Why am i so miserable?

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jenah_leigh	U dont need a doctor. U need to let go and quit trying to control everything Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sheryl R	Every living person has a hole inside them that can only be filled w/the love of God (Jesus). check out http://www.e-sword.net for a free, legitimate copy of the Holy Bible, & http//www.billygraham.org Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

krumenager	If you live in the Northern Hemisphere you are in Winter season now. Maybe is SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder). Vitamin D and excercize could help. If it's really bugging you seek medical attention. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

shanney fan	First off, a lot is two words, not one. There don't you feel better already learning something new? Depression doesn't just "go away." Consult your doctor. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Gizmo	Try some laughter therapy. Comedy channels are goos to get you going. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kc	Babe, my heart goes out to you. You are very miserable indeed, and you might well know why, but it may be too painful to face it. It's not easy to be a single mum. We go through ups and downs, and we have to be so strong at the same time. You say that this man really "likes" you. Not loves you. Is he a friend, or a boyfriend? Would you like more from him? We need someone to be strong for us; Sometimes, it happened that I didn't want to think. Make decisions. I wish someone would do it for me. So, I make sure I get some "me" time. children in bed at a reasonable time and then I can cry all I want. Also, I have decided this year, after having enjoyed myself selfishly for a while, to do lots with my two children, and try and see what they could do to make them happy. It works for me too. They're busy, so I get a small break; Plus, I know they're having fun:So, it makes me feel good. By taking them to whereever they're going I can see people, exchange a word or two with them. It makes me come alive again. And I'm also doing a sport, just not to think too much and relax the tension of the week. You do need to be spoilt now and again. You need to have the responsibilities aside for a little while, and do something really just for yourself sometimes. Also, crying is not always a bad thing. It allows to get rid of the stress. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chewystuff	I think you're fantastic! How the heck do do study and bring up kids whose purpose in life seems to be destroying their mum's abitilty to think.( Everybodies kids not just yours) No wonder you've got a fella he can obviously spot a gem when he sees one. Your repoductive cycle has probably got something to do with how you feel, not to mention it is the worst time of year. It's half term soon which will be a mixed blessing, try to pamper youself a bit even if it's only an uninterrupted bath or a visit to the hairdressers. I wish I'd got qualified when I was a single mum, you are setting a brilliant example to them and should be very very proud of youself. I hope you feel better soon, good luck with your studies, you kids and your man. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jinx	go to the doctor and get checked out . you might need a tonic as you are probably run down . try and get a bit of rest each day and treat yourself to little things . Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Emma S	i feel sorry for you!!maybe you could askj your pharmacist about maybe taking some light anti-depressants??? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

devil weed	because people today expect to much, and the harder you work to get all these things you see on t.v. and what society tells you you must have, the worst you are going to feel, maybe you have thousands of dollars in the bank, but i DOT it. being in dept can cause a person to be unhappy, being so busy that you don't have time to eat right and exercise will cause you to be tired and unhappy. and it takes more time than they say to really eat right and take care of your self. people have forgot about really preparing meals and consuming quality food, now people eat processed foods, caned foods stuff like that, maybe that's not you i don't know, try eating organic foods, raise a garden, exercise, being tired all the time is a sign of depression and so is crying, i am not going to tell you what you should do because i don't no what is best for you, you need to take time out to find your self and i no that sounds silly but its true, i don't want to recommend meds because i believe allot of depression is caused from are environment that we are selves create change your environment and it makes you feel better, but meds are good to i would see a doctor. i hope this helped you, i am just saying how i feel being a person that all so suffers from depression. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

little flower	you dont say what age you are but it could be your hormones go get a blood test Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mkandfa4rever	you have depression and ask your doctor to give you Zoloft i take it too and it helps Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

meeno	yes you definatley have depression, go to see your doctor and explain it all before it really affects your family life. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

