Amanda R
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i think its time for the talk.
good luck
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DeAtHnOtE_Neko~=
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You should of gave her the talk 3 years ago, but dont mention what she's being doing.
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tampajim2005
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I have five daughters myself..........................when they become curious...............teach them that their sexuality is good and try not to repress the natural behavior that they have.........touching themselves is a positive aspect to normal growth in her personality...........see if she wants books or video's......even porn can help her mature the way that is safe for YOU......and her............just adjust to what she does with her OWN body.........her body..........don't cripple her with outdated idea's about abstination from masterbation...........it's proven that masterbation developed at that age is a positive aspect in developing into a sexually mature and healthy women.........encourage her to explore ..........ONLY AT HOME..............good luck......like I said I got 5 of em too..............whew.....so what .....they're playing with their pee-pee........it's natural.........Jimmy in Nashville................
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cici
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It is definately past time for the sex talk. Whether she gets imbarrassed or not, she will appreciate it. You need to make sure she is getting the correct information. Be glad that she is masturbating rather than having sex with a lot of guys.
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Milky
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let her get used to her body, shes exploring the new sensations her body has to offer. its time to have a chat but dont embarass the girl, weve all masturbated in puberty its a way of getting to know what does what on our bodies.
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Me
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I'm 17, female and I've been masturbating since before I knew what it was called! People are starting at younger and younger ages. I have friends that have been having sex since they were 10. I'm still a virgin! I think that the main reason I've stayed a virgin is because my mom has always told me about sex and masturbating. She's told me somethings that have scared me and my friends but I'm glad that she's been open with me. Even if it is embarrassing!
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Never to young these days, kids are having sex younger and younger, Id give her the talk...
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keithmanley2000
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time to talk however mum your behind times my daughter started when she was 10
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GRUMPY /UK
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she is not to old for her age in some counties they get married at that age and are having full sex .sit down and talk to her
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dtstuff9
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a vibrator at 13!!! thats crazy
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Barneyboy
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No give her the sex talk, kids mature a lot faster than we did as they are bombarded with sex from everywhere advertising, tv, videos etc..
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Adam (AM)
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leave it- unless you catch her out
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shania
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I think your sex talk is overdue, you should definitely begin talking to your daughter about sex. If she is already masturbating without you knowing there is no telling what else she has already tried. Teens are having sex a lot younger now days. When you talk to her let her know that it might seem a little bit embarrassing but you care about her and would like to talk about all the consequences and diseases that are associated with sex.
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big_fat_goth
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I'd say 13 is way too old for 'the sex talk' not that I agree with that anyway. I think age appropriate sex education should begin at 5 or 6 years old. 13 is not young to be masturbating in this day and age. Have a talk with her, buit don't let on that you think she's been masturbating. You don't want he to get embarrassed or think that she is doing something wrong. Be prepared to answer her questions, and be open and honest with her. She's growing up, and she might feel relieved that you bring up the subject first. Do talk to her, but for the love of god, do it soon.
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Sheryl
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Definitely have the sex talk. I wouldn't talk about her masturbating though. That will embarass her, especially if she thinks you know about it. Really, you need to have the talk to alert her about STD's and pregnancy prevention. Let her know how important it is for her to abstain from sex at this age, but if she must, then use protection. If she's just masturbating and not actually sleeping with anyone, don't worry. It's normal.
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Mario
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Girls of 13 know more about sex than you know
They normally want to have sex
she is old enough to have the sex talk
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dark-knight
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its definitely time for the talk, but by the sound of it your too late, if shes masturbating and using a vibrator then chances are she knows the basics already, though i still think you should sit down and tell her the basics (from an adult as shes probably heard them from school Friends) and educate her in std's. I'm sure most people already know stuff by 13. but the fact that shes using a vibrator is certainly rare (at least i hope it is)
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meggiek97
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Definitely time for the talk. And Fast.
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enoch c
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"Maturity" a relative terminology comes at different times to different people. Sex talk, to children should come gradually from as young as 2 or 3 when identifying body parts for example. This must progress and vary in content and detail as mental and physical growth demand. This dear child is filling up the void caused by want of responsible counsel in sexuality by experimenting and engaging in trial and error. Most adults lack the training and patience to deal with these issues involving their offsprings. Perhaps it may be helpful to seek proffessional counsel for both Mother and daughter. Sexuality is Gods gift to mankind and must be responsibly intoduced to our children.
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stepanstas
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I think that she should know whether its right or wrong to have sex. Talking to her would embarrass her and shes not really doing anything wrong (i guess). If you dont have a problem with it like you say, then i dont think you should. Take sure she know that sex is wrong at this age, or before mariage
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pistolpete797@yahoo.com
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She is 13 time to have the sex talk. You know Basically all Children are sexually mature at that age.
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s_lee1986
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13! oh I think you are way too late. look at what ages they teach sex education in schools (im sure its younger than 13!)
