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Missy	Then dont go.....but when you end up with some unexpected wicked cervical cancer, then you only have yourself to blame!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

alexis n	If you are sexually active you NEED to go, if not than I see NO reason for having to go through this. I never went until I was in my 20's & married. Unless you are having trouble already then I don't see the point. Good luck hun! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

missy82074	talk to your mom, if you are still a virgin, and i gather that you are by the way you freak out over the speculum, the doctor has no right to check you down there at all....if he does you can press charges against him or her...and your mom should not force you to go unless you are having female problems... and if she still doesn't listen to you, talk to your guidance counsiler at school who might help you....if you do get stuck in the room with the gyn talk to them and tell them you do not want to be checked down there at all and hopefully they will listen to your concerns...remember if you are a virgin they have no right to check you..unless you are already having female problems Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

christnp	You do not have to get a speculum exam if you are a virgin. The pelvic exam may be limited to just an external examination (no fingers shoved inside) and feeling your abdomen from the outside. Just tell the doctor right away, "I'm a virgin and I'm really nervous about this. I can't even use tampons" He or she will talk to you in detail, explain everything they do, and won't force you to do anything you don't want to. They will probably focus on giving you the opportunity to ask questions and making sure you understand things about your body. It'll be fine. Gynecologists tend to be very nice and understanding. Women want someone friendly and nonthreatening (not bossy!) If you want, you could tell your family that you'll do it, but only with a female gyn. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sugarbear1a	If you are having problems than go, if your not sexually active and are not having problems than you can wait for a couple of years. The speculum that they use are different sizes so they will pick one for you and they don't shove their hands up you. . It's not that big of a deal and once a year compared to what might happen if you don't is nothing. If your worried go to a female gyno or ask for a female chaperone if its a male. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ta'Nish	the main purpose of visiting a gyno is to test your cervix for cancerous changes and for STIs which can cause infertility and damage you down there. If your a virgin who has never been touched down there then chances are very high not going would be okay. I was a virgin until I was 22 and never had a visit with the gyno because I wasn't sexually active but if you've had a guy go down on you or even just finger you, then it wouldn't be such a bad idea to get checked. A lot of things can be transfered without penetration. It is a scary experience the first time, and when they use the speculum, it's uncomfortable but a good gyno will have a specially smaller one for virgins and will be willing to use it on you; plus, with as much KYgel that they coat the thing with, it doesn't have a problem being inserted. Additionally, they don't shove their hands up you, they insert a finger or two and press on your tummy, it's to check for inflammation. Generally, the gyno will explain everything before they do it and keep making sure that you are okay. The whole process lasts about 10 minutes from start to finish, it's really rather quick. If the gyno doesn't work with you on your comfortablenesses, then walk out and find a different one. I hope this has helped to inform you and ease some of your anxiety. You will hear about horror stories from other women concerning the gynecologist but those are not the norm, try to remember that. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Trinidy	ALL they do is put this thing barely inside of you to open it up just a little. Then they take swabs like q-tips but longer and bigger and gets speciemens. Also they put jelly down there so it don't hurt when they are doing this. Believe me it is scary at first but once you go you will notice that the tampons are way worse. THEY DO NOT SHOVE THERE HANDS IN THERE. You got feed a line of bull when they told you what goes on. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Hollywood Whore Boulevard Kitten	Dont worry! Gyno's are perfectly safe and respectable practitioners. They know that down there is sensitive. Both physically and emotionally so they will be really nice and friendly and they wont just go shoving things up you!!! You have a right not to go but you shouldnt let your fears get in the way of your health. Good luck =] Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

blahblahblah	It's something that is not easy to get used to. Even after two pregnancies where I had to go twice a month and then once a week! I think the normal age for a first gyno visit is 18 if you're not sexually active. When you do finally go just close your eyes and think happy thoughts and remember that this is your gyno's job. They see vagina's all day every day so it's nothing new to them and it's not pervy or anything like that. Hope that helps a little... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sturm und Drang	Women who never go to the gynecologist are asking for trouble, especially if they are sexually active. Not going means you could have something wrong and you're not going to catch it until it's probably too late to correct. No one is going to stick their hands up your vagina. The speculum opens up your vagina so the doctor can put in a q-tip-like swab to take a sample from your cervix. This is the only way to check for cervical cancer and other problems like cervical displasia. You have to remember that babies come through the vagina so it's stretchy and there's no problem getting it in. No, it doesn't hurt. For more info about gynecological exams, please check out the following link: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/sexual-health/women-health/gyn-exams.htm Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tititita	Tell your mother about all your worries and why you believe that you should see a gynecologist. She is the one to know your troubles. She is the one that can help you to deside why you should do it, until you are old enough to deside by yourself. The help of your mother is very important. She has the experience and can be your best friend in those moment of need. She is the one to know what it is the best for you. It is not that easy to go to a gynecologist. Not to me, and I am not so young. I do feel ashame when I go for check ups. I just close my eyes, put my arm over my face and try to relax. One time I had a bad experience with a gynecologist. When he was checking me, I felt his clothes very close to me. I jump up and I said to him: What are you doing?. He left the room almost running. There were not nurse in the room. Just me and him. I left the place as soon as possible without saying a word. I was a very young girl and he was a very mature man. Thank God that later on I went to see another gynecologist and he was a nice doctor that made me feel more reliable. I heard about these histories before, and later on, it happened to me. It was an awful experience. Sorry, because may be I differ from some girls. Not just because of my experience. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kristi	Going to the gyno sucks for everyone, but is soooo essential. There are so many things that can be wrong with you in that area, and the worst part is that the majority of them don't show signs or symptoms until its too late. It is uncomfortable, but doesn't hurt. And if you are ever planning to become sexually active, there is no way you should skip going to the gyno. Stay healthy and safe! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

