Patti C
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The counselor is acting inappropriately. If this was my counselor I would see someone else and break off all ties with him or her.
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luckistrike
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It wouldn't bother me as long as it wasn't too personal.
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JustMaybe
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Sounds like your counselor needs therapy of his or her own. This person is using "friendly contact" to show you who is boss. This means they lack respect for you so they can not will not respect your boundaries. Dump this person and move on to a healthy counselor. If you decide to confront them and they respond with friendly apologies, don't fall for it. The person is covering their butt to avoid being reproted for ethics violation. Remember counselors work for you. If you told your mechanic not to use a certain oil or cleaner in your car, and they kept doing it, would you keep going to them? Dont let this person continue messing with your head. Move on quickly.
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Shannon V
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i would feel very uncomforable and since you told them not to this and they continue. its an ethics issue and you should report them to the clinic that they are affiliated with. i would also find another counselor to go to as with this situation going on i'm sure you are feeling somewhat hesitant about talking about personal issues with them. take care
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Remember Charlie
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They usually ,will not do that.What is their concern.
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MR R SOLE
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For many counsellors this is there job to check on you. Visits are part of the profession. If you are feeling the visits are of an unprofessional manner, you can write a letter of complaint to the senior management of that particular department.
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abfabmom1
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I would feel as if I were being stalked.
It's entirely unprofessional to be contacting one's clients on a personal basis. Additionally, after clarification that the contact is unwelcom, it is bordering on illegal.
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debra_har
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Well if they were asked not to and continued to do so and it is not a tx plan issue I would feel a little weirded out......stalked even.
If you are the recipient then do not let this continue and get ot of hand...report to someone please!
If you are the stalker you should back off and check your ethical responsibilities.....get some help yourself!
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Big Bear
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Yes it would, and it is totally against the law and code of ethics they have. I'd report him or her immediately.
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leanhaumshee
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I would feel like prey.
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maggie
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Find a new counselor and then report him or her to the mental health association.
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sangita 52
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I had a good councelor, now she has become my good friend.
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Ironball
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I would assume he/she cared for my well being.
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jennifer m
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BOARD ASSOCIATION
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danikalepage
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I would be @##$%$#@ off to say the least. i would then report this person to their superior and find another counselor. especially since you asked them not to. if your counselor can not respect boundaries perhaps they need to work on that with their own counselor.
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Yes, it would bother me. That is very unprofessional behavior. I stopped going to a counselor once because he was overly friendly during the sessions. If he had ever contacted me outside the office, I would have been a little nervous.
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Kelly,TX
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I would be researching Harrasment.. Thinking on a restraining order.. That person sound really weird.. Weird sometimes is dangerous.. Watch Out!!
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jose m
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not really just respond to it if u want sooner or later u will see what are her or his intensions never take everything bad n dont take everything good intill u are at least 90 percent sure dont assume things
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toetagproductions
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After my mother passed away I got a call from my counselor that I had stopped seeing years ago. He offered his condolences and encouraged me to see him if I needed to talk. I think he was sincere and not just trying to drum up business....I know he is always busy and doesn't need to see me. I guess its OK
If they persist then I would get another councilor or possibly a lawyer.
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timetraveller
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If you don't want this attention and it persists you need to report the person and have their liscence revoked...if it continues after that have a court order for it to stop...But if you really want it to stop why are you seeing this person on a professional basis...Personaly if my therapist was lavishing such attention on me I'd be happy and ask for more.
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crps_1964
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yes this is unethical unless yopu are haviong a lot of problems and agree to a home phone calls It could be illegal are they pressuring you to h jionma program or group? Often 12 step consleores do this as a way to get new mmebrs into 12 step grouips it is very unproffssional call your state licenscing regulatory agency about this .They can help
I woild suggest you seek ut a new conselor ASAP anmd interview themvrember they work for you if youaare not comfortable on yourfrist visit there isagood reasn your instics are usually right .
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Robster01
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Personally it would make me feel like they cared more about me. Every therapist/psyche doctor I have ever seen as a patient has made me feel that receiving my money was more important than helping me through my mental problems. Judging by my experiences, this is why therapy gets people mostly nowhere other than further in dept, more depressed, and likely to finally give up, which in most respects I have.
