I hav low self esteem. how can i boost it?

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lexahhboo	Beleive in yourself. Have Confidence. Be Outspoken. Take chances. be yourself and dont hide it . <3 Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Taniea	get confidence and dont be to cocky. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bgt	tell daddy to stop and put it away Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

More S	Go do girly stuff like paint your nails and go to the salon. Get a man to pay for you to go to the salon and get your nails done, haha this will boost it, no? Try meditation... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

choxi_moxi	hang with ppl that make you feel good. and watch movies that make you feel good. and join a sports team "exercise gives you endorphants, endorphants make you happy and happy people dont shoot their husbands, they just dont" -legally blonde Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

liezel	get to know yourself better and ask yourself what you can do best and look for a venue where you can put your talent or skills best. Doing something you really like and excelling in it will definitely boost your self confidence and of course your esteem. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mikey	Learn to believe that you're worth it. You're worth living & living for,etc. So many people kill themselves over being like others and I DON'T want you too. You were made to succeed and think highly of yourself. Always remember that!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Annie	you have to put yourself out there.....raise the bar in your decisions.....I have low self esteem--have always low balled myself......it took me years to recognize this...I don't want to go on meds-So I work on being good to myself...and not SETTLING!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sleven666	Step One Stop comparing yourself with other people. There will always be some people who have more than you and some who have less. If you play the comparison game, you'll run into too many "opponents" you can't defeat. --------------------------------------... Step Two Stop putting yourself down. You can't develop high self-esteem if you repeat negative phrases about yourself and your abilities. Whether speaking about your appearances, your career, your relationships, your financial situation, or any other aspects of your life, avoid self-deprecating comments. --------------------------------------... Step Three Accept all compliments with "thank you." Ever received a compliment and replied," Oh, it was nothing." When you reject a compliment, the message you give yourself is that you are not worthy of praise. Respond to all compliments with a simple Thank You." --------------------------------------... Step Four Use affirmations to enhance your self-esteem. On the back of a business card or small index card, write out a statement such as "I like and accept my self." or "I am valuable, lovable person and deserve the best in life." Carry the card with you. Repeat the statement several times during the day, especially at night before going to bed and after getting up in the morning. Whenever you say the affirmation, allow yourself to experience positive feelings about your statement. --------------------------------------... Step Five Take advantage of workshops, books and cassette tape programs on self-esteem. Whatever material you allow to dominate mind will eventually take root and affect your behavior. If you watch negative television programs or read newspaper reports of murders and business rip off; you will grow cynical and pessimistic. Similarly, if you read books or listen to programs, that are positive in nature, you will take on these characteristics. --------------------------------------... Step Six Associate with positive, supportive people. When you are surrounded by negative people who constantly put you and your ideas down, your self-esteem is lowered. On the other hand, when you are accepted and encouraged, you feel better about yourself in the best possible environment to raise your self-esteem. --------------------------------------... Step Seven Make a list of your past successes. This doesn't necessarily have to consist of monumental accomplishments. It can include your "minor victories," like learning to skate, graduating from high school, receiving an award or promotion, reaching a business goal, etc. Read this list often. While reviewing it, close your eyes and recreate the feelings of satisfaction and joy you experienced when you first attained each success. --------------------------------------... Step Eight Make a list of your positive qualities. Are you honest? Unselfish? Helpful? Creative? Be generous with yourself and write down at least 20 positive qualities. Again, it's important to review this list often. Most people dwell on their inadequacies and then wonder why their life isn't working out. Start focusing on your positive traits and you'll stand a much better chance of achieving what you wish to achieve. --------------------------------------... Step Nine Start giving more. I'm not talking about money. Rather, I mean that you must begin to give more of yourself to those around your. When you do things for others, you are making a positive contribution and you begin to feel more valuable, which, in turn, lifts your spirits and raises your own self-esteem. --------------------------------------... Step Ten Get involved in work and activities you love. It's hard to feel good about yourself if your days are spent in work you despise. Self-esteem flourishes when you are engaged in work and activities that you enjoy and make you feel valuable. Even if you can't explore alternative career options at the present time, you can still devote leisure time to hobbies and activities, which you find stimulating and enjoyable. --------------------------------------... Step Eleven Be true to yourself. Live your own life - not the life others have decided is best for you. You'll never gain your own respect and feel good about yourself if you aren't leading the life you want to lead. If you're making decisions based on getting approval from friends and relatives, you aren't being true to yourself and your self-esteem is lowered. --------------------------------------... Step Twelve Take action! You won't develop high self-esteem if you sit on the sidelines and back away from challenges. When you take action - regardless of the ensuing result - you feel better about yourself. When you fail to move forward because of fear and anxiety, you'll be frustrated and unhappy - and you will undoubtedly deal a damaging blow to your self-esteem. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pkm trainer	Do something you love and make lots of friends. It can really improve your confidence if you study a subject and do really well in it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Katia	just keep reassuring yourself that you are happy and confident.... keep telling yourself that you're alive and that is the SINGLE most important thing to CHERISH every day. There are people out fighting in Iraq, dying... diseased and dying.... being killed from gangs..... be happy that you're alive and healthy and have ten fingers and ten toes and that you can go out and accomplish ANYTHING! This kind of thinking totally inspired me to get out of my depression..... there are people out in the world who have it SO much worse...... so I need to stop being so down on myself and stop being so sad all the time.... I need to be happy that I'm alive and well and so should you! :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sammy B	You should take acting school or modeling school. It really works. If you can't afford those counseling is good. And trying on your own to build up your esteem is good. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

