My mum has these moments...can anyone explain.?

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BARROWMAN	Look up "menopause" on the net you will find all kinds of useful information. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Elsa	It's your spelling that's driving her crazy -- obviously it has for years. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

gardengirl	It sounds to me as if your Mum is going through the menopause, and it does affect women in many ways, and believe me it can be bad. It sounds to me as if your Mum is going through many things at once and being on anti depressants will not help her here, she needs to go to see her a GP and discuss this with him. One day when she is not in one of her really bad moods try sitting with her (on your own) and telling her that it worries you that she seems so unhappy, dont tell her all the bad bits about what she does when in a mood, just tell her it upsets and worries you to see her so unhappy and ask her to go discuss it with her GP. At menopause time a woman can feel that her life is more or less over, that she is no longer attractive to her husband and that her family is grown up and she is no longer any use to any of them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

fool2thecore	My wife used get just like your MUM and it was hard for us as a family , But it was even harder for my wife because she had no control over her actions. After years of trying different drugs she finally got it under control with Cipralex (Escitalopram) which is a Selective Serotonin Re-uptake Inhibitor (SSRI) This helps to normalise the levels of Serotoin in the Brain. It did make her feel sick and tired in the beginning but that went after time and she and us have got back the person we used to know and love . Try and get your MUM to see her GP and maybe you could show her you you replies to your Question this might help her understand she is not crazy and there are solutions to her problem. GOOD LUCK to you and your family X Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

satan	She sounds like she needs some sort of help be it through medication or seeing a psychiatric nurse. If she has been like it for years she is only gonna get worse whilst going through the menopause. She has probably got underlying issues aswell that need adressing. It is scary for you because you cant understand her mood swings, when my mum went through it she chucked her plate of dinner at me. I had only just walked through the door, it was so wierd. In the end she had to go to the doctors because she was so unpredictable. I think she scared herself. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pinktink	EVERY women in the world who has functional ovaries that stop working around the age of 51 goes thru menopause and DOESN'T end up behaving like your mother. Your mother isn't suffering from menopause - she has a serious mental disorder and she needs to be institutionalized where she can be properly diagnosed and treated. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

how u doin ? ;0)	aww its an awkward time for you it sounds like the menapause does she have any idea or notice any difference about herself ? prehaps try and tell her gently when shes having a good day good luck ! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

flutterby	Are you sure it's the menopause?When she's not in one of these episodes try talking quietly to her about it all. Try and persuade her to make an appointment with another doctor so she can have a second opinion. A simple blood test should show if this is the problem. If it is not the menopause, then the Dr will need to investigate further. If she gets the all clear, then she might benefit from counselling and perhaps even anger management. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ksminibest	SEX CHANGE Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

amelia p	your mother ******* mom is going through menopause but before shes dies make sure she goes to church Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

starynight39	http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bipolar_disorder Check out this website. I think she is suffering from either manic depression or being bipolar. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Willim	Your mum is suffering from hormone imbalance probably due to stress Stress --> Hormone imbalance --> "health issues" http://www.ylcf.org/hormone-imbalance/06.htm This is Miriam Brazels's list from 1997 revised in 2002. Several of her symptoms are on the list It will be difficult (she probably denies there is anything wrong with her?) but if at all possible have her do a preliminary on line hormone test at www.hormoneprofile.com or www.johnleemd.com If as I suspect they recommend hormones please have a saliva test done see www.npis.info or www.salivatest.com. A saliva test will check out active hormones something that blood tests do not. If a hormone is suggested by the saliva test please have her take the dose suggested for her. Size 10 shoes are not twice as good if you have size 5 feet. http://www.abc2health.com/prog-saliva-not-blood.htm The WHO (World Health Organisation) uses saliva tests. Search the web for "natural Progesterone anger" and you will find many pages read and carefully select. See www.hormoneprofile.com for how hormones work the books are better but it is a good place to start I believe you'll find many women with the same story who are now better if you search for "natural Progesterone" There is a list of doctors at www.npis.info who are aware of the benefits of natural Progesterone they may be more helpful than your GP. You are about to educate your GP :-) Natural Progesterone means natural to humans i.e. identical to that produced by the human body. Any Progesterone you buy must be natural Progesterone USP. USP means United States Pharmacopoeia. Wild yam is that wild Yam the body will not convert it to Progesterone see www.npis.info for more information Do not take fake Progesterone/progestins manufactured by the drug companies they will be of NO benefit. It is likely going to be hard for you to persuade her accept this, but however long it takes I hope you succeed Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Emily.Rose	Hun its called menopause... and yes my mother is going thru it and that's way I just stay clear...Or I fight with her to make her see "Hello I'm being a *****" so yeah um don't worry I think and hope it she gets over it... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

