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 I have anger issues really bad.One little thing makes me upset or mad.What should i do?
I take it out on everybody else that don't deserve it.I give attitude....


 When your mind wanders..................?
What do your hands do?
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 How to focus while dealing with depression?
I finish uni in about 2 weeks, but for the last four weeks i've been putting up with extremely bad depression, which is only made worse when my flatmates remind me I have assignments to do. And ...


 How would you attempt to correct irrational thinking?
How can you rid someone of predictable, habitual, and irrational thoughts once you've acknowledged it? The problems are not ones that warrant a visit to a psychiatrist....


 If a guy was raped in his sleep by a girl, would it wake him up or know it when he wakes up?
If a guy was raped in his sleep by a girl, would it wake him up or know it when he wakes up?

I'm basically just worried this happened to me, and I'm kinda worried about it. I ...


 What can you do when you've lost the will to live?
Life just seems so pointless to me anymore, im going to die one day anyway, so why not now? What's the point of even living if i feel miserable all of the time? I dont necessarily want to die, ...


 Im suicidal and i told my friend..what would u do?
i told my one friend everything how im depressed and how i cut and how i made plans for suicide. but i was just wondering if you could tell me how exactly you would be feeling if one of your friends ...


 Can our dogs have schizophrenia or other similar psychological disorders?
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 What should i do about my depression?
i'm a teenager and have now felt depressed for nearly a year, i've done quizzes online that tell me i have severe depression and i have told no one the extent my depression goes. When i'...


 OK, I admit it: I'm bored. Bored with life. Bored of being alone and bored of being broke.?
I'm a loner, but I've always been able to keep myself occupied/distracted, with music, books, films, and recently, keeping fit. These days I'm feeling restless in the evening, less ...


 why do i keep forgetting nouns?
i am having a rather frustrating problem at the moment that i seem to be unable to remember nouns a lot of the time, and instead often have to describe objects by their features. I also sometimes ...


 amphetamine (speed) what are the effects of using this daily over a long space of time?
My friends nephew tried to kill himself 3 days ago.It wasnt a cry for help it was a genuine attempt to end his own life, I wont go into details..after being taken to hospital it turned out he had a ...


 will you get in trouble?
will somone get in trouble if they are chatting online in general and they start saying im going to bomb a tower or im going to kill the president...can police find that easily......


 you ever feel ike you just dont belong anywhere?
im 28 and the older i get the more i feel like i dont belong. so many things about our life on this planet seem so backwards to me. ive felt this way since high school. everyone got so worried about ...


 Panic attack or anxiety attack?
what is the difference? Lately I have been having one or the other, I'm sure of that. I have had them off and on for a while but they have been getting really bad lately. I feel like my heart is ...


 My mom commited suicide, now what do I do?
I'm 14 and my mom committed suicide 4 months ago. About two weeks before she killed herself I found out she was suicidal and confronted her. I made her promise she wouldn't kill herself and ...


 do you self harm or ever have?
or ever have im not gonna juge its just a queston and you dont have to anser

i self harm so yeah im not gonna say any thing bad to ...


 What are the side effects of Prozac?
Also are there any ways to get around them while still getting the benefit of the medication?

DRAGON 2008
"I BELIEVE IN U.S."
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 I don't think I've got a PERSONALITY!!?!!?!!?!!?!!?!!?
Okaay.. :(
I look at a bunch of famous people like Jennifer Tilly and Hayley Williams - and they are sooo totally amazing and popular and so damn FAMOUS! All my friends have got something about ...


 Why do I have a fetish for blood?
Okay so, I've always had a thing for blood. I mean, I would get cuts and lick the crap out of it when I was little. It tastes so good to me, lol. I'm bipolar, schizophrenic, and I have a ...



sassy06
Ever sense my mom died I CAN'T SLEEP and cry almost every night?
my mom was my bestfriend and ever sense she died I'm so lonely and worried I'm married and my husband loves me but hes always working and we dont live toghether right now cause his job and that fine, we see each other twice a week and that's perfect but he dose'nt have a clue what's going on with me he knows I can't sleep well, BUT dose'nt now I cry alot sometime when he calls at night I'm crying and hide it and don't say anything whats wrong with me?
                      









jess
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your mom isn't gone.she's probably right next to you right now! ask her for a sign that she's still there , and listen. it will probably come across as a coincidence, but that's just the way god works. go on ask her. you also may want to consider grieving therapy. it should help a lot. don't forget to ask god for help to.


