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letters from olive, with love.	Okay, before I answer this question, I have to say that almost everyone else has told her that what she's doing [having sex] at her age is bad, and that she should stop. Well, quite frankly, I think anyone who said that needs a good clock over the head. It is HER desicsion to make, not yours, and she obviously thinks she is ready, whether you do or not. Everyone who said 'but you're just a baby, you're way too young!' is deluded. And probably an adult. I'm 14, and nearly every second person in my year is having sex. It's just the way life IS in this present day and age, so DEAL. As for your question, I'm going to assume you've got your period, so you could be pregnant, but not if you used a condom. If you're really scared that you are up the duff, then go down to your local supermarket (not walmart, because I'm pretty sure they don't have walmart in Singapore), you could take your boyfriend for moral support with you if you want, and buy a pregnancy test. They're cheap. As for telling your mum, it's completely up to you. If you have constant pangs of guilt about not telling your mum, then I'd tell her, but if you don't think she needs to know, then don't tell her. You are just as much entitled to your privacy as everyone else is. I hope everything works out for you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sickytwisted	Yes its bad. I'm sure she knows. CONDOMS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!... Don't be so ignorant. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

oceanpotion™	Go to a place like planned parenthood and get a pregnant test or go to the gocery store to get a test kit for home. You're way to young to be doing this stuff. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

A M	You should never keep things from your parents, so tell them and take the test but in front of them. I know that they must love you so be honest and follow a motherly advice. I have kids three children; two girls and one boy, but some of my family members are raising them. Always be honest and never hide anything from them. I hope this helps and comforts you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sticky	A lot of older people will say it is bad. I think it is too (now that 'm older) but I was in the same boat at your age. I regret it now. If you think you are pregnant, go to a drug store and buy a test. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Bast	Oh boy. . . Well do you have any symptoms of pregnancy? Have you had your period yet? You should stop having sex Sadly the thing is you're not ready to be a mommy. Are you? If you don't want to be a mom then don't have sex. Good Luck girl. e-mail me if you get more specific with your questions. . . it's through my profile. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Liv	personally i think you should have sex when u think ur ready, age is just a number. if you tell your parent(s) they will probably freak out , but thats your call, maybe you have a very open relatinship with them, but DONT EVER HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX ! (unless you r trying to get pregnant, which i dont think you should do till you are at least 22 or married) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Andra J	it may be worse than you think, or nothing at all - did you use condoms? if so, did they remain intact? OMG, no matter how scared you are, go to Planned Parent immediately! and what are you doing having sex if you don't even know if you could be pregnant or not? are you thinking with your bf's head instead of your own??? how would you feel if this were YOUR daughter talking???there are laws now that will protect your confidentiality. GET THE MORNING AFTER PILL - !! and NO MORE SEX WITHOUT PROTECTION!! i know it won't do any good to say you shouldn't have done it at all, but, gf - was it even worth it? at 13 yoa, it can't have possibly have felt that good!!! if i were your mom, your *** would be grass - !!! WHAT were you thinking????? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mary a	Im not going to tell you it's good. I would not want my little girl doing that! yes you should tell you parentsthey may be upset at first but then relived that t you told them so that they can tell you the negatives of doing this. so they need to know for many reasons. 1 if you are or do get pregnant 2 what about std's? and 3 doing something that serious that young could emotionally damage you. as upset as i would be with my daughter for doing that is not comparable to how upset i would be if she was doing somthing like this and did not give me the option to explain all the consequences of such acts at such a yound age! cause if you keep that up you WILL be pregnant!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ladiwicked16	First- have you ever had a period? If not, then you are most likely not prego. If you have had a period before, and you havent gotten it in a while ( few months) there is a chance you are. Yes is it as bad as it looks. If you break up with your boyfriend, he might spread rumors about you and you will be labeled. Best thing to do is tell your mom or another adult that you can trust and the sooner the better. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Aaron	use protection have the HIV test and go to a store that is far away and get a home pregnancy test take it and if your pregnant tell you mom and if you are not pregnant destroy the evidence and don't have sex until you are 18 years old Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

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bani	u r just a baby yet, i am still shocked. whether the 3 time sex was ur or ur bfz decision? due to ur young age u dnt know wat this cud result in plz the next time and all ur life use protection untill u r sure to have ur kids. anywaz, 4 nw go to chemist n but Urine pregency test. it is very simple and u can do it urself. if -ve thn u r lucky but it is +ve go to the family planning clinic explain ur difficult, they might help u. AND ASK UR BF TO BE WITH U DURING THE TUFF TIME AS NOT ONLY U BUT BOTH OF U R RESPONSIBLE FOR THE SITUATION. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

shya	ur periods had started??if yes then only u could be pregnant,morover if there is any serious issue,then surely u should talk with ur mom baby,dnt get afraid frm mom,she is the only one who can protect u,morover she is mature,definitly she will give u better advice Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

simply_me	Yes. This is awful. Stop having sex. You're really too young honey. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Hello?	well eventually ur mom will find out bcuz u will b eventually goin to the doctorz for a genecology exam and doctorz can tell if ur a virgin or not nd will tell ur mom. itz better if u tell ur mom though.ur only pregnant if u have unprotected sex [no condom] and havent had ur period i suggest... 1.get a pregnancy test nd make sure ur not pregnant 2.next time u have sex . ALWAYZ USE CONDOM ND TAKE BIRTH CONTROL NO MATTER WHAT 3. get checked to make sure u have no std . cuz u neva know 4. tell ur mom Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

