My mum died nearly 2 years ago...?

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stephen t	Possibly not, the thoughts creep up on you sometimes and you find yourself suddenly thinking about a past event or imagined comment from your lost loved one. Time is a healer but the person will always be alive whislt you are. Don't forget her, but would she really want you to be so sad? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

JANICE NIGHTNURSE	so sorry to hear about your loss, but you must come to terms with it or you will make yourself ill, do you not have any close relatives that could give you some support and guidance, you need to express your feelings,ask a freind for a hug i know it wont be the same but it will give you some comfort, i hope you can get through this take care x Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

hotbritgirl	I'm so sorry for your loss no one can quite imagine the pain of something like this until they have gone through it themselves. have you tried counseling at all? what have other members of your family done to cope with this can they help you in anyway do you think. you need to talk about this to someone. I really hope you can find some way of letting go soon so that you can be happy again I know you mum would not want you to be as sad and unhappy as what you are. She would want you to have a good life full of laughter, happiness and love. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

R.E.M.E.	Yes, you will. Every time I think of my mum, I say sorry and a tear forms. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

oawisbrill	Sorry you are having such a tough time. It's normal to be sad after the loss of a loved one, and it does take time. The time varies a lot and will depend on how suddenly your mother passed away and how prepared you were for it at the time. You are doing the right things to remember all the positive and funny things about her and her life. One way of coping is to keep thinking about what your mother would want for you, and what she would want you to do. She would want you to be able to enjoy life and to be happy. I bet that if she were here to say, she would advise you to have a good time, planning your future and enjoying life today! Seize opportunities and share good times with friends! Your mother would be happy and proud to see you doing this, even though she cannot be with you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Gabs	You are still grieving and it's understandable, after all she was your mother. My grandfather died 11 years ago and I still go back to his house in my dreams and I still think about him every day of my life. But that's just normal and of course you do get over it. I had some therapy and it helped me cope in hard times. If you have your family try and talk to them and I'm sure they will support you. It really helped when I finally talked about it with the rest of my family. Just think she's in a better place now and I'm sure she wouldn't want you to feel like this. Try to move on with your life and take on some hobbies and things to get your mind off this for the time being. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bhymers@btinternet.com	you will not get over it but what you will do in time is accept it. my mother died 14 yrs ago and i still think about her every day. I love to remember the happy times we had together, i can smile now. i will never stop loving her or missing her but time heals and you will feel better. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lorraine A	Oh I really feel for you! Im sure time will heal but you will never forget! x Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

voldemort232321	i feel your pain. because my dad died in sept 11. i think you will get over it if you are not so emotional about stuff like this. if you are, well you won't get over it Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

hawthorn330	have just read your message and i am so sorry ..i lost my mum nearly 3 years ago to cancer very sudden all diagnosed and done within 3 monthes...you will never get over losing your mum as she was probably the most special person ever in your life..but it doe,s get easier over time..she is there for you ok not in person but she will be looking out for you..talk to her as you normally would do i find that helps a lot..i get silly things happen around my house like a light going on or the stereo will switch on when i miss my mum and need her with me..none of it spooks me i just know she is around...please feel free to email me if you ever need someone to talk to you..i,m not an old person i lost my mum very young too she was 56....it does get easier i promise be well x Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

vanamont7	Are you kidding? Of course not! Not someone that special. You'll learn to accept it. We're all mortal here. I know how you feel, though. I can almost see my grandparents sometimes big as life in a particular look they'd get in their eye, or smile, or funny wisdom they had. I'll never forget that. They WERE my parents in a way. So it's no mystery. Don't be consumed by overmuch grief. I doubt mum would approve. Be brave. You received something special and right now, unheard of. Love. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Rockford	No one knows you like your mom. My mom died over ten years ago and I still miss her. I'm lucky I have my grandma who is 94 who makes me laugh. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rose_merrick	I am sorry hon, you need to speak to someone . There are people who can help you get over this loss. A GP is a good place to start - he or she will know what to do. I hope you feel better soon x Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jolly Jo Jo	I don't know because it is not a situation that I have been in (and nor do I want to for many many years!) It must be one of the worst feelings in the world especially as you were so close. I think maybe you need some bereavement counselling and that might help you through a little bit. See your doctor I am sure they will be able to refer you to somebody trained to help. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Afro..	Yes, in time it will become easier. When you are by yourself...Say a few words to her...It will help you to still feel close to her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

janice	It's hard. I lost my mother 13 years ago. I was 39 she was 74. Even at 74, we didn't have a clue she was going to have a massive stroke. She never had high blood pressure, never smoked or drank. It just happened. She was gone with in 12 hours. I felt cheated. She didn't loose her mama(my Grandma)till she was in her 60's, Grandma was in her 80's. I think of her the most, when my children reach a milestone and she's not there to see it. Or when I'm in my sewing room, she loved to sew too. I'm 52 now, the same age as your Mom was. I have a 28 year old and a 22 year old...both sons. Not long after my Mom died, a very close friend(who had lost her husband at an early age)came to my Dad and said, "Frankie, it doesn't get better, it just gets different". I was standing beside Daddy when she said it. I have carried that with me through the years. You will always miss your Mom, but it does "get different". My Dad has been able to stay very active, he's 90 now and can out last me! His toughest day is Saturday's, very little going on and he stays home. In the evening, he turns on the old re-runs of the Lawrence Welk Show. He cries. The music brings back memories. He felt odd about crying every Saturday, while watching that show. I asked him how he felt afterwards, He said, "Better". He has found a way to deal with the rest of his week, by letting himself "remember" for those few moments. You will find a way to keep your Mom in you life, without stopping your future. Your Mom will always be with you, you are a part of her. If you are having problems, moving on, I do suggest you seek out therapy. I did. It helps. Make your Mama proud, live a good, happy, productive life. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

