Drug users - how can you cope?

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richmorecock	look in white pages for Narcotics Anonymous and seek their help Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sheila	He will have to want to stop, himself. He will use you and others if he can. Try not to let him. Losing things is a part of it. Coping.............stay strong yourselves. If he ever gets to stop he will need help then. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

amelia_0405	my dad was a drug addict he quit a few times but that still didnt help hes dead now. Theres nothing u can do for him unless he want to change sorry Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Angela W	four out of my five family memebers are drug addicts/alcoholics.... unfortunatly the only way to "help" is to let them fall... if you try and help them when they don't want help it only makes matters worse. I can say to always be there for them, physically... if they are showing signs of wanting help, that is the best thing, becasue they know you will be there to help them b stong enough to get through it when needed. But Dont ever support their habit in giving them money or taking them somewhere to get it... like i said before.. let them fall... one day they will figure it out Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

justsomeone	until he is ready for help, all you can do is pray. i have a brother who was an addict, one brother still struggling. i also have a cousin recovering and going through drug court now. pray without ceasing every day, all day. it is very, very hard for the family to helplessly watch from the sidelines. my prayers are with you and your family, and of course your brother. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

?	I'm not afraid to admit that my family has to deal with me. They've put me through several counseling programs, and just do their best to not exclude me from the family but at the same time, not ignore the problem. Trust me, your brother needs you and wants your help more than anything, no matter what he says. Just try to put yourself in his shoes and imagine how hard it must be. Because it's not easy. Best wishes :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ask the aliens!	Your biggest obstical here is that he wont admit to having a problem and has made it clear he does/ wont change get advice from your doctor and from one of many websites and organisations. Good luck I hope it all works out and keep us posted I know what is like my dad was taking drugs due to cancer he didnt see why he should give up so I hope you have better luck than my dad did. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Black Rainbow	Usually people with drug problems don't admit they have a problem. And they refuse help. You can't force someone into getting help otherwise it wont work because they aren't ready to quit. Sorry...but you're just going to have to accept it for now until he wants the help. Good Luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Corndolly	Hello, Family and friends are often the ones who feel the biggest impact when someone they love and care for is destroying themselves. Help and support is available for them too, so they can start to look after themselves and not just the person with the addiction. Try this website www.adfam.org.uk or you can telephone for help and advice on free phone 0800 776600. I feel very sorry for your mother and you and I pray your brother will see sense soon Good Luck Tina Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

PennyAnn	Dear Oinky, Speaking from 12 years as a Military Police. And having seen way to many lives destroyed by this sort of thing… It’s unfortunate to have to say this but if your brother isn’t ready to stop, there is vary little you and your parents can do for him. An intervention followed by a week or so of detox at a hospital MAY snap him back to reality… But “May” is the operative word hear… So be prepared for failure. For NOW I'm more concerned for yourself and your parents. This is NOT an easy ting for you, or them to be dragged into. 1. Make certain your brother KNOWS you still love him and will do what you can to HELP… BUT stand up to him and his addiction. His addiction will attempt to take advantage of that love. 2. Seek out a "Friends And Family Of Addicted Persons" support group for both yourself and your parents. I know it sounds hokey… But it really dose help. a. There are both on line and local versions of such groups in most cities. b. IF there is no such group in your area… Start one. Advertise it in the appropriate Yahoo groups. 3. Let us know how YOU are doing ok? Hugs, PennyAnn Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Melek	Just be there for him and keep an eye out for him. He has to want to quit, no one can make him. Let him know when he's ready to stop you will be there for him through his recovery (which could take years) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Zoe	I have known a couple of 'users' and it seems that they have to truly hit rock bottom before they show any signs of wanting to change. While people give them money, food, roof over their heads, friendship etc... they carry on in their own little world. I had a friend who came to me and my husband for help and we spent a long time and much effort trying to help him, ... but it turned out that he was only pretending to want help to get his girlfriend off his back. It was sickening. He would lie to our faces about being clean and even ask us for money. I don't know what to suggest other than the tough love approach. Hope and Pray that he will reach a point when he can't take the lifestyle any more and want to change, you can't make him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nova	I was a heroin addict for many years, so I can tell you there is nothing you can do for your brother until he relises he has a problem and then actually wants to do something about it. im sorry for you because i know what I put my own family through. Iv been clean for years and detest all drugs now but it took me a while to get there. I hope it all works for your brother. But my main advice would be : dont give up on him, theres every chance he'll come through it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nev	I have worked with addicts in the past. Unfortunately there is little that anyone can do to help unless he makes an effort for himself. It is usually harder for the family than it appears for the addict. You will have seen the changes and a degree of deceit, some people have possessions stolen and crime will be the center of activity. There are agencies who will provide support for family and friends. Ask your GP for advice. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No