babby c	yup Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MuM-2-3	If you dont know how to tell or figure out if your pregnant then you prob dont have the mentality to be having sex. At 13 i would strongly encourage protection if u feel u have to have sex, a baby cant raise a baby! I would say tell ur mum of course she'll prob be upset, if u are pregnant she'll find out eventually! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dr. Mojo M	Hi, This is too early to have sex . pl. stop intercourse. these sex acts may lead to infections and stop your overall development. You can go for masturbation for sexual satisfaction. Enjoy Life Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Robocop	How old is your Boyfriend? This is against the law,think about your future. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mz_Monroe	This is bad because if you can't discuss sex with your mom, then you shouldn't be having it. I'm taking a guess that you didn't use any protection. Can you list all the dangers of sex (infections, viruses, diseases etc) and the consequences of pregnancy. I doubt you can. I don't mean to say this to be mean or hurtful but i say this to address that so many young people have sex and have no idea what the real consequences are. As far as you being pregnant i can't answer that for you because I don't know what symptoms you have. Honestly you should tell your mother especially if your boyfriend is not a virgin. Think about STDs. Be open and honest and tell her why you did it (maybe curiosity, attention, anger, whatever your reason was). She needs to know because I'm sure she wants you safe. Good luck to you sweety. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jamir	13?!!?!?! Girl, close your legs, tell your mom and get your head together. If you aren't savvy about protecting yourself from pregnancy and diseases (or knowing what to do if you may be pregnant) then you surely aren't ready to have sex. You should be focusing on school and making a life for yourself. That boy may be here today, but it's likely that you won't be with him in a year. And depending on your state, you or him or both could now be labeled a sex criminal. I don't mean to be harsh, but those are the realities of the world. Look, I know it's scary, but your mom needs to know. If you think it will be a really bad scene, maybe there is an older sister or an aunt that you can confide in to help you out with breaking the news and going from there. Even if you aren't pregnant, you should go to a gyno and be tested for STDs and checked out as well as prescribed birth control. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Smart @ss	tell your mom asap it will feel good to get it off your chest and she will know just what to do! good luck :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

flamingo	U r too young to have a meaningful relationship with another, therefore u should not be having casual sex which can lead to an unwanted pregnancy or a STD. If u find u r not pregnant, consider ur self very lucky and stop behaving like an 18 yr. old. Do u want to be a mother at 13 and miss out on ur youth. This is ur first year as a teen, don`t ruin ur life with premature sex without the benefit of knowing love and commitment. All ur going to gain is a bad reputation as being easy and an unwanted pregnancy. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Justine	You're still too young to be doing it. And it is bad. Do not go any further. Stop as early as now. What you should be doing is focus on your study.... enjoy the beauty of life and being young. Don't rush things. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

John M	Dear, sex at your age is both physical and emotional, yet you are not in the right mind set to deal with this a a young lady of 16 or 17 would. You do need to talk your Mother. Yes she will be upset, but She will always be your Mother and best friend. It is her place in live to guild you Thu times like this. And She will have the resources and knowledge as a women with age would have to help you dear. You haven't done the worse thing in life, and it has been done by others, but you can get help with your best friend, Your Mother. Just say Mother, I need to talk to you can we go into your room in private and talk please? Then Mother I have done something I shouldn't have, and I need your help Mother, please help me, I had sex, and I don't know what to do Mom. At this point you hug and you both cry, then you talk and work Thu the problem together dear. please slow down and smell the rose's as a child before you have to grow up and pay the bills. That time in life will come fast enough. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Katie H	This is as bad as it looks. You should tell your mum - especially if you think you might be expecting. You need the support of an adult. The only way to avoid pregnancy 100% is to quit it. Condoms aren't baby-proof and neither is any other form of birth control except abstinence. Stop having sex with your boyfriend. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

n p	My sister had her first at the age of 14 , so she was 13 when she found out.....I sugguest that if you have anymore sex that you use a condom !. (Just in case you are not pregnant. Also using a condom no matter how faithful you THINK he is is wise... By the way it's not just cause he's unfaithfull that you could get diseases. Be careful and smart USE a condom! My sister now has 6 children and she missed out on alot... She's never lived alone and she depends on others way too much... But I love her I just wish that she had a better life..... 13 is very , very young to be having sex...Like I've stated b4.....We live our lives mostly as adults with alot of responsibilty We are only young once you can wait to have adult responsibilities.......you should be playing games like kick ball, scabble, running and laughing don't ruin your life with adult things......Why? You have the rest of your life..... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

no name 21	Wow. 13 is way too young to be having sex, I didn't even know kids hormones were racing at that age. But you should always be safe.. tell your mom no matter what the consequence.. she might be a little disappointed but things will get better & you won't have to go around feeling guilty for hiding this from your mom. Don't forget to get a pregnancy test! Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥pokey♥	have you started your period? i mean, at all? theres not really a way to tell if youre preg or not if you havent gotten your period at all yet. i dont want to tell you that its bad that you had sex, but you are young. although everyones different. good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No