Losing virginity?

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pancakes & hyrup	"in love". You think you'll be with him when you're both 90? That would be love. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bec	if you're so much in "love" than why don't you get married and do it then huh? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tabulator32	LUBRICANT! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Matthew T	Yes, it hurts. From what I hear but afterwards wait 15 minutes and do it again. Seriously, you'll like it. The thing is, he might not be able to get it up 2 times in 15 min so you might prepare by 'after cleaning up' from the first one let him rest and then start toying with him and playing with it. Then go again and it shouldn't hurt as bad. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

minus	Rae C is either a virgin or has one so small he can't find it. Probably both. He sure has no idea what he has said. You are not giving away anything. You will be sharing and what is better than that. I hope you know that the first few times will not be that great passion lost in a wild world thing. If it is not so great just remember to do anything well it does take some practice. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

teenfromwa	just tell him to take it slow, treasure this moment (damn i wish i did) wait til u and are both aroused enough, start slowly and increase the pace when u both feel cormfortable and ready. it may hurt a bit at the start, tell him to slow down when this happens and let ur body adjust, if the pain is sharp and unbearable tell him to stop, and then try again in a weeks time and if its the same get some lube from the pharmacy and try thay, still no luck go and get a checkup. Sure everthyng will be fine, deep breaths, you will be nervous and anxious but thats fine, just make sure you ready and aware of the consequences. be smart and be protected hope all goes well! good luck ps congrats :P Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Talk Girl	Props to you for being prepared. Just make sure you are totally comfortable with your decision. Keep in mind that it will hurt, but it will be fine as long as you go slow. Also keep in mind that it's totally normal if it doesn't make it in all the way the first time. Get some candles and light them ahead of time, and get something pretty to wear. It will be great! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

David	Thats kind of interesting that your planning it. If your both very comfortable with it and it feels natural though than good for you. Be safe and have fun. Yea, it might hurt for you, but not that bad. Some girls don't even notice it. More than anything though it'll probably be kind of awkward being its your guys' first time. You'll figure each other out pretty quick though and I bet soon after you'll be wanting it all the time. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ducci	If it is done right and you two are that in love, then everything will be great. Don't stress so much about it. Just let the moments fall into place. Good Luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

shelly s	losing your virginity does hurt a little bit, but as long as you both are Gentle and go slow at first you will be fine. use plenty of lubricant, and extra foreplay will help you be more ready for it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Adorable Boo	first of all people's opinions about you shouldn't be and the doubts your in love they are answering to should be ignored.They are not experiencing the same love you are .. you go ahead and make love with him. and enjoy! what i learned was if you stiffen up with the frear it's going to hurt it makes it worse because when your stiffened up waiting for it to hurt your muscles are making it go smaller. If you relax it will not hurt, that worked for me. when m boyfriend was inserting and i wasn't relaxed I told him to wait and when i relaxed we tried again. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

donnaishere2001	Sounds like you're both well prepared, both physically and emotionally. You've both obviously thought it through. Since you're in a dorm. I'll assume you're both of consenting age as well. As for the pain issue. I didn't have any my first time. Though some people have. The main thing to keep in mind. There is no such thing as a "Right Way". So don't wonder about that. Also, remember, that the journey is often as wonderful as the end. So take your time, explore each other. Relax. Be considerate. Be generous. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

TROUBLESHOOTERKILLROY	anything else that is missing is spontaneity. Instead of being mentally prepared to give ur virginity by taking all the precautions, you fixing the date, getting yahoo answers and telling not to lecture and the main q is losing virginity hurt that much?? Compared to the trauma u will undergo if the very same boy after having u on bed ditches u or does not get married that will hurt u for life and the real losing ur virginity will pale in comparison. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Hi	I think the level of pain depends on the person. When my friend lost her virginity, to a guy with a pretty big penis, she said it didn't hurt at all. As for me, well, it wasn't THAT bad...but it was painful. It still hurt for the next couple times but I finally got used to it and it's starting to feel good now. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

