At 26 I don't feel like I am finished with childbearing, but I get such mixed remarks from people...?

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nonya	It is your choice. Besides women are having them later now anyway. I had mine at 35. Although she was a suprise, I'm glad Ididn't have her when I was younger. Had fun and a career first. I'm more laid back now. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

julie m	In the USA, in 1970, the average age for a first-time mom was about 21. Today, she's more likely to be 25 to 29 years old. In France, she's 28, in the UK she's 29. You're only 26 and already have two kids when lots of women don't! So don't listen to those people, they're ignorant and prejudiced. Anyway, it's YOUR choice, and it's not their business whether or not you chose to have more kids. I really hate people who harass women about those issues. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

East of Eden	I think many women go thru this very same thing. When it all comes down to it, it is your choice to have more kids or to be done, and it's no one else's business. I am in a similar but not the same situation. I'm in my mid 30s and have no kids. People ask me all the time, and are very judgemental as to my child status. Nevermind the infertility and all of the problems I've faced, which I don't talk about, because it's none of their business. My sister who is younger than me has 4 kids and is always being asked if they are done. She feels the same way, you do, very judged and very much like a second class citizen. I can't tell you why it's a big deal to so many people. Perhaps they feel that they have made the best choices and their life is perfect, and they can't understand why others wouldn't want to make those same choices and have that same life. Never mind that fact that each person needs to choose what is best for him or her. I do know this, I have no problem telling people when they have asked a stupid question or a question that goes into the presonal realm. I am not mean but am very frank and honest with people. I just feel like they need to know when the line has been crossed. Good luck, and I' sure what ever you decide it will be right for you and your family. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chand c	Childbearing contiunes without any hitch at leat until 40 years. In some case women have given birth at the age of 60 also recently. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

charmzz2	People in general are busy bodies. You need to care only about whats right for you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

slimgal	well you don,t say how many children you have, all depending where you live, & how wealthy you are, have as many as your budget will allow you to. Where I,m from, 2 is plenty, as childrens clothes, anything for that matter is more exspensive now then when I had my sons. I,m glad I had them when a toy only cost $4.00 & now costs almost triple that now, it,s just nuts. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dukalink6000	Because, to some, that is the only reason to get married. Children complete your life. You do what you feel is best for you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

zil28ennov	If you want to have more children and can afford to support them, then don't list to what other people say. Have 100 kids if you want. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

angelina_mcardle	people are nosy plain and simple wether or not you want to have babies till you are 50 is your buisness and youre buisness alone Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

janethepain76	dont listen to them its your body ure decision!! and plus who brings them up?? YOU!! so u only 26 plenty of time to have more if u wish!! do what YOU want...... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

shark38dd	Sweety it is your choice as long as your a loving caring Mom. I had my 3 by the age of 21.I couldnt have any more or I probably wouldve had 3 more...with the exception of a different Father..lol ! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

J-Rod	Because most people have to be all up in other people's business, and everyone feels like it is their job to share their opinion (just like I'm doing). Don't worry about anybody else and do you. Do yo thang! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ronin	How many children do you already have? That can make a big difference. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sweet7face	Do what you feel is best for you. Don't worry about what everyone else thinks. Age 26 is a reasonable age to have children. My grandparents had 15 children and that's what they wanted. My mom decided to have 3 kids. It's your body and your decision. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cats4ever2k1	eh somepeople are nuts. Dont listen to them listen to you- its a persons own decision. Like my choice is to wait till 30 to have kids. Its your choice. Not theirs! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

doctor2	It definitely is a personal choice and should remain so. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

empress_pam	Dear lord. I'm 33 and haven't begun childbearing!! It is your choice and yours alone (well, with your partner). Tell people your family plans are none of their concern. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

AmandaB	Im 26 and i have two children my husband doesn't want anymore kids BUT i am not sure that I don't he wants me to get fixed...lol... I said NO i told him that if he doesn't want anymore kids then he needs to get snipped.... and then if i ever end up pregnant he knows hes not the father....lol... I believe that if i am meant to have more children then i will and if not well that's fine too!!!!!!!! it's your choice!!!!!!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

hahaha	umm yeah, this is a personal choice, I am done at 25, but I know plenty of people who are done at 20, done at 34 it varies. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

crzinluv	26 is still very young. if you want kids and are able to provide then so be it. some women don't even consider having children until about this age because they want to finish school or get their career in order first. more power to ya honey! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ash_082	Don't worry about what other people have to say. I work with kids and I would say 90% of parents that take/pick up their kids are old enough to have had the child when they were mid 30's. Its very common-believe me. Make up youre own mind-you are still young! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lala	I am also 26 with 3 children, it is really up to how many children you want to have. My husband and I decided 3 boys was a handful. If you are unsure, you should as your husband to get fixed, that is what i did. They say it can be reversed and that way if you want to have children in the future you still can. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

illinois_guy06	heck no you dont have to be done at 26. who are these crazy ppl telling you otherwise? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

fame4000	it is Ur choice who cares what other people say Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

?	its human nature to want to give your opinion even where it isnt wanted, However it is your choice and if you want more children then you should have them... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kja63	Why do you care? It's your body and your choice. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

QuestionWyrm	26 is a pefectly reasonable age to have children. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Bo Beeta	You need to not care about those people...ITS YOUR BODY! talk this over with your husband...I know many people that are still having children at 40 Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Unique	Everyones time clock is different. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Matthew L	It is your choice, but it strikes a chord for so many people regarding social, political and emotional issues. Typically they are giving you their point of view from one of these places, rather than what is right for you. Maybe they question their own childbearing decisions, maybe they have a feminist agenda that wants you focused on career rather than childbearing, maybe they think over population is a concern, maybe they are jealous - the list goes on and on. Ignore them and trust yourself. The big deal for so many people has so little to do with what is right for you and so much to do with their own issues and concerns they are emotionally invested in. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No