Is it normal to be scared of sex?

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*~Princess~*	Yes it completly normal to be nervous your first time! And don't believe what your friends are telling you, you will bleed obviously but not that much unless the guy is really rough with you! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

online therapist	well take it from me, the whole bleeding stories are totally made up ( your friends are trying to protect you) it may not feel great the first time though. it takes some getting used to. i think itll hurt less if ur used to shoving big things up there. try really big fat tampons to stretch out the hole and you'll have no problem. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Stefany	yes it is Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Luck Butt	Yes Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Gabby	yes its normal Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tantilisingteaser	I think others have more than answered your question about sex especially from a females perspective here Let me ask you something when you masturbate are you penetrating yourself because this is not the only way for you to masturbate Theres vaginal masturbation and theres clitoral masturbation if your only doing it to simulate sex then your wide of the point masturbation is about letting go and surrendering to good feelings your clit is located at the top of your vulva inside the labia majora it is covered by a small hood of flesh called the clitoral hood direct stimulation to this spot will give you the true feelings you should have while masturbating its not all about penetration just relax and enjoy the process Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Melanie	First of all, how old are you? If you're younger (16 or 17) its natural to be scared. Honestly, i'm a bit terrified of the act myself! But when you're in the moment with the right person i'm sure that it shouldn't feel so bad. If they screamed and said it hurt and they bled a lot - it wouldn't really matter if they liked the person they did it with, correct? Sex isn't an act that MUST be done early in life. Its a compromise - pleasure for pleasure - that really needs to be appreciated between two people who are mature, prepared, willing, and who have a bond that allows it to be not really an act or something to be scared of but a connection that intensifies a relationship. Trust me girl, you'll know when you've found it. =] I have! I guess you just have to bide your time. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

wcsforeverthespiritofhhs	honestly, its no where near as bad you think it will be. but its diffrent for everybody. but yeah, deffinitley wait for the right guy. dont worry, it will happen when its meant to. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sophie S	I could see why you would be scared, lol =) Yes. It's very normal to be scared your first time. It's different for everybody, for some people it hurts and for some it just comes naturally and they don't feel pain. It depends on your body type. You are right to wait for a serious relationship, and I say don't be scared. Just remember you love the guy you are doing it with and there will always be more attempts if the first time isn't everything you wanted it to be. Relax, Good Luck =) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

morgannn	i know i am! haha, i'm guess it is... but then again it's just a natural thing, ya know? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Winnie	Yes, but as far as pain goes it's usually mind over matter. The more pain you expect to feel the more your mind will create, just like those people who were given grape juice instead of wine, they were drunk because their reasoned that wine=drunk. If your mind connects pain with sex that's what's going to happen, well not whats going to happen but what you feel. I suggest as long as your feeling nervous you should just go slow, eventually it'll happen. Your being smart by not diving though, so that's a really good thing. And your friends are mean for saying that I have NEVER heard of that EVER happening my entire life, but that's also a brain thing, you can get sick if you convince your mind you are, and I suppose you could bleed to if you really committed yourself to those types of thoughts, but no. Your not going to die, if that actually happened it would be more public than friends.. that's just so mean to scare you like that... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

blondzhavemorefun	Dont worry about it, its not as bad as it may seem. you are only scared bc you have never done it b4. yes most of our first times are dissapointments but it'll get better. just make sure trhat the guy you choose is sweet and kind and prefferably a virgin aswell, it will be fine dont worry :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pennylane<3	Congrats on wanting to wait to be in a serious relationship before taking the plunge into sex. I lost my virginity to someone who doesn't even know he took it, and I will never forgive myself for it. Anyway, if you truly wait for the perfect person to come along, you will not be scared. As for your friends and their horror stories, don't let them bring you down. Not everyone has a bad first experience...when you find the right person, you'll be amazed at how willing he will be to give you a perfect, pleasurable experience whether it's the first time or the hundredth! Right now it is completely normal to be frightened by the idea of sex, because you do not yet know what it feels like to be with someone you love so much that there is no room for fear or embarrassment or discomfort in your heart. Wait until you're ready, never ever worry about being too old. Nobody needs to know, not even your partner...and if you do decide to tell him, he will respect and still love you completely. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Miss Mina	That's completely normal. I was scared the night I lost my virginity. It does hurt, but only briefly, and some girls bleed more than others but it's not a big deal. Just plan ahead and lay a towel down so that it won't ruin the bed. Add: Well it's harder when you're trying to masturbate because you're doing it yourself and are therefore going to stop as soon as it's uncomfortable. With a guy, he's not aware of it so the pain is over in like two seconds. When I lost it, I said "Ow **!" and he stopped immediately and asked if I was okay, which I was because it only hurt for two seconds and then I was ready to keep going. The most important thing to do is to try and relax. That may sound hard to do right now, but when you're with the right person it's really easy to do. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tyler C	yes Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jan-Willem	You do know sex is supposed to be a good thing right? An experience of 2 lovers, pleasuring one another and showing their love, that whole routine? 'Cause that's what it is, normally. I'm not saying you are abnormal for being scared. Hell, your friends sure put a lot of effort into your fear! Poor girl. I think it hurts because you're not relaxed and lubricated enough. You shouldn't see it as something you've got to do. See masturbation for what it is, a nice feeling you can give yourself. If it doesn't feel nice then stop! But don't feel bad that you 'couldn't do it'. Try lubricants or something. It is important that you see sex as a positive thing. But don't worry, once you've experienced it in the right way once, you'll never see it as anything but a good feeling. Much luck and pleasure to you. btw. maybe this site can help, to teach you or get you in the mood or sth.: http://www.clitical.com/ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Maria S	everyone is different just be calm or it WILL go bad! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Eric T	it's normal to be scared because men like to go fast so it might hurt because your not used to it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

