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soljagurl317	First of all, my bf could not decide whether I kept the baby or not, because it would be my decision; my body, my choice. I would have to grow up and take care of my responsibilities, and learn to adapt. Like i first said, your child and your bf are two different people. If he is unable to step up you have to. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mmalha2001	I would get an abortion if I was that young and pregant. I am 29 years old now and my two older siblings have kids and it's really tough!! Having kids is a blessing but not being a good or a great mom is so sad. Please think of the life you would be able to give this child and think of your life. What about college? Education is the key to sucess. It is your body and your choice and NO, I don't think it's wrong. I know a lot of women who have had abortions, none of them have ever told me they regret that decsion. Please use protection in the future. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MissHealthPromoter	If I was in this position when I was 18 or 19, this is an option that I would seriously have considered. You have to look into yourself and see if you have the emotional strength to handle this choice. An abortion is a very traumatic event, for your body and soul. However, if you feel that you are truly not able to handle the pregnancy and the idea of giving your child up for adoption does not appeal to you then it is a viable option. Also you have to look at yourself, could you handle the responsibility of raising a child on your own? If you think you have the strength to do that, then have the child, but do not count on your partner being there. The guy in this scenario seems to be very immature and should never have been allowed to have sex in the first place. Please remember though that abortion is not a form of birth control and should only be used under special circumstances and after a lot of soul searching. It comes down to, could you live with yourself if you had the abortion and could you live with your child if you didn't? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Bre	To answer your question...YES it is wrong if you take the life of an innocent child for the sake of hoping your boyfriend stays with you! Personally, if you want to know what I would do...I am a 20 year old woman who is paying for my own school and living on my own with a boyfriend of over 2 years...I would keep my baby because it would feel like a part of me! I could never give it up! I would work as hard as I could and no matter what my boyfriend wanted or did I would keep my baby. I am not emotionally or financially ready for a child right now but if I got myself into a situation where I became pregnant I would deal with it! If you want it and stick with it, you will figure it out both emotionally and financially..it may be hard but well worth it in the end. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

RUth	i would not abort the baby. not only for the baby's sake but for your own. abortions are very dangerous and can cause YOU major complications physical and psychological .. There are crisis pregnancy centers all over the country that are there for people just like you.. They have people you can talk to about all of your options. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tbo	I couldn't do it. Never for any reason. But that's just me. How about putting the baby up for adoption. So many couples who are ready for a baby aren't able to have one and would love to have the opportunity to become parents. Whatever you decide, make sure it's your decision and no one elses because it will shape the rest of your life. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MANDY026	This guys is trying to force you into something that you really don't want to do, and something you would end up regretting horribly for the rest of your life. Abortion, even though I would never have one, is suppose to be YOUR CHOICE, how horrible would you feel to know that you killed your unborn child just because you wanted to keep a guy around. If he is telling you these things he is not going to stay around anyway. Abortion or no abortion. You should 86 him now. It is obvious that you don't want to have an abortion. I know too many people that live their lives in turmoil for making that choice when they didn't really want to. Just an FYI, I had two children with doctors telling me I should abort with both and friends and family telling me the same. I had some problems that made it dangerous for me to carry. I have two beautiful healthy children that were born severely premature. One I had at 18 and I wouldn't have it any other way. Make this decision for you. You know what you want and what your hear is telling you. I followed my heart, not what others wanted for me. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lola	you do what is right for you-whats right for you will be right for the baby whether or not you decide to bring the baby in this world-do you have supportive parents-may want to advise w/ them also-and this guy will be in your life and the babies life-forever-whether or not you want him to be Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

