I had sex for the first time?

this happened last friday. I told my mom about it on sunday. She cried. I'm sixteen. I'm in a serious relationship. im not ashamed that i did it, or regreting anything. I gave it some seriou...

this happened last friday. I told my mom about it on sunday. She cried. I'm sixteen. I'm in a serious relationship. im not ashamed that i did it, or regreting anything. I gave it some serious thought. and we weren't stupid about it. he used a condom, and he didn't get off inside me. but my mom is scared to death that i may be pregnant. and she's mad that im not. she also dosent want me to get on the pill, which i want to do b/c i've never had regular periods. just because i go on the pill dosen't mean im going to be stupid and have sex all the time. i guess my real question is. is there any precautions that i should be aware of as far as birth controll goes? (keep in mind that i go sometimes three or four months w/o having a period.) and do the risks of b.c outweigh the benefits?

studmuffin	pills are good for weight loss, and big mistake, you don't run off and tell you mom after you lost your virginity. but since you already did, thats you fault your moms gonna bug you and sex will be.. different fkc condoms and b.c. silly, just go and get an injection, patch or other things. things that let you have unprotected sex without getting pregnant for a year or so, depending on what you got. go ask a sex doctor or something about them

socket_39	ur fine, ur moms just freaking out. understandable

corbit 8	idk if this helps but lots of my friends are on BC and i think there fine just dont forget to like take em everyday they "informed me"

KimberlyB	You're not in a serious relationship at 16 yrs. old. What if this guy gossips about you? SNAP OUT OF IT! Go eat something, then you can think straight. If you go 3 or 4 months w/o a period, then you are anorexic. The pill will raise your chances of getting breast cancer, so your future husband and future kids could lose you.

Lopeholt	Birth Control is a great thing, even if you aren't having sex. It can help you with your skin, make your periods lighter, and you'll always know when they're coming. I hope you make the right choice which ever you think it might be, and I hope you and your mother will be okay :))

Jonny H	hey my wife did this... she waited for a week and then took her test turned out negative even though tests' said positive... see a doctor and wait and dont apply stress

ultra-sound funk man	i recommend a pregnancy test, they usually help

Logan H	I think the best thing to do is not worry about having sex at such a young age. You have your whole life ahead of you to do these things. The love teenagers have is raw and hasn't had any thought (even if you think you put enough thought into it) Respect your mother, she will tell you what is best for your greater good. Guys at this age all they think about is sex! Trust me i know...They will say anything i mean anything! to get in your pants even saying they love you.

heckofaman	Use protection young man.Sow your oates.Youth is a magical time.Choose those your age smart.Education is a key,brings bmw's,vettes,Z06.Vipers.Benze with STOCK rims.Have a ball be wise.Go to college,just wait those college girls a make a young man wet his underwear.Hee0Heee.Be careful.Always wear a cond.

J	Well I see that you're being responsible and wanting to get on birth control. Some advice is give your mom a little time to cope, maybe she hasn't realized that you've grown up. I know my cousin started taking it and she just said that she felt sick when she first started taking it which was what the doctor told her. That's pretty much all I heard about it. And of course it can even out your flow but it's not going to get ride of STDs or keep away STDs.If I was looking into a certain pill I would do some research on it. Good luck :]

julie b	Are you super thin? Female athletes with 0-5% body weight stop having their periods. If you don't smoke then go on the patch but definitely talk to your doctor. If you do smoke quit. I started at 14 and smoked for nearly 30 years. I sooo regret it (just quit three months ago). I just hope I quit soon enough. I remember thinking at your age "Oh god, 40 something is really old, I guess I wouldn't mind dying at that age." Once you are there and you see that you are still beautiful and intelligent and that you have two small grandchildren you want to see grow up it's like "WHY! WHY didn't I quit sooner?!!!!! My guess is that's WHY you are not wanting to take the pill. I had to see a friend die this summer of lung cancer to get me to quit. I love to breathe. It aint that great right now but I trust it will get better. Quit now if you do smoke and go on the patch. My daughter-in-law has been on it since she was 19. She is now 25. She and my son (26) decided she would go off it twice, which she did and they have two beautiful and extremely intelligent children. (I'm not just being biased.) They both are hard workers and have extremely successful jobs. Use your head. Don't just think with your thing.

Hellogoodbye	nothing really truly outweighs risks but birth control is an effective way of controlling periods especially for women with extremely irregular periods just make sure that you not having periods for that long isn't a serious issue if you're under-weight or extremely athletic then that may be the cause but always talk to your doctor and your mother first they do, after all, know best

Prince K	I will say it to you honestly.... you lost ur virginity. I am really sorry for your mum even i can feel her feelings right now. Its true... i dont blame you that nature calls but it was you to agree. keep yourself in your mum's place.... she dint like to hear that news. She really dont deserve that at all. What happened had already happen... listen it was you first time.... that must be really enjoyable and fun. If you can control your self next time would be a good idea. Remember boys usually play once they had satisfied their desire they will leave you and that in steps. Be careful next time. If you dont belive me... and u had the same courage as like the one of tellin ur mum u had sex.... show her this answer and she will judge. I am a boy... i really love girls and in fact i kno how boys think.