hotti_hil	Oh that is definitely normal to be scared of sex. When you are in a relationship that you know you can trust your partner, and feel you are ready, then I think you should be ready to have sex. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Haleeezy	thats perfectly normall o worries everyones scared i was when i first thought about it but now that i have gotten more comfortable with my body the subject seems easier an im still a virgin just so ya no well good luck sweetie dont worry your fine :] Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Gabz	Read more into sex try www.bbc.co.uk/slink has everything about sexual intercourse and other stuff.. dont do it without being ready. do it with someone you feel confortable around and who feels comfortable around you.. hope this helps.. xxx Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Andy	yeah is normal to be scared of sex. I am as a boy. I am 16 virgin and have been for about a year and a half. It's not the hurting for me though, it's the risks of not enjoying it, catching an infection or even doing it wrong. and the after humiliation must be bad as well if something goes terribly wrong and embarassing. you are normal because you know the big downside of sex, yet alot of girls just go in head first and do it for the sake of it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

someone.	try masturbating differently and on the outside around the vulva, and dont worry. its scary for everybody, and guys are just as scared as you are about the first time. and i dont belive in the "no sex til marriage" i mean you arent supposed to build a relationship around sex but having a good sexual relationship is probably nessesary. and what if you dont work out during sex, if you are married thats something that you are gonna have to live with. so dont be scared, and no sex until marriage is dumb. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jacqueline H	Of course it's okay to be scared of sex. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Q	You should see a gynecologist. They can, under anesthesia, cut your hymen, so you won't have that issue to worry about when you first have sex. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Delio M	Yeah it actually is big time because you will never know whats gonna happen but if you think your ready go for it but be sure to be safe while having sex you dont want to regret a thing. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

elkin205	yes it is, but you'll get used to and you will feel great (enjoy it) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Anthony M	yeah that's normal and it's good to wait for a serious relationship and a guy that will be Gentle and patient with you Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Prof. Dr. Gayane Dolyan	Read everything about first time sex in http://www.menstrual-cycle.info/20-First-time-sex.html Be Healthy and Happy! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kick'nitintheclouds	Yes. I find it terrifying. And most of my friends do to. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lamia	Yes, it's normal to be scared or nervous about having sex. I do want to tell you that the experiences your friends have had are NOT common, though. Either they are exaggerating or they were very unlucky. When the hymen tears it doesn't always bleed at all, and having more than a small amount of blood is very unusual. Since you say that it hurts when you masturbate, I'm guessing that you are trying to put your fingers inside your vagina. This is not actually the way most women masturbate, or at least not the main thing they do. Vaginal penetration can hurt if you aren't relaxed and aroused already. In general, women masturbate by stimulating the clitoris. Different women like different things, but you may want to start off by rubbing your clitoral hood -- that's at the front/top of your genital area. (You can see it easily if you look down at yourself.) This shouldn't hurt at all. If you want to then when you're really feeling good from that you can try slipping one finger inside your vagina. If this is painful then you probably are still too tense. Don't force yourself to do it if it's uncomfortable. If it often hurts when you touch your genital area then it's possible you have a yeast or bacterial infection that is making your skin irritated. This is especially likely if you have a thick or bad smelling vaginal discharge. If that's the case, you'd need to see a doctor. These kinds of infections can be very uncomfortable, but they usually respond well to treatment. Oh, and there's nothing wrong with remaining a virgin until you're older. It's better than having sex when you aren't ready for it. Your first time is going to be awkward, there's no getting around that, but it won't be horrible if you're really ready and are with someone who cares about you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No