I can't orgasm!?!?!?

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MD	try fingering more it gets more sesitive areas that the p**** may miss Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

runie	well just because you must stop when it gets to sensitive doesnt mean anything a lot of girls have the same problem i guess you can either "play with yourself" till you can control it or tell your husband to not stop no matter what you say but make a "safe" word just incase it wont be easy either way Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Stina Lady	I'm the same way! I hope someone answers! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

wasting_time	Sound like a sexual dysfunction that you should talk to your doctor about. Also some medications you take can cause this to happen, especially with anti depressants. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nathen C	lolololololol you gotta really get into it. scream, yell , anything helps. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

KT x	its all about foreplay and the things he does to turn you on... cant go straight to sex, you wont feel the need for satisfaction women are harder than men for that anyway.. sorry guys you gotta actually work for us! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

StinkyDec19	im the same way. do you enjoy just having sex? I do. i dont always have to orgasm to enjoy it. if i want a guranteed orgasm, oral sex will do it. sex, not always but its always good. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Erick M	try some new styles or some sex toys for help (make sure your husband knows and he is is okay about it) do some romantic stuff with him Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

TC	I can help you, but your husband might not like it if I do Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Y	I had this problem and it started worrying me..... and then I decided that there was obviously just something wrong with and it was never going to happen..... this made me stop thinking about it all the time. One day it just suddenly happened without me even thinking about it once. Its all about relaxing.... dont focus on the orgasming. Focus on the fact that foreplay and sex feels good even if you dont orgasm.... or at least it should feel good. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lacey J	first of all you need to relax. if your all tense or feeling self consious its not going to happen. try using a viberator and only will it pleasure you but excite him Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Amanda22	Get a vibraitor or make him ware a penis sleeve. Practice while he is at work or something. Oh & do not back down if u r doin it & u start 2 get exceited but then feel like u have 2 pee just keep going u just might ejaculate all over the place. So do it on his side of the bed for real. I have the same problem woman u r not alone! I discovered that I have uneven libial. This means that the skin that surrounds your clitorous is getting in the way. I am seriously considering FEMALE VAGINAL REJUNIFICATION. This will fix that problem & sex has everything 2 do with friction so u would probobly luv 2 get that extra skin out of the way. Vaginal rejunification increases sexual gratification & restores. It is less riskyer than having a baby & their r companys 2 help u pay for this. It may b the only way I think. Good luck girl. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Fire Marshall Bill	clearly it's become a mental thing,relax and don't let it become such work Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

wooski2234	I think your trying too hard, Relax and enjoy it! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

*~!~**	just keep practicing, whether its masturbating by yourself, or just having sex with him more. it will come. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dirty Little Mind	Relax, relax, relax... The vagina, or birth canal, understandably has very few nerve endings. The clitoris, or joy button, has as many as a man's penis. In order to orgasm, you need to touch what works. During intercourse, the clitoris rarely gets touched. Some women learn to orgasm through intercourse with practice. Since your clitoris -- the most sensitive body part on a woman -- is not located inside your vagina, reaching an orgasm through intercourse is difficult. While you are making love with your partner inside you, touch, press, and rub your clitoris with your fingers. You may have to move your body so that you can do this, and that can be part of the fun. It really is okay, too, if you have your orgasms before or after intercourse. Don't drive yourself crazy... it's a matter of anatomy and variety. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pantysniffa	My wife cant unless its clitoral , She has never had an orgasm from straight up sex before. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Shera M	Try anal play at the same time. You don't have to have full out anal sex, but anal play is awesome and makes the orgasms easier and stronger. Start out by having him insert a finger and making a circular motion. They also have anal beads and vibrators. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tisha	The best thing to do is get a vibrator and some KY jelly and experiment with what makes you have an orgasm without your husband. Then guide him next time to do what feels good to you. OR just orgasm with the vibrator and FAKE IT with him. He will never know. MEN just dont always have the patience to bring us to orgasm AND we dont have the patience to train em!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Elina M	U seem like ur giving it a lot of thought. I think when u feel a sensitivity and you feel that your about to climax you get nervous or maybe a little bit self-consious.. you just don't want to let go and let the climax take you over IMaybe you're afraid of your husband judging you by the sounds u make and so forth.. Just know that he loves you and you love him and you both deserve to share that moment of release that will only strengthen your bond. Just don't be afraid of the climax Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

oui-oui	buy a vibrator and stick where you think ,while being worked on.. it work every time.. it's a serious answer whatever the thumbs down maniacs might think..... that is about all I can say without being banned for life :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Prince K	I am happy that you are married and so i can answer your question. Its quit simple... first of all why don't you relax. I mean tell your husband to massage you and you too massage him. while massaging just relax. Then go and have a nice shower with your husband... enjoy it. Just play with each other.... remember i dint say have sex. Once you are done... have a romantic weather... candles... music and sooo on. Then start making love, once he starts just go on with him... and relax. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

BubblyToes	Stop worrying about all the work he is doing and just for a moment be selfish and think about yourself, take it!!! It's yours and you deserve it! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

what	Try rubbing yourself while having sex. Most women need direct clitorial stimulation to orgasm. Works for me! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

keela	get a vibrator Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Stacie's Mom	The vibrator idea is not a bad one. You sound like you need to figure out what pleases you before you can ever express it to your husband. Getting to know your own body is essential to a good sex life. And by the way, maybe direct stimulation is just too much for you..try indirect pressure and see if that works. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ambient	I heard Dr. J say once that if you try too hard "chasing" the orgasm it will only mess with your head... just enjoy what your doing and let it come (pun lol) naturally. Also, if you use a vibrator a lot it might make it more difficult (or have very frequent sex). Lots of foreplay ... on top is the most common way for me. Pivit your hips back and have your honey assist by pushing your hips back using a sliding (back and forth not up and down) motion. You go girl! Tear it up! don't fake it though! Thats so lame! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jjlarson77	Sometimes a woman needs stimulation of her cliortis to orgasm. Get on top of your man and sit up facing him. Put your hands back on his legs and ride him up and down while he massages your cliortis... I can't orgasm without it. Hope this helps- good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

crackmonkey475	dont make him stop let him finish Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ask me!	A lot of woman have a hard time having an orgasm. Some people will say you are trying too hard. i found that while i am on top i can usually hit the right spot and have the best orgasm ever. One thing that will help is have a glass of wine or similar to relxax you before. (now dont become a wino if this works) Good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

armywifey2786	If you want to orgasm, you need to relax first off. If you are tense or get weird when you think you are going to climax, then it truly is your fault. You should try getting on the top and controlling the sensations, and then you might feel a little more comfortable. The fact that you are married, and sounding like your husband cares about your pleasure- should help in the reassurance department. Take your time, experiment with some vibrators, and don't be self conscious! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No