Why do depressed people like to be mean and crude to others?

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Afg Legend	coz thats how they were treated. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bottom contributor	Because, understandably, they want other people to feel as bad as they do. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jenyfer J	First of all, you're wrong to generalize about ALL depressed people being mean and crude to others. Some are and some aren't.....just like you say, you know ONE person who takes painkillers recreationally (which BTW they shouldn't be doing). So my first word of caution, and I am speaking as someone who takes multiple antidepressants daily, don't generalize!! Secondly, those of us that are mean and crude sometimes (I do it myself occasionally when I'm in a mood) do it as a defense or coping mechanism. When things get to be too much for us to handle, we need to let things out and that's how we do it. Maybe it's not the best way but for some of us it's the way we handle it. I mean, here we are at work or a public place, dealing with people and we have a choice......we're overwhelmed and we have to deal with it......do we start crying, fall apart and retreat inside our little world (our heads).....or do we become mean and crude (which is more acceptable in public than crying or falling apart)? Defense mechanism....plain and simple. Does it make it right or easier for some people to deal with that aren't depressed?? Maybe not, but then it's alot harder to live everyday with depression than it is to deal with someone who is depressed, so I'm sorry that I don't sound very sympathetic. Depression sucks!!! We take meds basically FOREVER (alot of us), switching meds until we find the right ones or the right combination, we deal with our daily lives with depression hanging over our heads at all times, intruding on what we do when we least need it and can least deal with it. It's not fun and it's a real b*tch!!! I wish I didn't have to deal with it.....but that's my life and I deal with it the best way I know how. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lisa63094	most depressed people like to be left alone,it's not a matter of being mean and crude,it's a matter to try and get over this phase,but sometimes having other people around helps,at the right time,anti- depressants make u feel worse before you get better,it's like being drunk with out alcohol,u either become numb,or snappy,even aggressive,it's very difficult to understand if you don't suffer your self,so please don't judge,you never know what the future holds!! maybe its how you react to them,they need empathy and guidance,some one to lift their spirits,you will find their attitude can change but that's down to the individual Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jan m	they want other people to feel what they're going through Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Chicha800	its mostly because those people are the ones to blame, think about that instead of saying stupid things like cuz they feel crappy Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jc	Having taken psychology I can tell you there are numerous factors that can cause this. Bipolar disorder is one of the biggest contributors since those who have it go from being really happy to really sad or upset at different times. Overall the person is sick and it can also be caused by a chemical imbalances in the brain. Most feel better when they make others feel bad and don't care or realize it because their that sick. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ang253253	It's very sad but when people are down & depressed & I'm assuming it's very tough to be happy. I don't think that they mean to react in a crude way, perhaps just can't control their feelings. All we can do is try to understand them & if possible try to react in a friendly way. They are to be pitied. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cranestr	When the chemicals in the brain are not in the proper balance, the person may not be aware of thier own mood or how it affects others. Also when a depressed person is getting medical help, sometimes it takes a long time to find the right medicines to make things better. Some meds will make things worse and each one takes time to try and then evaluate if it is helping or not. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

RaeRae	It's not the fact that depressed people like to be mean to others. The fact is that it is their symptoms of depression that cause them to be more angry. Once you get a better understanding of depression and the symptoms that come with it, you will understand that the way these people are acting is not intentional at all. Also,alot of people take pain killers for recreation not just a person that is depressed. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Prav	Just that, because they are depressed. Depression does different things to different people. Circumstances leading to their depression also is a reason for their crude behaviour. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

reptile440	its because they want people to feel for them Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Hollister Girl!♥	because there depressed duh! mostly cuz they hear crap from people and they dont wanna here stuff they dont need to hear to just make them sad youve been depressed b4 ( everyone has those day) you should know how it is and that was sorta a stupid question because u know what the answers are going to be... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Voughn	I think it's because they are so unhappy and miserable with themselves they don't understand that what they are doing is not appropriate. Sufferers of depression tend to think being miserable is the norm and don't know what it means to be happy. Then again, I guess not all depressed people treat others badly. I'm not sure I'd agree with the concept of taking anti-depressants because I'm wondering if it actually changes the core behavioural affliction or just trying to numb the emotions. In the olden days people got over depression by getting on with life and not feeling sorry for themselves. Nowadays, it seems there is a name for everyone symptom of life attached with a prescription to 'cure' emotions and feelings. Attention Deficit Disorder is also medicated now. Before kids were just give taken out doors and told to get more active and ADD was over and done with. I think it'd be better to get back to basics and just deal with problems instead of getting drugged up on it. I'd say for people who feel sorry for themselves and chronic depressives is to go to a third world country to see what try depression and hell is - and hopefully this will wake them up and make them see that their life smells like a bed of roses compared to others. I knew a girl that was just so determined to make herself upset and also chose to see the down side of life. After two years of trying to help I just stayed away from her. Because if depressed people aren't willing to help themselves no one can. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

