatic behavior and rapid-cycling mood swings.

i love him and he loved me (i dont know if he still does) and i really want him back. i have also pulled away from my parents and lately cant even hold a conversation with them without it turning into a huge screaming fight.

i am on medication and my doctor recently ''upped'' my dosage, but i dont feel that it has helped any. i plan to call and make an appointment when her office opens but i could really use some advice as how to pull myself together and repair my relationships with my loved ones.
                      









What_The
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Maybe you don't have bipolar?
Maybe it's the medication that is screwing you up?

Psychiatrists are full of crap. It's not a science.
Get it out of your life!


Common Sense
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Bi Polar will continue to destroy all your relationships
until you get your meds right and it is under control..
Just ask him for patience and try to be submissive
to whatever he tells you to do...


mike oxbig
Wow.
That's quite a mouthfull.
Well, I can tell you that my father and myself are both bipolar.
And in earlier days, before diagnosis, yes, we were both acting just as you say. I still do from time to time.
But the doctor giving you medication? That I don't understand.
Neither my father of myself were perscibed any sort of medication. And if we were, I would NEVER take it!
In my opinion, medication is completely unnessesary!
Councelling and family support is what you need, not to be doped up!
I've read what others have written and I would NOT listen.
They talk out their ***. Only those of us who ARE bipolar know what it's like.
Take up boxing? Her friend took up boxing because if he didn't, he'd be beating people up on the streets! Obviously, he does not know how to control himself. Getting pissed all the time about everything, is not normal.
Trust me, some councelling will work wonders. You already know what is afflicting you, so you're one step ahead of me and my dad when we first went. We had no clue what the hell was going on. So we went to a shrink, was diagnosed and both of us are alright now. I mean, it took some work and some soul searching, but after all was said and done, my eyes were opened for the first time.
If you wish to get well, it is in YOU to do so.
Best of Luck,

JD

P.S. DO NOT listen to gardensallday.
She has no fuc%ing clue. Generic bipolar tips. HOLY FUC%
I take that as an insult! If you're not bipolar or a shrink, SHUT THE HELL UP!


!!joinCampaignforLiberty!!
Pull it together. You have to WANT to take control of your life in order to do so. If you want bad enough to act right, then you can. Take a deep breath, look at things from outside yourself, then do the right thing.


Amy F
The first thing you need to do is get on the right medication for you. This may take some time so you need to work closely with your psychaitrist (do not see a regular doctor for treatment of this). If you are on an antidepressant, are you also on a mood stabilizer? Antidepressants alone can often cause rapid cycling in people with bipolar disorder. Upping the dosage of antidepressant will only make this worse. I was originally treated with celexa for depression and it wasn't until the rapid cycling that I was correctly diagnosed. My psychiatrist added a mood stabilizer and I was finally able to get back in control of my life.

Once you have your illness under control, go to your friends and family and explain to them why you behaved the way you did. Educate them on your illness and how it affects your behavior. (You can do this now, but it is easier once you have your life under control). If they care about you, they try to understand and forgive your behavior. Even if things don't work out with your boyfriend, you will be in a better position to start a new relationship. I wish you all the best.


BethS
Talk it out with your family and boyfriend. Tell them what you've told us here, that you know there is a problem & that you are going to get to the doctor to get reevaluated and maybe have your meds changed. You are not alone. I went through a bout with depression and had to go on medication. It is no fun to feel like you have no control over your emotions.


Alfie333
You will be able to repair relationship with your bf and have a much better relationship with your parents as soon as the medication (I presume that you are on an antidepressant) kicks in. It usually takes about 3 weeks for it to take effect. You are smart to go see your doctor. If he/she feels that the medication you are on is not helping he /she will change it. There are a lot of antidepressants available so don't be discouraged. Sometimes several medications have to be tried before you find the right one.Do not be discouraged.Hang in there. Don't try to make any big
decisions until you feel better. Good luck.


trinity3x3
AT LEAST YOU KNOW YOU NEED HELP!!!!!
I give you props for that, it isnt easy to admit these things first of all, let alone have to go to a doctor.

I am a recurring depressive, I feel your pain in how it affects your daily life.
I have to speak from experience and say that living with someone with bi-polar disorder was a very difficult thing to do.
I was with him for 6 years, and every year, it got harder and harder. He would apologize for his actions, -for a while, that helped me to forgive and move on, to try to make it work.
I tried to help in any way I could, but after a while, found that I was walking on egg shells to avoid setting him off,,,
I was always worried about saying or doing the wrong things for fear I would be his trigger.
He did finally get some help, but he didnt take his dose regularly, and when he came off for good, he was worse.

