Nell
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Your mother doesn't have a right to make you wear that thing. If she's violent about it when you defy her then you can report abuse with no doubt.
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loquiita2477
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cut it so you wont have to wear it .. and just tell her it ripped lol
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john s
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cry me a river.
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Sandy
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Did she ever give you her reasons? Is your family Amish or Mormon or something like that? Seems she's extremely prudish. When will you be allowed to wear a regular bra? What do you wear when you swim? Don't fight with her. It won't help your cause. Find out the reasons first, then evaluate them.
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WWHRD
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A body suit? Really? Can't you have a girls sports bra instead? Is this her way of not buying bras for you? If she wants to make sure you have some support/coverage on your chest, why not buy you some age appropriate bras? You're 12, you need to wear a bra, not a bodysuit. Bodysuits are not intended to replace bras, and they ARE hot.
If this bodysuit is in place of a bra, ask her for some sports bras. They're supportive, cotton, cool,and they're not like "grown up" lady bras. They look like this: (click link)
http://www.maidenform.com/catalog/product.jsp?productId=70496&categoryId=16&wtlCategory=Maidenform%20Bras&parentCategoryId=1
I have daughters, and I would never make them wear a big hot snaps-in-the-crotch thing rather than buy them some bras. I think your mom is in denial about your needing bras or something. Don't you have an Aunt or a friends mom that would take you to get some sports bras? I would talk to my Dad before I'd wear that hot awful thing all summer, sugar.
You know what? Those girls sports bras come in small, medium, large just like your shirts. If you wear a girls medium in shirts then you'll probably wear a medium in the sports bra. They sell them at Target, JCPenney's, WalMart, everywhere.
I sure hope you're allowed out of that hot bodysuit, honey. That is no solution for a young lady that needs a bra.
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usmctanker1962
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Is your mother Mormon?
Tell her you want to see a DR. in her presence, ask the Dr if there is any scientific reason to wear this version of a chastity belt.
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Terri
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What reasoning does she have behind you wearing it?
I would talk to a guidance counselor at school. This is very odd and to me its borderline obsessive.
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macchien
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Hi,
It seems weird that she is making you wear something like this. It's possible that your mom is a victim of some kind of abuse in her past, and you starting to grow up physically is freaking her out. Triggering bad memories and feelings, etc. She may feel like she is protecting you somehow, or she may not really have any idea why she is doing it. Maybe she just can't afford to buy you the cloths you need.
Whatever the case may be, making your kids wear clothes that are in appropriate for the weather and make them feel humiliated is not good.
You would do best to enlist the help of a trustworthy adult in this. Try talking to your school counselor, nurse, or your doctor, some adult who you trust, preferably a female, and maybe more than one such person.
MacChien
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sobrien
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it is not child abuse, but it is very irrational, what good is it doing? is she just trying to cover your body, now that you are reaching an age where there are changes?
it seems very odd that any parent would force their child to wear one, at first i thought you were talking about when you go to the beach, like a wetsuit or a one peice bathing suit, but to wear this thing under your clothes at all times..what is this the 1600's
this seems like a victorian era act of over-modesty.
so long as you are not wearing clothes that are overly-exposing, i don't see any reason she should make you wear the thing.
try talking to her about it, tell her that its uncomfortable, and that you do not want to be made fun of for wearing such an awkward garment.
she probably had to wear one when she was a child, but things are MUCH different today...it seems foolish.
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Ultimate Guitar Hero!
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I'm sure that she wants you to wear it to protect your from people looking at your young teen body. She is doing it for your own good, but it is still really weird. You do have to obey her until your 18 or until you can take care of yourself. I wouldn't take it off behind her back because you will get punished again. And, you don't want that right? This is not child abuse but you should talk to her about it. Tell her that it makes you uncomfortable and try to think of something for the two of you to compromise. Hope it works.
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Tally
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Seems like this is her idea of a modern day chastity belt. Talk with some of your adult relatives about this.
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Amanda Kasual
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Thats not child abused yet very odd. Your mother really should think this out. Tell her how you feel. You are who you are despite the modesty ... Modesty doesn't happen over night. For one thing.... It would have to be your decision you don't have the heart for what she wants yo to be.. tell her.. She should understand your her daughter..... Another, thing I know where your coming from I used to be left handed and when I took adequate classes in 5th grade it wasn't prpoer for a lady to write left handed so I was forced to learn right handed. I was taught how to eat, drink, walk, dress, and groom.... My make-up the way I pronounced words and how I acted. This was all obtained in a Maximum of 6 years after that I was able to chose for myself..... I didn't have the heart for it but, just seeing how happy it made my mom I did it.....
and thats wrong despite all that you can endup with good or bad results for one. I still have a fake accent taught to me but, I love it. I can go to fancy dinners and know what to use to eat while others scramble around..It's pretty funny.... There are also times in which I wondered why and would cry. It's all over now and somehow I fugured out that who you are inside can never be shaped or formed. Despite all the fru fru acts I am Still Amanda uderneath all the schooling and your still a 13 yr old who wants to have fun..... you can't make an orange and apple even if you surround it with apples... Tell your mom you have your best interest in this tell her the way it makes you feel and if that not enough tell her you will respectfully do as she wishes b/c your her daughter but you hoping that she'll see her reason of doing this is very unfair...