brian777999	make sure you have some personal lubricant like ky jelly. Do not use vaseline ; this weakens the condom. Take it slow. Good luck ! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

fin73	Be careful!! your boyfriend should watch this first! http://youtube.com/watch?v=ukOaQLKjLyE Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

looneyanaid	R-E-L-A-X. that's the best advice. if u relax, and just give yourself over, then you'll have a good time and it wouldn't hurt. tell him to go slow at first since you might not be used to it, don't worry, it doesn't hurt that much at all. good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kay ^.^	well...the level of pain youll have depends on how big his penis is. the first time my current bf and i had sex it hurt like hell. and id had sex plenty of times before him. no im not a slut. i just dont care about the whole savoring the virginity thing that much. so just go slowly and dont be afraid to tell him how you like it. took me a while to get used to that, but it totally makes the sex better when you talk about it. youve been together years you say, so akwardness shouldnt be much of an issue have fun :] Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

keral	why not Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

danchevz	You need to go to the health center and a get on a birth control ASAP. You are too young to take any chances. Also when Friday comes don't rush into it if the time doesn't seem right. The best thing about love and sex is learning about it and sharing it with some one special. It only gets better as time goes on and as you get more experience. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Vanity	I'm so sick of the lectures. if people were to prevent you from doing something wrong everytime you were about to do it, we would never make mistakes and we would never learn from it. sex is a personal decision. only you and your partner can make the decision. honsetly, don't plan it though. but i can also understand because it means that it wasn't at the heat of the moment. well, you should think about it and if thats what you want, do it. hurting depends on size, my first time it hurt and people i knew said i would bleed, but i didn't. but it just depends. good luck, have fun, be safe. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cherrin	It hurts for the first time...then it gets better. Always make sure to have him wear a condom...but anyway, everyone gets nervous on their first time. It's perfectly normal. Just take it easy and slow. BTW, if you're REALLY nervous, it might be a good idea to postpone the special "date" to another day...it feels more natural when sex just happens, not when it is planned. But overall, good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

