No one understands me, no ones helping me..?

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cksunshine	I was shy when I was in high school too. I understand what you mean by just not knowing what to say. High school is tough enough already. I promise you though it will not be that big of a part of your life once you are an adult and look back on it. I hated high school because of all the clicks and steriotyping. The most important thing to do is to just focus on your school work, graduate, and move on with your life. You will be okay. I eventually grew out of my shyness. You get more comforatable socially I think as an adult. I'm married now with 4 kids, and lots of friends, and am very happy. I was miserable in high school too, but now that I look back on it, I think i should have just focused more on learning and thinking about college than making friends. Most of those kids who give you a hard time will probably be losers as adults...........I've seen it, it;s too funny!! Anyway, take care, and just remember this all will pass one day soon!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

M T	It is hard not be with the in crowd but it is not a reason not to live. Life can be wonderful you just have not had a chance to experience it to see it. You may have a condition called low self esteem and social anxiety my son has it. He does exercises like saying high to a new kid in the hall. He talked to his school counselor and now has a way better life. He joined clubs in high school and has made many friends. There is hope especially since you are starting at a new school. Seek the school counselor there is help out there. There is nothing wrong with being shy the less you say the less you can say the wrong thing. Try asking about computer games Internet sites something you are interested in you will find someone who has the same interest if you seek someone. Good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Odell	Suicide is never the correct answer, you should try reading and watching the daily current events on television to learn what people are talking about and what they are interested in. That way you will be able to join in when others are having a conversation. People respect knowledge, and they will look forward to hearing what you have to say. You are definitely NOT a loser, you have only begun to live...there is so much out there for you to experience. Please understand that someone does care!!! I do not have to know you to care about what happens to you..I just prayed to God that you will be blessed with the ability to join in and make many friends in High School; I suggest that you pray often, as well. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jnmcmlln	Well, it looks like for a young person, you can write! Choose to be what you want and then do it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Michael S	Screw up what - try smiling when you see a new person. A smile speaks a thousand words! Learn from your mistakes, killing yourself doesn't solve the problem just passes it on to your parents and siblings. SMILE! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Teacher	It doesn't feel good to be a loner, but only you can change that situation. You need to be proactive and introduce yourself to people. Be friendly. You don't have anything to talk about because you choose what it is you want to talk about. You don't want someone else to think for you. Don't be afraid you are going to "screw up" it is a defeatist attitude. You should not put labels on your character such as "loser and retard" again this is only yourself putting you down. I don't even know you and I care for you and most likely I would like you. Your parents would understand you more if you just tell them you want to talk about your conception of them not understanding you. The point of life is to live it to the fullest. I don't see suicide as a way out I feel it is a way of quitting and letting the world push you over the edge. Get control of your life by living it. To get away from being shy hold your head high and say hello to yourself in the mirror when you pass it. You can even practice talking to people by first talking to the mirror about the subject. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

stephaniea	After reading all these answers, it looks like a lot of people care. It is hard making friends, and I think you will be alright. What are you good at? Maybe join a group activity that you and others are good at and you might find a group of new friends. Anyways, being friends with all the high school friends I had, I don't speak to any of them now. I think making friends in school is to pass the time. What really matters is what you do with your life after school. Good Luck to you! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

wrathofkublakhan	athrodite, you have some serious "it's all about me" issues. You remind me of those women who end up subs in the D/s culture, so needing attention that they become dependent and passive, yet in fact call all the shots. Just your question alone ends in a cap-spelled selfish rant that would scare the hell out of me and insure I'd keep my distance from you. Do you hate me yet? Still think I don't understand you? Sigh ... make sure it's very tall building so it's tragic enough. The only hope for you is to learn to give instead of take. Go volunteer at the Red Cross if you can handle it. It'll change your life. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

