Friend wants me to keep him in house at weekend not allow him out to buy heroin can he really stop like this?

He has been smoking heroin less and less and has tablets from the doctor but still smokes heroin. He wants to stop for himself. Will keeping him in the house all weekend really help. What can i do to ...

Twiggie	no an u will never b able to stop him unless he wants to stop himself. u cant halp any one that dont want to b helped what u need to do is show him the dangers of what he is doing to him self bring him to a drug clinic show him what the future holds for him an hope it makes him see the error of his ways

poisonivy4913	NO, and you could be hurt in the process. Someone going through withdrawls can do anything, even hurt you, or kill you without really knowing it. The best way is a hospital. This is no way to do it. he needs help, you shoud make some calls.

liddle_angel	You can try to be a good friend...he is asking for your support..but,...you must tell him if he leaves, he is on his own...you would be happy to talk with him, and be there for him...and pray for strength with him..but if he leaves, then that is the last time you can help like that...NOt to be mean,...but you can't take the chance of someone bringing their criminal activities into your house, for all you kind help...He can stop, but it has to come from within him..no one in the world can stop him but him...Pray together, and ask God to give him the strength he needs through Jesus...God Bless and good luck

danie100uk	He has to want to help himself. You cannot control him. Don't even try. He will get nasty and manipulative with you. Don't let him get inside your head. Being supportive to him will also enable him to make his addiction easier to bear and keep him sick longer. Detach from him with love but have strong boundaries: I cannot see you if you are using drugs. Tough Love He has to be ready to accept help. He can go to his GP. Try rehab centres, go to Narcotics Anonymous. There is a helpline for NA. If he is willing to go to a NA meeting thats a good sign. If not he hasn't reached rock bottom. Its only a meeting for christsake. He must be ready you cannot do it for him, he should be willing to go to any lengths and have the gift of desperation. Good luck and best wishes

gsp100677	Actually, saying he "needs" Methadone is actually a bit simplistic. The reason Methadone is given to Heroin addicts is to alleviate the withdrawal symptoms, which can be horrifically unpleasant to say the least. However, people also become addicted to Methadone while using it to get off Heroin. Going to a clinic & getting him on Methodone is not necessarily the answer. It's a big ask - for him to ask you for this. I would say the best thing to do, is go ask a doctor or clinic for advice on just how dangerous to his health (including mental health) this could be. Then make a considered decision based on this. If you do decide to go ahead with this, be prepared for an extremely difficult few days!

♪ GOTH CHICK♫	I suggest you watch the film TRAINSPOTTING It's about herion users and how they get off it etc. But your friend can't do it alone. Needs Methadone and lots of Support. Good Luck

Pat R	My friends boyfriend asked her to do this for him ,but he wanted her to do it for a week,they dont get violent with someone they care about,just very sneaky,she did it for 4 days and he went through cold turkey ,shivers ,sleeping ,sweating...etc,then on the 5th day he went upstairs to the toilet and crept through the bedroom window.She really supported him even going to lifeline where they help drug addicts,they told her its easier to give up heroin than cigarettes,but the user has to really want to do it. I applaud him for doing this ,it sounds as if he wants to give up and it must be hard.....your a good friend!

Boris	It's called cold-turkey and for some, its the only way.

kiteeze	He wants to stop. He is asking for help. It might work. If it doesn't what have you lost? He is a friend after all, and is not asking you to lock him up. Just needs a retreat to get his head together and/or get away from junkie friends and influences. I think you should do it. Just let him relax and don't pester around him, let him go through it his way. If he wants to talk or have a shoulder to cry on, be there for him. Otherwise try to go on with your regular routine as if he were just anybody else staying with you. If he runs out on it, it isn't your fault at all. It might take him a few efforts to beat this. This time he chose you, means you are special to him and he believes your influence can strengthen him. If you don't do it, you'll fail him and yourself. The ball is in your court now, so think about it ... what are you afraid of? That he is lying and wants to use you? Doesn't sound like it, but if you think so, don't leave any money lying around to tempt him. Most important thing to consider from your view point is how much you believe him and how much you care about him and whether you really think of him, or want to think of him, as a true friend. If you care about him, give him this chance. Drug addicts are just people with health problems; none are alike and so comparing him to stereotypes is futile and damaging. Only you know his heart. Look into it and take any precautions you see fit. It could work. Or it might not. Whatever, you'll have done your part and will have a clear conscience. A little bit of humanity never hurt anyone.

