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<3Roxy<3	well some parents are uncomfortable about their girls wearing bras. my mom recently bought me a bra but i dont really wear it. hav a chat with her and tell her that every girl is going to need a real bra somebay so could you please buy me one now, i think i need it. tell your mom it's not such a big deal but can u just buy m one? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Katie	Ask her why it's such a problem for you to have a real bra. Once you have that figured out, try to find ways to convince her. You can tell her how embarrassing it is because people can see through your shirt. (that really is embarrassing!) And about getting closer to your mom.. What things does she like? Do you have any interests in common? Try just spending some time with her. Actually listen when she tells you something. Make her listen to you when you say something important. Try to find something she loves and read up on it. You'll find if you reach out to her, she will respond. Most times relationships take work. If you just let it be, it will slip away. Often you can find a class that you are both interested in. Any common bond will help improve your relationship. Good luck! Hope this helps ^^ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dots	wow !!! it seems like she is just treating you like a little person, (her baby puppet) and not a real person... for goshsake, go buy yourself one,, get some money,, 10 bucks for a good fruit of the loom bra,, and just have her drop you off at Target , or somewhere. this should be something fun, (atleast it is with my girls) it's like a girls night out thing,, it's soooo much fun, we spend hours picking out girly things, and then go get nail polish, and that is a bonding thing for us.. but if you have to , just go get one yourself, you should never have to be embarrassed your breasts are showing, that is NOT RIGHT, you should always feel comfortable, and covered up !! it's a god given right. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Italian Girl <3	ok well just talk to her about it and tell her about how u feel trust me i've been through the same feeling before(not exactly the same, but the getting closer to your mom part) i tihnk you should spend some time with her and talk just like about anything you want to say i think that it will help good luck!! i know u can do it! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

girls make boys cry.	just sit down with your mom and tell her how you feel and that you are embaressed and you really NEED a bra. be paitent with her too so she wont get mad. she should take you then. for now just wear sweatshirts. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

normobrian	OMFG! Ask you mother for twenty bucks and go get your own bra. If she blows you off, go ask your father for bra money (with lots of explanation) and he'll give you his credit card to get you to stop talking about it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Indigo	Ohh I remember those days. Are you the oldest or the first born girl? I am...and mom's can seem so clueless! (Was so much easier for my sister later as mom had already been through it with me.) And to think they were in that place once themselves. Ugh. My mom was the same way, I had to bug her and stuff and wrote her notes too. Maybe as a way of mother-daughter bonding you can talk to her (or bug her) about going out shopping (set a date, like next Friday after school, or next weekend) to pick out one or two. I work part time at a larger J.C. Penney's at our mall, I suggest them for one. Ours has a whole section of cute bras and stuff for girls, I wish they'd had that when I was that age! P.S. Don't worry about dad. While maybe some guys are bit embarrassed and maybe aren't quite sure where there place is in dealing with things when his daughter starts to get older, in this day and age for most guys bras and things aren't a big deal. Especially with a wife and if he grew up with sisters. Edit: Beyond your mother, if she still acts reluctant to face the fact that you are starting to grow up... Do you have a grandma close enough that would love to go out shopping with you? Often times grandmothers are more understanding. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

fullofsugaw	tell her you want some girl time, tell her you know he;s your dad but that you sense that he's uncomfortable knowing all these girl things and that you are uncomfortable too... thats so cool that you want to be close with her. find a way to tell her she will love it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

prezidentcuteone	If talking to your mom doesn't work you might have to offer to do things that she likes to do. Talk to your counselor at school and they will be able to talk to your mom adult to adult. I was a rebel (without all the goth and emo and being a bad a**) when I was younger. When she would come to yell at me I'd say it was her fault because she never spent time with me. Eventually, she got the picture and we're cool now. As for your dad... he's your dad. Don't worry about it. About your boobs... you can get fitted at victoria's secret for free. sometimes jc penny. or you can figure out your bra size yourself. Just look up exactly where to measure on the internet. Then go out and get you one when you go to the mall with your friends or something. If you can't do that... layer your shirts. it helps. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Avocet	Poor girl :( I am so sorry you feel embarrased, anyway it is normal, and you will grow up and forgot all this embarrsment. You try to get closer with your mom telling her how you think when she makes you feel embarrased with her attitudes. You can also try to talk to her about your everyday issues, and try to be her friend. I hope you have luck with that ;) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

