The Monk
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choosing a psychiatrist should be done with great care. he is someone who would know ur complete history & if not choosen correctly he may misuse the info.
i think u should complain against him.
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MISSY G
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Poor you i don't think you were exaggerating, don't ever see this man again try someone else, good luck
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me
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thats why I never go to therapists. they are always trying to hug something or someone. guess they never really checked into how not to invade one's private space. they are just ......... creepy.
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spaceman
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No i dont think that he should have made any contact with you as he is in a place of trust and any way if you felt it was not appropraite then it was not.
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.x.jodee.x.
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Why would a psychiatrist do that when his career is in jeopardy?
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l_schoger
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Wow, yes, you might even be hallucinating, the last thing a doctor wants to do is make a patient sue his or her *** over being touchy feely like what you described.....
And the first session? You sound very disturbed to me, but I'm not a psychiatrist, though. I would try to find a female psychiatrist and see if the same delusions happen again in that situation.
Males are sometimes scary, especially when in clinical or authoritative roles, but what you descibe sounds like vivid imagination, especially when relating your past, limited as it is to us......
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Dr. A
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its quite a shock as it occured to you, but its difficult to comment if it was part of his therapy in your problem management or not as i am not aware of your past history. but may be he was trying to get rid of the fear you are beholding of letting strangers near you. its quite unnatural to live your life isolated, and so most likely he wanted to help you. try and take it positively. people have bad experience, but we try to put them past us. you try the same. sorry for whatever happened to you in the past,but always be close to someone whom you can talk to comfortably.
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cheek_of_it_all
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You are obviously detached, human contact even with a stranger brings you back into the fold, your not alone, etc...
I guess your over sensitive, if you don't like physical contact, then it is best for you just to offer a handshake.
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Mike T
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You're not pathetic nor are you over exaggerating. What he did was a breach of trust, and a seriously stupid, pointless, move if he was even vaguely aware of your past. I would have thought a professional would have known better than that.
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fionarwilkinson
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he is not aloud to hug you.
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Babenco
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I think u should report him. Even if u think u r being silly if he made u feel that uncomfortable then you have cause to complain.
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bensy
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Find another doctor. discuss this
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Popcorn_Miyu
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I understand what you mean. I would react that way too if ever that happened to me. It seems to me that that psychiatrist needs to see a psychiatrist. That could be an expression of affection but I understand how you were scared of the physical contact. However, seeing a new one is a lot better. You'd better avoid meeting this man again and try to forget it. I don't think its an exaggeration, I mean things like this can really happen. I hope you'll get over this in time.
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hobbesjohnson
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I have heard of counselors who think a hug is the best medicine, and I always think this is inappropriate...I don't think it is something you need to "report" as it isn't inappropriate for everyone, and isn't against any set rules, but if you were uncomfortable (and it sounds like you were on many levels, not just the hug thing) then you should seek another doctor.
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jacko
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He may well have been testing your reaction, to gauge how serious your condition was, so don't misinterpret! See www.1-800-therapist.com and examine it closely. Get a female therapist, and tell her to warn you, if she wants to touch you.
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Where's that pesky fraggle?
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No it is not appropriate at all, totally not allowed, regardless of your past experiences.
I would make a complaint, this should be addressed to the director of clinical services for you local NHS trust.
PALS (patient advice liasion service) can help you with this, your GP should be able to give you the number.
Of course all of this is assuming you are in the UK??
Good luck
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LucyLaLa
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Wow,this was not right at all,a Dr has no need to hug u and shouldnt expesially when its ur first time seeing him..I cant believe he did that what a tool, there is nothing wrong with patting your shouder or givi ng it a squeese but not what he did and the way he did it was very bad and not thoughtfull to how u would feel or take it at all.
I have seen psychiatrist in the past and no matter what not one has done that to me..He had no thought to how it would make u feel,it was not proper..Pls take care and only ever go to see a Dr that your comfortable with ,if u feel awkward its time to find a new Doc..
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srracvuee
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if you were sent to this psychiatrist by your GP then i suggest you tell him exactly what happened but if you went to this man through another source report him to the hospital authorities he was out of order and he could go further next time taking advantage of your vulnerability//if you feel you don't wish to report to the people i have mentioned then report him to the police
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minx_vs_pheonix
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Really not sure i think it is most probably your insecurities making you think the worst.... he probably did meant to give you a hug but realised it was turning into an awkwark moment and didnt know what to do... face up to men more in a calmer way and youll see there not so scary and not all of them are preditary creatures
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sophie b
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You didnt overexaggerate- you got a fright.