speak up	LOSING?? YOU MEAN GIVING,DON'T YOU??? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chrstnwrtr	Yes, there is something missing; a wedding ring. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Top Contributor	You two have waited long enough, just do it when you two think the time has come. Enjoy it! Sex is only a small aspect of life but it can be VERY fun. Remember the boy can hurt too if he is uncircumcised, i heard. If you cooperate really well you will both do well, he might be too excited the first time and he might ''finish'' in 30 seconds. It's okay too, just wait a little while then do it again. Good luck and cheers for you becoming a woman! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Blossy	Dont have high expectations for your first time. Just practice safe sex condoms etc... and take it as a learning experience. May hurt a bit even be akward but I promise with each time it gets better! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Rosie25	Okay. Before you do this, just ask yourself something. Are you REALLY ready to take that plunge with THIS guy, or AT ALL? Have you thought through all the different aspects of opening this "jar"? I am not saying this to discourage you, I just pray that you will really, really think on this before making that decision. Your virginity is a one time thing. You'll never get it back. It's like a first kiss, only much more significant. If you are not religious, than I am not going to preach on saving yourself for marriage. BUT, what I will preach on is the importance of taking all of these things into consideration. Sex opens the door to all kinds of possible stress such as STDs, pregnancy, and the emotionally aspect of sex. No matter how much you love this guy, and I truly believe that you do, it is going to be far more emotional for you than it will be for him. I am not saying you will sob your eyes out, but sex opens that emotional floodgate in a lot of girls and the saying "sex changes everything", is completely true. I am really glad to hear that you have planned ahead and thought about contraceptives. That was very mature of you. If you do decide to go through with it, which is totally cool, just make sure you know how to use the contraceptive before hand to avoid any problems. The level of hurting differs for each girl, but it will definitely feel uncomfortable at first. Your private parts are extremely tight, so you aren't used to anything bigger than a tampon in there! Make sure to use lube to decrease the amount of resistance going in. Also, girl to girl. Pay attention to how you're feeling when this is all happening. Listen to your thoughts as this all happens. You will know right away if you aren't ready. If you get panic-y at all, be honest about it. I'm sure he would rather wait until you are ready. Okay, I'll stop blabbing! All of that aside, if you're ready, have fun! :-) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ZeeLee	In the interest of ensuring you have a happy and healthy sexual life in the future, regardless of whether it's going to be with this man, married or not, I will share my experience with you. My boyfriend and I had been together for about 6 weeks when we made love for the first time. Now, ordinarily, I would think that this is too quick to be jumping into bed with someone. However, I was 21, and he was 24. We had known each other for 8 years already. And both of us had agreed that this was a serious relationship, not just dating (and I was already sure I was going to marry him - which 2 years later, I did). Before taking the relationship to this level, we had been physically intimate on other levels first. We started of with kissing, then fondling, moving up to masturbating, and then oral sex (not all at once, over the course of the 6 weeks). We had previously discussed sex, and what our values are, and how we were feeling about it all. We were both interested in making love, and, as we were both confident we were heading towards marriage anyway, we did not feel the need to wait. Neither of us rushed the other person, and he indicated to me that he was ready about a week before I was ready. He said that it 'will be nice when it happens, but I'm not in a rush, I can wait.' which was beautiful of him. I told him that I absolutely would not be one of those silly girls who goes round not protecting herself as best as she could, so, he'd better make sure he had condoms, just in case I was ready. On the night we did make love, we didn't plan to make love. We were in his room, and he was masturbating me, and I decided that I would like to share something more intimate with him. So, I waited until he had been masturbating me for a while, to ensure that I was very well lubricated, and I worked up the nerve to ask him to make love to me. He said 'are you sure?' and so I replied with 'do you have any condoms?' he said he did, and I said yes I was sure. Well, I've never seen a man move so fast before or since! As he was a virgin at the time too, he was quite nervous, and was worried about stuffing up I think. I was expecting pain, I was expecting it to be fumbling and awkward. But it wasn't. I think because he took his time, and because I was well lubricated, and very much ready, it went smoothly. It was over rather quickly, it being his first time and all, but I knew not to expect to much from our first time, or indeed the next few times after that, so I was not disappointed. For your situation, the only thing that concerns me is that you've 'planned' it. If it comes down to it, and you don't think you're ready, you are still allowed to say no. Don't rush into it. Don't do it because you feel like you have to. Keep a few things in mind when going through this. 1. Don't expect too much from your first attempts at love making - making love is like any skill, practise makes perfect. 2. Don't rush - you want to savour every moment you spend together. 3. Ensure that you are well lubricated, and aroused - the main cause of pain during intercourse is lack of moisture, and moving too fast. The vagina is like a stretchy tube. the more you play with it, the more flexible it becomes - it has to be coaxed into opening up and loosening up so that penetration will not be uncomfortable. 4. While it is difficult for a male to restrain himself, he must NOT just push his penis inside all at once, this will cause discomfort and even pain. nudging it in a little each push is a much better way to go about it. 5. Be careful when using condoms. Once the man has ejaculated, he will need to hold the base of the condom, and be careful when pulling out, otherwise it could come off. It only takes one sperm to make a baby. 6. Enjoy it. you are going about this the right way. You have a man you've been with for a very long time. You've waited until you're old enough to deal with the consequences (good or bad) of your actions, and you're using contraception, which is a lot more than some people do these days. Good luck! :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jill	if you're in love, wait until marriage, nothing works 100% except waiting! if he loves you, he will wait! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kajun	The only other thing youre missing is a wedding ring. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kangaroo girl	well seems like you got it all covered. good on you for being prepared and not rushing into things. just remember go slow and everything should be OK good luck :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No