My wife's a big girl, how do I tell her to lose weight?

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kimberly t	no woman wants to hear that they need to lose weight, I think the best way to "ask" would be to start off by saying something like "I've noticed that we havent been eating healthy and I think we should start eating healthy together" like support her by doing it to, go out on daily walks together, and subscribe to a gym, if she is embaressed to work out in the eyes of the public, buy workout dvds that she thinks she would enjoy, change to a healthy life style together. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

emailchandradiana	I think what you're saying now sounds perfect! If she gets offended, she'll get over it when she sees and feels that you still love her. Deep down, she probably realizes that she has a problem. I lost weight on weight watchers. You can do it online these days and it's actually fun and easy! They have lots of good recipes and suggestions. I would also recommend that you help her. Don't buy food that is bad for you when you go out to eat and expect her to get a salad. Eat healthy with her. Exercise with her. My boyfriend joined a gym with me and it's been the best thing in the world! It also raises gets our sex drive going after we work out.....which is never something to complain about! (Sex burns calories, too!) I would say, plant the seed but don't be too naggy. If you start taking good care of yourself, she may find it easier to join you. ***** I wanted to add that I think it's a good idea if you become more healthy, but if you start losing weight super fast and she doesn't, she may get discouraged. Men tend to lose weight faster. Still, I think it's good if you eat healthy around her and don't give in to temptations if/when she wants to. ALSO, if she looses a little weight, tell her how awesome she looks and how proud of her you are! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

presley98us	I would suggest the two of you exercising together. Do something you both enjoy. Exercise will make both of you feel better and have more energy Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

THE BIG J	tell her she should lose weight because of those problems and tell her that you will be by her side to support her on every step she takes.let her know thatif somthing happens to her theirs no way you can keep on living with the heart ach of her not being their. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

camel herder	Tell her that you love her but you don't want to lose her. Remind her that you married her for life but that may not come true if she carries on the way she does. Remind her of what the doctor said to her. Does she have life insurance, if not ask her to get covered oops that came out wrong what I'm trying to say is that most insurance companies will require her to undertake a medical and that should make her see what the problem is for herself. Your wife cannot change on her own you will need to support her in every way. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Amy	Does she ever comment on her weight saying she wishes she could lose weight? If she does, it may be easier to talk to her about it. You can start out by saying that you'd like to start eating healthier and to start exercising and you'd love it if she did these things with you. If she's sensitive just tell her that you love her just the way she is but because you love her, you would like to see her lose some weight so she'll be around for a long time. I have the same problems as your wife and my husband had the same talk with me. I didn't look at it as him criticising me but that he loved me enough to care. You may be surprised by her reaction and it may not be bad. But you have to think. Would you rather risk hurting her feelings and hopefully seeing her live a healthy life or to say nothing and see her possibly suffer? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lady_fall	Explain to her, that u r worried abt that problems, with her health, tell her that u'll r really worried abt that situation, that u wanna live togheter with her for a long time healthy, and that u'll do what be possible to help her, like make exercises, walk togheter, eat and cook healthier things, with more protein and fibre, drink juices, and Green Tea after meal, it's a good sugestion. Good Luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pyj	Except for regular exercises and controlling daily diet, put her under close watch by doctors and act according to their instruction. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Philip P	YOU DON'T it's not your place to do so.. I bet you're not the vision of lovelyness she first dated are you!!! Take care of yourself and begin by changing your eating habits. Stop eating the wrong things and start preparing the food. Don't mention the word diet even in a medical term. Don't stop her from snacking but provide her with an alternative. Make her feel 110% that you love her and you need her. M.O. is an illness as bad as HBP or CVD but it is a matter of changing her mental state too. No she's not mad but she feel unhappy hence she eats as it gives her a comfortable feeling. You've got to replace those bad thoughts with something +IVE in her life. She may be trying for a family and being M.O. will effect her ability to conceive hence she may feel more depressed. So Like the bible says take the plank out of your eye before removing the splinter from anothers eye so that you might see more clearly. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

meestaben	If it were me I would start with making it about a couples thing. Like go for walks together "just to have time to talk with no distractions". Then talk about things she likes and as she gets in better shape gradually increase the length of the walks and maybe the pace. Also show a dissinterest in fatty foods. Try to get a more balanced diet. And if she busts you on trying to make her lose weight just tell her that you were only trying to help because you love her and you worry about hear health. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Somebody H	Don't tell her to lose weight.. ask her if she wants to go do something ... like, "hey .. would you like to go jogging with me?" or... "Hey, want to go shoot hoops with me?" Get her to do something fun with you that is also arobic.. like rollerblading or something... maybe start with just going for walks with her every night. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rusty929	Everybody here has good answers.......be honest with her..and as some said..you will need to change your eating habits also....and do this as a team......exercise and dont give up......find activities you both like....and will keep doing......there are soooooooo many......stay active.......walk,cycle......but get her interest...and go for it..... good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sarah C	Try buying her some lovely clothes and tell this is her present for each stone she loses as the more weight u have to lose the faster you lose it. Do you have ids, try explaining that they have chance to gro up with no mommy but do maake sure she knows u love her. Try to go for slow walks even in the dark if she doesnt ike to be around people and finally another visit to doc for gastric bypass as the last option and it does work wonders for people though some have to lose weight in order to get this done and if she loses it for that then urge her on to lose more with out the op. Good Luck to the two of you. Its nice to see that she has the love and support of a man that cares!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jesus is the best.	with love and compassion. Set up a scenario where you can illustrate. How much she means to you and how life would be with out her. and work out a plan with her, a dr and maybe a fitness coach that you and she can follow, as you support her through her weight loss. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