If your dosage is wrong, or the meds are wrong, they may have misdiagnosed you. Keep on keepin on though, you seem like you know exactly what you need and have to do,,,you are on the right course!!!!
BUT,,,dont drive yourself crazy trying to figure out what is wrong with your relationship,,,,sometimes, you have to worry about you and only you dear, no matter how hard that may be. The truth is this, if he really loves you, and it is meant to be,,,,you will find your way back to each other.
Use this oppurtunity to heal you!!!! And unless your parents are triggers, or non-supportive, perhaps you should look into a support group---most mental health services would have a list of these meetings.
But if they are supportive and only want to help, then let them in! There is strength in numbers.
Good luck to you
My IM is open,,,,feel free to message me if you wish to talk more.


Suzanne S
Oh, hon I'm so sorry you're having a crappy day! Yes, do get in to see your doctor ASAP and tell her what's going on. Meanwhile you need to distract yourself from all this drama. Get out of the house and take a walk, go to a movie, etc. anything to keep your mind off what's gone down.

I KNOW from experience how hard it is to just get out of the house but I'm always glad I did. Don't stew in it, girl. I know it feels like the end of your world but it isn't just be honest and open about how you're feeling w/ not only your boyfriend but your parents too. I can guarantee they're hurting inside just like you. Hope this helps a little.


Marisol R
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WELL I HAVE SUFFERED WITH BIPOLAR FOR A LONG TIME AND I'LL TELL YOU I HAD A DOCTOR W./ WHOM WE DID THE MEDS. SWICTHING THINK I FELT LIKE A GUINEA PIG BUT I WAS UP FOR IT FOR REASONS LIKE YOURS N MORE..... BUT IT NEVER WORKED WE HAVE A COMPLICATED ILLNESS I THINK IT EFFECTS US MORE EMOTIONALLY THEN IT DOES MENTALLY IT'S AS IF WE ARE PREGNANT ALL THE TIME I FOUND THAT THE BEST THING FOR ME TO DO IN THE END [AND I JUST WANT 2 MAKE IT VERY CLEAR I DO TAKE MEDS. A LOW DOSAGE OF SOMETHING MILD] BUT I ALSO GO TO THERAPY. AND I GO ONCE EVERY TWO WEEKS FOR AN HOUR AND SOMETIMES WHEN THINGS ARE REALLY ROTTEN I GO ONCE A WEEK FOR AN HOUR AND I FIND IT HELPS ME.AS I SAID I BELIEVE THAT IT'S MORE EMOTIONAL THAN IT IS MENTAL AND A THERAPIST CAN HELP YOU SORT THROUGH THE TIMES WHEN I FEEL LIKE I'M EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE AND I NEVER FEEL AS IF I'M BEING ATTACKED OR JUDGED.MAYBE IT WILL WORK FOR YOU.


jodie6682
i have a bi polar friend who took up boxing it seems to have worked


Luis
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Maybe you should be more active, that might help with the cycling mood.


Neil L
You are taking the first step by working with your doctor. I hope that the doctor is a psychiatrist because he can provide you with advise. I hope that things are under control soon.


gardensallday
I'm going to give you my generic bipolar tips that I give everyone, but here's what I think on your specific case:

When you're bipolar, you need to learn to apologize sincerely and often. And you need to tell them that it's not them, it's you, and what you say when you are flipping out is NOT what you really think, you're just flipping out.

You need to warn people when you are going to lose it, tell them to go away. Maybe come up with a code-word, like "fruitcake" (OK< some bipolar humor there) and when you say that, they know they should take off and give you your space. I have a heck of a time with remembering to do stuff like this when I'm in breakdown mode, but when I've been successful, it's helped.

Be aware that bipolar can get MUCH worse during PMS time, keep track. This is well-known by psychiatrists, but they never seem to mention it to their patients. My husband is really careful when I am pmsing. When you have PMS, don't do anything frustrating, and avoid any important conversations. Let people know that you are really thin-skinned right now, so please no sarcastic humor or criticisms.

Sometimes you end up losing relationships. Some people can't deal. I lost my best friend over it, and I never yelled at her, she couldn't stand all the suicidal ideation. I had a bad marriage. But as you get older you learn to deal with it better thru experience and these things probably won't happen anymore.

Also, finally, be aware that some pills can destabilize some people. When I took ativan, benadryl, nyquil, risperdal, or seroquel, all those pills made me really angry and unable to control my behavior. Ambien flipped me out so bad I ended up hospitalized in a horrible place. So watch what pills you are taking, they can cause problems on their own. Seems like any pill that can cause something called akasthisia is a culprit for me. So I never tried Abilify (costs too darn much anyhow).Antidepressants can also really really destabilize bipolar. Lamictal works great for me.

My generic bipolar tips:

#1 You need to take the meds as prescribed. You can't miss. A lot of people forget from time to time, and the pills can't work if you forget to take them. There are pill boxes with little alarms on them. If your symptoms are getting bad, you need to call up your psychiatrist for a med adjustment. You may never get complete relief, but you will need to try things maybe for a few YEARS to be sure you can't tweak things to a really good place for you.
#2 You probably will need the support of a counselor all your life. You have to learn to cope with stress better than most people, because stress makes the bipolar symptoms a lot worse. You will also have to make big efforts to keep a good social support network. To avoid burning through people, make sure you apologize sincerely and often if you go off on them or ignore them due to symptoms. You may want to join a support group with other people with mood disorders, they will give you a break and take it less personally when you relapse. Get some books on reducing stress. Over time, work your life into a low-stress direction.
#3 You need to keep a routine. Get up and go to bed at the same time each day. Sleeping in makes depression worse, staying up all night makes mania worse. Never take a swing shift type job.