KUGA
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dont let it bother you., its horrible that your mother died and i would think she wouldnt want you to be sad for the rest of your life, talk it over with your husband maybe he can help if he cant think of what your mother would say


Katprsn
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You're grieving and you have every right to she was there from the time that you were born, and were obviously close to her and have every right to miss her and grieve for her. First of all you need to tell your husband how it's affecting you and let him be a support system for you someone to hold you when you cry, let him in to help you hiding it isn't good for either one of you, maybe you should go and stay with him a couple of nights a week with him if possible so you can be close to each other a bit more. Secondly see your family Dr. and tell him how you are feeling and if it will help see a grief counselor to help you process your emotions. And this is just a thought but if you don't have one maybe you could get a cat or dog if it is possible in your living arrangement you would be surprised at how much company they are and how much they will help and be a source of comfort when you are lonely and missing your mom. I am sorry for your loss I hope that this helps.


randomwolf88
sorry


lady_jane_az
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what your threw it is normal. you need to find a grief group. remember when you love someone no matter were you are they are with in your heart. it might be wise to speak with your doc about you not sleeping he might be able to help. sleep is so importan to your body and mind.


Ikeg
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I wouldn't question my grieving for my Mother. Like a lot of the answers said, grieving takes time. My Mom WAS my best friend as well for 19 yrs. She hasn't died, but I feel as though she has. She is alive, but doens't remember hardly any thing about me, and barely who I am. She doesn't go any where with me any more, afraid of falling! I lost my Mother-in-Law, and she was my best friend as well. I'm still sad when I think about her. It's been 5 yrs. since she passed away. I finally don't cry when I talk about her any more. But, hon, it takes time! We aren't crying for them, we are crying for our own loss! But they are better off where they are now. I know that isn't much comfort, but it will be in time! Just remember how much she loved you, and how much you enjoyed your time with her, and be thankful that you COULD! Continue LOVING her, and don't try shutting yourself UP just to make someone else comfortable. I really question why you feel you can't talk to your husband, and why he isn't around more to support you during this time? You NEED to TALK, TALK, TALK about your MOM to someone! About all the good times, as well as the bad times, until you can't talk NO MORE! I wrote a story about my mother-in-law! I cut out the picture of her in the paper and taped it to the story, and I still have the story! It was like an epilogue of her's and my life together after I married her son. Do that with your MOM, it is very healing! I felt like I was talking to her sometimes, like I could just reach out and touch her. Of course I couldn't, but it felt that way! The more alive she came in story, the less I cried! Finally getting to a point where the pain was less.
But I didn't try to stop the crying nor the grieving. The more you try to stop, the stronger the pain will be, because you haven't gone through all of the stages of grief yet. Hang in there! It will get easier.


The Quiet One
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I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. This is going to be one of the most difficult things you ever do in your life, and I have nothing but respect for you, but you need to learn to let her go. It's the only way you'll ever be happy again. It's going to take some time, maybe weeks, maybe months, but I'm sure this is what she'd want you to do.

I know you miss her, but she doesn't want you to be unhappy, your husband doesn't want you to be unhappy, I don't want you to be unhappy, and neither does anybody on this page. I wish you the best of luck and I hope your struggle ends soon.


Scott T
Think about what she would be thinking by seeing you in such a state. She would be devastated to know that you are a mess over her. Get on with your life, give yourself a new challenge that will help you be a better person and make her proud! Also you may want a pro`s opinion, I`m just a nobody!


natashainka
Nights are usually the worst time when you have a loss because you are not active, the house is quiet and your mind just wont quit thinking. Try when you go to sleep making your mind recap your life with your mom from the time you were a child till the day she left...remember all the good memories, the happy times...do this as you are trying to fall asleep. She will be with you as you do this and it will help you sleep....do this every single night...and eventually you will not be crying anymore only remembering the good and wonderful memories that you will have forever.