April M	You're asking the opinions of other people. This is a decision to be made by the people involved- especially the woman. Consider it from all angles- especially emotionally and financially because these are going to be the two things that are most affected at this time. 18, 19. That's very young. A lot will change in the way you view life between now and even 5 years down the line. Also consider the fact that no matter how in love you feel you may be at this point in time, the vast majority of people don't remain the relationship they're in at 18. Of course the father's opinion should be considered, but it's ultimately the woman's decision of what to do since it will be her life that is most affected by the choice. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Pricklyash	Listen, abortion is murder anyway you look at it. I get really upset when I hear people call abortion pro-choice when it should really be called "pro-death". The baby that was conceived is an innocent human being with no fault. The father should have thought about the responsibilities: financial and emotional before he decided to have sex. As far as having a baby, once you go through the pain of bringing him/her to this world, there will be nothing else that will give you more satisfaction and give your life more meaning than to have him/her with you. It will be tough being a parent, but all things that are good will have sacrifice --but it's all worth it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mktgfmbt	I dislike abortion very much, but still think it is important to be legal and to use it if the situation warrants it. If you cannot take care of a baby why bring it into this world? You are young with lots of life ahead of you, and time to focus on your education, career, emotional and financial livelihood and wait until you prepared to have a child. I believe this is a reasonable and fair choice if your path leads this direction. However I would really recommend that you look into adoption. There are two main type of adoption: closed adoption - you don't know the parents, they don't know you (but you have dossiers on each other with family history, background, etc - but no names, addresses, or other personal-identifying info) open adoption - there are all levels of "open" in open adoption. You can meet the parents, have them at the birth, visit with them regularly before and after the baby is born and set boundaries on the contact you would like to have with the baby. Or you can just have more confined contact like a letter a year - whatever you and the prospective parents work out. I chose the second option. One of the hardest but best decisions I ever made. I went through the IAC (http://www.adoptionhelp.org/) 13 years ago. I was married with two kids and a husband who wanted me to have an abortion or he'd leave us. I couldn't do it for myself (abortion), but I knew I wasn't ready to have another child. The parents of my son (now almost 12) are the most wonderful, amazing people. He has a wonderful life with parents who adore him, and he sees me and his sibilings once or twice a year and we write to each other. And my jerk off husband deserted us and cheated anyway. But I can live with my decision and the decision I made for my son - and his siblings. And I was able to recover, get educated, get a fantastic job and now have a wonderful life with great kids and a beatiful extended family of love. I'm not going to lie and say it is easy, but it is worth it. Get friends and a support network around you. Arm yourself with information. See a therapist, talk with your bf (he would have to sign papers to give the baby up as well), call the IAC for confidential help/resource and then take all the information you have and figure out what the best choice is for YOU and your unborn child. Be realistic with yourself. Being a young, single mother without much money or experience in the world is HARD. Really, really hard. A baby is an amazing gift and can feel really good - but let me tell you that you will have a hard time remembering this when you are 20 and have to struggle to find work, a sitter, pay bills, and deal with a toddler who needs constant help, cleaning, feeding, love and care. If more people made better decisions on bringing kids in this world, we wouldn't have so many abandoned, abused uneducated, unwanted children - who don't stay children - but grow up to perpetuate the cycle unless they are one of the luckier ones. Don't doom your child to a life you wouldn't want for yourself. I wish you much love and peace in finding help. If you need anyone to talk to, please email me at my yahoo account (this screen name). Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Beth	no. An abortion is wrong, it is the killing of an innocent human life. If I were ever in the situation you described (heaven forbid!), I would definately put my baby up for adoption. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

howjay1	Wow. I would usually avoid answering a question like this, but I think one very important thing is being overlooked. The situation is not about you anymore, but about the life growing inside you. The fact that you are obsessing over your relationship and getting your boyfriend back only emphasizes your immaturity. I would suggest you get counseling before you make a decision you'll later regret,regardless of what it is!! My niece got pregnant at 16 and had the baby, but had alot of professional help and parenting classes. You need to do the same. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chrissylm37	CONDOMS??????? Does anyone use them anymore????? Your both old enough to care for a child emotionally, more you than him. He told you he wasn't ready to be a Daddy, because he doesn't want the resposibility. Well he should have thought about that before having sex with you. If you want this baby then have it....with him or without him. If he doesn't want to be with you and help you, then you know he was only with you for the sex. He'll have to support the baby anyways so he might as well start looking for a good paying job. If you kill this baby because he wants you too then shame on you. Your the one that will have to live with the pain and guilt of it, not him. Its your baby too, do what you feel in your heart is right for you "NOT" him. Don't abort the baby because he don't want it. Remember...everything happens for a reason. Good luck Hun. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cookie	probley wont bring him back but u shouldnt have an abortion u had unpretected sex u should have thought about that if u dont want it give it up for adoption there so many loving couples that cant have children children are a gift u are lucky Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Eonix	I have 5 Children and no I don't believe in abortions (BUT) there are reason's people have them, that is not for me to judge.On the other hand if you want to have this child have it ,it is up to you, you are the mother and if the boyfriend leaves you , he leaves you, life will go on. Don't ever use a child to get a man back, if you do it will not be good for your child, if the man comes back he will because he loves you both. No matter if the man is with you or not he will all ways be in your life as you would have the bond of your child together Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Scarlett Rose	Yes, I'd have an abortion without a doubt if I got pregnant by mistake unplanned. ANWAY...Abortion is not murder. I'm tired of answering abortion questions, but I still continue to because I'm a woman, and it pisses me off to see people trying to take my rights away. MY body, MY life, MY business, MY fetus, MY choice. Although I do think some people are stupid for not using birth control, or taking the morning after pill, that doesn't mean they should be bringing a child into this world. Also, sex is a beautiful, natural, pleasurable thing and anybody who says to wait until marriage is a moron. Marriage doesn't mean ANYTHING. Marriage is just a piece of paper you sign; marriage is a contract, and nothing else. Everybody deserves to have sexual pleasure, no matter how young they are. If they are ready, let them have sex. It is nobody's business, and nobody has a right to criticise people who have sex. Yes, mistakes happen and the women becomes pregnant, that's why abortion is an option! What kind of person is going to stop having sex?! I know I can not live without sex. NO, i'm NOT some horny freak, but i love sex just like anybody else who is sexually active does. Sex is wonderful, and nobody can deny it or say they do not enjoy it. Pro-lifers should just mind their own business already and worry about more important matters as opposed to obsessing over insignificant embryos and fetuses. Pro-lifers waste their time harassing and attacking people who have had abortions and pro-choicers just because they have different views and opinions. Pro-lifers can be accomplishing many things, but NO, they decide to waste their time getting into other peoples' business. I mean, come on, do they really think attacking abortion clinics, or praying in front of them will make a difference? They should mind their own business and get an education. "God" will not "help" them through everything. They should use their brains and stop relying on religion. "Kill" the unwanted embryos, and fetuses! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

