I feel dirty/ashamed after sex!?

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♥philip♥	dont have sex. simple. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥evster♥	i know this is harsh but you should if you have any morals. especially if you are religious. you did do something wrong...honestly how hard is it to wait. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sarah	I also agree with Joe. You should have it after you marry. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kashallgonna	Maybe it is the embarassment of being naked infront of him. Maybe it is because he has seen you in your pleasure moment OR maybe it is because he hasn't seen you in your pleasure moment and you are afraid to tell him that he hasn't hit your fun button. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

vicki r	maybe you need to relax . try asking your partner to cuddle you for a while after sex then it might feel abit more loving. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

John	you don't have to feel dirty about it... it's a natural thing. You might regret it if you wanted to wait until marriage. If you love him, than you don't have to feel ashamed. You might also not be ready but its your decision. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sweetness	were you brought up in a home where your folks celebrated sex after marriage? maybe its your morals or upbringing coming in the way? perhaps your conscience is trying to tell you what you are doing isnt right. maybe your bf is not the one or you are making some sort of mistake? normally once you start to have sex you enjoy it for what it is. having thoughts like this normally points to some sort of negative aspect you are not acknowledging good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

BUSY BEE	If you have some unresolved issues regarding your self image or due to a traumatic event it could be the reason. Just because you are 21 does not mean you have to have sex. You should only be worried about how you feel. If this keeps up I encourage you to see a therapists. Sex is a beautiful thing that 2 people do willing and ready. If you feel dirty and not right than listen to your self. You are not bad or werid for feeling this way. You are allowed to feel what ever you need to. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

★ HaVe faiitH ★	well, i dont feel dirty but sometimes i get a fear feeling like i dont think i shoulda done it because sometimes im just scared hes gonna leave me. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kay-Cody 0918	It could just be the way you were raised, your beliefs or anything of that sort. Maybe you are just nervous still, and it sounds like you may be worried about your reputation, and you feel dirty because you feel it may be jeprodised (sp). Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

For my next trick...	You probably got that from your parents and the way they talked to you about sex. See a sex therapist. If you are at college your college health unit will have some names available. You will likely have sex many, many times in your life so you may as well get the unpleasantness worked out now and enjoy your sex life! It's worth it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

gothgirl_love	Ye i do to, i dunno why its really odd. Its not as if i dont enjoy it i really do. Maybe after sex u sud get ure boyfriend to hug u and cuddle for a while after insteada the whole get up and get dressed thing. If u get up and dressed straight away it kinda feels like, "the deed is done" and u dnt really feel the love ther. My advice is lotsa hugs and kisses after sex. xxxxxxx Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cutie_McPie	I can kind of relate to what you're saying. I don't necessarily feel dirty about it. But if my husband and I haven't been getting along well, I always try to refrain from sex. Then eventually we have a good weekend or something, and we do it and when we're fighting again on Monday, I feel very objectified, and I regret giving so much of myself. We've been together 2 years, and I have felt this way in previous relationships as well. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

leighway948	if you arent a naturally sexual person, its weird and icky....thats what happened with me... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Alaskan_QT	Sounds like theres some other underlying reason, maybe talk 2 a Dr. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Candace	That is perfectly normal. Alot of girls feel regret or remorse after sex. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Prince K	I respect what you feel.... honestly, thats the right thing... i mean you have to be ashamed but what matters know is to correst yourself. I dont know maybe its right in your culture to have sex while you are not married. Think twice deeply, if you are married you'd enjoy sex with your husband and no one would say anything to you. In addition, you could have your kids from a true strong marriage relation not from a sex relation. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mzbojangle	It all depends on your upbringing, morals, religion etc. Subconsciously, you may be feeling guilty because you may have wanted to wait until you were married or maybe your partner isn't someone you feel totally emotionally attached to. You are of age to emotionally handle a sexual relationship, however, you may need to sort out all those variables to determine why you feel the way you do after sex. I wouldn't dismiss that feeling as being "normal" because it shouldn't be if you are with the right person or have a good connection with your partner (at the time). After/during sex you should feel uninhibited by your feelings of disappointment in yourself for, perhaps not waiting to have sex or any other reason. Just think about your past and what sex meant to you before you became sexually active ... that may answer some questions for yourself. Hope that helps! ;o) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