If your depression seems to be more of a problem in the winter, try to get more sun. You could have seasonal affective disorder, or SAD, or your depression could have a seasonal component, meaning you can get depressed other times of the year, but you tend to have more trouble in the winter. A light box is really good if you can afford one (about $300 online, don't get it at a local store, they will charge more for a light less than 1/2 as bright). Since I will always have a mood disorder, I have put in extra windows, keep the drapes mounted so they don't cover them, make sure I spend a lot of time in southern exposure rooms, painted the walls peach and yellow, mostly. I even have a skylight, although that was here when I moved in (and I LOVE it, it helps a lot!!!!!)

If anxiety is a component of your depression, try turning the heat up in the house or dressing much more warmly. It is hard to feel anxiety when you are too warm. I was able to cut out ativan use altogether by using this trick. Saved me big $$ too, because pills cost way more than heat. Hot baths work too, and in a pinch, like at work/school, you can try running hot water over your hands. Also, if anxiety is a primary problem, avoid caffeine like the plague. I personally use a lot of caffeine, because the depression is much more of a problem than the anxiety. Can't win for losing! Also, some cold remedies can cause anxiety and mania, and lack of control. Look for the "agitation in children" warning on the box. Adult bipolar folks can get problems too. Other drugs can trigger mania, too, like steroids (given at surgery I think).

Try meditation tapes like progressive muscle relaxation or guided imagery. They may seem silly at first, but they work!! They help reduce stress, which makes depression worse.
Go out with friends, and if you don't have any, find a club to join and MAKE yourself go until you actually look forward to it. Isolation makes depression worse. I go to a social club for people with severe mental illness, because I'm ashamed of my disability and don't want to deal with the “what do you do for a living” question.

Exercise at least 1/2 hour a day, and anytime you feel really hyper or depressed. Exercise is a great mood stabilizer and cuts down on anxiety a lot.

If your mania makes it hard for you to sleep, here are some good "sleep hygeine" tips so you can sleep better. Like go to bed and get up about the same time each day, even weekends. Don't use your bedroom to watch TV and read and use the computer and all that-just use the room as a bedroom normally would be used. Don't do stuff that pumps you up right before bed, like exercising and using the computer. (sooooooooooo hard!) You want to use that last hour to wind down-Take a bath? Make the bedroom really dark, cover up the clock radio, even so the light doesn't shine at you. If you live in the rackety city, use a noise generator (makes wave sounds and the like) to cover up the city sounds. Avoid caffeine in the afternoon and evening.

Put a lot of colorful things around the house, happy type things, and keep the blinds open and let the sun in. Get yourself some flowers. Put on some nice clothes. Make a list of things that make you happy. Here's some things on my list: A basket full of fluffy kittens, bread fresh from the oven, Fireworks popping on a warm summer evening, The first fireflies of the season, the scent of Jergen's cherry almond lotion, The crisp sound of a saltine cracker breaking, fresh sheets on the bed, flicking a topwater lure out onto the morning-still lake water, etc. Use all your senses and read that list when you are breaking down.
Work on time management if being overwhelmed and late for things and too much to do is getting to you. Cut back on other responsibilities temporarily so you can spend more restorative time with friends and family. Ask for help when you are really having symptoms. You have to learn to be humble here, if you need help, you need help.

You got a significant other? Extra physical touch is very helpful. Most people in the US or UK are touch deprived, so hold hands more, hug more, give shoulder rubs, etc. A pet is good to cuddle with, too, if your home situation allows you to get one. (I'm an animal lover, don't get one if you can't commit to it for 15 years)

If your bipolar is severe (poorly controlled by meds) then consider asking for help from social services. My county offers classes and there is also a consumer run drop in center, which is a fun club for people with mental illnesses run by people with mental illnesses. We play cards and pictionary and do crafts and take trips places, etc. The drop in center has helped me more than anything else, except the pills. Social support-so important!!

Go to bipolarworld.net and read all of Dr. Phelp's (Ask the Doctor) stuff, including the links to his site. You can learn a lot from him, he's a bipolar specialist.

I have really really severe psychiatric symptoms from bipolar disorder and post traumatic stress disorder. And I am able to control my behavior most of the time even when I am suffering, and able to feel quite a bit better using some of these tricks, because the meds have only been partly effective for me. I am in agony a lot of the time, really unstable. If I didn't do stuff like the above, I would be in an institution for sure. So hopefully some of these things may provide some real relief for you.


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