Im 14 and im worried about my bf?

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x_shuga.boo_x	im sure this girl has heard the lectures bout being too young ect ect. a million times over. do what ever u feel is right to you. (im not saying its ok to have sex @ 14 but really do u people think she is not going to have sex because u told her its wrong? i think not. ) if u do make the decision to have sex make sure it is safe sex. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

blonde_candybabe	ok first yes it hurts bad. Also you know if your ready if you love him very much but just once you loose your virginity you can never get it back!. make sure you love him and u know he loves you. but 14 if VERY young and i dont think you should do it cause you will most prob regret it. Also you can try other sexual stuff u have no risk of getting pregnant like hand jobs blow jobs fingering 69 and licking out try them Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sazdeanna1	When you are ready you will know and feel ready. It will just feel right. It can some times hurt it just depends on the individual person on if it hurts or not and how much it hurts. If he keeps asking for s e x then he is trying to pressurizing you into it. He wants s e x of you not a loving relationship because other wise he would wait till you feel ready and that it feels right. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kitten	I lost my virginity at 15, and at the time I thought it was fine. I now regret that decision - I was too young, and possibly with the wrong person, although I am grateful for the experience. Like a few people have said, you need to consider the risk of pregnancy and STDs. I read somewhere recently, not sure where, that to raise a child to 18 years old costs at least £43,000. Where would you get that money, and could you handle the responsibility? As for the hurting part, most people seem to think it hurts like hell - personally, it didn't hurt for me. It wasn't at all pleasurable, but it didn't hurt. How long have you been with your boyfriend? If it's only a couple of weeks, I'd certainly say no. Also consider your boyfriend's motives. In the end, only you know what's right for you and only you can make the decision - just make sure that if you do, you use protection. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

david k	i think if your asking the question..."how can i tell i am ready" then i dont think you are. when you are ready if will feel natural and something which you want to do to bring your boyfriend closer to you. having sex is intimate...dont just do it for the sake of it!!! you have a lot of years ahead of you to have casual sex (we all know people have one night stands so i dont see the point in lying about it) make your first time special!!! :) it can hurt the first time you have sex but thats only becuase of nerves etc but then again it might not...it will be easier the next time you "do it" give yourself time and space to think long and hard about it....if he's pushing you into it dont bother with him...my experience these types are just gona have sex n dump ya!! good luck....i hope you make the right decision for you :0) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

may	well for a start you are still under age you must think seriously about this if he is really interested about you and wants to be with you he will do the right thing and wait untill you are firstly old enough and secondly you feel it is the right time. if you are just going to go ahead and do it before your old enough i cant stress this to you enough USE PROTECTION!! as to it hurting its different with everyone some say it hurts some dont but if you havent been with this lad for long i would think about wether or not you would do this because you really do like and trust him or just because you think you should because he wants to, you need to remember he is older than you and might not understand how you feel about your first time try and explain how you feel to him if he is at all adult about this he will wait for you. when your ready you will know yourself please dont be pressured into this your still young enjoy being young. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Scobill	You are under age and so it would be illegal for him to have sex with you . It sounds as if you are no where ready for this step , so enjoy yourself in other ways If he loves you he will understand , and wait until you are old enough and feel ready . However if you do make this step , Please make sure you use protection , not just to stop pregnancy but to prevent risk of infection . Also not that you can get pregnant before ejaculation as when the male is aroused sperm can be present in pre c~m which is a release of seminal fluid Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

demon_hunter_ illidan	wow, 14? gosh.... it hurts like hell.. take it from me... i am the devil (",) if sex is not that valuable for you or let us say that you think of sex as an event then do it, but if you value your virginity for you future husband then do not do it.. anyway you have you own culture and beliefs... sex is something very personal. Pray first then ask Him what to do.. God bless!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

princess.boof	If you don't really know if you are ready, then you are not ready. 14 is a bit young. I'm not a huge believer in waiting until you are married but you should wait until you are older than 14 & until you have a boyfriend who is willing to wait until you are ready. If your boyfiend doesnt like that then he is not worth it. Tell him to bugger off Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kiki	I lost my virginity at 17, and late questioned my decision. You are only 14! And if you are not sure, you are not ready. You are a kid, enjoy it while it lasts. Once you give it up, you do not get it back. Then you have to worry about pregnancy and STD's, are you ready for that? And the emotional investment might not be worth the pain later on. For some girls it hurts, for others it doesn't and part of that depends on his size and how rough he might be. In most states the legal age of consent is 17, it's 18 in others. If this guy is 17 or older, he could end up in prison for statutory rape. And he'd be labeled a sex offender for the rest of his life. That would have nothing to do with you saying yes. It is the law. Hold on to it for a few more years, be a kid and don't' burden yourself with the responsibility and worry that comes with sex. Good luck to you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

*ღPink Cat ღ*	Your too young for a boyfriend, especially an older one. Older for a 14 year old should only be 15 or 16. Anything older is statutory rape, and If I were your mom You'd be in big trouble. Hell you can barely spell. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

meema	The answer is No, if you have to ask. Trust me you'll know when you are ready. Don't let anyone pressure you into having sex before you are ready. From my experience, and those of my Friends who were also not ready..... it was very pain-full. All in all, the experience sucked in no uncertain terms. Now as for those friends of mine who did wait until they were ready, there experience was pretty much positive. Some said it didn't hurt to some saying it hurt a little. But the pain was forgettable, because the one they were with kept them in mind and not just themselves. Knowing what I know now....... I'd of waited and not let that boy talk me into something I was not ready for. I can't even remember what he looked like. I can remember how disappointing and degrading that night was though. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bobsled_girl	Quote from above "Also you can try other sexual stuff u have no risk of getting pregnant like hand jobs blow jobs fingering 69 and licking out try them ." <<Remeber even with these activities you have a risk of getting STD's or AIDS>> I think 14 is way to young..but you are going to do what you are going to do...just make sure you do you homework and weigh the pros and cons...as well as the risks. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

