My boyfriend has an STD but I don't have it. Does this mean he was cheating or am I just lucky?

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katesmagichands	You need to go to the doctor and make him go with you. You need a proper health care professional to sit down with both of you and discuss the time line and incubation time of the particual STD that is in question. Some can take a LOT longer to show up than others. If you are in a loving and trusting relationship, you need to find the facts. Give him props for telling you in the first place. Tell him you need him to be honest with you about his sexual relations. He put you at risk! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Healthnut	IF the STD happens to be herpes, he may have had it for a long time and didn't know he had it. Any other type of STD, I'd dump his butt and don't look back. However, be aware that STD's are rampant in today's society. Too many people are having sex freely. The next time you're in a relationship that you feel is deserving of sex, be sure to discuss the fact that both of you need to go have STD screenings done before you have sex with each other. At the same time, make certain that you're tested for HIV as well. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

munoz8701	Well did he say how long he has had it??? ummmm..... It depends on the time that he has had it cause if he got it while you were in NY then yeah he is a cheating bastard!!!!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

letmeknow738	Well...without being nosy and knowing all of your personal business.....here is my advice.... 1. depends on how long you have been with him? 2. depends on how involved you are/were with him? 3. MOST importantly...consult with your physician as a safeguard...best wishes!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bridetobebrandie	Developed by other means? Don't be blind. They could have been dormant and this may be the first outbreak. He could have had the STD for a long time. If you were you, I would go and be re-tested to make sure he hasn't given you anything. Sadly, it isn't uncommon for guys to cheat and get thie momento from their skank and give it to you. Be careful, because if he did cheat, he didn't pick the right kind of person to be with, OR he didn't even know the person well enough to know they STD's and she was the type not to tell him. Research the story of the Black Widow in Las Vegas. Very sad story. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

insertstrawhere	get tested yourself and if your clean he most likely cheated . sorry either way Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

BRIAN W	You don't say which particular STD he has. Some can lay dormant (Herpes for example) for years. So, it is possible he had this STD (and didn't know it) before the two of you even got together.That being the case, that would seem to let him off the hook for having cheated on you. However, if you are able to determine he contracted the STD AFTER the two of you were together, then that is a whole different matter. Does he work in the medical field where he could have possibly been exposed? If not, and he contracted the STD AFTER the two of you were together, then I would say in all likelihood he got it from some form of intimate contact. In other words, THE BASTARD CHEATED ON YOU! In that case, if I were you I would do two things: 1). Get yourself re-checked in a couple of weeks, just to make sure, 2). Dump that chump! At any rate, consider yourself lucky - he could have given you AIDS. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

?	He's definitely cheating that's y it's called an std because it's sexually transmitted dump that loser he got what he deserved Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

samm5683	sounds like he has cheated sorry this is not a good situation to be in Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

PuterPrsn	I'm going to tell you what you already know ... STDs are called that for a reason. There's only one way to catch them as an adult, and that is through sexual congress with a person who is infected. He's cheated on you, and was not particularly choosy about his partner. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

anne_beckett	Okay, before you rip his head off (either one); depending on WHAT the STD is, he may have had it for years and never knew. Men tend to not have quite as many symptoms as women. Also, if you were treated with antibiotics for something else; sore throat, dental work, etc.., your infection would have cleared up.. So, don't jump the gun... Get more info. But, if you're simply not sure about this relationship, dump him.. this is as good an excuse as any! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

The Rebel	He is a cheating Bastard Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

js	he is cheating Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pobrewey	has he been going to any saunas, or public baths? otherwise he cheated on you Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

<3	CHEATING DUH!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

solomae	An std is exactly what is says sexually transmitted.Need I say more Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

I'm Jerry	sorry doll baby he hasn't been true to you,I gess you could call him a cheating bastard move on you can do better. damn wish I wasn't married Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

UNITool	STD - sexually transmitted disease - either he had it before you were together and you somehow miraculously didn't get it... not bloody likely - or he has been unfaithful. He didn't get it from a toilet seat, or spontaneous generation. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

larycmo	what do u think???get a clue Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Spillski	As a few people have said, men (and women sometimes) can have an STD for a long time without knowing it. I know this from personal experience. I would think that if it was something like chlamydia, he would know right away, but herpes can go undetected for a long time. I've heard that HIV won't show symptoms for up to 6 years or so. Depending on what he has, and how much you love and trust him, you might give him the benefit of the doubt. Then again, if you have any doubts- go with your gut and move on. Both men and women will cheat, and I think you have already made up your mind on this one. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

stacie p	i have known people to go get tested and the doc say that they dont have an std, and then a couple weeks later the symptoms show up! try going back in a couple weeks to get checked again just to make sure! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

eulamen	Depends on what it is! You can have herpes without knowing it for a long time,as you can get it from someone who may not have blisters.If he is a health care worker and doesn't use gloves or wash his hands with an open wound, someone's blody fluids could infect him, Otherwise,hmmmm. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Darlene M.	He might of cheated but I also think you can get a std by using a public rest room Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

K	Dump the cheating sob. He cannot have it and you not if he had it when you were together. He went out and got it from someone other than you. Feel lucky that you found out now instead of when he gave it you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

unknown	sorry to say but he was deifinetley cheating, no one can dodge that bullet Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sugaree	i would go with cheating bastard! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No