k-mac	i know it'll be hard, but a blessing at the same time. Keep it, this baby will bring joy to you in more ways than you think. god bless. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Elske	I would keep the baby and remember that if women would wait until they were (emotionally and financially) "ready" to have a baby most women would NEVER have babies. Please, keep the baby and try to work it out with or without the boyfriend. Most women are capable of raising a child (even if they think they are not!). And if your boyfriend leaves you alone, he is not worthy of you in the first place and you would be better of without him! Good luck and may God bless you! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

gee-geeofmo	Let that child live. You have no right to kill an innocent baby. You can put the child up for adoption if you are not able to keep it, there are plenty of people that want a baby and can not have one. That may be your best option, but please do not have an abortion. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

christigmc	In the case you're describing. I'd probably drop it off at a hospital. In my state that is perfectly legal if the infant is under 3 days. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥gUttA cHiCk♥	i would defentily keep the baby because it deserves to live but i really dont think you should have an abouting just think about if u were in the babys place and ur mom wanted to kill u Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

^v^OH! BATS^v^	Abortion should never be an option. Your options are to keep it or give the baby up for adoption. If you guys can't handle it, just let someone adopt your baby. There are a lot of willing couples who would be happy to take your child and give him/her the love that he/she needs. I know it's going to be hard to give it away but at least you will have a chance to see your son/daughter grow up, and not let him/her be gone forever. It's really easy for guys to opt for abortion because guys just don't want responsibility for the child. It's just like you jerked off and that's it. But for girls it's different because life is inside you. Please think about it really well. Good Luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

roxygurl1307	NO WAY! You brought the child here so do the right thing have the child and give it to a family who cant have children but would take yours and raise it s their own! Abortion is the most selfish act!!!! I've known two girls who have done that and they have horrible depression and get so upset with themselves, while i know one girl who gave her baby up for adoption and never has any regrets because her child is being taken care of the way she never could have. They will punish someone a double murder when they kill a woman while pregnant with an unborn child, but yet they do abortions everyday, what is wrong with that picture! Abortion is Murder, so if you do that consider yourself one. You did the deed now you need to take care of it. Have the child and give it to a loving family who can care for it in way you cant do it, financially, emotionally, etc. and next time use protection or birth control or both! Do the right thing! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dizzogurl	no id give it up to a family who cant have babies themselves and to the chick above me, in most states in legal to abandon a baby at a hospital or church for "safe keeping" thats what you tell them its like a code name for the program and they will find a well deserving loving home for it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

canuworkwitdat	Keep it..what if the baby was you..would you want your mom to kill you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Rainbow Brite	gO WITH YOUR HEART MAMI! DONT DO IT YOU WILL REGRET I WAS IN YOUR SHOES 9 YRS AGO.I DID NOT GO AHEAD AND HAD AN ABORTION NOW MY DAUGHTER IS BEUTIFUL! I WISH YOU THE BEST! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ashclar	Before I had kids I would had said, do what you think is best. After having two beautiful baby girl, I say DO NOT stop the pregnancy. If you were old enough to do it, you should be to take of the child. You can always give the baby up for adoption. It is not only about the two of you, it is also about the baby! Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jessiekitsopolouss	If you do you will rot in HELL! If you are not ready for a child you should have thought about that first. Now, with that said, continue the pregnancy and arrange for adoption. There are thousands, maybe millions of responsible couples out there who cannot have children. Please be more responsible. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥M3GANN♥	My family sticks together so my parents helped my sister when she was sixteen and had a baby. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

facts74	If you are pregnant, you already HAVE a child, whether you are emotionally and financially ready or not. Remember, the circumstances of your life are not your baby's fault and your baby does not deserve to die. Statistics show that most couples break up after abortion, so doing it to please a man usually just backfires. Regardless of what your boyfriend says or does, however, you are responsible for protecting the innocent child inside you. Your baby is depending on you, and no man is worth the life of your child. If you're not sure if you're pregnant, you can go to a crisis pregnancy center near you for a free pregnancy test. They can also give you referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; and counseling and emotional support. You can find one near you here: http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp or by calling 1-800-395-HELP. Here's some more information that might be helpful to you: Photos of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions: http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html A Four-Minute, Must-See Video on Abortion: http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html Information on All Aspects of Abortion: http://Abort73.com Photos and Facts About prenatal Development: http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm http://www.lifeissues.org/ultrasound/11weeks.htm Pain Perception in the Unborn: http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html Abortion Stories: http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html Abortion Risks: http://afterabortion.info/complic.html http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp http://www.standupgirl.com/site/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=218&Itemid=40 Abortion Deaths: http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm Support for Pregnant Teens: http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php If you are pregnant, I am confident you can handle the responsibility. People do it all the time, and you can, too. Please protect your baby and yourself and don't abort. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No