she sees	Do you also plan to abstain from sex for your life as well? I can definatley understand your fear of the GYN. Have you tried tampons and were they actually painful or was it the thought of them that makes you unable to handle them. Share your fears with your mom, and if you want to, call and speak with a OB/GYN to share your concerns...you may want to consider looking into seeing a nurse midwife as an alternative and make sure you see a female one!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

monica h	You see a gynecologist when you are sexual active in most cases, When a gynecologist looks up there, he only takes samples etc, it does not hurt but it can be very uncomfortable, alot of females find it uncomfortable and embarrassing something ( being 1 myself) but this is the best way to help yourself be healthy and prevent yourself from infections etc.. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tommysgirl	it's not a matter of having something wrong with you, but every girl must go to the gynecologist at some point in her life. it's not that bad, or scary. the instruments are a little on the cold side though. they will also do a breast exam, i know it's sounds worse than it actually is. but it's for our health that we have these kinds of doctors around. don't freak out, it's not that bad, just go and get it over with, you will be glad you did, and your grandma will be happy. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dEE	At 15 years old, it's not totally necessary to start going. The only reason I see for you HAVING to go sometime soon would be if you are sexually active. If not, I'd say, until you begin to be sexually active (and I don't just mean sex) or when you turn 17 or 18, it's not totally necessary. I have a friend who is 20 years old right now, she was diagnosed with cervical cancer, yes at 20, and that was because she contracted HPV from her first sexual partner, and didn't know until 2 years later. Be careful. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

veronica a	you might as well get use to it its for your own good it will be ok their can be somthing wrong with you and you dont even know it because it is not visible but it is always good to make sure Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

i am info	the gynocologist is really not that bad. I would reccomend that you go when you turn 18, because your body is becoming more mature and you are at risk for cervical cancer. I had a female gynocologist and that made it so much better for me. She explained to me that she knew it was a little akward at first but i would soon feel more comfottable. You will be fine. Go when you are ready but deffinately when you turn 18. they give you a gown to put on and the whole process takes about 4 min. tops!!! really!! i promis...and it does not hurt..because they measure the speculum so that they will not hurt you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

moviesgonewild	im 18 and i went to my 1st test a few months ago. its not as bad as u think (i hope u dont mind my short hand w/ some words). with mine the doc. (which was a female doc.) made sure i didnt have breast cancer (she just poked my chest to make sure i didnt have any lumps) then she had me sit me on that chair and she put the speculum in me, she didnt open it up that much-its not like she opend it even a inch, i didnt even noticed she opend it to be honest- she swabed me (make sure i didnt have cancer down their) then WA-LA im done and i left. if u were confused and want something more heres a site that helps u more: http://www.gurl.com/findout/guides/articles/0,,605406_711713-1,00.html its nothing bad, it just has some pics.(nothing nude), and some q&as from a doctor Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cupcake	sorry to say this but dont be stupid and dont listen to ppl. u dont know what could be wrong and u dont even know it!! #1 lol..they do not shove any hands up there!! if u are having sex, U DO NEED A PAP SMEAR!!! u dont know if u can have HPV, the cancer women get in the cervix, or a STD even if u dont see lumps or feel symptoms down there. pap smears help find those things out and besides this test is only done once a year. if u are a virgin and plan to be one for the rest of your life, then u dont need a pap smear! the speculum is a long plastic instrument that looks like a stick but when the gyn inserts it she opens it so like that she can see inside your vagina. the vagina is about 7 inches deep if u didnt know!!. the test feels a little uncomfortable but it is not designed to hurt u!!!. trust me, now a days there are so many diseases going around, and if u are having sex u do need to check yourself! u can always request a female doctor instead of a male. p.s. if u are having sex and if u want to live longer, i suggest u go get that f@%&* test done!!!! its just a 2 minute test!!! be safe... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mrsdeli	If you are sexually active you should be seeing a gyno. First of all they don't shove anything up you. Yes they use a speculum and yes it's uncomfortable, but it's not that bad. The gyno lubricates the spec first and then gently glides it up so that they can open up your va jay jay. Then they use a long thin q-tip type thing to take a sample for your pap smear. Your done in about a minute. If you are not sexually active than 18 yrs old is the time you should thinking about going. I advise you to go to a female gyno. She will make you feel more comfortable. Let her know how sensitive you are. Really...it's not that bad. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