xXitalian_chicaXx	subscribe to seventeen magazine and they have this body peace award thing that is awarded to the celebrity that is most comfortable with her body that month and that celeb gives advice on dealing with your flaws Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sicilia has lost it	don't dwell on things u cannot change do nice things for yourself because when u treat yourself valuable u will feel valuable. exercise, that adrenaline rush is awesome make sure u have a good sleep every night, sleep is important to your mental health. be closer to God. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

RN2B	start doing some hobbies that you enjoy doing. If you enjoy them, chances are you'll be good at it. That will help. Don't hang out with people who put you down or who have low self esteem as well. Surround yourself with positive, happy people and it will rub off. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Steve C	Realize you are a wonderful person and have wonderful personality to share with the world, that will help you gain confidence. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Derek Goins	Get better looking. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

iknowwhatimtalkinabout	Try going out and learning a martial art or sport. Meeting new people and getting exercise will lift your spirits and you should feel a little more confident as you improve.Just acheiving something new can really raise self esteem. Good luck!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ryan M	This isn't something that can be achieved overnight. Think about your traits, and what's unique to you. Think about your skills, and not you weaknesses. Accept that nobodys perfect and everyone has their faults. Socialise more, friends can really cheer up. Believe in yourself, you have the potential to do just as good as anyone else (I know that sounds cheesy, but it's true) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bulletformyvalentine	maybe treat yourself honey =) go to get your nails done do your hair in a salon maybe not even a cut or anything just go get them to wash it style it it will feel good. i`m the same way sometimes. or pick up something you love like voice lessons or a dance class and practise hard get good @ it =) <3 i got tattoos to help my confidence i hated my body but ihad beautiful tattoos it eased my feeling of not being pretty. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ohh itss Love	write down all the positives about yourself a bring them out FLAUNT IT Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Master Eythan	Compliment other people to their faces. Not in an envious way, in a sincere way. Try not to judge and criticize other people. Think of everyone as different rather than ranking them in each and every aspect. When your only judgements on the world are positive you will feel better about everything, yourself included. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Anna	Me too. Do something you love, have high aspirations and goals, make something of yourself! Do good things like charity work (not just giving money-get involved). Its ok to change yourself for the better (just don't loose yourself in the process). Figure out something that you love to do or be and pursue it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Rick Flair	Alcohol!! It makes you and everybody else think you're marvelous. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Joe S	Try this experiment for a day or so: Keep a little flip notepad handy with a little pencil and whenever you get a moment write down the things you think/daydream about in the off moments of your day when there is not much to do. If you are like me, you might be surprised at the end of the day to look in your notebook and see how much negative "self-talk" you probably engage in. Worrying, thinking badly about yourself, reliving embarassing moments and stupid decisions, some people with low self esteem do a great deal of this sort of thinking. As they say, "know your enemy." Our thoughts are a window into the mind. Once you have a snapshot of your thoughts, getting down to understanding the real reasons for your self esteem problems becomes that much easier. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

stoned ripped twisted	You could look at it a different way. Instead of agreeing with people who think having self esteem and having more images of yourself that will make you feel better, what modern psychologist are telling you, you could look at why do you have images to begin with, and what are images? Why struggle with ridding yourself of images that make you feel bad while trying to find and hold onto images that make you feel good? Won't having good images of yourself make you just as imbalanced since you will have to protect them by fighting others who invalidates them with insults? Why bother having any images, good or bad, at all? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ricardo P	Always think positive. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Greg B	Herbal enhancements Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lucky~Mommy	Eat healthier and work out. Those things give you energy and help you feel relieved. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dennis	Always think positive. Thats what i do. Everyday you have to do it though or else it will go down again. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

parakeets//volleyball	Tell yourself that your the best, no matter what people say. Never put yourself down for silly reasons. Also, working out and eating healthy can aide in your low self esteem. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No