~Kitana~	You have depression! If there is no obvious reason for this unhappiness then that's what it is. It is clinical, you have a lack of certain chemicals in your brain making you feel like this. Ive been there, I was given seroxat - they were great! Please go see your doctor, youre doing great being able to look after kids and run a household and study! I didn't have half that when I decided to leave my abusive marraige, just a great boy to look after which kept me going. It's not your enviroment or life thats doing this to you, you have a medical condition. You know you don't have to be dependant on them, just when you know youre getting better, wean yourself off them, as I said youve done great with your life, this is not something youve been able to help or control, its a chemical change in your body. Good luck. x Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

maxy	hi Claire, It really does seem as if you are clinically depressed. Its something you will have no control over so the Great life you say you have will not make any difference. You are an amazing person to be able to cope with everything you are doing and that is something you really should be so proud of. Maybe you do just need to recharge the baterries abit, i mean who wouldn't!! Maybe you could go and see your G.P for a general chat and then between you you can decide if is depression or just feeling low. I know some people do not like to take medication but it really does help to sort out the chemical imbalance in the brain. I know some people put a stigma on depression but they are just ignorant cos its an ilness like anything else and can be helped by taking the right medication. Is you dont fancy that then St Johns Wort is an excellent natural remedy that can be purchased from health shops and chemists and really can give you a lift. Try to take more excersise and time out for your self although i know it is hard with all your commitments. You dont say if you have a good support network of family and friends but talk to them if you have cos that can be a great help. Take care of your self and be proud. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mutly	it honestly sounds like you're battling with depression, possibly because of the lack of sunlight. (affects a lot of people this time of year) there a few things you can try: Find a "sun" lamp. It's supposed to help people feel better when they're lacking exposure to light. Get some Vitamin D (which is aquired from the sun naturally but you can also get it from milk or at wal-mart in the vitamin section) Take some time for your self. You don't say how old your kids are, but juggling them and school can't be easy. Try to find some time for yourself, even if it's just taking a nice, hot bubble bath once a week. Or hiding in your room with a book for an hour. Another thing that can help is physical exersion. If your kids are into sports offer to take them to the park and practice with them. If they're not or too young for that take them for a walk. When I was little my mom used to take my siblings and I for picnics once a week (weather permitting) and we'd have dinner and then feed the ducks. If they're old enough to play on the playground take them to the park and play with them. That's a win-win situation. You're spending time with your kids but you're also getting some exercise. The other important thing is to make sure you're eating right. A lot times when people start getting depressed their appetites go bye-bye. But if you eat right it will help you feel better and give you more energy. Hope that helps. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cocoa	Claire, not everyone has an event or problem that leads to them feeling low. And the fact that you feel you have a pretty good life at the moment is probably making you feel worse as you can;t understand it. To me, it sounds like you are depressed, though not to the extent that you were for 15 years. There are free online tests you can do to find out if you are depressed, and also message boards to talk to people experiencing similar problems. I think you should really go and tell your doctor. It's the best way to get a bit of extra support while you're feeling unhappy, and may stop you from reaching the level you were at for 15 years. That would be the worst thing as you've done amazingly well to get through it. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

maddie	ask your gp for a psych refferal. your depression has gone on for too long and a psychotherapist could help you change your way of thinking. good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

The Great Escape	This can be a depressing time of year. Try and plan something happy for the future (eg a holiday) so you have something to look forward to. Also, try to make some time just for yourself Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

JAYBEEZ M	Sounds as if you need some you time. Life gets tough, work, study, Kids. Everyone placing demands on you, one way or another Try and find someone to mind the kids while you go and do something for yourself. Have you thought it may be down to a viral infection, low iron or something? I sympathise right now I feel as if I could sleep for a week, but hey theres the kids to sort out, the house to clean...... Mines mostly down to an impending amount of stress which is non avoidable. Hope you feel better soon. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Daniel K	You didn't mention seeing a doctor. Do it. Depression is a treatable illness. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Shelty K	Well you sound like you are on the threshold of a new bout of depression . But there is hope! You know you have everything to feel happy about. There is part of the answer your FEELING of happiness. Embrace it and cry for being HAPPY. One of the latest approaches to controlling depressive feelings is Light Therapy. Get a spotlight, the type used to illuminate photographic models. first thing in morning when you get out of bed turn this light on and bathe in its glow and warmth for 20 mins. Do this 3 times a day if possible. Repeat this for up to 4 weeks and note how different you are feeling. I have used this with some of my own patients and the results have been astounding. So now i pass this research on to you so that you too can benefit from this simple process and get your life back on track Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