roxy123	because they are suffering maybe because many people were so mean to them and they want to be the mean person for once Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Deenie	I think sometimes it just comes out of your mouth before you can stop it. I was just thinking today about something I said to a kid in reaction to something he said that I misunderstood. To this day I wish I could take it back. the best thing to do it to try to IMMEDIATELY try to take it back..to say you're sorry..or that you didn't mean to say that. One lady said something bad to me one time and she immediately said."That wasn't me!!" lol It helped. Almost made me laugh. Maybe that person is being abused. It isn't "normal" to go around with a "smiley face" when you're being tortured. Maybe you can say.."Is there anything I can do to help..to make you feel better?" It's about empathy and compassion. If nothing else..why don't you tell them how it makes you feel when they are insensitive to YOUR feelings?! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tammy_suto	Sometimes, it may not be intentional. Some people who are depressed can be fine. Happy, nice and polite. Then in another second they can be snapping heads off. It's just a part of the depression. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lee	They see their world differently and think that the perception of their world is the same for others maybe. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

celestial-zen	That is a big sign of insecurity, they try to bring up the inperfections in others to take everyone's focus off theirs. They like to see others hurt because it makes them feel temporarily powerful. Bullies are so obviously being bulled at home or somewhere else and try to hide it by doing it back to others. Anger and being crude is just pain being bottled up too long. Look at how many kids go killing in random shootings and always the same story, they were being picked on, abused, etc. Sad but true. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Possum	I think that's a rather large generalisation to make and not true of all depressed people at all. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

"Wendy"	It's part of their disease. Depressed people don't want people to bother them or tell them what to do. They want to sit alone in the dark undisturbed. For the recreational pain killers, I'd say that person is addicted, and that's the reason for his or her mean and crude attitude. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

JustMe	That is a very generalizing question. I have suffered from very severe depression for years and I never lashed out at others...it was always inward. I think PEOPLE in general who act as you describe have hidden inner aggressions, something inside of them that needs to be dealt with and I doubt its always completely intentional...The moajority of depressed people I have met have never been as you've described. Most are quiet, keep to themselves, and polite..some deal with things differently though, but not all and no one wants to MAKE OTHERS FEEL LIKE THEY DO. I have laid in a coma due to my depression, over dosing, you think Id EVER wish ANYTHING even remotely CLOSE to that on even my worst enemy?? Of course not...I do what I can NOT to make others feel what Im feeling, or to even be effected by my disease. Its quite frustrating to read these responses from so many people who obviously do not understand at all...you shouldn't answer a question with an incorrect hunch, its insulting. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tamyprincipessa	people who are depressed have serious issues and often that is in their perception, you might think your being perfectly polite and nice to them, but people who are depressed might think your teasing them which is why they may answer rudely or cynically, also you have to remember they see the world differently, often in a very grim light the drugs (antidepressants) also alter the moods and often cause negative side effects which is why a person taking them might not appear to be getting better and continue to be 'crude' and mean Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

its_brryan	If you hated your life, you would be mean too. Most people who are depressed just like to be alone and quiet, but I guess when people don't understand that they are upset and pretty much force them to talk, they would get a little bit testy. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

luvacat3	Tamyprin gave a great answer. I have depression and am not usually mean to others (and never crude) but I do think everyone hates me or are out to get me, and it is possible I am not always so nice when I am under extreme pressure from depression/bipolar mixed moods. It does indeed seem that people mean to be nasty to me, when all they are trying to do is cheer me up. So I'd say, give them a break, if the depression is pretty bad. But you are REALLY OVERGENERALIZING. Most people with depression are not nasty. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

waia2000	It's not good to over-generalize. I'm depressed and very nice to others. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Leprechaun of Jupiter	thats a wrong statement i'm depressed and wont bother anybody Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Bean Blogged	Because they're in a depressed state of mind. They look at life from a different perspective than those who aren't depressed. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nightwolfredx	no they dont. they are mostly quiet. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

in the know	How can you be nice to others, if you cannot even be nice to yourself. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

BeautifulxxLie	Misery loves company. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No