My mum died in march this year,?

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suzy850	Sorry to hear this. Try to think of your mum being in a better place, free from pain and worries. The ones we love never truely leave us because they are in our hearts, we have wonderful memories of them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nell200643	How old are you honey? do you have anyone to talk to about this? When a loved one dies we have an automatic coping mechanism that kicks in - this helps us to cope with the loss - sort of holding it together. Eventually, the initial feelings of loss will have to come out - this is human nature - you should talk to your friends and partner to help you through this - dont be afraid to cry or need to talk - you are doing great. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

hmmm	my mom died 9 years ago and i was just 17 and that time, its horrible, i can undestand, but u hv to move on, there is no place for depression, i know u crave for love at this time, try speaking more to ur dad, ur bro, ur sis, ur friends, make new frnds, try to keep urself as bz as u can, think bout the good time u spent with ur mom, think bout the warmth she gave u , she never wanted u to b unhappy, she still doesnt want it, its a universal fact that souls doesnts die, remeber wherever she is if u r upset, she will get negetive vibration, so if u want her to b happy, try to remain happy, try to b the just the way , that she wanted you to b, follow her, she will get positive vibration, i still miss my mom, nobody else can take her place, but she wanted me to v very successful, try to acheive her dreams, give love to all who is in need, and remeber keep smiling, go out enjoy, wherever she will b, she wants her daughter to b very very happy, so dont upset her, all the best, take care, remeber she is with u all the time, god is with all of us, within all of us, take care Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Barry H	Hi Jeanie, Very Sorry to hear this. Depression is broadly speaking anger turned in wards onto ourselves, in terms of self-blame or the result of feeling powerless over something which we as human beings have no control. One thing I do know is that the creator, God Almighty is a good God and he allowed your mother to pass at this time for a good reason, for everything God does is good. Nevertheless it is said that there are 6 stages to grief thru' which every healthy individual must pass: 1. Shock/Disbelief 2. Denial 3. Loss 4. Comfort 5. Acceptance 6. Healing Continue to allow yourself to feel, this is important to the healing process and continue to be real with your emotions and where you're at in the healing process . Secondly, confide if you can and share what you will with a trusted relative, grandparent(s) if still alive or a female confidant even if she is a trusted teacher or co-worker. If not seek professional help like a therapist or counsellor or psychologist preferably one of your same gender if you want to be picky and one who comes recommended. If you have a strong support group of extended famaily, friends, lean on them. If not talk to a pastor. In your vulnerable state however be aware that strangers whoever they may be take time to be trusted and have to earn your trust. Don't let anyone take advantage of you. Be strong and lean also on the LORD. 9 years ago my girlfriend was brutally murdered by criminals as she entered her home with her mother. 7 years earlier criminals had killed her father at his place of business. I had to go through these 6 steps to recovery and it took time to get over it. My girlfriend and I had only been dating 3 months although we were friends much earlier, you've known your mother your whole life. Don't be hard on yourself, it was out of your hands I'm sure. Allow yourself to be loved unconditionally by persons who mean you well and let yourself grieve, it's the most you can do for her and her memory to show just how much you care. Try not to be disabled work-wise but if you have to you just have to. At times like these your health and well-being come first, it's not being selfish. If you have to go to work, go even though it's extremly difficult and seems impossible. At whatever age and stage you're at give yourself room to breathe even if it means walking around in a daze for a while. This too will pass. Good luck and in Christ's love. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pixietrix	I am so sorry for your loss sweetpea. My mum died four years ago from cancer at the age of 47, and my whole world just fell apart. There were days when I really believed that I wouldn't make it through, but I am still here to tell the story. People grieve in different ways and at different paces. You can not ever put a time limit on grief and, it is my belief that we never really get over these things but, we learn how to deal with the feelings that grief causes. I went through so many different emotions and feelings that I felt like I was on a rollercoaster. One day I would be as high as a kite, the next I would be in floods of tears, the next I would be angry and then I would feel pretty normal again. I found writing to be a useful tool, because half of the time I wouldn't know why I was feeling what I was feeling. Writing helped me to put things into perspective and gave me an understanding. It is vital that you can talk to somebody about this because if you don't it can turn into abnormal grief, whereby the whole process gets a little bit mixed up and consequently can make you mentally ill. Do you have any breavement counsellors in your area, or psychotherapists? It may be helpful to get one, so that you have got somewhere to off load your feelings. I don't know what your family are like, but from my own experience, talking to my immediate family was difficult because they too were all mixed up. I had breavement counselling and, it was a godsend. You will get through this, and my advice to you is just let your feelings come and deal with them when they do. Don't feel afraid of them, they are a normal part of the healing process, and as time goes on they will become less and less, and you will develop tools to cope with them. Try also to focus on the good memories that you hold in your heart,and remember they will always be with you, nobody can take those away. Some people will tell you to move on or tell you its time to get over it. You will hear people say come on now, your mum would't have wanted you too be like this. You must grieve at your own pace. I still have days that I feel unable to cope with the feelings. So, don't let anybody tell you those things, because unless you have experienced it first hand, you have absolutely no idea. I am thinking of you. Take carexxxx Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Justme	Hi there. If this has hit you so suddenly it may help you to go and see a grief counselor and talk thorough some of it. Many people experience a lot of grief with the loss of their mother. It doesn't mean you are sick or anything. It just means you have had a terrible loss. Check in your phone book or talk to your doctor for some recommendations. Do the counselling before you try any medications. You probably just need to talk through some stuff you have been holding inside. I am sorry for your loss. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sue	The following was sent to me several years ago and still helps me! It can help you: Natural Highs or Things That Will Help Make You Feel Good! Think about them one at a time before going on to the next one. It does make you feel good, especially the thought at the end #45. 1. Falling in love. 2. Laughing so hard your face hurts. 3. A hot shower. 4. No lines at the supermarket. 5. A special glance. 6. Getting a card or letter in the mail 7. Taking a drive on a pretty road. 8. Hearing your favorite song on the radio.! 9. Lying in bed listening to the rain outside. 10. Hot towels fresh out of the dryer. 11. Chocolate milkshake (vanilla or strawberry). 12. A bubble bath. 13. Giggling 14. A good conversation. 15. The beach 16. Finding a 20 dollar bill in your coat from last winter. 17. Laughing at yourself. 18. Looking into someones eyes and knowing that they Love you 19. Midnight phone calls that last for hours. 20. Running through sprinklers. 21. Laughing for absolutely no reason at all. 22. Having someone tell you that you're beautiful. 23. Laughing at an inside joke 24. Friends. 25. Accidentally overhearing someone say something nice about you. 26. Waking up and realizing you still have a few hours left to sleep. 27. Your first kiss (either the very first or with a new partner). 28. Making new friends or spending time with old ones. 29 Playing with a new puppy or kitten. 30. Having someone play with your hair. 31. Sweet dreams. 32. Hot chocolate. 33. Road trips with friends. 34. Swinging on swings. 35. Making eye contact with a cute stranger. 36. Making chocolate chip cookies. 37. Having your friends send you homemade cookies. 38. Holding hands with someone you care about. 39. Running into an old friend and realizing that some things (good or bad) never change. 40 Watching the expression on someone's face as they open a much desired present from you. 41. Watching the sunrise. 42. Getting out of bed every morning and being grateful for another beautiful day. 43. Knowing that somebody misses you. 44. Getting a hug from someone you care about deeply. 45. Knowing you've done the right thing, no matter what other people think. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Answerer	im sorry to hear that jeanie but time will come where you wouldnt be that depressed but you will still miss her death is inevitable that everyone will face...just spend more quality time with family members Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Trevor h	Just remember one thing...... Your mum will live forever in your memories - these will never leave you :-) Sorry she can't be with you physically... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kay77hotmail	i am sorry to hear you lost your mum it must be so hard for you . tire and remember the good times you had together it might help Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