made4level27x	First let me tell you I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL! And I'm NOT just saying that. When I read your question and everything it was like the story of how my life was a little bit ago in 8th grade. I HATED myself. I thought about killing myself. I had almost no friends. And the few poeple I did talk to now and then I acted so shy infront of and no one knew me because I was shy infront of everyone! Still now a year later I'm still shy around everyone, not as much but I still am and I HATE it. I know what you mean when you say shyness is a sickness. I can't stand it. I felt so left out of everything. I would come home from school and listen to music and cry and everything I felt so retarted. By the way you should listen to Welcome to My Life by Simple Plan, it was like every lyric of that song was my life, you could probably relate to it to & it might help you. Anyways it was the worst year of my life. I guess you could think of you going to a new school as a second chance or something. I don't know, but seriously you don't want to keep living this wothless life do you? When this happened to me it was like I thought I would never get out of it. But then I met this girl who I had been best friends with and it was like my second chance. And I'm so glad that I waited and decided not to go with killing myself because things will always get better, no matter how bad, you will get out of it remember that.Really though I know how you feel. You should deffinatly IM me sometime on AIM, my sn is ashley7382 and we can talk or something because serioulsy everything you said in your question is everything I have been going through. hope this helps <3ashley Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jenny	Suicide is not an answer to problems. Just because you are shy doesn't mean you have a bad life. Maybe get involved with clubs and sports at school. That way you will make new friends and it will help break you out of your shell. If you are suicidal then I think it is time that you go to therapy. Maybe a therapist can get to the root of your problem. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

x_aramus_x	whoa.. calm down hun... no need to go and do anything rash. don't worry so much about screwing up, just relax and be yourself. I was a lot like you in high school. I was extremely shy, had no friends and pretty much just kept to myself untill around grade 11. I changed schools and met some really cool people. You don't have to talk a lot to make friends... just show intrest in them. Don't stress it.. friends will come. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bigmeanie18	well just be yourself i now if i knew you id be your friend im a nice guy please dont commit suicide thats alittle extreme once and a while i thought i was in the same way but i wasnt i know it sucks not having any friends and for me i think it sucks not having a girl friend to share time with if you want email me and ill be your fiend Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

j_911_rhoads	It's OK to be shy.I use to be when I was your age.I'm 41 and won't shut up now.lol It'll be Ok don't do something stupid like kill yourself.Thats not the answer. Quit worrying about it so much and the next thing you know you will have friends and be talking up a storm.If you dwell on it and not put forth an effort to change things you might be shy all your life.YOU have to make the changes.No body can do it for you and I can tell you it's not as hard as you think it is. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Orinoco	Perhaps you'd like to talk with someone. I don't think suicide is the right answer. I think you certainly have the ability to talk enough and to find the right things to say. I wonder if you feel a little paralyzed because you don't want to upset people. I will message you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dian	it's normal for a young girl you're age to feel shy. Maybe your a little anti social now, but alot of people tend to grow out of shyness as they get older. Believe me it's not the end of the world and you are not the only shy person out there. Maybe you have social anxiety or low self esteem, those problems can easily be helped by a counselor. Please seek help from your school counselor about this. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

marygold2012	When i was is school I had the same problems. I was deadly shy but, tried to fit it. People took advantage of my shyness and teased me to the point I too considered suicide. But one day I decided to try to inprove myself so that I had confidense in myself. It is really our own trap we put ourselves in thinking we are not important enough. Once i stopped hating myself I stood up to those people I did not let them ruin my life and I enjoyed myself and made some friends because I was confident enough to relax and well be me. Shyness prevented me from being myself. I hope things go better for you and don't kill yourself school is only a small part of your life and it will not always be this way. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cookiesmom	youre talking about a permanent solution to a temporary problem...get a hobby, skill, something youre into....next thing you know youll meet someone while honing this skill that also enjoys it as much as you do.....voila! you have a new friend with something in common to talk about!...try it....its better than the alternative!...good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Baby	I'm there with you. but you cant let this get you down. its not worth it.don't kill your self. your better then that.you need to try and get some help. then se if there is a person around you who is always there, win you feel like this, and talk to them. most of all turn to god and ask him for help and to not let go of you.i do not let the divel take my joy any more.nb Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