blackkk	Show her before and after pictures off the internet of people who did successfully enough to beat obesity. Read articles to her about peoples success in the past with weight loss. ASK her to imagine herself in that siutation. Reassurring her, you can get her to start thinking. Do shopping yourself and buy all healthy stuff so shes gonna have to eat it. Start by doing some workout yourself, and its all about cooperation. Plus dont tell her you want her to lose weight, tell her shes hot right however she is, she just needs to get healthy. good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ccwife2	Maybe mention to her that YOU want to start exercising eating healthy and that in order to do it right then you both have to start doing it. I know it may seem dishonest, but this is something that you Will be doing together ( and it can help your sex life also ) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tweettreat	sit down with her and tell her how worried you are and do it together. make sure you show her how much you love her and care about her. and always support her as she does try it wont be easy. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

RABBIT	First question is was she big when you met her? If so why do you now want her to lose weight? If you want her to lose talk with your spouse in a respectfully way, and if she's willing to do so support and help her, by joining her in the quest to lose weight. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Katie	well sit her down and tell her everything u just typed in. tell her u love her and your consterned for her health hopefully shes understanding and wont get mad at you. you can also offer support by joining the gym together (cuz everyone needs excerise ;-] ) and buying healther foods good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Patti	Suggest working out together. Cook some healthy meals for the both of you. Its a lot easier to lose weight with someone else there with you, not telling you to lose it. If she's going to decide to shed some pounds, she needs to do it for herself. Its a sensitive subject, but just stand behind her. Go for a long walk after dinner, ice skate if you're somewhere cold. There are lots of active things you can do. Suggest joining a gym together if there's not a lot in your area. Your help and support is going to mean a lot to her, and exercise won't hurt you either. By the way, if you do decide to to tell her that you want her to lose weight, I suggest touching her more often and letting her know that you love the way she looks. It'll help her feel better about herself. Good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dipra85	I hope it's true that you love her the way she is, because I've only met boys who don't want to know me because I'm not as thin as models. I'm an Italian girl and I'm from Milan, the city of models and fashion, so boys are extremely excited if they see a skinny girl. I have just some kilos to loose but it's difficult, and boys consider me "obese". I'm one year younger than your wife and I've never had a boyfriend...I hope it's really true that you love your wife the way she is. Anyway, if the problem is the health, and you say that doctors say she is obese, you can talk to a doctor, and this doctor may help your wife understand that she has a health problem and she has to face it if she wants to live. I think it's better speaking first to a doctor and secondly to her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Amber..=]	tell her that you yourself need to lose weight, and tell her you want to go to the gym, maybe hint or suggest you guys both get a membership and support eachother in being healthy Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kris L	Show her your question ... you love her and want her to get HEALTHY not 'get thin' even though by getting healthy she'll also get thinner. Take her into your arms and tell her that you are WORRIED about her health and her obesity and her blood pressure and then tell her that YOU WILL DO ANYTHING to get her healthy because YOU WANT HER AROUND FOR A LONG LONG TIME. Do it TONIGHT, it may be the BEST CHRISTMAS GIFT you can ever give her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cameron	you sound sweet. when ever you do try and tell her, dont tell her when she is on her period Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cps68500	be a bit more health conscience yourself... hopefully she takes an interest... make it her idea. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ncgirl	If you have time you can start walking with her for motivation. You could buy a couples gym ticket and go with her. You need to motivate her and that will help her. She knows she is overweight. She just needs help in getting started getting the weight off. Good Luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

&shes his babygirl*	slim down WITH her . instead of saying "you should" say something like "hey it looks like am putting on a couple of pounds ; am thinking of joining the gym. we should do it" or something like that. dont focus everything on her Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

HappilyEngaged	I would consider get a gym membership for you and her together and make it something that you do together that way she does not feel as though you are just wanting 'her' to get rid of the weight. Make this something that you do 'together'... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

vhesponage	Yes! Start working out for a few weeks and start telling her how good you feel. Then try to incorporate her into your work outs. Maybe you need someone to pass you the ball or hold down your feet. After helping, she may feel more energetic and then more excited to "help" again. Also, get rid of all junk food in the house to prevent the temptation. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rochellestaron	have a heart to heart and be willing to change your lifestyle also. you cook healthy and start walking together! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

freedom fighter	my suggestion is for you both to go on a diet ,even if you're not obese. just say you want to have a healthier lifestyle. start out by changing your food habits at home by fixing heart healty foods and cut out the fast food trips. and taking her for short romantic walks. walking is a good way to start exercising. also maybe you should have a serious talk w/ her. she is your wife and you obviously love her so just talk to her. communication is the key. but you have to be willing to help her w/this as well. i wish you the best take care. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No