Besides these days most sex education classes in the UK teach masturbation as a safe form of sex. Have the talk now if it will make you feel better but trust me she will find it embarrassing, all kids that age do. Plus she probably knows all about the birds and the bees. To be honest I would be surprised if 13 year old girls hadnt already experimented with masturbation its just natrual. Don't worry about it if you ask me. Its a delicate age, all you have to do is reinforce the 'be safe and carefull' thing, no need for all the ins and outs of it (no pun intended) she will be fine.
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TonyDrummond
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I would talk to her about sex before she makes a mistake with some boy. What you don't want to do is let her know that you know she's masturbating. 13 is probably around the age I started and I would have been embarassed if my parents asked me about it. What you should do instead is tell her that she's becoming a young woman and you'd like to talk to her about sex. I know that there are parenting sites out there that tell you exactly how to talk to your child about sex so search yahoo for some of those. Good luck.
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tracey m
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oh yes give her the talk my daughters 14 and i gave her the talk at 11 kids mature a lot earlier than they used to.and as for the vibrator rather that than she falls pregnant.i wouldnt tell her what you have heard from her bedroom though. i bet when you give her the talk she will probably know more than you do it's normally the way lol good luck
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kcgb622003
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first of all, i agree, the "sex talk" if it hasnt been addressed yet by you and your child should be. second,id be more concerned as to wear she got the vibrator if she does indeed have one, and who helped her to by it. third, i am a single mom of two teenage daughters and i have had "the talk" with mine on several occassions for yrs now. i have always wanted them to have an understanding of what to expect and all it entails including responsibilites, and yes even the pleasures etc. one day(2 yrs ago) i noticed my own vibrator missing,then another day i noticed it back so i questioned my daughter carefully but openly and honestly about it and shortly afterwards i bought her her own.she was 15. my youngest is now 15 and i am simply waiting for her to feel comfortable enough to either talk with me about it or at the very least her sister who will in turn come to me and mention the need for another one in the home.besides,is it so rediculous a thought that our own kids would want to explore their bodies.we did. just make sure you show them love,respect and teach them not only abstinance,protection, but also teach them them about all the enjoyments and responsbilites that go into having sex or making love to another. i gave them as much knowledge possiable to make good choices with their sexuality and hopefully they will stop and think ahead every time. as for masterbation, id say unless it is against your religion and you are against all forms of self gratification and are uncomfortable about talking to them ,have them seek a professional councelor or physician for information.there is a planned parent hood also in almost every major city in the united states as well. finally never belittle a child for wanting to self explore for it will inhibit them severly later on and please allow them to make their own choices whether or not they want to be pro-life or pro-choice.ive seen way to many parents force their beliefs on a child and the reprocussions of that too. give a child options,choices,knowledge and you can express how you feel and what you might do in any given situation in life. but in the end they will decide for themselves what they feel is best for them.........
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dev_mallya2002
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I will suggest that you buy her a new vibrator (she may be using someone else's) and show her how to use it effectively. Also tell her that you will prefer that she uses the vibrator rather than going to bed with a guy.
Another thing - tell her not to be ashamed to come to you to ask about masturbation or any bodily acts. Also let her know how to have safe sex and tell her to go for it only when she is ready.
Personally I feel 13 is not that young. I started at 12 and when my mom found out, she bought me a new sex toy and guided me hands-on how to use it. After that day, i was never ashamed of masturbation and always ask my mom before trying anything new sexually. I created a bond between me and mom and she is more my freind than anything.
I have done the same for my younger sister last year and now she is the proud owner and regular user of a 'pleasure master 3000'. :p
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ollie cola
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most schools would have had sex talks by now. All girls and boys develop at different ages but now would be a good time for a sex talk with her
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madbaldscotsman
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I think you should talk to her right now. Not make her feel like she's doing something wrong but she's getting info from somewhere lady.
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Jackie T
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This is totally normal. I think you need to talk to her but dont get mad. Just explain to her about sex and that its totally normal for her to masturbate.
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cookies_n_cream0218
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you should have already had the sex talk with her.
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Ryno
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If this isn't a sign, not sure what could be. And if she did have a vibe, she may even more knowledgable than you ever imagined. I teach high school (9 years) and have been surprised time and time again to both the openness of today's youth and yet still, the ignorance of the "facts".
My advice is a talk that starts with asking her what she already knows and if there are any questions that you can help her with. Putting her in speaking seat, may allow her to be more open and create a bond between the two of you that will keep the door open for any questions/advice in the future. Also, I would not bring up the sheets or the sounds you heard, unless she brings up her solo activities. It may be embarrassing and cause her to hide her feelings. Finally, be prepared to hear things that may come as a surprise and be cautious with your reactions. She will be watching your reactions to decide if she can truly trust you with the first real adult topic.
Good luck.
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