super.wisdom	Yeah you should just send her to the tolworth mental institution. That aint normal Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

busybee	Sounds like the menopause it will hit us all. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

emma m	Hi - your mum obviously has some very deep issues - this is not your fault, not even if it is, as you believe, possibly due to PND - i imagine it acually goes back into her own childhood. Maybe she needs a break from your dad and to sort out how she really feels about being with him - thats going to be a tough one for you to support her in doing, but i think as you obviously want to help her - it is something you can suggest, in that you will be there for her no matter what she chooses to do - as she is obviously confused and out of this will have to come a descision or else more confusion - so if it were me i would gently support her to making a decision and make it clear to her that she will be loved no matter what. i would also stop taking her temper tantrums on board. when she flips, i would quietly walk out of the house and dis-engage from her. not as a group - but individually.... as, as soon as you take what she ahs said or done on board and taken the "charge" she has given it - it will pass back and forth - if you do not take it, it will quickly fizzle out, (maybe it will explode first.. but without someone else validating her behaviour, in a pos. or neg. way, there is no channel for it other than herself and the real issue may begin to surface) speak to her, when she is being reasonable and suggest some alternative therapies - massage and aromatherapy, or hypnotherapy or NLP to assist in new ways of thinking about herself. as this is who she is really mad at - herself. has someone close to her died? or left her... thinking that she can't allow anyone close for fear of losing them..?? . we humans are such complex creatures and really we need to take responsibility for ourselves - its great you have taken her to see your GP but sometimes its also great to take on our health ourselves - and if you feel she needs some pills to help her to settle - why not see a different doctor? i really hope you can get to the bottom of this with a happy conclusion - and if nothing else no guilt at all.. as it is not your fault. good luck xx Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rnbsnconsult	could be menopause could be bi-polar disorder. She should seek help. anti-depressants work but you have to find the right one and the right dose. hang in there, she probally fills really bad about it to. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Morningstar	Your mother needs to be checked into a mental hospital for a complete evaluation. Her medicines may be working the opposite of what they are supposed to be doing. My Dad cannot take any anti-depressants, he gets out of control and suicidal. When he quits taking them, he is better. Could be hormones, or other mental disorder. Believe it or not, she is suffering, too, as well as the whole family.She just hasn't been receiving the right treatment. Help her and you help everybody. I've been there. It can and has to be done. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cobweb	I think your mum is stressed and maybe depressed as well. Possibly there could also be an element of hormonal imbalance as well. This has been going on far too long for it to be the menopause, although it's possible that she is now going through the menopause and that is making things worse. It sounds like she has been going through some tough mental stuff, this could have started initially with the postnatal depression and developed further from there because it wasn't dealt with properly at the time. You say that your dad hasn't been the best husband, maybe there are issues there with that too? Perhaps she feels psychologically 'trapped' with you all? That's my explanation anyhow. As for help, (a) your dad could talk to her (b) she could see the GP or (c) she could go for counselling, either NHS or private, or even try Relate. It sounds very tough for all of you. I hope things work out. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bossmae2003	Ohhh yes that sounds like menapoause. My mother was pretty much the same way. It also can be depression as well (which can be a side affect of menapause). I agree with the others about looking up menopause online for more information. Sounds like she needs to get on some hormone replacement (estrogen) or something. She needs to talk to her doctor, and soon. It's not healthy to struggle through menopause by yourself without any kind of counseling or dr. Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bluebinjulie	I would think she is going through the Menopause. O what us women have to go through not to mention your poor household at the minute. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lovely	She sounds manic (in the wild woman state.) Maybe she suffers from manic depression and should consult with a psych doc to get on some antidepressents. Most people that are in manic states are irrational and out of control, exactly what you described. The most you can do is encourage her to get some help. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

