I was raped over the weekend, should I press charges?

This past weekend, I was raped by a guy at a party. The term he used for it was "surprise sex", but to me it was still rape. He begged me not to press charges on him, and so far I haven'...

This past weekend, I was raped by a guy at a party. The term he used for it was "surprise sex", but to me it was still rape. He begged me not to press charges on him, and so far I haven't. I really don't know what to do. I feel really confused about the whole incident.

Stefani	Evidence is pertinent. I hope you went to the doctor after the incident.

PATRICIA J	hell yes their is a song called date rape listen to it it will explan to you what should happen to the a--hole THE SONG IS BY SUBLIME called date rape

startrektosnewenterpriselovethem	ABSOLUTELY! I was raped twice and talked out of pressing charges (shame, lifestyle etc) and it took quite a bit of therapy to get past it (the hurt never goes away, but it becomes more distans)

Christabel	He raped you. Press charges on the cowardly beast.

♥ÐiÇŦÅŦŐ®♥	You must surely take this matter seriously and report it

kate b	Oh sweety- I am so sorry this happened to you. PLEASE report this - you could very well prevent some other girl from having to endure this same thing..or prevent him from doing something even worse. You should also seek counseling. You will be in my prayers. Dont wait either, the longer you do, the harder it will be to prove and prosecute.

Horsense	'Surprize sex', huh? You could return the 'favor' with a 'surprize arrest'. Sexual Harassment : - A Global Problem - How to Protect Yourself http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/1996/5/22/article_01.htm Help for Battered Women! : - "Maybe This Time He'll Change" > Why Do Men Batter Women? - Help for Battered Women > Machismo--A Global Problem - Correcting Misconceptions - "Sometimes I Think I Am Dreaming!" (a successful outcome) http://www.watchtower.org/e/20011108/article_01.htm

Hilllbilly_gal	Yes you should.

donitarollings	Yes, you absolutely should press charges, that he actually has a cutesy term for brutal rape tells me that you might find out that you are not the first one he has done this to and tries to justify it to himself as something as something not "quite so bad". That is disgusting, he has no right to BEG you not to press charges, he took your dignity, he deserves NO pity. Don't blame yourself or take ANY responsibility, any one that can brutalize and over power any other person for their own satisfaction needs brought to responsibility and punishment for their actions. Good luck, honey, you gather your family and friends around you and get support and courage from them. My thoughts are with you.

Metal	Please give him what he deserves. If you consider it rape, THEN IT WAS!! If you were forced to do something you didn't want to do then press charges.

goldenpheonix	I have been in a similar situation and you should definately press charges. People like that do not ever do it just once and are usually masters at manipulating your feelings. Don't let him guilt trip you into not pressing charges. It is not your fault. Even if you may have made a bad decision that placed you in the wrong place at the wrong time. Being there did not give him permission to do what he did to you. You should get to a doctor as soon as possible to get checked. Tell them about the rape so they can find any proof that may remain. If you have not taken a shower or anything yet, don't. That will help get you proof. And get to the police station to file a report as soon as possible to help your credibility. The longer you wait the more they question it.

keke johnson	If you were drunk then you might not be able to but if you were not and you said no then its rape. If he begged you to say no then obviously he didn't want to get in trouble for it because he knew he was guilty.

Sassafrass AKA: Sass	Get on the phone NOW. Are you still living with your parents? Go tell them NOW & have them help you figure out the next step. Please, get help!

mousefanjenn	you need to report it and you need get check to

kallmetigger	Dam it, you need to report it asap, and get to a doctor. You don't want to risk getting any STD, pregnant, HIV, or something like that. He should not be allowed to get away with it. Please go seek medical attention as soon as possible.

independent	but to me it was still rape then you must. "surprise sex" is a clever way to justify act like rape.

cuti3	did u also enjoy and have sex with him till the end then you feel guilty or feel being raped after that? if yes, that means you wasn't raped by that guy then. becoz you both wanted it. did you refuse and struggle or even shout or ask for help or try anything? if yes, you have to press charges ASAP. thats rape! yes, real man doesnt rape woman.

Cookie	Of course you press charges! If he did it forcefully without you wanting him to, then yes, press charges.

mego	If you feel raped then pressed charges ,its only rape when you say no remember that

iloveeeyore	YES YES YES....in fact, you should have already pressed charges. If you were raped, you should definetly press charges. You have to do the right thing and stand up for yourself and all the other women out there. Just make a report, tell the truth, and see where it goes. If you have any evidence, get it all together for the police. If there were any witnesses or people you told about the incident, tell the police about it. Also, I highly recommend that you see a counselor.

♥@n$	press charges on that guy. it's your right as a woman.

gregg98133	yes you should report because he could have done this to many other girls and you should go to a rape crisis center for help

leashell	Talk to someone honey. I think that you should press charges, just because he doesnt want you to doesnt mean that you dont have to. Rape is rape. There are tons of rape crisis centers nationwide, talk to a professional who deals with this. Like I said, I think that you should. This guy needs to know that he cant go around doing this to girls.

mlgable	Yes you need to press charges or else he is free to do it to someone else. You cannot let him get away with this. If he did it to you he will do it to someone else and I am sure you don't want someone else going through what you went through.

Curious	You should press charges on him. Why let him go so easily.

Willy	"surpise sex" is a good excuse...Expect for the fact that he hasn't have any reason to give it to you! If you did tell him or gave him clear singals that you did not want to have sex at that time but he still continued, the only term is rape! Charge him or he will get bolder next time.

Amandeep K	itz not a rape cuz if it was u would have already reported it.

drbony	while i agree that you should press charges, you should have some way to prove that the rape actually took place,if you were drugged without your knowledge, or you have injuries caused by your vigorous self-defense these will help prove that the sex was not with your consent. by now all evidence of the physical contact, like body fluids would have been washed off.you will have a difficult time trying to prove rape.

DAISEY MAI	You poor dear, I think u should press charges, and yes u are in my prayers. You need to get emotional support as well

meekaila	you've said you was raped, so why are you confused to file charges. Unless you got carried away of what he did.

flacocajuncujo	You need to tell someone close to you right away!! Yes, you should press charges, nobody should be able to get away w/raping you. Tell a family member, or your best friend.