balasundaram p	dear.sorry to hear dont worry . your mothers soul always be around you.She know how much you care about her.she also love you much.So dont think that she left you .She is beside you and with you every momrnt and every thinking take care If you need to express your feelings,just send to pingi2003@yahoo.co.uk Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kristina n	Sorry to hear about your mom. I lost my dad when I was 8. Try going to suppoet groups for people who have lost people. I know alot of churchs have support groups for this. I think you weren't fully accepting the fact your mom died and the reality of it is just now hitting you. Believe me you need to grieve in order to heal, but I don't believe the death of a parent will ever fully heal. Talk to your friends and family about it and allow yourself to grieve Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

widow_purple	I am afraid I cannot ease this...but I can try and reassure you that what you are going through is a normal part of the grieving process..if there can be anything remotely 'normal' about grief. You have lost someone who has been there for the duration of your life, someone who brought you into this world and someone who you always thought would be around so you are gonna get times like this...my dad died last year and I am still finding things tough...I hate to realise that, physically, he is no longer here anymore. I am so sorry for your loss and your pain and do hope that, in time, the sun will shine for you again...in the meantime, I am sending of a huge cyber hug and wishing you well...give yourself some time to grieve xx Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

gitsliveon24	My grandparents have passed & there are days where I still cry & its been a few years. But my grandfathers mass card makes me feel better. If you would like me to e mail it to you let me know gitsliveon24@yahoo. I would write it but its long & I don't have enough room. Im also new to yahoo & don't know how to write mail yet I only figured out how to respond. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

fatface	It really has only been a short time since your Mum died. It is natural to feel this way. Believe me it will be pretty awful on the weeks before the anniversary, but , again it is natural. Allow yourself to be sad and to cry. I know it is awful. Oneday after the first anniversary you will find yourself laughing again. These times will slowly get longer and the times of sadness will shorten. Don't feel you are disrespecting your Mum, she will be beside you laughing all the way, and thrilled to see you happy again. If you have any problems, speak to her as you always spoke to her - she will help, I promise, because as she loved you in life, she loves you still. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Grace CCY	very sorry to heard this. it may due to u have supress ur true feeling for some time but now it all come out...U can try to talk about ur feeling to family and friends, sharing ur feeling with them. Try think positively.Besides, do more outdoor activities or exersice... stay happy! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kezz	sorry for your loss . see a bereavement councillor they really do help .i lost my boyfriend in january this year and was in pieces was also 8 month pregnant at the time it felt like everything around me was falling apart so went to see a councillor myself i still hurt but now living with happy memories keeps me going.you will get through this.take care and good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

phlodgeybodge	Sorry about your Mum. Death is never an easy subject to manage or talk about. It's the finality of it all that causes so much grief. You've done brilliantly so far, but you need to continue with your life. Would your Mum want you to feel this way? Of course not, she'd want you to be happy and enjoy all the pleasures of life. Remember your Mum in happy times, think of all the love she gave you and all the joy you brought her. You will always get upset when you think of her in death, but always end the tears with a memory of her smiling. You'll cope. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Shannon V	i'm so sorry about your loss. what you are going thru is natural as you has alot to do during the time your mom passed and the prepartions for the funeral not to mention all the family and their issues. now you have had time to realize what has actually happened. from experience it is ok to cry!!! perhaps talking with your minister/priest will help you find some peace within yourself. its one of the hardest/painful things you will go thru in life. take it day by day sometimes minute by minute and try to remember the happy times you and your mom had together. God Bless You!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tranquil	Death of a loved one is a big event. If you feel angry, sad and grieve about her passing, acknowledge what you are feeling. That is part of the process. Know that you will miss her, but that she will always be close to your heart. Grieve, yes, but know that the grief will become lesser as time goes by. If you wish to honor your mother and yourself, be the best that you can be. Focus on your life. If you are in school, study well. If you are at work, do your work to the best of your ability. Please make a plan on what you want to accomplish for this year, and keep working on that. In time, you will be able to realize your dreams and your pain will abate. We wish you inner peace, Jeanie. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dark&pure?	Well, look in the bright side at least she's in the better place and you still have a long life to live and just enjoy life itself. Go do community service to help the less fortunate, or help elders cross the street and etc. you will feel joyous that you made a difference in someone's life. Remember your mother wanted you to be happy. All right, Good luck honey ;) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Katiegirl	well I know what you´re going through I los my dada 2 years ago and let me tell you that in this types of situations it´s normal for a person to go through ups and downs. I remember that some days I was fine and other days I was really depressed, other days I was really angry and other days I felt numb . My advice is for you to express what you feel, if you feel like crying cry, if you feel like talking to someone about it do it. you have to be strong and you have to think that your mom wouldn´t want to see you depressed. Try to remember the fun times you two had together , I know it´s hard but with time it get a bit easier. So good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Polly S	I am so sorry your mum died. Although we know life and death are interwoven--it never helps when we lose someone we love. I too have lost my parents, and still grieve for them. It has been three years...and I still think about it. Cry, its OK, grieve, OK too. and remember the wonderful things you had together/and the bad... If the depression gets too much, talk to trusted person. In fact, start talking NOW with people you trust...they will care! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

