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Cali	well, if your boyfriend wont buy the condoms, then it IS your responsibility Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Caroline	everything was working out before your sister has to say stupid stuff.. keep doing what your doing! wayy to be safe =] Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jaebird	Well, I think you are both right. It does make sense that if you pay for the pill that he should pay for the condoms. That way you are both paying equal amounts. So, in a way your sister is right. However, if what you are doing now, paying for the condoms every other time and paying for the birthcontrol works for you two, then you should'nt worry about what your sister thinks. And in that case you are right. I think since it is your relationship, it should be your decision who should pay for what, not your sister's. And great job of being careful, so many people arent. :D Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

starfish	if you want to pay for the condoms, pay for it..it both of yours responsibility...and you and your bf had a system going about buying condoms so why change it. its not really your sister's business in giving you advice about who's responsibility it is... as long as you and your bf is responsible and both agreed to use condom..who ever has the money buys it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

gwen p	It dosen't matter who pays, just make sure you have them Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Yes We Can	In my gut, I feel like it's the guy's "job" to buy the condoms, especially if you are paying for BC every month. BUT, I think its incredibly responsible for you to split the responsiblity. It shows a great deal of maturity on both your parts. I don't think you should change your ways if its working for the two of you. and kudos for doubling up on the contraception! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

alines	I have to agree that both of you have good points. But it's your relationship, not your sisters. At least you are both being responsible for your sexual well-being. Just do what works for your relationship. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

AJR	In the end it does not matter who is buying them, as long as someone is! How you and your boyfriend run your affairs and split the bills is your business. There is no right or wrong. If you want to you can ask him to start paying for half the birth control, but if this system works for you then why change it? When your sister has a boyfriend she can work out whatever arrangement she wishes for contraceptives! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Michael M	I'd say the best way to share is this: Each of you buys condoms in turns whenever you run out (no matter how often), and each of you buys pills in turn when you run out each month. It's not your sister's job to buy your condoms if you have any money of your own, and if you have no money, your sister ought to be pleased to buy half your condoms just to keep you safe - if she can afford it. If you, your BF and your sis are all mature enough for it, you could even discuss it and come to a conclusion that works for all. The alternative... well, it sucks: don't buy pills, don't buy condoms, don't have sex. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

u feelin lucky punk?	well, condoms are not expensive at all, and how you and your boyfriend r taking turns buying them is fine, so it really doesn't matter who buys them Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Susan R	Well if the cost of the pill is more monthly than the boxes of condoms then ask him if he doesn't mind putting out more money. If that is not the case then there is no problem. Plus you two made an agreement and she gave her opinion and you became confused, the only opinion that matter is yours. If you do not feel used then don't allow anyone else to make you feel that way. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

daisy.	I think its cool you guys are taking turns, and should continue to do so. Everything was fine until you sister brought it up, right? So why change. Its not like shes the one having sex or paying. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bowchicawowow	Yeah, really it's none of her business. I think making small sacrifices like that to keep each other happy is well worth it! I'm sure if you didn't have the co-pay for the pill one month he would chip in. No big deal. Keep on keepin' on!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kalifornia King Kobra	guys Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

katibug3184	I think the way you are footing the bills for them currently is the right way to go I have always held the opinion that being safe should be both the man and the womans responsibility. Sure the guys life would be changed if you got pregnant, but think about how much your would change? Something as serious as preventing pregnancy should be a two party decision and I would continue what you are doing now. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

aesthetics002	You're a couple. Usually that means compromise and sharing, I think that sharing the responsibility of safe sex is great! If this is something the two of you came up with together, and it's something you're comfortable with, why not? The pill only protects from pregnancy- so kudos for protecting yourself from STDs. Plus, buying them yourself guarantees that you'll have one on hand. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sansan1256	You are right on with this. You are protecting yourself twice smart one. It would be the manly thing for him to buy the condoms period but it's smart to take away any excuse for him not to have one. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Beachbaby022	I think what you and your boyfriend do is great....atleast yall are being safe. :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jerryhobby	You are right because it is your relationship. She would be right if it were her relationship. Every relationship is on it's own terms. Who should pay will depend on so many factors so let each couple decide for themselves. I would imagine your BF would be okay if you said you wanted him to pay. But why would you? You feel good about paying and it is certainly appreciated by him. Jerry Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MCR4eva♥ily Gerard♥	each person has there own responsibility. You were smart to help your boyfriend buy condoms.now u have extra protection! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kmayes93	doesnt really matter. you can keep doing that, maybe you should take turns paying for the pill too Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dragonheart	Both. But if you pay for your pill, he should pay for the condom. That would definitely would show a responsible men not a kid playing the casanova. And in your case I agree that you are more responsible than him, is your health too, but should you not be with a person who cares for you and pay for his own part of the relationship? or will you agree to pay for more than your half in the rest of the relation? Some details shows us how people is for real, so even with all the love... pay close attention to that. Is a 50 - 50 relationship or... you´ll carry him as your own kid because he either don´t want to pay or don´t care to... (for kids is ok not for a partner in any kind of relationship: lovers, boyfriend, etc) take care Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rabboleth	His willy, his job to keep it covered. That's not too much to ask, considering that condoms are cheaper. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ambie	he should buy them if you are paying for the pill. that is half & half. unless he wants to pay half of your medical copay. i think thats fair. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chellebabyhb	She's right. I mean birth control costs money too, and you are doing your part by taking them. It's HIS part to buy the damn condoms. Tell him to man up and it's only fair that he buys those and you continue to buy your birth control. It's only fair. I mean, would he want to take turns buying your birth control? Seems twisted and backwards to me. =) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

orizano	On the one hand, you are correct in saying that it is your responsibility too to make sure there are condoms and that they are used, since you want to be safe. However, I think that to make the financial responsibilities equal, he should also be paying for your pills half of the time. If he balks, he should then take on full financial responsibility for condom supplies. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

PPSCSwimGirl	I like the idea of you taking turns.. it shows that you two have a real commitment! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tryin2trade2	It's your body! if you want to have sex be sure to have the condoms protect yourself always, but he could supply some too. You could always withhold sex because of lack of condoms, I'm sure then he'd be sure to have a fresh supply. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

JAJ	I think you are both right. You can help in paying since, yes, you do want to be safe, but--- she's right saying it's his responsibility. Sorry if that's not a good answer Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lacey	I think she's right. You're paying for the pills and taking them- that's doing your part. The least he could do is buy the condoms. Seriously, condoms don't cost much and it wouldn't kill him to buy them each time instead of making you be the more responsible one most of the time. I think he should be willing to take full responsibility of the condoms while you are taking full responsibility of the pill, that way it equals out. But this is just my opinion- it's really up to you two. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

The Original V	well...if you want to make sure you have condoms EVERY time....continue as you are. good luck-but, hey...your sis does have a good point...does he pick up your co-pay every other time on your bc? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No