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robert h
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no cuz it cool to get help
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M B
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And if you were the counselor wouldnt you be offended that when you were nice to someone they blabbed all over the internet about it?
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Lindsey
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What kind of counselor are you talking about? Are you talking about a psychologist or a psychiatrist? If so, your "counselor" may have stepped over the line when you made it clear that you didn't want him or her to contact you outside of the office visits.
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Jen
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I wish my counselor would do that. If I were you and I had already asked that it be stopped and it didn't stop, I would switch counselors.
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Psy.D.
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If he or she is a psychologist or a psychiatrist, then this would be unethical and would breach the APA Ethical Standards for Psychologists. If you have asked him or her not to do so, then this is also an unethical maneuver. Personal contact not related to therapy constitutes a "Multiple Relationship" and the therapist would be playing a "Dual Role." As such, if this has occured, the therapist should be informed that this is unacceptable, a switch of therapists may be in order, and a possible report to the APA or ApA would be warranted.
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Speedo Inspector
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I believe that constitutes an ethics violation. I suggest you contact your state's licensing board. You may also check into harassment laws in your area. It seems as if you are being stalked.
Good luck.
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Goodbye
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That is very very unprofessional. And she should or could be fired. Your therapist, doctor etc is strictly professional and should no way interupt with your personal life. Creepy to me.
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Zholla
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I am afraid I know all too well that of which you speak.
We are speaking here of boundaries.
You made clear what your boundaries were.
In my opinion...if your counselor does not respect your boundaries....then he/she may not respect you as a person.
A counselor/therapist has a relationship with you. If friendship is what he/she is going for by ignoring your clearly defined boundaries...then there is a problem. There cannot be two kind of relationships. If there is a friendship there can be no professional relationship. If there is a professional relationship then there is no room for a friendship. And both types of relationships rely on both people respecting the boundaries of the other.
As my diagnosis is schizoaffective disorder...a hybrid mixture of schizophrenia and manic depression...I have experience with 'profesionals' who do honour my boundaries and those who do not. Those who don't...don't last long.
I have found myself in the past ...severely wounded by professionals seeking to satisfy unmet needs of their own childhood...at my expense. I remember the aftermath of one particular confrontation with a psychiatrist who lost his temper with me...and proceeded to berate me at length......mistakenly thinking I was challenging his authority. . I wept for hours....the tears flowing in a steady, unbroken stream throughout that time. I remember questioning myself...asking myself what was wrong with me...what was it about me that people found it easy to ignore my feelings...and how easy it was for them to justify their own actions...
This man not only used things I had told himin confidence against me...but was specific and vicious in violating my boundaries...
That one moment in time was a turning point for me. I used it to remove the psychiatrist from the pedestal I had placed him on.
I used the pain I felt...the betrayal I felt...to educate myself...on my own feelings and learned to treat myself as the warm and loving human being I was meant to be. I took to my therapy groups with a new fervor...threw myself into new ways of learning how to build myself up without delegating responsibility of my life to counselors, social workers, psychiatrists and therapists...outgrowing my need for the psychiatrist in question...and medication in general...I amnow medication free...and years a later I can speak of that particularly painful incident with none of the old emotion encoded in that memory.
Nowadays I look for professionals who have a security about themselves...that is independent of the relationship between me and her/him. If they are secure in themselves...they cannot later become insecure when I say something they do not agree with....and thus feel the need to violate the integrity of my personal space...by crossing my clearly defined boundaries.
I wish you the best in your search for your authentic self...and in learning how to stand up for the boundaries you define for yourself. And I hopethat you learn to use this violation...to turn this disadvantage into a learning lesson that will help propel you forward...and come more into your own as a sovereign human being.
Peace and blessings be upon you and yours.
Zholla.
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lighthouse_halo
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If you have requested them not to call or write you, then that's stepping over the line.I would write a note and mail certified to make sure the received it. Then take further steps if necessary. Switch counselors. They may be trying to just be friendly or show you they care. They still need to respect your privacy
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