leeloo11400
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Sex is not a way to get a guy to meet you. It is a way to express love, not like. Even if he does not respond to you wanting to wait, you can walk away respecting yourself and that is all that matters. Love can come and go, but you have to live with yourself and the choices you make. Sex is worth waiting for and you are too.
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Pete
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Only way to know is to give it some time. If he bolts right away because you won't "give it up" then you know he really wasn't interested in "You".
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Coxie Megan
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if you arn't ready for sex then any guy who isn't going to dump u cause u won't isn't worth your time. Also be careful with him because guys who leave there girlfriends for other girls tend to make a habit of it
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cosaxteacher
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Well, the best way to approach this is to not have sex with him. You may have talked about having sex, but that certainly does not commit you to the act. Do you have a right to be paranoid about the possibility of him leaving you after sex, yet. Do you need to be paranoid, no. If you have not had sex, my recommendation would be to wait. Wait until you are with someone you are sure you want to take that step with, whether they be your husband or boyfriend. Follow your common sense on this situation. If you don't feel he'll stay with you, don't do it.
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Abs
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If you really like this guy, and you know he likes you, wait to have sex. You need to establish a good emotional relationship first to make sure things are going to work, before you risk a phsyical relationship. Make sure he is totally over his ex girlfriend before you go very far, because it could always be a temporary things.
Good luck,
Abs
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tonyagsgoddess
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FIRST OFF DON'T HAVE SEX WITH HIM UNTIL AT LEAST THREE DATES. IF YOU IVE IT UP ON THE FIRST DATE HE MAY THINK YOUR EASY SO DATE HIM A WHILE THEN IF YOU ARE READY TO GO TO THE NEXT LEEL THEN BY ALL MEANS GO THERE
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unsupported
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Well, either he will use you for sex, or want to have a relationship with you until he has sex, or want to have a meaningful relationship with you that will last forever and you will have babies and live happily ever after. Who knows what his intentions are. If you are paranoid, don't give up the booty right away and see if he sticks around.
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aebamc
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if he just wanted to sleep with you he eouldnt have dumped his other gf. he probably would have just slept with you and not talked to you again and act like nothing happened. Have Sex!
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brittakabeebee
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First of all, if he really likes you, then he really likes you for you. Too many girls feel the pressure of having to jump into bed with a guy when they meet. Get to know him. Sure talking about it is nice, but actually doing it can be a very emotional thing. It's always better when you know the person and you feel more than a "liking" for them. He'll wait until you both are ready if he really cares about you. Besides, if you don't know him that well, he could have diseases or something. Just be careful and don't rush into anything. It's your body, not his. It's always better when you're on all the same levels and you know what the other is thinking!
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miataraceman
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do not sleep with him....if he really likes you then he will wait for you. just have fun and be yourself
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jakeandlydia
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Nope, your not just being paranoid, your probably right. If you want to be with this guy long term and not just one night, build your relationship first. If he just broke up with his girlfriend he may just need some time to date around and may also be looking for the luvin he's been missing since they broke up. Have some respect for yourself and what you want. Don't let any one use you! Take your time, there's no reason to rush into anything. If he really has these feelings for you he'll be willing to make a real realationship, if not, you're better off knowing before you have sex! Your love is special, don't give it to anyone who isn't willing to give it back.
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creativereading
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If this guy likes you, he will understand that you want to get to know him better and spend time with him as a couple before you sleep together. Sex can be important in a mature, committed and long lasting relationship, but a relationship is important to have first. If you have only been seeing each other exclusively for a short time, there's still loads you have to learn about each other, including a general sexual history. The only way to stay healthy is to protect your body from unknowns.
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If you have any doubts, don't do it! If you have a feeling he may go back to his girlfriend, leave him alone until you are certain that he is yours! Sex without committment is meaningless and wrong. Why not wait until your relationship is stonger?
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j :)
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First off if you are having doubts about having sex now even before you see him than i suggest you hold off on the sex and go out on a few dates and see where it leads and than you will be able to tell if he is just using you or if he really wants to start a new relationship. Also remember he is getting out of a relationship so be sure that he is ready for a new one.
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Plain old RuneAmok
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You're not being paranoid. For whatever reason, guys do tend to dump the girls who have sex with them too soon. How soon is too soon? Well, the first date for sure.
Not to say there's anything wrong with that; sometimes giving in to your baser urges can be quite ..... whoo, is it getting hot in here?