Cass	Just a thought. But if your not having a regular cycle you could in the future have problems having kids anyway. So that is just something to think about incase you ever want to have kids. well that or if you didn't get your period till you were older (13-16) it takes longer for you to have a regular cycle. sometimes years. just something to think about. other then that. birth control would be a smart idea. and even without it you seem to have a good head on your shoulders. and you dont seem like your gonna become a sex adict or anything so your moms just doing her job by freaking out. its natural and it'll pass eventually. she just needs to realize its not her body. besides ever turned the tables on her and questioned her about when she lost hers. and whether she was smart about it. just something else to think about. but yeah good luck with well whatever really.

kcashxyz7	The real risk is an STD (sexually transmitted diseases) condom or not you can get an STD

Ernie D	ya it happens to all of us I had sex for the first time once. common use your head instead.

tjklwe	benefits could be: regulated periods, protection from pregnancy can help with acne... bad things could be: weight gain, loss of sex drive, no protection form certain stds

Red_Rhain	DEFINITELY, get on the birth control. i myself don't have regular periods and I'm 22. i use birth control to regulate my periods. the only side of effects of birth control that really bothered me was: breast tenderness, *a feeling on nausea (like my mouth was watering like i was about the throw up) but, THAT WILL ONLY LAST UNTIL YOUR BODY GETS USE TO THE EXTRA DOSE OF hormones. that's why they tell you to take "the pill" with food.* increase in appetite can cause you to gain weight ( but, if you do get hungry eat food or yogart), a slight chance of mood swings( but, it goes away). other then that i was fine and happy on birth control.

Michael B	Congratulations! you joined the non-virgin club!

tess	Go to your Dr, and get put on the pill. It will regulate your periods, and provide you with birth control at the same time. I was sleeping with my boyfriend when I was 16 too. I don't think I'm a moron or stupid. I actually ended up marrying him (married 31 yrs. together 3 yrs before) My daughter came home when she was 15 and told me she had sex with her boyfriend. I was not very happy, but I'm not stupid either. I was happy she came to me, and that she felt comfortable talking to me. I took her to the Dr & she put her on the pill. I know some of her friends ended up pregnant. Those were the girls that couldn't talk to their moms. Tell your mom being on birth control is alot better bet than being a mom at 16.

brianandchristinenickel	Actually this can regulate your period and help you as a female. Ok I am a guy but I do know that my ex had to do this in order to stay regular. As far as sex goes think real hard before doing. There are so many creepy crawlies any more not sure it is worth it as well as the chance of getting pregnant.

Alison	I think you should ask your doctor about it. Legally without your permition the doctor cannot share that kind of information to your mom. So I would just go and talk to your doctor and explain to your doctor that it is a private matter and you would like to keep it from your mom. The doctor needs your concent to tell your mom. Even if you are a minor that is how things work now a days.

Dan	See a doctor

A Landers	Get your bucket to the OBGYN right away. Find one that you can talk to and get answers to these very serious questions.

moms_rose	See your gynee right away, even if you don't have one. They will be able to help you with your age and your needs.

Jody	If your mother won't support your decision, you need to see a doctor by yourself. Given your age, you are an excellent candidate for planned parenthood or another organization of that type. Congrats on being responsible and mature in your decision. I'm sorry your mother isn't supportive. For your other questions, BC really depends on the person. If you can remember to take it every day, pills are the best option. However, there is also the patch, ring, shot, etc. As long as you are healthy and don't have a history of stroke, hormonal options should be fine for you. The doctor can explain all of this when you go, which I highly recommend that you do, with or without your mother's help/consent.

Amber	These are all questions you should ask your dr.....however I will tell ya that the pill can really regulate your periods. It clears up your skin as well. And you have to reassurance of a backup method of birth control. You should always use a condom even if you do get on the pill. It is always good to be safe.

smokeyjoe	If you want to be on birth control you are old enough to go to planned parenthood and be put on it at little or not cost. You also do not have to have your parents permission. If this is your regular boyfriend and you two can maintain a monogamous relationship he can even ejaculate inside of you provide that both of you are tested for std's and you use your birth control regularly. There is nothing wrong with you being on the pill of you choose to do so. There is also nothing wrong with the two of you enjoying sex as long as both of you are prepared to accept the consequences that could result. If you are smart and take some simples steps both of you can safely enjoy sex with little to worry about. Have fun and I hope this helps you.

5th of Tuesday	You may be aware, but condoms can Leak and condoms can Break - whether he "gets off" inside you or outside you. If you are able to get B. C. Pills you still need to have a condom to prevent STD's and such from entering your vagina. Please be careful about this. Be smart & safe.

Cathy	If it was your first time. Was it your boyfriends first? He could have some kind of a STD your not aware of. Best see a gyno for a yearly check up.

Cosmodot	Birth control is considered to be pretty safe and many of the dreaded myths have been dispelled. I'm not a doctor nor an expert regarding the subject but I think your mother may be a bit of a drama queen. Your mother can't go to jail for allowing you to have sex. Not unless you're Muslim and live in the middle east. The only person who can possibly get into trouble would be your boyfriend and only if he's over the age of 18 in the US. You should talk about birth control to your doctor, not your mother. She's obviously more conflicted with her own values to offer you any sound advice. Anybody who restricts the use of a contraceptive isn't trying to help you make wise decisions. Professionals are known for their unbiased and truthful information regarding the subject. They are the experts after all. I would leave the advice to them. I see you're also getting plenty of answers from ignorant fools who believe you're not old enough to have sex. Ignore them, for they offer nothing but criticism and this is a forum for advice, not criticism. Like your mother, they're too wrapped up in their own "perfected" values to offer you any useful advice. I would ask about it at your next pap smear or doctors appointment. Yeah I'm a guy but I went through all of this at my girlfriend's side. If he loves you, he'll stand by yours.