RHENE	Give her Magnesium. Magnesium calms her mind, relaxes her anxieties and the best, will help her with her menopausal problems. Magnesium activates 350 enzymes of the human body and this will definitely help her cope up with her deficiencies attributed to her menopause. Magnesium also hellps secrete Dhea, a known master hormone. this hormone corrects every hormonal deficiency that the aging body undergoes. Try it. Give her abt 450 mg Magnesium daily min 2 divided doses. Add abt 2 quarts of water distributed equally throughout the day. Water also calms the mind. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

J C	First. are you sure this is menapause? If it is, you have my sympathy - I've been there with my mom. And I have also experienced pms myself. There was another woman I know that was going through menapause and she told me that if your hormones get out of whack just take about 6 alphalpha pills a day. It sounded a bit nuts to me. But I tried it and it soooo works. It's cheap and you can even get it in the pharmacy area of your grocery store. I would advize your mom to do it every day. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

michele	This sounds like a classic description of bipolar disorder symptomology. I really encourage you to talk with your dad so that he can help your mother schedule a thorough psychiatric evaluation. Bipolar disorder is VERY treatable. You and your family do not have to live this way. Best of luck, ~M~ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

eddie_schaap	Go to a different doctor. If your regular doctor won't help, change doctors. Doctors are there to provide you with a service, you employ them. When they don't perform, sack your doctor and find one that will. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

deliciousde	to me it sounds like she could have bipolar depression here is a link that lists all the symptoms http://bipolar.about.com/cs/depressive/a/0402_dpsym1.htm if she is she needs to go back to docs if meds are not working what about seeing a couniler? it worked for my mother inlaw. if it is menopause and the dep is just a part of it (heres a list of symptoms for it absence of menstruation for one year hot flashes night sweats mood swings anxiety palpitations depression insomnia vaginal dryness urinary changes ) here is a link to a natural med that will help my mum took it http://www.healthydirect.co.uk/pages/product/product.asp?prod=1449&ppcseid=2076&ppcsekeyword=menopause+symptom&cookie%5Ftest=1 heres some more links i found with natural relifs http://www.perfecth.co.uk/new/ http://www.body-care-shop.com/gip/herbal-remedies-menopause.htm http://www.shirleys-wellness-cafe.com/women_menopause.htm hope everything works out.xx Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Black Orchid	Get your mum to see another doctor go with her write down exactly what she does and show it to them She clearly needs help Evening Primrose will help with the mood swings but it takes a long time to kick in she needs help now . It sounds like she`s starting the Menopause I'm on Hrt and i swear by it Good Luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

fanella	vitamin e will help also rescue remedy will help calm her down Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mr Tripod	Three words....hormone replacement therapy. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

AutumnLilly	Your mum sounds as nearly as nice as my mum. It could very well be a mental illness. My mother (57) has been diagnosed with everything under the sun and the diagnosises keep changing (Currently, she has been diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, Bipolar, Borderline Personality Disorder, and Obssesive Compulsive Disorder) She always has had a temper, but menopause made it MUCH MUCH worse. The family is starting to think now she may be not metally ill - but just has gotten away with bad behavior for so long and no one has really called her on it until now and so now she is furious and out of control. As children, my sister and I could not do anything as we would have been punished immediately for "talking back" or being "disrespectful." When she couldn't handle us, she would loose control and go beserk. My mother is a huge manipulator and blames everyone for everything except herself in which she claim has "never done anything wrong." She even says that her abuse towards us was my dad's fault because "if she only had a loving husband she would have been able to deal with children better." My dad, like yours, has not the best husband and has been quite a jerk in their relationship. But honestly, I believe my dad could have been perfect in the relationship and she would have still found fault with him. Was it menopause that did this - or did menopause exacerbate it? Is it mental illness or just really bad behavior? Trust me, I completely sympathize with your situation. It is extemely hard to deal with someone like that. Personally, I don't believe menopause "does this" to a person. When does the person become accountable for their actions? If menopause causes such massive mood swings, then she needs medical help." What I would also most importantly recommend is getting help for yourself. Not that there is anything wrong with you - but coming from personal experiece, this situtation puts a TON of strain on a person. Therapy will help you learn to deal with your mother in a more constructive way and help you cope with the frustration you may be feeling and help you not to carry on the behavior unconsciously. I am sorry I cannot offer more help. I wish you all the best and hope that things improve for you and your family. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No