Anyway, if you do want to continue seeing him, you'll want to hold out for a while.
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dark angel
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girl trust your gut
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curnack_the_drow
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Well caution is always a good thing,I would go ahead and meet with him but do not be in such a hurry to have sex with him,try to get to know the personality before going into something as deep as a new relationship,take the time,it is a good thing after all no one really wants to be a one night stand......well except me that is.
Good luck and hope it works out for you.
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paranoid
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baby, if he blanks you because you won't sleep with him piss him off, you are better off without him. he is a cheater anyway, and was seeing you while he had a girlfriend. Do you want someone like this??? think off the bullshit he told his ex when he was out with you. let the lose go!!!
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frankinshry
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well ur just being paranoiod cuz u can just tell him "maybe next time"if u havent done it or u have done it and u r just afraid but if you have done it there is no reason to worry
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pr1ncezz
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You are not being paranoid. If you care about each other, it is a bad idea to rush into a sexual relationship. You two sound like you are moving awfully fast! He just broke up with his girlfriend, take it step by step. ...And if he is pressuring you or rushing you, you can be sure that he is not looking for love!
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beavis463
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u don't want a relationship based on sex if he cares about u he can wait till u r ready to have sex.
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Dr. Snake
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Why worry about dumb stuff? What if you got in a car accident tomorrow and died? Did you really want to waste your time worrying about meaningless drama? Of course not.
Go have a good time. Hook up and have fun. If he leaves you afterwards, who cares. F***'em. If not, then maybe you found someone you could stay with for while. You can't spend your life on the dock debating whether or not to get on the boat. It's gonna leave at some point or another. Maybe it'll sink, or maybe it'll go to Mexico and you'll get a lot of cheap drugs and prostitutes. But you don't know unless you realize that none of this matters and just do it.
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myneighneigh
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Old saying--- do not have sex!! I am 51 and have had over 100 sex encounters!! all of which I TRIED to always please The man[ which weren't none of them men, but BOYS]. When I came to know the Lord, and followed his way- abstaining from sex, He put the perfect person in my life. I wrote to him for 6 1/2 yrs. then we dated for 5 yrs, and married last 4th of july. If you can't build a relationship by talking and enjoying each others company, it will never last anyway. When you feel pressured by sex, it is not right. When you walk with the Lord- and do the right things, you'll feel good and have no regrets. Have you ever felt you shouldn't do something??? Well, maybe this is God's hand on your shoulder saying " Now, wait a minute, Do you really want to do this?" The Bible says -THE FLESH IS WEAK.Ask God to control you when you're with this guy. Maybe he'll prove your love worthy. If he pressures you, Honey, he's not worth the time of day. God loves you and has someone special for you [ in his time]. So, be someone special, and be true toyourself and our Lord. I am praying for you. Blessings.
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ladders_to_fire
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Just take your time, go out a little while before deciding.
Talk about it, but don't get too serious until you're
sure you're ready.
Experienced guys can be in a bigger hurry to get right to it,
let him know you want to get closer and be comfortable before you have sex.
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J. Legend's wifey
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Don't do anything that you don't want to do okay sweetie! He might want to 'BEEP' you, but you don't have 'BEEP' him if you don't want to. You are so much better than just a 'BEEP' okay, you deserve better than that.
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Nicca
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Take it slow don't rush it or u'll in up like me not knowing where to go from here plzz take ur time with him ok
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The Foosaaaah
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Noone can help you based on their experience. Each individual is different. You are old enough to know what you should do. Choose on what you want.
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cdf-rom
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Sex is not something to do in a casual relationship. I think you are waking up to the possibility that it is nice to fantasize but it can be dangerous and regretful to carry them out. If he is decent and worthwhile he will wait and be patient. If he is not decent, don't waste yourself on him. Good luck!
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curious115
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if you're worried don't do it. your body should not be available because someone else thinks it is. you do not owe him anything. when will young women learn that their body is their gift to life and not a trade bargain for affection. of course you have something to worry about, like standing up for yourself, like looking in the mirror and realizing just how precious you are...no trade offs girl, he probly will leave sooner or later, let him go with your dignity in tact.
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Aubrey
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If you're worried, don't have sex the first time you see him. And if he sticks around, and you're ready to have sex (along with any consequences [such as pregnancy, STDs, etc] of sex) then do it when YOU feel ready, don't rush into anything or you will regret it.
Good luck and take care.
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