Its hard to say whether or not he was in the wrong without seeing what happened but you need to remember that this man is a PSYCHIATRIST.
He understands human behaviour and should totally understand why you reacted the way you did.
It would be differant if you did it to a reletive or friend.
I think this man was openly trying to comfort or reassure you-especially since you said the session was so tough.
If anybody will understand why you panicked, he will.
If you still nervous about it, maybe think about changing psychiatrists.
If not, the next time you see him, explain that you just panicked.....You'll probably end up laughing about it.
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Gloria182
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Go and see another psychiatrist next time, preferably a woman. Get a referral. You don't want to see someone that you feel uncomfortable with. Don't worry about this further - you'll probably never see him again and it is now in the past. Remember: he sees patients on a daily basis with more serious reactions (people that think they are someone famous, etc). He'll forget about it in no time.
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chrism92661
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I would think someone in his position should have been empathic enough to get the idea coming on so strong (and from behind!) might not have been a good idea and after that point he sure as hell should have been able *AT LEAST*; to pick up on what he was doing to you quick enough to back off before freaking you out so much.
The way you describe the incident doesn't really sound exaggerated. Just sounds like more reason to find someone who isn't oblivious to your state of mind.
...and what the fsck kind of friends do you have? They sound like a waste.
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letterstoheather
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if this really happened, REPORT HIM to the american medical association!! and DO NOT see him again.
also tell your parents.
this is inappropriate behavior, it's abuse and it's uncalled for. no one has the right to touch you, unless you invite them to... and a medical professional should know better.
find another psychiatrist...
you are not over exaggerating.
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pullthetrigger
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I think that was totally inappropriate. that's horrible for you and probably putting his job at risk. i doubt they're even allowed to touch you are they? but even if he genuinely meant it as a nice friendly hug, for him to approach you like that, knowing your past, was inconsiderate. you're gonna be in a fragile state of mind after your past experiences and after dragging it all up to tell him about it.and i can't believe your friend laughed! i definitely don't think you're over-exaggerating, and i'm glad to hear you'll be seeing a different psychiatrist.
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samhillesq
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I would file assault charges for him putting his hands on me, maybe then people like him will stop taking advantage of vulnerable people, at least report him in writing to the AMA and the BBB for starters. the assault charge will probably do the trick, it will be your word against his but you sound pretty convincing to me, go for it!
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Slim Whitman
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Not appropriate on his part at all. Crossing boundaries is something some therapists do. I was a CD counselor and touching a client is NEVER OK.
There was a school of thought 2-3 decades ago that held the physical contact was important in the client bonding and attachment process.
I know one guy still, who is a director of a men's halfway house that lost his license to practice because of inappriate touching of female clients. Counselors are required ethically to pay heed to boundary issues. Those who don't are often ousted from the field and subjegated to administrative position. The old adage is sh*t floats, truly holds water in the MH field.
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Mickmalimus
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Hell no you are not over exaggerating, I know nothing about psychiatry but that seems like a breach of what ever guidelines are set in the industry. Your dentist wouldn't do that.
I think you should see a different psychiatrist and ask HER whether that was right or not.
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wolfmettle
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I'm not sure.Maybe it was a technique he was using to aid you.You'll have to speak to another psychiatrist about it - they should know all the ins and outs of conduct.
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chuckna21
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I'm sorry for your experience and you should know that any unwanted physical contact, or pressure by a health professional to engage in physical contact, is not appropriate.
Also, there's a Check Spelling function...I would use it (that's the stickler side of me talking)
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Plato
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This was both inappropriate and unprofessional.
As you said, if he really felt you needed a hug, he could have asked you if you wanted one or at least indicate he was going to do it.
I would not go back to this guy. He has already blown his credibility!
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pmcd26
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In all my years of working as a male in a health profession i have been hugged a number of times, but i have never initiated the hug. The man is inappropriate, and is either a) stupid b) completely unaware (which means he is innaffective if he is not self-aware or c) preying on vunerability which is against practicing codes of behaviour. Either speak to him direct and inform him of his inappropriate behaviour or follow a complaints procedure. If you feel he has crossed the line, he has crossed the line.
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