paisak79	There is nothing wrong with being shy at first...I used to be shy for a long time. Also, there are lots of places to make friends...church and in your classroom just to name a couple. Just be yourself and say hi to people...if they see that you are always looking down and sad they will not be as inclined to talk to you. Always make eye contact and smile and say hi...that is how friendship starts. And don't even think about evil thoughts in your head...you are not a loser. The reason you don't know what to say is because you are young, inexperienced with lots of things that go on in life and feel that you don't have anything to say. You know about a lot of things that others do. Every day is a day you can prove yourself...by not talking on one day means nothing that you are screwed up. DON'T USE A FEELING YOU HAVE AT ONE MOMENT IN YOUR DAY TO MAKE YOU FEEL AS IF THAT WHOLE DAY IS THE SAME. WE ALL HAVE OUR MOMENTS BUT DON'T DWELL ON IT. SMILE AND SAY HI TO PEOPLE...THAT IS A START AND IT WILL MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

smurf	dont worry i'm sure there is a lot of people who would like to be your friend. A simple smile can start a friendship( try it because it worked for me). If it's ok with you lets start with me being your friend Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

trisha	Iv'e looked at your other questions and I can tell you--You need Counciling-BIG-TIME and ASAP! Don't use this site to Threaten Suicide here! You could end up in Very Big Trouble. Go GET HELP! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

TIA	You can be who ever you want. I was loner and very shy now I am a social butterfly, I don't have a problem talking to anyone I don't know even if it about my dog you know. Go for it is my advice. Only you can change those things about yourself you don't like, it may take time but if I can do it you can and once you do it will open doors you never knew were there, trust me... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chan_sweet91	Hey that is no way to talk, God made everyone for a purpose and a reason and he didn't make you for you to kill yourself over what other people think. you need to be confident of yourself and know that you are a preety young lady and no, every one nots gonna like you cause i have people that don't like me but do you think i let them bring me down. No i don't and when you start to come out of your shyness and that might take a long time it depends on your confidence and if no one ever told you they love you as a friend well i do and jesus does too so stay strong and keep your head up!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

freshb90	I do baby and i have to say i like u Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

DECATSDEAD	keep your head up it will get better. you are just at the stage in your life that everyone goes thru trying to figure out where you belong in society. some deal with it better than others. but dont worry so much, i bet you will meet alot of new people this year that you will ber able to call friends. i like shy girls anyway . Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

CATHOLIC PRIEST!!	Whoa...now hold it right there kid! You remind me of some kids I know....they try so hard to 'fit in' that they make themselves fools. Be yourself kiddo...relax, Loosen up..a true friend will come your way you do not have to go seeking. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Pratik	Take a chance. Here is what I've learned in life: if you do everything right and do stuff by the book, you'll have very few friends. At your new school, go and do something crazy. Take a chance. Get some attention. Talk to people. Drop your facade. Drop out of your comfort zone. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Star Spirit	Wow, you could be me, back in high school. Just remind yourself that you are the only person who will ever see life through your eyes. Your perspective is unique. Suicide will erase any options you have. Start a journal, start a blog, like on Yahoo 360, and just talk to yourself about everything that way. You will attract like-minded people. Remember that there are thousands of us freaky types out here, and shyness is like a veil that keeps us from recognizing each other right away. Give school time, give yourself time, you have all the time in the world to figure out your place in it. Feel free to look at my 360 page, you will see what I mean, that we freaks are everywhere. You are definitely not alone. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sOuL dOcToR	Tell you what Little Friend, How about getting yourself this Homeopathic Remedy AURUM MET 30C without side effects or complications and take it thrice a day half hour before meals and let us know how do you feel about your life and the people around you. Its just your mind playing tricks on you.Take this Remedy for atleast three days it will make you feel wonderfully Positive and full of life and lbeing loved. Trust me you will feel alive again. And its totally Non Addictive . Take Care and God Bless ! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No