toledosq	immeditaly or soon after? because if its immediatly, its normal. everyone feels a bit of "what the hell was i thinking?" right after. i forget why though Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

fatamorrighan	there might be an underlying cause for your feelings. You might want to consider talking to a therapist. Only you know why you are feeling this way. It is something you have to work out. This site can be very helpful, ask your question there and see what they say: http://psychcentral.com/ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chloë	Its because our culture is so over-sexed and obsessed but at the same time makes you feel ashamed to be enjoying yourself. have some self confidence and know that if it feels good its good. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kbanger1	Unless you had a traumatic experience before, it's probably just you. Get over it and enjoy riding the bologna pony. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

livitup11	This is probably an indication of something wrong with your relationship. Even though you've been with him a long time, is it possible your feelings for him don't justify a sexual relationship to you deep down? Also, although I don't really want to know details, is it possible he's pressuring you to do things during sex you're not entirely comfortable with? I would suggest taking a step back and trying to pinpoint exactly what it is that's robbing you of something that's supposed to be enjoyable. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

<insert witty name here>	did you want to do it in the first place? do you enjoy it? do you not like your boyfriend? think about theese first... they might help you answer your question. then again, they might not.... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dazzling by Design®	i think its guilt.. if your a christian.. and you believe in God.. you should know that God forbids sex until one is married.. i think this is why you feel ashamed.. its normal.. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

gymnastics lover	maybe hesnot the right guy you should not feel bad after sex Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sweeeeeeet	i know exactly what your talking about, its happened to me too, i read in a magazine that its pretty common & normal. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cactus Flower	No matter what anyone on here might say about what you should or should not feel, you personally are having problems with this. It might stem from your upbringing. It might be that you felt you were pressured into something you were not ready to do. You might feel for some reason that sex is something dirty or bad. There is no way for us to know what is in your heart and mind. My suggestion would be to back off until you can sort this out. Perhaps you could talk to a counselor about this. Sex is a perfectly normal, healthy progression for a couple and should be a happy, pleasurable activity, not something that makes you feel ashamed or dirty. So, if you are feeling that way, you need to talk to someone you trust that isn't going to moralize the issue, tell you that you are being silly or try to make you feel worse than you do now. You have a legitimate problem that might require some counseling. As for your boyfriend, if you are close enough to him to be having sex, you should be able to discuss this with him and have him understand your feelings and give you the space you need to work this out. Good luck to you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

starrydreamer07	It's normal and happens to a lot of girls, especially as others have said before, if you have been taught to think that premarital sex is bad. There's clearly (as you can see in many of these answers) a lot of stigma attached to premarital sex, especially in our society, so it's perfectly normal to have been conditioned into thinking that premarital sex is 'immoral,' 'wrong' or 'dirty.' As a natural repercussion from these societal attachments, girls can -- and many do -- feel guilty for having sex at a young age. (However, if you take a look around the world, premarital sex is a lot more commonly accepted!) That is one explanation for the natural guilt/shame you feel for having sex. Additionally, you might not be mentally ready/prepared to have sex at this time -- and if that's the case, make sure you take things at your own pace. Don't feel rushed to have sex if you aren't ready to do so. It should be up to you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mizz Chris Breezyy	it could be ur religion, or maybe if ur parents always told u to never have sex u could feel bad Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Rob B	God made the intimacy of sex for a marriage relationship. It is our conscience agreeing with what you know is right. It doesn't matter how much you each love each other. What would you do if even by accident you did have a child? If you did get married you would always wonder if he married you because you were pregnant, or because he loved you. I have talked to multiple women that have been in that situation. You have to decide if you want to just continue until your conscience gets shut down(if it does), or you have the hard choice of trying to stop. If you believe in God, I would suggest you pray. Also, talk to someone that is older that you trust such as a mentor or pastor. Edit: Interesting. Those that think sex was a gift from God for marriage all get thumbs down. They can't accept that others might have a different view of life. Or is it that their hearts are already hardened? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No