justin n' melanie	i would say, go out and buy your own, you dont need to be embarrased, and your mom should have bought you a real bra when they first started coming in. its hard enough to hit puberty, but if you dont have the support and you are embarrased ots even worse, good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

stephieSD	Go out for a weekend with your mom. either the spa, or a weekend camp, if there are some in your area. otherwise, just go spend a weekend in a hotel by yourselves and watch movies and go out to fancy meals. these are all great bonding experiences. or, if one of you has a hobby, like scrapbooking, do that together. maybe teach your mom one of your hobbies, or let her teach you one of hers. and as far as your dad, i think they're all like that. it's part of life. just be grateful you have a dad. not everyone is that lucky. as for the bra situation, if you don't feel comfortable bringing it up again, just wait until the two of you are at a clothing store together and say "oh, while we're here, i think i should get a bra." this is kind of like what i had to do to get my own razor. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

qorqeous_bebex33	This must of been embarrassing. But sometimes mom's can be so unaware of things and just say it out loud. i know you would be very upset with your mom right now, but you should actually talk to her. face to face. one on one. if you too are going on a walk or going to the park tell her that you need a sec with her and tell her how you feel when she says that, and tell her not to do it again and that you're growing up to be a real girl, not some little girl she knew without any boobs. Sometimes parents don't understand anything, and i don't blame them. They don't know how we feel, they think about back then in 1800's or 1700s... and it's so old news. this is 2000's baby & they need to get their minds in it too. So take the time to sit down and talk to her, this will help. Make plans with your mom. Go shopping together for some stuff. Get your nails or hair done. Or go on a walk. Hopefully this will work :] Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ll_jenny_ll here	you're sensitive ( not an attack on you , just a comment) and your mum's forgetting what it is like to be your age... y'know I walked around half my first year at High Schools with my arms across my chest so nobody could see I was getting boobs....so I do remember and I do understand .. BUT instead of writing your mum notes .. just go up to her and say : "Mum, this is all new to me and i will get used to it but at the moment I am JUST a little shy about it.. can you HELP me deal with it all " that will GENTLY remind her that while she is Used to buying bras .. that it IS all new to you .. and because you have asked for her help in THAT manner she will feel pleased that you could talk to her like that good luck :) just remember sometimes we parents forget what it's like to be kids . .BUT don't throw that in your parent's faces.. .help them to help you Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

zealot144	Maybe your dad has to pay for it? That's why your mom won't take you and get one? Parents should provide for their children. Period. Enough said. If you need clothing, you should not need to plead. Closeness is equivalent to trust. Do you trust your mom? Does she trust you? If either or both of you does not trust the other, you must find out why and fix it. If either of you is not trustworthy, then you can not be close. If you are the untrustworthy one, then you can get close only by becoming trustworthy. Be honest, even when it hurts. If it is your mom who is not trustworthy, then the only way you can reach your goal is to persuade her to be more honest. Each person can find something in common with every other person they encounter, and that common finding can lead to conversation. Conversation leads to openness and finally to trust. Be open with your mom. Be honest. Find topics of common interest (she probably doesn't like your music, but you both like good weather and health and you both like truth and good food). You have common interests, though you both probably don't realize it. Start a conversation. Even if it's just about laundry or a pet. Show genuine interest in her opinions. Ask her to show interest in yours. ALL people like conversation. And, find out why she is grumpy. Is your room a wreck? Did you do your homework? Is she mad at you? Relationships are two way. If you are not pulling your weight, if you are blowing off your responsibilities, then she may have good reason to be angry. If this is not the case, then just start a conversation. Not just once, but often. You will be amazed by the results. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kayla K	avoid wearing light colored shirts and ask your mom again when your dad isnt home, let her know youre serious about it Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

