Heather
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You're very young yet (although you don't think this now, in the future you will look back and realize that). And you're questioning. In my mind, if you're questioning it you're not ready.
The first time can hurt and it can be very awkward. The most important thing is that you use condoms since he has had sex in the past. I would personally make him take an STD test just in case. Also talk things completely through before you get in the heat of the moment.
7 months isn't that long. If you don't feel ready, and he really loves you he will wait. If he doesn't, he's not worth it..
Good luck with whatever decision you decide to make.
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dediktionworkingdogs
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I was a virgin until I was 18. I'm 23 now, and far from that. I don't regret anything I've done, and I don't regret losing my virginity. I'm not sure if you are religious, and if so what religion you follow. I think sex is a very personal choice, and if you are in love with your BF, then that's all that matters. Most boys that age are horn dogs (as my mother used to call them), well heck, most boys of any age are. Don't plan it, it's something that should just happen when it feels right, and believe me you will know when that is. Don't beat yourself up about it, dont' stress on it, and above all, just try not to think about it. If he brings it up, just let him know it will happen when it happens. You should probably get on birth control if you aren't already, just incase. Condoms work, but not 100%. Always safe to have a back up plan!!!
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srs_stephanie
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Life is a lot different after you have sex. For some reason BFs seem to think that you then want it all the time. Are you going to be able to say no after you have said yes and done it? Is being a virgin special to you?
This is not something you can take back.
If you are really and all answers are yes then go for. If even one answer is no, think twice.
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poohbear
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Well I might sound like your mom or something but I think you should wait. I mean your first time is special, and you really need to think about this before you do it. Are you really ready to take that leap? Ask yourself these questions:
-What if he stops seeing you after, not that he is but some guys do
-Do you want to share this experiance with this guy(is he the ONE)
I dont know what you are going to do but I wish you the best but just REALLY REALLY think about it b/f you do it
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Holly C
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I say wait. I lost my virginity when I was 19 to my boyfriend of 4 years. We broke up 8 months later and it was one of the worst times of my life. I absolutely regret it now.
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Soulja Girl!
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Your birthday is tommarow! Happy Birthday! If your really ready, then go ahead. Im still a virgin, so I dunno how it feels. It's okay to be scared, it's normal to girls because probably never wen threw that experiance before. But, use protection!!! I f you dont you'll be sorry and end up pregnet. Good luck!!
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scooby_dooby_95
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Well, this is my opinion. Would you rather have sex with a guy that you love on your honeymoon, or have sex with a guy that you have only been dating for 7 months and he might just want you for you body and then heart break you. So you should just do it without protection when your married. its funner that way, so you know that god is on your side. That is just my opinion.
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mommy3
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First of all, this is something that should be shared with someone that you plan to spend the rest of your life with. If your relationship isn't that serious then you should really think twice. Also this will change the extent of your relationship and you need to be emotionally and physically ready for those changes. This decision should be ultimately your decision and he needs to respect you no matter what your choices are. Take the time to really think this through your first time should be something memorable and because you want to not anyone else.
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meya
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be sure first of your decision make the final one ,.. but i think that is a mortal sin coz you were no t married but its you decision or should we say desire to do it,..be careful..:)
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mary m
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if you have doubts your not really ready yet. Just remember that there is no form of birthcontrol that is 100% acurate. So make sure your ready for whatever might come of having sex.
If you really don't want to have sex or are unsure about it just play around with him instead of sex. For example give him head, or have him play with you instead.
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sweetmurderous
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first time it is different for everyone. make sure you truly are ready.
you might become more attached to him after you have sex for the first time and guaranteed you will always remember it so make sure its special.
it hurts for some.. and others it doesnt.
are you active (sports or any other outdoor activities) if you are this always helps make it so it doesnt hurt as bad because your stretching your organs more.
but ... like i said ... if you love him. you have protection and this is something youll be ok with remembering forever then good luck. :)
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SarahR
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Ask yourself these questions before you go ahead:
1) If I am psycologically ready to have sex for the first time with my boyfriend, then why am I asking for advice about it?
2) Is it the sort of thing I want to do on my birthday?
3) Whats the rush?
4) Is my boyfriend pushing me into it?
It would be a real shame to regret your first time, or wish things had been different. I waited until I was older to lose my virginity despite having had a couple of boyfriends that had been keen! I just didn't feel right about them, and I was never sure about sex. I felt scared and a little bit grossed out. But then, eventually I got more confidence and maturity and I knew it was the right time. You will know in your heart already what you really want to do, and I think you should trust your gut instinct, because only you know the right thing to do for you. Good luck sweet.
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imsogross7
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realistically, everyone has 2nd thoughts because they think it's gonna hurt.. but i think 16 is too young and 7 months is not long enough. you should be able to talk to him about your fears and if he doesn't understand he isn't worth it!!!
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Don't do it.
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jumps62
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If your having seconds thoughts about this Please Wait, if you do not you will regret it. I was raped my 1st time so believe me I knew when I wanted to have it with my boyfriend and I actually chose the time it happened. If he Love you he will wait as long as it takes.
