♥Jojo♥
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Tell him he's not getting any if he doesnt use one, n im sure he'll soon come around!
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sara
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if u will take pills so where is a problem ?
condom n pills doing same for the prevention of pregnancy
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boarder4life421
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Your married, use the pill. Let him enjoy it. if you use the pill correctly and don't forget (set an alarm on your phone) it will work better than condoms. And it will be better you both of you,cheaper and more often. You should get tested before marriage anyway.
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andrew2007
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u don't do nothing about him how can a man be married and have 2 were one of those I wouldn't with my wife. Just take the pill there is nothing left 2 do unless u think your bf has a std
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Candicimo
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your saying the two of aren't married yet? just engaged? well, if that's the case, you should tell him that if he truly loves you, he would honor and respect you by wearing a condom to ensure you won't get pregnant. but honestly, just taking the pill should insure safe sex without unexpected pregnancies.
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Joey P
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maybe you could be more assertive and tell him either wear it or no sex.
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samantha w
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no glove no love
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nmmoritz
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In his defense, I guess I can see why he wouldn't want to- after all, you two would be married. And, although I've heard of women getting pregnant while on the pill, I think that's pretty rare. I'm almost sure the pill is pretty effective. Are you sure there isn't something else going on here? I mean, it doesn't make too much sense. I don't know a whole lot of married couples who use the pill AND condoms.
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♥☆♫❀☮
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Tell him this again... and as someone already said tell him no glove, no love. If he really loves you he will accept the fact that you don't want children yet. And he should understand.
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Bullwings
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That means he wants you to take pills or use mirena.
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Rachelle
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Tell him you're not ready, and he should agree if he does love you. I would make him get an STD/HIV test prior to having unprotected sex, same goes for you. And, staying on the pill will prevent you from getting pregnant.
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JT 20-20
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just tell him...no wrap,no tap
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Jessica McMahon
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why should he have to wear condoms while you're married if you want to use the pill so be it. but if he doesn't want to wear condoms since your married isn't that his choice?
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strawberrymw
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tell him to get over himself and use it
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ashley
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if he's not going to do that for you, he's not worth it. dump him and find someone that respects your needs
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B G
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Listen, for whatever reason, you may or may not even be able to take the pill. My sister had unbelievable panic attacks, that helped her roll her car, and had to be taken off. Don't assume that this will be your birth control solution going forward.
I am not ready to say that he has bad intentions. He may be the greatest guy in the world. But I would try to 'negotiate' a better agreement before things go on too long. A sexual relationship is (typically!) a two way street, and he's not going to be able to pretend you're not in bed with him for very long.
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Amada R
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tell him no glove no love
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chaoticrush2112
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People who are saying that married couples don't use condoms are uninformed.
Plenty of married couples use condoms.
The pill is effective. However, it does have side effects. These side effects are different in every woman. Some women don't want to deal with that. Honestly, I don't blame them.
Why should the woman be solely responsible for birth control?
Downright refusing to wear a condom and not respecting your partners needs shows a lack of care and respect in your partner, both of which you need before you get married.'
To the person above me: Yes its his choice whether he wants to wear a condom or not, but it is also her choice to refuse sex if he doesn't.
This is her body, she is the one going to be pregnant. Someone who loved you would understand that and respect your needs.
To the asker: you need to sit down and talk with him and present your case. If he still says he won't wear a condom than simply tell him he won't be getting any if he doesn't.
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HannahNicole
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Tell him
USE IT OR LOOSE IT
haha(:
That oughta scare him into it.
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maria
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then go on the pill
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DomesticGoddess
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I understand your position, and you should take some time to understand his. I do think it is unreasonable to expect him to wear a condom without exploring and discussing other options. He is in a loving and committed relationship. Y'all will be married and he wants to enjoy the feeling of sex without a condom (don't care what kind you use, feels better without it on).....
The pill when taken properly is HIGHLY effective.....and properly is same time very day without skipping a day. All it says if you do mess up, is to use a back-up.
There are other choices for a secondary method and/or back up...there are foams, creams, jellies and films that contain just spermicide.
SO, so far as thinking about what he can do to "do his part"...well, he can supply the back-up and HELP be responsible for remembering it.