gmonte33	Hun, I know what you're going through. I lost my mom three years ago and every time I think about her I cry. The pain never completely goes away but it gets a little bit easier with time. I lost my dad 29 years ago when I was 9 and it still makes me sad when I think about him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jo	I am so sorry for you loss. I lost my dad about a year and a half ago. I was 27 and he was 61. I will miss him for as long as I live. I talk about him to my hubby, my family, my friends & coworkers and I remember things that he taught me. What I found that helped during the most painful part was saying the serenity prayer to myself. I felt like that helped me get thru those first few days without him. I also talk to him (when I am by myself), in the car, at home, when I am mowing the lawn, etc..... Maybe it is time to get involved in grief counseling. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

deb452295	i lost my mum 7 years ago now and i miss her every day it was hard at first i was only 26 when she died and my son was only 2 i was a single mum and me and my mum was very close. she died whilst on holiday with her friend so i deal with it by imagining shes still on a beach on holiday enjoying herself she was only 47 and we all said she wouldnt have suited being old. you'll never get over it but in time you will see things differently and it will get easier i promise. take care of yourself and feel free to email me im always willing to talk Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

redrobin	no, you never get over the loss of a loved one, but you will cope with the loss better as time goes by. It gets easier living with it. But getting over her? No. Grief is vry personal and there's no real time limit but there are patterns that grief follows. The worst bit is at the very beginning, you start to recover or think you do, but statistically you dip again and feel like you're going through it all over again roughly 18months to 2 years after the death. I dont know why this happens. However it doesnt last as long and will also pass. You will always miss her and love her of course but believe me you will assimilate the loss into your life and cope well eventually. Dont push yourself, you're ready when you're ready. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Rebecka	YES! I was 21 also when I lost my mother to Cancer, I was there when she died. It has been 6 years now. The pain will distance itself in time. Would your mother want you un-happy, no. Go and talk to your Dr and see what they can give you to perk you up. You do not have to suffer honey xxx Go make your mumma proud!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lozzielaws	2 years isnt that long, dont be too hard on yourself. I lost my dad 8 years ago and I still cry at the slightest reminder, I have days when I just cant cope either. People just cope with things differently,so dont judge yourself against other peoples reactions to grief. You could talk to someone like your doctor who could refer you to someone to talk to. Its very hard, I know, but sometimes just talking helps. You arent alone, losing anyone close is so hard, it does take time, so go se your doc, he can put you in touch with some counselling to help you deal with things a bit better. All the best, lozz xx Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jody n	you will never completely get over it that's the most important person in your life after awhile it wont be so hard on you but i lost my father 13 years ago and i still miss him so much just keep your head up a remember all the good she borught to tour life and good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Â§Â§ AndrÃ© Â§Â§	You dont realy get over the lost of a Love one.... But you learn through the years to live with it.... So think of your Mother as often as you like...then Think of the Fond Memories you have of her...and the fact that she watches over you as you go on your way through life.... She would like to see you happy....so grant her that wish!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

anne b	yes love you will i also lost my mum 4 years ago just think of all the good times you had together talk to your mums photo that will help you .as she is always around you although you cant see her .it is hard i know what you mean but as time passes the easier it gets i was very close to my mum like you was i same for me you miss telling her things well do as i say tell her and have her photo in your hand as if she was there .you will get a lot of comfort from this i promise you.take care i will be thinking of you .anne xxxxx Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

fanella	sorry you feel bad look on here uncommonforum.com its a brilliant site with people you can chat with who know how you truly feel rather than some on here who dont understand Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sassy	you need to speak to a bereavements councillor they will help u a lot you will never get over it but it will get easier with time my mum still has a little cry over her mum now and again and she died when my mum was 6 my mum now 70 Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥♥♥QT'Z @ PLAY♥♥♥	Yes, and it is ok to be sad and cry. We just had an 8th grader die in her sleep at my school. It is a very hard thing to get over. But eventually, it might take time but you will move on, there are more important things in life to get to. Give it time, you will be ok. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mystee_Rain	Yes you will, it's just time, I have felt that way several times in my life and it's simply the passage of time and involvement in life that helps IT WILL feel better Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

TP	Huni, i dont really know what to say - other than i am really sorry for your loss, i know that probably wont make a difference to you but i genuinly am sorry and all my love and thoughts are with you. I have no idea of how your feeling i could not and will not imagine what it would be like without my mum, she and my daugher are my world. My nan died when i was 17 and she and i were so close - it distroyed me! I still fall to pieces now when i think about our time together and its 8 years on. I know i will never completely get over it, but i can promise it does get soo much easier- you will never forget her and so you shouldnt - but you have to know that she is watching over you and would want you to start moving on, all the good times you shared, she would hate to think they now make you sad - i didnt know ur mum but i can promise you she would not want this for you - you need to live the life she wanted you to, make her proud of you - if you are finding it that hard speak to someone - me if need be - dont suffer alone, take care and all my love xx Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Heads up!	You may not , but your life must go on and your mother would like to see you succeed in life so try to be positive and work on 5 goals to improve your life and get you where you would like to be in 5 years. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No