JBOY	like they say friends can get you in but only you can get out.... its good that he wants to stop himself... you action will help but you need to do more like going places with him when you are both free and help him pick another activity that will keep his mind occupied..an idle mind is the devil's workshop..best of luck..

David W	It depends on the person. If he has ever been known to get violent, I would shy away. Forget the Methadone idea. That's just the stupid way. He will just become addicted to Methadone. Cold turkey is the way to go if he really wants to stop, and you really want to help him. If you are keeping him indoors, which is a good idea, then make sure there is plenty to do, and plenty of treats to stick in his mouth. I reckon some ganja might help too. My wife was an addict, and eventually got off by being kept in a sort of open prison for a week, where she had to do lots of running and exercise. She had tried everything, including Methadone, and failed. Now, she would never go back. Go for it. He's lucky to have a mate like you around. Try to keep him off it for a week, and then he'll begin to feel better.

pete samui	you will never know if he has taken drugs but at least your helping him and that's a start go with your instincts and if he has asked for help that great as he accepts the problem, its a good start for him good luck and take care

Superchick	In my humble opinion. . .no, this will not help. If anything he's pushing the responsibility of "cleaning up" on you. You see, if he fails, it's your fault for not keeping a closer eye on him. I know you must really care for the fella just by being willing to do this, but please know you're setting yourself up for failure. Remember there's a saying. . ."No good deed goes unpunished." Follow your instincts. . .the fact that you're questioning it shows that you have doubt. Your instincts are there to keep you safe, listen to them.

mish0	i think he should go into rehab find out more about it

As You Like It	Yes it can work, if he is really determined. He needs to go to the doctor and ask to be put on subutex this stuff is really good as you don't become addicted to it like methodone and it makes you sick if you have herion. Your body just rejects it apparently. Its a good job that he's smoking it and not injecting, he will find it easier to give up. Is he taking any other drugs? If he is taking Cocaine or crack or any other uppers he should stop taking them at the same time. He will be less dependent on the heroin then. If he smokes canabis I personally think it would be too much of an ask to get him to stop this as well. You need to make sure that he does not replace one addiction with another though, this happens very frequently. There is nothing wrong with keeping him out of harms way until the worst part is over. When I helped a friend in this situation they stayed at my house for a long time. They slept a lot, and I made her really good filling healthy food and gave her vitamins and minerals, loads of vitamin C. She said it did make her feel better. Eating oats is supposed to help addictions due to a particular chemical that is released when you eat them. So buy flap jacks and make porridge! Its worth a try. It is very painful to give up apparently both physically and mentally, and the user knows that if they just go and get some the pain will end. That is why your friend has asked you. The only problem is he could easily relapse when he leaves your house. He needs to talk to his doctor and get in touch with a programe in your area that will help support him once he has got over the first huge hurdle. I have noticed with my friend that we build a trust and she opens up and is chatty, then when she is using she becomes distant and closed. She will lie about really little things that are not even related to heroin, just to keep people off of the scent. This time since she stayed at my house as far as I know she has not had any, but it is so hard to not be suspicious. If she looks tired or thiner than the last time I saw her I jump to assumptions. This really annoys her. She says that it is not easy to be on the medication from the doctor, she still feels like a junky in some ways and it is a long process to finally come off of them. This is true, the doctor will do nearly anything to prevent a relapse. To give up again after a relapse is much, much harder than giving up first time. He needs support and if he argues tell him, that he has taken away his right to choose. Sounds harsh but he has.