AB
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You are depressed. This is normal. When my grandfather died,(and he was like my dad) I cried for months. I had my husband there sometimes(he is in the marines) and my 3 month old is what kept me going. There are no words, sorry doesn't take the pain away, but you should see the doctor to get you on some anti-depressants and sleeping pills until you can resolve this. The pain will never go away, you just learn to deal with it. Knowing they are in a better place always helps me. Finding a place for grieving family members, or support groups will help. Pray about it, no matter what your religion is, praying helps. Good luck and I hope you can get through this. My mom is my best friend too, I can only imagine your pain.


BETTY S
The loss of a loved takes time to adjust. I will not say "Time heals all". I lost my dad to a heart condition in "83" and my oldest son was murdered in "92". Both losses were unbearable. I have learned to live with the loss and pain (I still cry for both). My husband would stand by my bed (he thought I was asleep) and say "I don't know how to help you get through this". One time I had left a office where a lot of joking was taking place a guy said "Whats her problem she never cracked a smile". My great defender said my wife lost her son 5 years ago she hasn't smiled since.I am afraid I will never hear her laugh again. It took time I still cry but I can laugh again just not as much as I use too. Everyone has to grieve in their own way, the length of time verys from person to person. One day you will begin to cope. Prayers are with you.


Granny 1
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I'm so sorry for your loss.You need to go to grief counseling, it really helps. Every Hospice has one and its people that have suffered the same loss you have so they understand. Take care of yourself and may God Bless


onearkansasmommy
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It is called grieving. How long has it been since your mom passed on? There is no set time frame for how long somebody grieves, because everybody grieves differantly. I would look into finding a support group. Or maybe try writing a journal to get your feelings out. And definately tell your husband what is going on, that way he can be more supportive and possibly be able to help you by providing you with somebody to talk to that you trust(himself). And most of all, dont think there is something wrong with you, it is completely normal.


chocolate smoke
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theres nothing wrong with you...its called greiving it dont go away but you will be able to deal with it better in time. (sorry)


adictpunk04
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Sorry to hear that doll. All you jave to know that your mom is now resting and you should feel good knowing that she is in a better place. Of course you will feel very sad but honest there is nothing that can be done. Dont cry. Thats all I am gonna tell you. Dont cry. Just cherish the moments you guys spent together...


narrfool
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Please go see a grief counselor. I could tell you the stages you will go through, but having a real person to talk to will help you get through this better since they will help you with specific concerns. The longer you wait, the longer it will eat you up inside. If you have health insurance, most plans have some allowance for this type of thing. You need to take care of yourself before you can really take care of your family.

Condolences and good luck.


kallmetigger
I am so sorry. You need to go to a support group. Call Hospice, they offer support groups, and it is for anyone who lost a loved one. It doesn't have to be from cancer either. They really help, and you can grieve and get support and in return offer support for others too. Best of luck


Mountain Bear
Without knowing how long you've been this depressed, can't say if it's part of normal grief or not.

Realize depression, sorrow, sleep disturbances are very common as one grieves, especially when she was both a mom and a best friend. Be thankful for such a wonderful relationship, try to focus on what you had and realize most people sadly never have that with their mom.

Don't just run for the anti-depression medication, because grief is normal, even though we live in a society that is preaching that no one should ever feel sad or they need to take a pill to get happy.

Sorrow, grief are a part of life.

Do you know that they have grief support groups that many people find very helpful? Call the funeral home where you had your mom's viewing. They can often tell you of a grief support group, that's free, in your area.

If that doesn't slowly over a few months begin to help, then maybe you need to look towards counseling, but realize, many people take six months to a year to get where they can finally stop crying, return to normal sleeping, and feel happy agian. Some grieve briefly, some for much long and both ways and durations of expressing grief are okay, normal.

If you can't find a support group, put your own AD in the paper and ask for others who want to get together and be there for each other as they work through their grief. You could even make it a grief support group especially for woman who have reasantly had their mom's die, that way you'd have something in common.

Remember you will feel good, happy and enjoy life again, it just takes time. Let it all out, write about it in a journal as many find journaling a great way to work through a variety of life situations and emotions.

Just don't get into the habit of staying home and hidding out, that can lead to clinical depression. Make sure you at least get up each day, bathe, take care of your home and yourself and children.

Go for a walk each day and talk to your mother in your mind as you walk, she can hear you through the Veil, I promise. Talk to her as though she were walking with you, share with her your life as you did while she was here in mortality.

Give yourself time, grief that is expressed has a way of finding it's own path of healing.

Sorry your Mom and bestfirend died!


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