m00nlight1ng	I'm sorry to hear that. It's not easy to lose someone very close. Just think that your mum would not want to see you in this state. She gave birth to you and loved you no matter what. She would only want the best for you. You have to live your life for her. It's perfectly natural to feel depressed as the wound is still raw. Set time for yourself and cry your eyes out, but pull yourself together afterwards. My mother lived abroad and died 22 months ago. I couldn't attend her funeral because I was 32 weeks pregnant at the time. In a way I feel that she is still with me cos I didn't see her too often. I only have happy memories of her. Take care. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Des	It's always sad to lose someone you love especialy someone very close like your mother. You must continue to focus on the positives in life and always move forward. There will always be a place in your heart for your mum, and so there should be, so in that respect she'll always be with you through your life. The pain will ease as time goes one and you will function better. Remember with fondness all the good times you've had with your mum and you will be stronger for it Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jesseg	As a person who has been going through depression for the last few months, I have found the following to make me feel better. 1. Think of yourself. It is unfortunate that your mother has passed away. Remembering her is a great honor to have, but putting her first now doesn't do good for anyone. You deserve to think of yourself. 2. Get rid of your idle time. Take a walk or do a bit of exercise. This is what really gets me in the mood to do something else. 3. If you do have idle time, spend it concentrating on your breathing. Some call this meditation, I call it relaxing and unloading of a lot of stress that is causing me to be depressed. 4. Listen to friends/other members of your familly. You don't have to interact with them, although that would be ideal, but just observe and enjoy. For your specific cause, you might want to spend some idle time creating a memory book of your mom and a diary of special moments you shared with her. Good Luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Roscoe P Coletrain..yip yip	I am so sorry for your loss. What I did was I went and did things my dad enjoyed, and I was surprised how much closer I felt. good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Renee	Please keep in mind that though your mother is not here with you physically, she is with you in spirit. She is always with you. Death is just an illusion of separation. She is with you all the time- if only you'll willing to go within yourself and feel her. My condolences to you and may the angels help you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ankur	Sorry to hear that! Well don't get distressed up much. Feel that she is with you everytime & she'll will feel bad 2 see that u r sad. Just get yourself engaged in creative or entertaing works. I think that'll divert your mind from this big greaf. You may also have my ID if you want.I'll help U out. Take Care.... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

salimi_mehrdad	hi sorry hear that think to ur family try to do some things that she liked try to make her happy her body died but shes alive always she will be happy if u success ur work and life u know she will help u always Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Born a Fox	I am so sorry to hear that. When my mum died a few years ago I tried to concentrate of remembering the funny things she said and did. Every time I felt like picking up the phone to ask her something, and I knew I couldn't, I would pretend that we were having the conversation and smiled when I heard her answer. What I discovered was if I concentrated on the good times and not on her death I felt some comfort. I thought about what she would say to me if she knew I was struggling with her death and what how she would want me to get on with my life. (I can still hear her voice telling me to stop being silly) Remember the good and give yourself time to come to terms with the loss. Don't put a time frame on this as you will be putting too much pressure on yourself. Also speak to a Grief Counsellor in your area. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No