Valerie	Tkae him to Canada and give him Ibogaine Hci....

knightslady97	You will know because if he is not using it he will start going through withdrawal. My advice to you if a drug rehab place is not available or an option, getting a few of his friends together(your gonna need them) and staying with him all weekend as he wants. Dont let him leave or atleast leave alone. May want to talk to a doctor as well for advice. The reason I say a few friends is that he may hallucinate and get violent during withdrawal and you may not be able to prevent him from leaving if this is the case. So speak with a doctor so you know what to expect, get a few close friends and get ready for a weekend of major "tough love". GOOD LUCK

devine_gem22	to be honest its got to be worth a go.....if he can go two whole days & nights without it then he is on the way to recovery already, not saying he wont EVER do it again coz its far from that easy but i definately think u staying the weekend with him will help.....i think u are a good friend to stick by him through this time, just continue to help him as much as u can but remember he is an addict & he has to REALLY want to do this for himself before even a clinic can help him. (he does sound like he is trying though so all credit to him)

fiend_indeed	It's possible, but it's not going to be pleasant.

sammy	you cant lock him up every weekend to try and stop him using this drug, its an addiction and if he wants to stop he has to really want to do it for himself. he should try and stay away from ppl using it. i used to be addicted to solid but then went on to Cocaine, but i managed to stop just by will power and wanting to do it.

cutie.pieky	you should now the signs wat he is like wen he is smoking it i dont now the best way to get him off it just try to help him in the best way you can

Danielle w	No they can't stop on there own they need help. Plus if they stayed in your home I bet somehow they would get the drug in. It is good that you care and wat to be there and help at least you are a good friend to this person.

Nattie B	no locking him in the house won't help, especially you. yes i agree with everyone that he will get violent. But dealing more with the addiction side he could in fact die from going cold turkey. Going to a clinic or at least having a doctor on call with the situation my keep your friend alive. When you stop a dependency addition you are shocking your body which could make your heart or other organs fail. So it is best to have a professional monitoring things. you also didn't say if this is your dad, brother, boyfriend, or friend i hope you don't start using or get to involved i wish you luck in your hard time

txcatwoman	no

absolved lemon	this sounds harsh but turn your back on him he needs the help of a professional

mrangelosd	he should go to special place for drug addicts only this can help him and even that there is no 100% chance he will not comeback.

nert	As many others have said, absolutely categorically no. Going cold turkey is the worst way to come off any drug, let alone something as potent as heroin. He will bcome ill, stomach cramps, diarrhea, suffer extreme pain and possibly hallucinations. He may not even know who you are. Get him to the doctors and in a planned detox regime with professional counselling and support, and probably doses of methodone to ease it. Do it, and do it quickly - I've lost a friend to heroin. Good luck to you and him, but please seek help.

welshwife	sounds like your mate really wants to give up. its not that easy with H. just stopping will hurt him and maybe someone else, he needs to come down gradually not go cold turkey. have someone else in the hoiuse with you if you really want yo help him but let him go if he wants to.

glasgow_bunny	NO!! not a good idea If he is serious to stop then he should go to a rehab! take him there! he could hurt you when he freaks out!

DONNAIS	If it were one of my kids i would give them 24 hours lock, seven days a week up till every last bit was out of their system. Sounds cruel i know and it would be tough and horrifying but through every scream and cry i know i would be saving their life. Thats the definition of being cruel to be kind. If someone you love is heading towards death you act now.

Fluorescent	No, no and thrice NO!!!! You are not qualified to deal with this. He may become ill or get violent when you deny him heroin. He needs to visit a professional rehabilitation clinic. I fyou reallya re a good friend, send him straight to the doctor who will be able to help him. You cannot do this alone.