My new boyfriend of 4 months wants to use "toys" during intercourse. I don't know what to do, help me girls.

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wilma s	.Do only what you are comfortable with but most of all don't be forced into doing something you are not comfortable with. Because you do not know what the next thing will be he springs on you. You have only known this guy 4 months not long for such activity. If you do decide to do this make sure the "toys" are CLEAN..You do not know who he used them on before and if they are safe quality. Do research on the safe materials used in manufacturing.

Hollistergirl84	Well if you don't want to ,then talk to him and tell him the truth,if he is true to you then he will understand and not bother you about it until you are ready and want to.But if you want to then tell him and pick out some safe ones!But just remember he has only been your boyfriend for 4 months and since you consider him your "new" boyfriend then definetly watch out.Just be careful hun!Hope I helped you out! -H o l l i s t e r g i r l < 3

Jerry M	Let him show you.

Big Red Ten	Whatever you decide to do, you need to be completely comfortable with it. This is a personal decision for you. If it makes you uneasy, tell him you are not interested. If he insists or continues to talk you into something you do not want to do, he is not the right guy for you. Find someone who cares about you and not his own sexual desires. If you are simply uncomfortable because you are embarrassed about being inexperienced with toys, let him know this will be new to you, so he needs to be Gentle and accommodating. Have fun.

MynxyDeb	There's a LOT of 'toys' out there...there are some that are obvious what you do with them...how to use them, but there are others which are not so obvious. There are also some which, if the user doesn't know the capacity of the other person, should never be used on someone besides him or herself...so, be careful...use plenty of lube or just say no thanks. If you're still willing to try, go slow and voice your opinions about how it feels and whether you want to continue...good rule of thumb in relationships anyway! Good luck...;)

mile_34	Try atleast once and have test then decide but toys of your choice first time.you may try to guide him how to do slowly .

mcline_04	Try it you might like it!

robert p	If you like it do it.If you don't tell him so.If you don't know the only war to find out is try it with the understanding that he will stop if you say so.Hope this helps.

stefanie p	just try it if you dont like it then tll him to stop

Shenva	Give it a try... It can be very enjoyable for the both of you.

Glenn	My wife and I do that, much much fun. Try it once atleast, if you don';t like it don't do it again.

beccaweidner	It can be a WHOLE lot of fun! There are books you can get - or just start by hosting a "FUN" party - try looking for a passion party or pure romance consultant in your area. They are also very knowledgeable. At first, it's always a little weird, but the more you do it, the more comfortable it gets. I promise!

ellb48	as long as it don't hurt go for it. Let yourself go and have the best experience of your life.

MadforMAC	If you have only been together 4 months, why are you having sex in the first place? It takes a long time to get to know someone, who they really are, maybe now you are finding out some not so "nice" facts about this guy. If he needs "toys" something isn't right.

kja63	Depends on the toys, and YOUR comfort level with not only the relationship but also with the prospect of using toys. They can be a lot of fun, but you have to be comfortable with your partner and the idea of certains toys has to appeal to you.

Ganesha_lvr	sounds like fun! release your inhibitions and scream your lungs out. it is kind of gestalt in a good way.

Genevieve the Great	"Toys" can be fun if you both trust eachother and no one feels pressure. I would recommend trying a "toy" yourself, flying solo. See if you enjoy it, and when you feel comfortable work it in to your relationship.

purplelynn095	If you are not comfortable with it just let him know. If he cares about you he will understand. Never rush things. Later in your life you may want to try it. My husband and I do it quite often. I really like it, but I am not always in the mood and he always understands. Don't let him pressure or force you into doing something that you are not comfortable with or don't like. That could ruin sex for the rest of your life and sex is too delicious to waste like that.

M. P	Hey, why not? If it gets both of you off, do it!

&&	Try it. Why not?

Amy	WELL TRYING SOMETHING NEW IS ALWAYS GOOD! JUST TRY IT ANDIF YOU DON'T LIKE IT TELL HIM TO STOP! IF HE KNOWS WHAT HE IS DOING THEN YOU WILL LIKE USEING TOYS MAYBE MORE THEN USEING HIM. LOL JOKING BUT YOU NEVER KNOW UNTIL YOU TRY I T! HOPE THIS HELPS GOOD LUCK AND INJOIN

Bit BIt	wow all guys are the same! but so are girls....we all dont know how to do it when we first start and ya were ALL nervouse. but just let him do the work at first and when you get the hang of it take control and rock his world. hey you might like it =]

tsacks	if you want to do it, then do it . if your uncomfortable tell him you dont really want to.

dddddd	wait till you are combortable with the idea too :)

Vanessa	if your not into it just say hey I'm not into that lets do something else. You have to feel comfortable in a relationship and not feel pressured. if your just unsure or have never tried toys maybe give them a chance you might like it but let your boyfriend know that if you get uncomfortable that he should stop. me and my husband have a safe word (DOG) that if we call it out the other person will stop what there doing immediately this way we can try new stuff but feel comfortable that if it hurts or its not our thing we can always stop it. remember its your body and you have the say over it.

gogogadgetlonglegs	Do what you're comfortable with. Don't let him pressure you into anything you don't like. They can be fun and a good way to experiment, but remember it's up to how you feel about it.

ashish c	Within 4 months? wait and judge him for sometime more.Check up his own ability and decide.

Mg	I say do what your heart tells you is right. If you're not comfortable then don't - just as simple as that. If you like the idea, then go with it. Go with your gut instinct and don't let anyone persuade you to do something you don't want to do. If he is a keeper, he will respect your opinion no matter what you decide:)

preciosa	Wait til you are comfortable with the idea. That is to soon to be doing things like that.

Snowflake	You have only known him 4 months?! Do you really KNOW him well enough to be this intimate? Be careful.

Dig It	Depends on what your thoughts are. If you don't want to, tell him you dont want to, or don't like the idea. If you do, start small with a small vibrator and don't let him use it anywhere you are not comfortable with. I found it more useful to become familiar with toys while alone as opposed to with another person. Trust me, buy a good vibe and you won't be able to wait to use it with another person! ;)