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larryissfc
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If he gets caught he will go to Jail for having sex with a minor. Do not feel rushed into sex. Sex should be with the man that you marry on your wedding night. Save yourself for that special man. How would you feel knowing that some woman already had you future husband in an intimate way. You will regret it after you do the deed with you boyfriend. He is not respecting you to want to have sex with you on your birthday and he is being selfish. Say no to him and wait a while see what he does. If he is nagging you then he only wants you for your body and he is not respecting your decision. Protect yourself and your future husband.
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Baby
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1st u make sure ur self u want to give him ur 1st time? And if any mistake u already or prepare to handle it? Just that simple, actually everyone also have their pass so no need too care about it. Important thing is now u a the 1 he care about & love.
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Mary
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16 is too young to have sex and if he really loves you he will wait, but no one can stop you from doing it. My first time I bleed a "bit" (because he is breaking the vagina wall to get through and it hurts for 5 seconds and then the moving in & back you feel a little small ache & then it's gone.) Once the wall is penetrated you'll be fine. You worry too much, I did too and it kind of ruined it. I was thinking too much about it. Think of it like getting your ears pierced except it hurts so much LESS. Once you're through your good to go. But I still think you are too young! Take Care!!
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beth ann
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okay first of all, your only 16, if you are having second thoughts about having sex, then you probably should wait until you feel that the time is "right". however having sex your first time is a very nerve racking thing. you really dont know what to expect, and i really cant tell you what for you to expect either, since every person is different. i mean you could bleed, but then again you may not (some people "pop their cherry" just by putting in a tampon). also, it will hurt some since you've never had sex before, but how bad it will hurt is different from one person to the next. for me it really didnt hurt that bad, but the shock of the blood scared me, even though i knew there was a chance that i would bleed. you can be the judge of it, but just make sure that this is somethign that you really want to do, and that your boyfriend is not trying to pressure you into it. make sure its protected sex!!
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poopinmonk
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Don't do it unless you feel completely comfortable. It does hurt the first time. If you do just make sure he uses a condom.
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fugilar
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if u don't want to have sex than don't! u should waite until u get married any way!
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SadNoMore 7
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If you aren't certain that you want to do it, then don't do it. Your first time should be very special and with someone you're totally comfortable with. Don't do it just because he wants to or because you think you're supposed to. It's your decision when and with whom you have your first time. It's your body, don't let anyone pressure you do to anything you don't want.
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Nicole *
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Don't do anything you dont want to do. It's your body and there for your choice. The first time is scare and can be painful for some females. Don't let anyone pressure you in to anything. You don't want to regret it later. Virginity is a precious thing and I wouldn't take it lightly. You can never get it back.
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nikki
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i wouldn't. you said hes not a virgin. so sleeping with him is like sleeping with his 2 other girlfriends and all those guys that those past gfs slept with. hes not thinking of it as a birthday day present for you but a present for him. sorry but thats what i think. but what do i know he could really love you though your having second thoughts so don't do any thing till you know what you want. not what he wants. theres better things the two of you could do on your birthday.
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dedicatedrealtors
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If you are having second thoughts then maybe you are not mentally ready. 17 is still young and sex can be a difficult thing to deal with emotionally if you are not ready. Make sure he is the right person, discuss this with him and see what vibe he gives you.
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mummy heffalump
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It hurts. I was graduated from high school and I realized in hindsight, I was too young. I regretted it and wished I would have waited. It's not the act itself but also all that it represents. Truly, if you have any doubts, wait. There is no rush. Be absolutely sure. There are no second firsts.
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blondie_chic
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it's your decision but if you are having second thoughts then don't do it.
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i am info
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I made the mistake of having sex when i was not ready. I was 17 and i thought i was but i wasn't. If you are having second thoughts just wait a little longer. Make sure it is something YOU want. Since YOU are the virgin in this relationship this decision is all about YOU. But if you feel that it is right, do it. It is also good to hear that you are all for protected sex, i guess what i am trying to say is, just take care of yourself. best wishes
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amandacltnc
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i was with my boyfriend for one year when i first did it and i have regretted it ever since. its not going to be what you think. if i could do it again i wouldnt have made that decision but its your life and if you think you are ready then you probably are. just be careful sometimes guys lie about how many people they have been with...just be careful...
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carpoolmorphine
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First off, I know you see this a lot, but 16 really is young.
Secondly, any doubts at all is a sign that you need to just sit down and think about what you want. Disregard the fact that your bf wants to. If you go into it with doubts, you're probably not going to enjoy it as much anyways!
I gave my virginity to a virgin, and while it was a little awkward at first, it was nice because it felt like we were sharing something. I also didn't have to worry that I was making mistakes!
But, above all, listen to your heart!
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Lethal Dose Of American Hatred
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If you have doubts then you aren't ready. Simple as that. Don't let someone pressure you into doing something you aren't 100% sure about.
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