-Good Luck find it in your heart to make a decision that your happy with.
Remember the heart can only endure so much!
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kr
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It's not child abuse but it sounds like your mom is a little overboard though. She feels by you wearing this it'll forbid you from thinking sex.. ( a good concept BUT she is going about it all wrong)... Unfortunately sometimes parents feel they are protecting their child by enforcing silly rules, but what they are really doing is setting themself up for a rebellious child when they turn of age. Kind of like the strict catholic girl when she leaves the nest and goes to college.
Believe me your mom feels she is doing right but she has no clue of what message she is really sending... All i can say is try and understand her fears and maybe get her to somehow sit down and talk about this calmly... Maybe try and compromise a little... Maybe if your dad is in your life he can help.. but in the end don't rebell and sneak because that will only create more problems.
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beetee
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Why do you have to wear it? Tell her how uncomfortable it is. Maybe she should try it on herself.
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celianne
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Yes - it can be called child abuse if you are uncomfortable with it - and her reasons are not valid. Modesty is not a valid reason. Get a relative or friend of hers to talk to her about it. She is being very unkind.
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specialk
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ur mom is old fashioned, her mom probably made her wear one, but times are different now. I would never make my daughter wear one, its hot, makes u sweat ,it cant be comfortable, with layers of clothes what, do u do when ur in gym class, do u get teased. anyway, show her these answers, maybe she will come around. Tell her to compermise with u tell her u will wear it 2 days a week. to make her happy. If she say no I would destroy everyone she gets u . If she puts u on restriction, do what most kids do. sleep to pass the time. either way she will get the hint sooner or later. I feel bad for u. But she is ur mother and i'm sure she means well. she loves u good luck.
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angel
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cant you ask her why you have to wear it?
modesty has nothing to do with wearing one of those.
if she wont back off, take it off when she is not around. it sounds like she is doing this for her sake and not yours.
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rebecca c
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well if you havnt tried this already sit her down and talk to her. it's not child abuse and you could be a rebel and disobey. have you ever taken an english class that made you write a persuasive paper? i know i had to do that when i was 13. the process works well if you want to battle for what you believe in. do a bit of research on the bodysuit to support yourself (like disproving her "it's good for you body") haha i probably sound pretty scientific, but hey i used it and i extended my curfew. good luck!
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kidi_69
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What I would like to know is y is it good for u?
tell her you tried it and it just isn't your type of thing.....
Dont yell or nag try to have a real conversation with and try not to get too mad that will only make it worse....Sorry about that and hope you dont have to wear it ever again.....Good Luck...
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sorry what is a bodysuit anyway?please don't rate this as a bad answer because im being serious i don't know what a body suit is...
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kelly
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that is really sad that you feel this way! first you should listen to your mother, even though i don't agree with the bodysuit. second, i don't think that it is child abuse. and last, you might want to talk to another grown up that is close to you and your mother to see if maybe their influence might have an impact on her theory of the body suit
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Bailey
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it's not child abuse but it is some type of crazy shite
i think your mother needs to lay off the crack rock
bodysuits are sooo 1990's and no one wears them anymore espcially in the summer time
you should be dressed as what yo uthink is cool as you are a teenager as long as it is within reason and not like slutty
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Lori K
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Are you talking about a girdle? A bodysuit isn't an undergarment. It's a shirt that is made that way to stay tucked in. Cheerleaders wear them. A girdle is an undergarment. That IS a little old-fashioned, but some older women consider them as essential to female support and modesty as a bra and underwear. Although not as comfortable as going without, they DEFINITELY improve your overall look---erasing panty lines and the like.
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kattsmeow
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Do you have a regular doctor? Someone like a pediatrician? I would call him/her and request that the doctor call you back or discuss it with a nurse. Perhaps they will set up a visit with your Mom and you to discuss this, health wise. Another opinion is to talk to your minister, Rabi, Father or whomever is your religious leader. He may have some advice for you and your Mom. If there is someone at your school, like a gym teacher. The point I guess I'm trying to make is I think you need adult intervention and help. I will be thinking about you.♥
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knowless
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are you comfortable of wearing it? if not don't wear it..
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blueridgeliving
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I am very confused.
Why is your mother forcing you to wear a bodysuit? I thought those things went out in the eighties.
What does a bodysuit have to do with "modesty?" How is it "good for the body?"
I'm confused.
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Rikki T
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Personally, I think your old enough to decide what to wear.
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Moondog
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Doesn't sound right to me and I'm not a kid. Not even close. I think you need a mediator - like clergy, teacher, relative - someone who can give unbiased advice.
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barbrafliege
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It isn't child abuse to make you wear certain clothes. Until you live on your own, your parents have a say in what you do. Personally, I do not know what the purpose of wearing a body suit it. I would have a conversation with her. Calmly ask why you need to wear it and what medical purpose it serves. You may also chose to ask your doctor.
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Grub
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It's not child abuse, but it's very weird.
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BrendaWise
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Tell her you will wear it only if she wears one too.
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