23KnowHim33	omg hun im so sorry. for the bra problem, get a few friends and hit the mall or just a local store like wal mart or target. thats what i do. and me and my mom r very close and i just tell her everything, so just hang out wid her and be nice and soon enough u'll be close. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kendra I	hmm, rough. you could talk to her when your dad's not around. I know exactly what you mean, i dont want my dad to knows these things, its all girl stuff! if you have a tight cammy or shirt that could be used meanwhile for an artificial bra. but talk to your mom, be nice. do your chores, etc. catch her in a good mood then hopefully youll be off gettin yourself a real bra! good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mallory R	It seems to me that your mom is trying to reach out to you (in a strange momlike kind of way), why don't you ask to spend the day with her? go shopping or something (doesnt have to be for a bra if your uncomfortable asking her). If you really want a bra and you don't want it to become a huge deal in your house (which it shouldn't), ask a friend to come with you! I bought my first thong with my best friend when we turned 13, It definitely avoided having my mom laugh at me! haha :] As far as your dad situation goes, I can understand why it could be uncomfortable for a father to see his little girl growing up... try to not talk about that kind of stuff with him and the next time your mom brings it up, tell her to shut up. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jody	Do you have any money or access to any money? If you are that embarrassed, you need to go buy one for yourself. Go to a store you like and ask for help. They won't be embarrassed, and yes, they will ask you personal questions, but they are only trying to help you get something that works for you. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

thedadof7	OK, Chill out! (as my daughter always says to me) before you freak out Chillacks. I know I'm a daddy and that you asked for girls only to answer this question. I'm assuming that you are just starting to develop and that you don't want your Old Dad to be envolved in your "talk" with your mom. In some ways, daddy's tend to be incencitive and they are not real good at understanding the pain that comes when breasts are developing. they have no idea that a little girl needs to have a well fitting bra in order to make her feel more like a lady and to help with them not hurting as bad. especially if she develops quickly and they are bigger than most of the girls in the seventh grade. I have four daughters. two of them are in the new boobs stage and one is 17 so she's had them for awhile. the last is still little and thank goodness she has yet to start. When My 17 year old started we called them her peanuts. she hated the nick name and would get so upset. one day I asked her about it and realized that she was unsure of what would happen next. she was feeling apprehensive at the thought that such a drastic change was happening to her body. after her and my wife and myself talked. the teasing stopped and we helped her with the right fit so she could feel like a lady. the point here is that daddy's want there little girls to grow up. they just want them to do it after they turn 21. as far as getting close to your mom. Just be obedient to her rules. don't stay out late and don't question when she asks you to do a job around the house. ask her if you can talk to her. ask her if you can watch her put on makeup and see if she can help you with yours. ask her advice on clothing and help her by complementing what she wears. tell her she is so pretty and then tell her it's a good thing you look like her and not dad. confide in her and tell her something you would never tell your dad and then tell her you love her. a lot. remember. someday, you'll be a mommy and you will take the bad out and try to impliment the good parts of your family into how you raise your kids. parents make mistakes. go easy on us. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Haley	Well for the time being wear darker, thicker shirts. Also try layering with a tank top. When the time is right and you're having a related conversation, bring the topic up (when you're not around you dad!) Also, to get closer to your mom, try talking to her about your day at school in detail. This will start coversation, laughs, and altogether bring you two closer together. Hope I helped, good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lukynluv	sometimes moms think its cute but tell her that your hurt inside and you need a mom to be there for you, or ask an auntie or close friend to help you get a bra, Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Paramedic Girl	If your mom isnt willing to take you out to get a bra, see if an Aunt can or one of your Grandma's. I can totally understand how it would embarrass you, you also need the proper support whether that be a training bra, sports bra or otherwise. Also know, that you do NOT need any padding whatsoever and have a proper fitting done. Major department stores do them and the ladies there are very good. They do it all the time for teen girls, so no need to be embarrassed. Also, get a skin tone color bra... that way they dont show through in your shirts... and get 2 so that when you're washing one, you have a spare. Good luck kiddo! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