Just make sure you get this sorted out between you before you get married. He needs to know how much you love him and can't wait to be married, and eventually give him children...but you (and I suggest using the word WE) are not ready to have any.
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Terri
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You both need to come to some sort of agreement on when to have children. Why doesn't he want to wear condoms?
Just hop on the pill.
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"Captain Obvious"
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Tell him if he's not willing to wrap it up he won't be getting any...=)
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Phox
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NO GLOVE, NO LOVE!! Lol...
I know you probably love the guy, but what a f*cking d*ck move on his part for acting that way.
I am afraid there are very few options for men as far as not getting someone pregnant, so it will be mostly up to you.
For centuries women have had the means of keeping themselves from getting pregnant. It is only recently that men found out about these means and procured these methods into pills or patches or shots. Somewhere along the way, condoms came into play.
Women have, and have had, the means to take responsibility for their sex life. Men were only recently given some other means besides the "pull out" method. Now that they have these options, you and your man should research and discuss them with a Family Planning Doctor.
If he loves you, and truly loves you, he will respect your need to use those methods. Yes, one could say that perhaps you should respect his want to not use them...
Fine, whatever, but it is YOU that will carry his babies for nine months a pop.
It is YOU who will go through all those body changes.
And it is YOU who will have to deliver the baby.
YOU are going to have to stop drinking or smoking if you do, and YOU are going to be the one breast feeding (if you choose to) and changing your diet for a whole year or more.
YOU are going to have to take all of those prenatal pills, dear.
Yes, if he truly loves you, he will help you through such a hard time, but on the flip side, you're telling him you don't want to go through all of that just yet.
Sorry, though there is the whole thing about compromising, why should YOU be the one forced to be completely armed against his sperm without assistance on his part? Why is he not willing to protect your uterus from such an invasion? All so it can "FEEL GOOD"? The heck...
Damn, girl, AND everyone keeps saying the pill? No, the pill only works if you take it EXACTLY the same time EVERY DAY. My best friend (God rest her weary soul in Heaven) took the pill EVERY DAY at the same time still, and missed it ONCE by an hour. She got pregnant with the child whose birth killed her.
Haha, not saying its going to kill you. (So knock on wood.)
But there are MANY different options. If you have access to the internet, as you apparently do, go to Google and search such phrases as "birth control methods".
You can search for results such as:
* Abstinence/Outercourse
* Barrier methods
* Condoms
* Fertility awareness-based (FAB) methods
* Injectables
* Intrauterine devices
* Intrauterine systems
* Oral Contraceptives ("the pill")
* Spermicides
* Sterilization
* Transdermal contraceptive patch ("the patch")
* Vaginal ring
* Vasectomy
Please, click the links I've provided in my sources below. I hope they help. And if he still does not want to cooperate...you know, wrap it before you tap it, drop it before he Hops it, because baby, any man not willing to respect your right to not have children is a prick in his own right.
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Rocker
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if he rufuses to wear a condom, refuse sex. if you take the pill there is still a high chance of pregnancy.
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red bull gives you wings
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if he's serious about your relationship then hopefully he'll go along with what you prefer.
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kelly a
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Nothing... my hubby was the same way... just make sure u use the pill the same time every day and dont skip it... if u go on antibiotics then tell him he is grounded till u finish the course of anti biotics since he wont wear a condom... then make him wait another couple of days to make sure u dont get pregnant...
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john h
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If he is adamant on not using condoms when making love, what else will he decide he is not going to do, you could end up a baby factory. I would seriously think whether you want to marry someone who is so selfish as to leave all work regarding contraception to you, it would appear it is alright for him to decide what he wants to do, and you have to put up with it. Have a re-think whether you want to marry some one so selfish
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Mo T
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keep taking the pill and youll be ok
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rabboleth
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No glove, no love. If he cares about you, he'll respect your needs.
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President of Bamma Fan Club
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Prez say have kids. Prez say have ten and make him pay for them. Prez say then maybe he learn lesson. Prez say make sure to take pill everyday or you get preggo. Prez say men are careless. Prez say if boy won't use rubber or respect you, dump him. Prez say no go on marriage. Prez say so.
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