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BB	Yes, welcome to married life. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Not a Daddys Girl	It never hurts to try anything once.. Have fun with it. you never know he may even enjoy the little extra attention from you. I have been with the same man for six years and sometimes we go for months without having sex and then there are times when we have it a couple times in the same week. Lots of things help or hinder this...stress is one of them,kids are another... good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LadeeBug	Yeah, it doesn't get better either...I have the same problem. My hubby doesn't cheat either; I work with him and see him all the time. After 30, his drive just went away. :( Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Billy Joe Bob SK Chiller	Your husband has probably got a compound problem: video gaming addiction; and lack of adequate physical exercise. If you want your hisbandto start felling sexier, you have got to get your husband encouraged enough to start doing either some beneficial cardiac endurance or strength building exercise to help him get his blood to start flowing again & make him feel the need for sex. If he prefers soda pop to water, get him plenty of that sweet carbonated water from H-E-B or wherever w/o all that other soda pop crapola in it. If you want to beat the playstation and its own player-sport reward system, you have got to meet or beat all of it reward points: a feeling of control, enterainment, newness and change, instant gratification at some new sucessful turn in the game. Try something new that is fun, enteraining and sexy. Be sexy, teaseful and playful. Tell him what you really want him to do for and to you and what you will do to him in turn. Be very responsive, encouraging and appreciative to him for all of his efforts, especially the end result. Gaming is just another addiction action that is an attempt to escape from the bland & boring realities of real life where people have little or no real control over the outcome, etc. as per above. It will take a lot of effort for you to help him overcome it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dood	How much weight have you gained since marriage? Many women gain 10-40 lbs in first 2 years. LOSE IT! Get a PS game that you like and spend time playing it with him. There are MANY PS games that have more than 1 player. You will probably not match his skill level, but keep at it. Also, find other common interests and pursue them with him. It isn't all about sex. If you think it is, you've lost already. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nanette W	It sounds to me like something is seriously wrong. I once asked my husband about a friend's situation -- she and her husband were also having sex about once a month. He told me that if a man isn't having sex with his wife 3 or 4 times a week, then he's doing something else for sex. Turns out, my husband -- now ex-husband -- was addicted to pornography. So are a lot of men these days. If your husband is at the computer a lot, "playing games" or whatever, I would assume he's using pornography until proved otherwise. My ex-husband used it at work and during lunch breaks at home. Don't be naive. Don't blame yourself. This kind of thing is happening a lot these days. You say he's not cheating, but he is. He's up to something. I can't tell you what to do about it, other than to deal with reality, and don't take it personally. It's not about you. It's about him, and temptation, and life. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Believe in BIODIVERSITY.	don't do anything.Be happy & spread happiness.good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

JC	Get rid of the play station...guys become zombies around those things! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

D J	Because it gets old quick. I love ice cream, but I do get bored with it evevntually. The best advice is to act like you don't want it, or a better way to explain it: RESIST. Guys want something they think they cant have. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

johncharlesrealty	Basically, he is in it for the long haul... His sex desire has diminished a little bit. That is normal. You need to spice it up a little bit.. My GF use too. Basically, the sex was getting boring and when I came home from work watching the news - she demanded me to pull my pants down.. I was likeWTF... Then she went to town on me... I was like dammmmmm.. I love this! Oh, and she changed her hair doo.. She got a short cut with bangs and curls... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pencilnbrush	i think its time you "break" the game...and get to be a freak in the bedroom.do...well... lol..filty things so he cant watch the games. lol.. he still owes his part... but the game is screwing it up....also...a great sex life is work... if you dont work on it.. you get complacant..lazy Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Bigfoot	Try throwing out his PlayStation. Seriously, if he would rather play video games than push your buttons, he's not living up to his manly duties as a husband. Or perhaps he gets enough of you at work to want to do anything at home. A little space is a good thing. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ahmad	May be he need to change daily system.Get a trip for example. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

harryt62	It sounds like you don't trust him. By checking on him all the time and questioning him about where he is and who he is talking to you have pushed him away. He is resenting your accusations and he has lost his desire for you. The play station is his way of escaping from you and not having to have sex. The once a month is most likely because he gets horney and he doesn't get it anywhere else. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MINDY	try just loving on him rubbing his back and just touching him maybe that will make him want it more Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Max	Seems fairly normal to me. Welcome to the world of "comfortable" relationships, where sex is not the main focus. You can still make attempts to spice things up. Buy some nice lingerie; cook a great meal with a bottle of wine, nice music and candles. Heck, I'm over 50 and it still works for me. *yes, you too will do this when you get old. :-) Good luck sweetie, the honeymoon may be over, but the love is just beginning. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mandie	maybe you shouldn't talk to eachother as much. I mean if there's one thing I've learned about guys it's that they need space every once in a while. He probably doesn't want to hurt your feelings by telling that, but more than likely that's what it is. So don't talk to him as much while he's at work, and take time for yourself, like a girl's night out or something. Also try spicing things up too, who knows? It could work. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sweetpea	yes maybe spice up the bedroom, couples that play together stay together!ive been there! its like the newness wears off!some times you have to shine those old shoes, and make them look new again!!have fun!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Annie	Sex before marriage was "illegal" and to some people and that could have been the attraction that made your husband's sexual appetite so strong... now sex is "legal" and does not have the added attraction of "doing something 'illegal'" his attraction to this activity could have diminished... It is much more fun to do things forbidden, rather than legal and allowable! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pnk517	Try paying him a little more attention. Sometimes, life happens. You can't have the same level of excitement that you had when you were first married. Now that you have been married awhile, you might need to "step it up". This might get him jump started as well.... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

