less than jake
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thendral
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I'm really sorry for what has happened to you, but at the same time angry for bearing with this kind of a thing for all these years. you should have sought the help of someone who s reliable.k its nt too late don't lose hope seek the help of human rights commission. fight against them.i know its very tough but you have to. you cannot lose yourself like dis. stand up u don't want anyone's support u are capable of doin this. dnt brood over the past think wt is your future gonna be. its never too late. evrything is gonna be alrite.
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unloved_devil_child
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Omg that is terrible i can total understand how your feeling right now, You seem like a really caring person, your sister and cousins need you, you all need each other and you all need to get away from these 2 disgusting anf mentally ill men. You've been extremely brave 1) by coming on here and talkin about this and 2) by going to the police to get some justice, I will warn you that it will be difficult but if you all stick together you can all get through this and i hope that you all get justice. I'm here for you if you want to talk just send me an email.
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Kevin B
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One suggestion is to get to a psychiatrist as soon as possible. You likely have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder on top of clinical depression. There are effective medications and therapies that can help you through this.
If you're unable to work because of your condition, seriously consider applying for SSDI. PTSD and Depression are both considered to be disabilities, and you may be able to get a monthly check from Social Security if your impairment prohibits you from working. The process of getting SSDI takes a while, however. Telling the debt collectors that you are disabled right now may get them off your back for a while.
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Daisy
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i am not sure how old you are now and what state you are in...i think you need to get yourself out of that house though because it sounds as if you are still in there...did you call the police or child welfare? are your sisters in foster care or have they been protected? are you now in a safe place? i am genuinely interested and concerned...i am not sure what state you are in so i cannot access services which may be able to assist you...if you would like to email me...feel free and we can discuss it further...i may be able to help...if not at least i can listen and try to help you sort this out...
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maritalapalm
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tough situation...
you need to get government assistance - check into unemployment, social security assistance for disability if you can't currently work, food stamps, housing assistance - they can help you with all of that, even with finding a job.
next you need to take care of yourself emotionally, and that will mean counseling and maybe even some meds to help pull you through. see community mental help or lutheran social services, etc.
you could use support - i recommend googling sexual abuse support and you will get groups such as this: http://www.sssalas.com/EmotionalHealing.html
you can find people who can help you who have already been through the same thing. Keep your chin up, you are being strong in spite of all you have been through.
i guess from your earlier question you are in the uk - the dwp might be able to help + nhs
http://www.dwp.gov.uk/
http://www.nhs.uk/Pages/index.html
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wow
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you have come out through a lot and as everything problems have their solutions. but try to stay with a friend and try to forget the past because what is the help in it
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fefe
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.The only way to stop this is to do everything in your power to put this barstard away. This kind of abuse is usually about power..
Take back the power that he took from you.
Stay strong.
I am not really qualified to help you but i think that being successful in life is a great way of getting back at this person. Show him he cant ruin your life and stop the cycle.
I wish you all the best.
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cheryl c
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sOME MEN PREY ON THE INNOCENCE OF THEIR VICTIMS.
you must remain strong in your resolve.
You and a million other young people fall victims to these scum like creatures.
its unfortunate but its the way of the world.
i wish i could talk to you directly but i will try to say something that will help you.
Sexual abuse is a mans way of dominating a girl. You should proceed with the charges and feel good about it because its the olny way you will get any closure.
THESE MEN ARE PREDATORS AND NEED TO BE STOPPED.
You didnt do anything wrong and it will take time for you to realize that.
You must stay strong and find something that you are interested in to take your mind off these things.
I want to hug you and say its going to be easy but you and I know that that is not the case.
Try contacting a support group for sexually molested young people.
Do you have life line in your country or the salvation army.
THEY WILL BE ABLE TO HELP YOU
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michele
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You and the other family victims would be well served to start the process of filing a joint CIVIL SUIT against your perpetrator right now. Statutes of limitations can be unfairly harsh in these circumstances. You grandfather's criminal convication may or may not ever come to pass (unfortunately). You may, however (eventually - but you must see this only as a long term goal) have some success in suing your gf (yes, I said suing) for reparations (e.g., paying for your therapy bills as well as pain-and-suffering).
IN the meantime, get yourself into therapy. IN the USA, there are myriad community mental health resources to which you need to avail yourself. Get started now. It won't be easy, but it will be worth it.
Hang in there,
~M~
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jay boy
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I can totally relate to you as the same happened to me as a child except it wasn't a family member who did it, it was a neighbour. You`ve done the right thing by telling the police as this will stop it from happening to someone else. You have to be strong and keep at it for the sake of other possible victims. If you give up then you are leaving others at risk. As for the finances go and see your GP and tell them the full story. They should give you some anti depressants and possible counselling. They will give you a medical certificate and then you can arrange an appointment via phone to claim benefits. If you need to talk please mail me. Don't give up.
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telboy everton forever
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oh i am so sorry to hear of your plight you must try to get away from this monster,have you told your doctor about this and social services as these may help you to find a place to live then try and get over the depression and find a new job to help you get out of debt ,i wish you the best of luck
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proud walker
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First get your problems divided up into manageable sections. The citizen's advice bureau can help getting your debts sorted out.
You can tell any debt collectors that they are committing an imprisonable offence under the Administration of Justice Act 1970 also Harassment - Section 2 of the Prevention of Harassment Act 1997 and you will call the police if they don't go away.
Next try http://www.napac.org.uk/ hopefully there will be a support group in your area, try their forum at http://www.thefreedomroom.piczo.com/?cr=5&rfm=y h
You are not alone, hopefully you will soon find someone you can trust. Good luck
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Tess
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You've survived this long, don't give in now!
when in life you are hardest hit, it is times such as these that you must not quit. Stand and be an example, don't fall to statistics keep going mate!
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Rags
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hang on in there....and remember, you arent a victim of abuse...you are a survivor of it. you have been through hell but you are at the other end and still standing. If you give in now then they will have won. They will have ruined your life. Don't let them.
Go see your doctor and get referred to a counsellor. Get some help. There is no shame in needing that help.
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OwddaMaRoom
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i would not dare to try and understand what you are going through but my heart truly goes out to you
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mmrn
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First of all you should see a counselor. Worry about yourself first. Get your life straightened out and let the justice system take care of your grandfather and uncle. Stay as far away from them as you can. Don't have any interaction at all. Appear in court when you are supposed to tell your story and hopefully they will rot in jail after that. It won't take years. But remember the most important person right now is you, so get the help you need and I hope you have a supportive person in your life now to turn to. Best of Luck.
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glgl
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first of all, if you lost your job, are you claiming benefits to support you until you're able to back to work?
but first you need to see your doctor, & explain your situation & that you're not well enough to go back to work & obtain a certificate to sign you off work..
then go to your nearest CAB (please go to this page & type in your postcode):
http://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/index/getadvice.htm#searchbox
also ask in CAB about debt management & they're very good at dealing with debt collectors.
then for this problem, you should tell as many people who might come in conatct with these sick (B*****) sorry but that's what they are, to protect their children from them & what they're up to...
sexual abuse does alot of damage & no matter what anyone says, it a serious crime & betrayal of an innocent child's trust...
you are very strong & you're not a victim..I admire & respect your courage to stop this from happeneing to others...
if you can,please pray & ask God for help...He will help & I promise, you'll start to notice things happening & people who will help you along the way.
luv & hugs gigi
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