harman8787	Just making a phone call to a counselor in an attempt to make an appointment made me feel incredibly better. Give it a whirl. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

gillypop	Hi this sounds like depression but pop along to your g.p and speak to him , i have suffered also from depresson for years and had a similar experience about 12 months ago and the tiredness was down to glandular fever i had just labelled it depression again but despite doing everything i had in the past and i did not feel better prompted me to see my gp and thats when i was diagnosed with glandular fever so take care and get it checked as the tirednesss is terribly distressing in itself and can trigger off the depression Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

richard_beckham2001	There true signs of depression, get to your doctor asap. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Bent Coppa	Sorry to hear you`re feeling so blue..Tired and tearful are symptons of depression so maybe it could be worth talking to your GP to see if they can help..If that`s not your bag then one of the high street herbal shops might suggest a natural remedy to kind of pick you up. You sound like a very busy lady and I admire all that you`re doing, would it be possible to take a few days break and get some ME time? Yes you may have a lot to feel happy about but that doesn`t detract from the fact you feel sad. Things will turn around, it may take a while but the sun is out there waiting to shine on you. Good luck. I wish you joy and peace. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

doodlebip	Hey girl tell me about it. Im a single mum of two kids and have a baby on the way. The difference is ive finished Uni last November so im a bit bored now!! But I can sooooo relate to how you are feeling, I mean before I read this, I was just sitting thinking how utterly horrible it is to know im lucky with all that I have yet still feel rubbish...kinda makes you feel guilty. I have suffered with depression also from my early teens and have come off meds for it about 6 months ago...its a constant worry for me that im sinking back into the depths, especially now that im pregnant. Id love to be able to just feel fab about everything....my kids are great, i have enough money to feed and clothe them and myself, yet there is this pool of discontent. Its truly awful feeling this way and all I can say is although im not in a position to advise you I wanted you to know that you are NOT alone in this!!! Hope you are feeling better soon....goodluck hunnie xx Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

*********	From experience I find life has a strange way for us to go through stages that we least expect. I would think it's maybe YOUR TOTALLY EXHAUSTED FROM EVERYTHING. It sounds like you work very hard and it's understandable considering you lead a such a busy life.. Anyways, I hope soon you'll be back to happy self. I hope this helps? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

spoofred	go and have a little chat with ur doctor hon it will hopfully help i know how u feel coz i went thru the same thing a few weeks ago and it turned out my depression was back (dammit lol) ill keep my fingers crossed for u and if u want a chat just email me good luck xxxx Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

oddball59	Actually, this does sound like the beginning of depression. I recognise it only too well as I have recurrent depression. Often it's others who spot it first while you're there just trying to cope with everything. I think you need to force yourself to slow down for a while and nip this in the bud. You must seek help from friends and family so that you get good breaks in your very busy schedule. It is essential. When you take a break, really spoil yourself, do things that you really enjoy and that help you to relax. I used to always say I was too busy to take a break....then the inevitable would happen. Get some well deserved rest...you deserve it and you have earned it! Best wishes. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Hoolia	Depression is nasty. Just when you think you got it under control, it does something else. You're tired, tearful, and busy. You are a single mom and a full time student, each of which qualifies as a full time job with full time stress. If you want to "rest for a while," that is what you need to do. You've got way too many things on your plate and you are so exhausted that you don't even know that or even how you got there. If you don't take a break soon, you may experience a relapse into deeper depression. That is a reality for people who have it. You need to accept this fact and then do something about it. Let the children's dad have them more often, leave them with your man more or let them stay at your mom's house for awhile. There is nothing wrong with giving yourself some time. Its not selfish. Its the reality of having depression. You have to take care of yourself. If you don't, you will end up in a hospital somewhere and locked in. If you are having suicidal thoughts, you need to get yourself to a counselor or someone who can help you. This is not a joke. This is your life we are talking about, because you know depression has the ability to kill you. This is a fact. The only way to help yourself is to take care yourself. This means not pushing yourself past your breaking point. If you are crying, exhausted and feeling depressed at the same time that you have the responsibilities of single motherhood and full time student, you are running yourself into the ground. STOP DOING THIS RIGHT NOW. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No