yknot92688	Make a game of it. If he likes Play Station so much and knows you will be available for sex when ever he feels like it then play the Play Station with him. Use it as foreplay to sex. If he wins you have to do something sexual for him, if you win he has to do something sexual for you. He might feel that sex has gotten to be a choir and not as enjoyable. If he plays a game you don't enjoy and don't want to play give him a "reward" for winning a round or getting a best score. If you try to keep him from doing something he enjoys you are going to run into other problems. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ithek_thundervoice	Why dont' you talk about it with him. It could be a misunderstanding between the two of you. You could be getting signals that he doesnt' want to have sex and he could be getting some that signal that you don't want to have sex. I think the best solution is to talk to him. Communication is key in any relationship especially a marriage. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

acarbone624@verizon.net	Now, I have the same problem, buts its my wifes sex drive that has went down to nothing. We used to have sex 3 times a day, then we got married and a few years later and now its about once every 2 weeks. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

solomn	No its not you, it just seems that when a MAN has that little piece of paper commonly called the marriage certificate in his hot little hands, everything changes, In his mind he now owns you, He doesn't have to work so hard to keep and please you , He doen't have to wine and dine you because he did all that before the wedding..........BUT here is a solution for you GO ON STRIKE , no evening meals prepared, no laundry done, dishes piled in the sink, no grocery shopping and most of all NO SEX...see how quickly things will change.........GOOD LUCK Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

goku_trained_by_king_ki	He's addicted to gaming. Me and my wife been married about the same time, im lucky once a month AND my wife is a nympho. Same situation your in we had awesome sex 2-3 times a day everyday no matter who was there or what time it was. The gaming is definately a problem, he's more into it than into having sex. The only thing you can really do is let him know that he has to stop playing so much or your leaving. I garuntee if you make a deal with him for him to stop playing it'll be better :) Maybe on Sat/Sun he doesnt play (or another 2 days) your garunteed to get sex then. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nas88caror 300	hide or get rid of the PlayStation..put on something real sexy..and say i want you to play with me Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

zodiaccyber	get some new idea to beef up your sex life, eat out then do it outside of your home. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

empresscalls	He has time for playstation?You guys have not been married long...I would try something new if its what you want and talk to him about needing more sex.Let him know it is a concern for you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

fqkf90	Dear, I've been married 6 years. It just gets worse. We're lucky to do it once a month anymore. Try getting a hotel room...that always works for us! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

angie1977c	Maybe you should try spicing up things. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years and at first it was all the time now it's not that much. If i act really sexy and romantic toward him he seems to want it more. Also maybe you should try asking him to ease up on the playstation that could really be your main problem. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Daniel L	At 22 he is still a kid. You will have to be patient and slowly enable him to grow up into a man. He is insecure. He is calling you because he is afraid YOU will cheat if he doesn't keep you occupied by talking with him. Try getting him to stop calling you and to focus on his work. He can talk with you when he gets home. Take a class or get a job so he knows where you are and knows he can't call. (Teach him to trust that you will not cheat on him. Tell him you'd never cheat on him and also tell him that if he ever cheated or abused you that you would leave him.) The play station is an escape from reality. Very slowly limit the play station evenings from every night to just once or twice a week. Don't make it a rule, just start scheduling other things you can do together, like a movie night, going on walks, cooking together, taking an evening class or whatever interests the two of you. Make them routines so he knows what to expect each night. Start playing the games with him so it is no longer an escape into a solo fantasy universe but becomes an activity that includes both of you. On spicing up the bedroom: the bedroom should be free from distractions. No television. No game machine. It should be equally masculine and feminine so both are comfortable. Bedrooms are for only two things, sleeping and sex... and hopefully not in that order. Some people prefer sex in the evening and others in the morning. Approach him at the time he prefers and see if you can make it a routine. On occassion, plant some seeds in his mind by whispering what you might do to him (or what he might do to you) 12 hours beforehand. "In the morning..." Sex involves having confidence in yourself. Build up his confidence. Discuss his successes at work and how proud you are of him. You have confidence in yourself and can give him confidence by telling him how proud you are of him for specific traits or actions he does. In the end, he has to want to change. All you can do is to give him the incentive and assist in the process. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No