HooliganGrrl	See my response to the first time you asked this - it remains the same. You must go - we all hate it, but we do it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

deanie1962	Oh My God people, the girl is only 15. She obviously is not sexually active, and unless she is having some sort of problem with her cycle, there is no reason for her to start seeing a GYN until she is at least 18 years old. Honey, don't worry, once you mature a little more you will realize that it will be a necessary part of life. Regular check ups can save your life. Cervical cancer is one of the most preventable cancers with yearly check-ups. But if you are not sexually active, and are not having problems I would suggest you wait until you are 18 years old. You will understand your body more and will be more comfortable with the idea of a visit to the gynecologist. My first visit was at the age of 18. My daughter is 18 years old now, and I will be making her 1st appointment soon. And she is ok with it now, but at 15 I would have had to take her in clawing and screaming. And just for the record, the entire exam takes about 20 seconds, when you do go, just relax and it will be over quick. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jbizzle	go in their with an open mind. before u go let your doctor know that it worries you and he'll make sure that ure comfortable. close your eyes and just think about happy things and you'll realize its not a huge deal. hope i helped Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Crucifixio	if you`re a virgin, he will use smaller instruments or he won`t even use that speculum. this routine check doesn`t hurt at all. ok, i admit , it`s a little bit odd that someone looks donwthere at you but you know, he`s a doctor .otherwise, if you won`t do it, tell your grandma that you`re simply 2 young 2 go at the gyno and explain her in a friendly manner that you`re feeling anxious about this and it makes you feel unconfortable Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ripsgracie	Relax. First of all, a gynecologist is a very important doctor for your feminine health. The doctor doesn't put his hands up in there, he uses one gloved finger and his other hand presses on your abdomen so that he can feel your female organs and determine if there is any enlargment. This is called a pelvic exam and is not painful or uncomfortable. No, the speculum will not hurt. It is uncomfortable, but no pain associated with it. The speculum is placed in the vagina and is used to spread the vagina open so the doctor can get a swab of the cervix, this is called a Pap smear, and is used to detect cervical cancer. Most likely, if you aren't sexually active, you may not have to have the speculum examination, but you may have to have a pelvic examination, that is just so the doctor can make sure everything is where it is supposed to be and your uterus is not tipped. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

julia1	Hi there I have sympathy with your dilemma! Firstly why does your grandma want you to see a gyne, is there something wrong, do you have any symptoms. Secondly, don't know where you are from, but in most places you would be considered a minor, which means your parents have the last say, but I don't think any gyne would examine you against your will. They are human too you know. Depending on your complaint it might not even be necessary to have an internal exam, they might just want to take some blood and maybe do a sonar, that is completely painless, like when you are pregnant and they have a look at the baby. If it is necessary to have an internal exam, and you cannot handle a tampon, they can do the exam under anesthesia, where you are put to sleep for the procedure and usually can go home the same day. It is not always necessary to see a gyne, but when you are sexually active it is important to see one, to look for cervical cancer and make sure you stay healthy. Hope this helps, don't freak out, just tell your mom how you feel and discuss these options with her. Good luck!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

suzanne g	You probably don't have anything wrong, and I'm with you, I don't go nearly as often as "they" say to. The speculums come in different sizes and they'd use the smallest for you. They are lubricated so they go in easy. It doesn't hurt. Also, they don't shove their hands, they probe gently with a finger or two and they tell you what they're getting ready to do so you aren't surprised. Also, you can have mom or grandma in there with you. Yeah, it's weird, but find a woman doctor when the time comes and it really isn't too bad. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

buffalove	it's not nearly as horrible as everyone makes it out to be. they have a baby speculum for little vaginas. it hurts, yes, but it's momentary and it'll be over before you know it. if you're not sexually active, you can put it off, but please start going when you start having sex. it would be incredibly stupid not to. and once you have sex, you won't feel anything at the gyno because it will be stretched out. all women go. i don't know what woman you know who has never gone, but this woman is insane! there are too many diseases you can get down there, my friend. and if you're going to have babies someday, you're going to have to go anyway. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jacknoech	you really do need to go. listen, it really isn't so bad. a little uncomfortable at best. trust me. do you think millions of women go every year if it was so bad. and god forbid there was ever something wrong, you need to find it out as soon as possible. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

practical thinking	If your doctor has any empathy she or he will help you relax. Remember to relax, otherwise you will tense up and then things will hurt. From what I've heard, it's never enjoyable, but then again, most things that are "good for you" aren't too enjoyable. You probably won't have anything wrong, but better safe than sorry. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No