B123	I place my bet on 1 week for her to ask "OMG AM I PREGNANT!?" Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Monica	Don't do it. You'll be happier if you wait for marriage. It'll be worth the wait and much much safer. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sue	Hello Just by asking the question shows you are not ready... Yes it does hurt the first time. He will respect you more by telling the truth and if he is a nice guy he will wait.... You are 14 dont be in such a rush to grow up Just enjoy life Good Luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Littlestar	14? It is ILLEGAL! Don't do it if you feel unsure. If he loves you, he will wait. If he pushes you, that means he wants you only for sex, then you should dump him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Amachi	If your 14, then most people will say don't even think about it. But that's just the general public. Its also the fact that you are even asking if you are ready that says you are not ready. You are ready when you don't even need to question yourself. Your boyfriends is also pretty perverted to ask you to have sex when you are 14. I suggest you break up before he gets too much into that kind of thing. and a small number of my friends (most are 16-21) say it hurts really badly for the first, second, third, and sometimes the forth time. They also said bigger isn't always better. They said they preferred smaller cause it didn't hurt as much..(I didn't ask, it was a random chat session) xD Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

solarcide	If you feel that you can responsibly raise a child, and have the finances to do it right, then you're ready. Since you're asking how to know if you're ready, then I seriously doubt that you are. If your "boyfriend" really cared about you, then he wouldn't be pressuring you for sex. I guarantee that if you were to get pregnant, he'd drop you like a hot potato, because I seriously doubt that he's ready for that kind of responsibility. Why is he a "bit older" than you? Is there some reason that he can't get someone his own age (and don't give me that "he says I'm special" BS)? Maybe all of the girls his age already know what he's like (or know what guys like him are like), and know better than to mess around with him. Sounds to me like you're heading down a path that you're going to regret. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bainette s	Seriously at 14 don't think about it and definitely don't do it my lil sis is your age and i say wait as long as u can. I got pregnant at 17 and was left as a single mom. at that age it was hard. u being 14 is gonna be 10x worse. n yes it does hurt especially when they r more experienced. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

WHATS GOING ON?	what are you thinking?!!!! You are 14, why, what would be your reasoning for want to???? To be cool??? There are so many diseases you can get if you are not careful, how cool would that be???? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥☺ bratiskim∞! ☺♥	Can you handle the consequences of sex like a broken heart (if he breaks up with you), pregnancy and STDs? I doubt that you can... Plus it's very, very illegal even if you consent to it and he could get charged with rape and be lapeled as a sex offender for the rest of his life... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Roger L	Look: We're guys and we suck. We'll tell you any kind of lie to get to the goodies. If you feel strongly about this guy, put him to the test. Don't give in just cause he begs. And don't be afraid he'll walk if you don't put out. This is where you find out what he's made of. If he takes off because you won't lie down for him then it's better to know now. If that's the kind of guy he is then he'll just find another reason to leave later when things don't go his way. By then you'll have a much bigger emotional investment in him and it'll be worse. We're spoiled little kids; Every damn one of us. Don't give in if you don't want to. It just encourages us to be turds. Remember, It's YOUR ball park. He just pays there. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

emilie	i say wait till you are ready and that you are in love yes it does hurt the first time Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Monty45	Well, if you are not sure then you should not do anything with this guy! Ignore what other kids are doing. What matters is how you feel. If the guy is older, esp if he has not dated you for a year or more, you can bet he is only out for fun and sex. At 14 it's hard enough to deal with everything else. You should not have to deal with guilt or a broken heart - which you surely will have when the guy uses you then leaves you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

SafetyDancer	In most states, you are too young to legally have sex and if your boyfriend has sexual intercourse with you, he could be charged with statutory rape. In any case, you are too young to be having intercourse. There is a reason that you don't feel ready. And, yes, it is likely to hurt the first time. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

forrest_lake	TEll him to go Ja@k off and leave you alone! And YES it HURTS like HELL! 14 sheeeez! . Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

C.A.S.	If you feel scared to do it then you probably aren't ready and If you don't know the safe ways to do it then you are certainly not ready. It can hurt for girls on their first time, a lot of people say it does, but some say it didn't. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

~broken angel~	if you have to ask then your not ready Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Princess B	If you are coming on Yahoo! Answers asking people if YOU are ready for sex, then the answer is obvious. NO you are not ready for sex. You will know when you are ready. You seem a little young to be having sex, but if you feel that you are ready, then do it. But have you thought about all of the risks? What if the condom breaks? Are you going to keep the child? Are you going to abort the child? Is your boyfriend going to stay with you if you get pregnant? What will your parents say? What if you get an STD? You should try talking to your boyfriend and letting him know how you feel about the subject. If he is supportive, then he'll wait until you are ready. Sure, sex is great, but there are alot of risks and responsibilities that come along with it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ripsgracie	At age 14, you really are not prepared for the emotional aspects of having sex. Too, how much older is your BF? He could get in serious trouble with the law since you are under age. Repsect yourself. Do not do this until you have married and you can prove to the man you love (your husband) that you respected yourself enough to save yourself for him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No