withyou♥	oh the akwardness of puberty....i rather not relive it you guys can get close by going bra shoppin and i understand how you feel its sooooooooo akward growin up and havin to deal with all these problems you havent had before it it makes you feel any better i cried when i had my first peroid =) stick in there babe!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

amanda♥	just talk to her- be like mom, even though dad knows about it, it makes me uncomformtable to talk about it with him. i go to you because were similar in those ways and we can discuss things openly. its very impotant to keep the lines of communication open with your mom- days will come when you will need her more than you need anyone else Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

morrocanmami	Awww huney...tell your mom that you want to be friends. Just start asking her ?'s about how she did things when she was growing up. Ask her for advice on things that are important to you, or maybe write her a letter expl. that you would like to spend more one on one time with her. I'm so proud of you for wanting to get close to your mom, youre awesome!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Spana E	Don't be embarrassed, but I know how you feel and it's perfectly normal. You're going through changes and obviously you're feeling awkward. I promise it'll pass =) As far as getting close to your mom.. why don't you both go shopping. Go out and eat. If you need something for school (for example clothes) say: "hey ma, i'm wondering if you want to go shopping with me. I want to get a pair of pants and i'm hoping you can accompany." or say this "Hey, ma, why don't we go and watch a movie, my treat!" That's where dad comes in with the money =) You should also tell you mom that it makes you feel uncomfortable yelling those things out, especially when your dad is around. I'm sure you mom meant no harm in doing so. She probably sees it as a natural situation and i get the feeling she's a very open person =) but if it bothers you, it wouldn't hurt to tell her. =) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kimberlee Ann	Some mothers have a hard time accepting that their little baby angels are growing up. If y ou want to be close to your mom, sit down and talk to her. Ask her about how she feels once in awhile. Tell her what your friends are up to , good and bad. Let her know that you are making wise desicions. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

I Love My Friends	Hi There, You can ask God to help you out with this. He is there for you. good luck on it. be brave. God loves you so much. God bless you. I hope this sounds helpful to you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Gemini	I can totally understand your feelings on this. My mom was similarly insensitive to me when I was your age. She made me sooo uncomfortable about things like this. I remember I used to have to constantly ask her to buy maxipads (I still cringe when I say that word!). It was like, c'mon, don't make me ask you for it when it is obviously making me uncomfortable! And just buy them without me having to ask every time - you know I'm going to need them! It still pisses me off. Ok, brought up some troubling memories there! Do you have any older sisters that you could talk to? Could you talk to your dad about how your mom is making this embarassing for you - is he more understanding? Maybe an aunt or cousin who you think would be understanding and sensitive to you? If your mom still doesn't come through on the bra, do you have a close friend with a mom who could take you? The other thing you can do is to go to a store like Target or Meijers and buy one yourself. You can try them on in the dressing room just like you do clothes - start with a size like 34 A. The number (34) is the measurement around your ribcage, I believe. The letter (A) is the cup size. The bigger the number and letter, the bigger the bra. If all else fails maybe you could go to Victoria's Secret and ask one of the sales women to help you find a bra. They do that kind of thing there. They will measure you and everything (I think you could probably keep your shirt on if it was thin enough so that you wouldn't have to "expose" yourself to the saleswoman if you didn't want to. Maybe wear a thin t-shirt with a sweatshirt over it that day.) You know, I would probably break down and cry and tell your mom how this is really, really a big issue for you. Maybe if she sees you cry about it, she'll start taking it seriously. As far as getting closer to her, I would pray to God to bring you two closer together. Just keep praying every day. I wish I could give you more concrete advice, but I don't know how to get close to my own mom. When I don't know how to do something or when something seems hopeless, I find that prayer really does work. I'm so sorry you are going through this! I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. My heart goes out to you and I will say a prayer for you tonight! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No