My fiance is bipolar and he gets in these horrible moods and takes it out on me. How do I cope with this?

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hope55	IT 's so nice there are still people like you who want to help the people they love.But remember that if we really love somebody we have to love ourselves first so think about your personal health and how good it is to be close to him. Convince him to go a physician in the name of your love and your daughter's. and if you are religious in some way, pray God to help you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

blanca6_20	What would be very good for anyone in this matter is to have get some help. Or when he's starting to have an episode calm him down immediately, but don't try to as much other wise he will notice just stay relaxed. try to make him have some quality time with your baby so he gets his mind off of everything just mak sure is not upset you don't want the baby to get hurt. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

gertie	seriously, go on Dr. Phil. and explain to your fiance why he needs to take that medication. that you don't blame him for his episodes, but you are afraid of him when he has them. make him know that the medication is more for you than him. if he loves you, he'll understand and want the best for your safety and do as much as he can to take care of his disease for you and your daughter's sake. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

?	He needs to see a psychiatrist and get on some medication ASAP. He cannot control how he behaves and it WILL NOT end without some professional help. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dolleyes	you can't help him if he doesn't want help. And obviously, he won't even help himself. What kind of life is that to live for you and your baby? You need to think about yourself and your daughter first, because he's not. You say you are becoming afraid of him. That ought to tell you something. Good Luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

judith11center	Take your child and leave. If he doesn't take his medication he will continue to have good moods and bad moods and there is nothing you can do to help him, no matter how much you love him. You are putting yourself and your child in danger by being with this person. He's not moody, he's sick. You should be very afraid of him. Ask your family and friends for shelter and help. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

?	get a new boyfriend Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cricket	Slip Lithium into his food. He needs some sort of mood stabalizer. No, seriously either get him on meds or leave. It's only going to get worse. Bipolar activity tends to get more and more extreme until there is some sort of resolution. Unfortunately, the resolution of people that do not go on medicine is often suicide. Seek help for all three of you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dcw13	Tell him either he go for doctor and consoler's help, or you will leave him. If he still dont go, you need to leave him. Because if he doesnt love u enough to get help, it will not work out in the long run. Trust me, i know, i got a problem, and it was my wife that forced me to get help. Now i know the difference,. He doesnt know he is in trouble until he takes the med. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kitkat	Get your baby and yourself out of that situation. He needs to take his meds or you never know what he will do. You or your child should not be there. Your child is your one and only concern, get her to safety....Good Luck... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

hotmama	Simply tell him that he needs to go one medication to control it...nothing else is gonna work. He's just gonna get worse and make you even more scared. You and your child are gonna end up hurt...he starts on medication or you leave him....simple as that. My sister-in-law and my brother just had there baby taken away from them because my sister-in-law broke her leg....she's bipolar and wasnt taking meds at the time...thing is...she doesnt even remember doing it, its like she wasnt herself, or in control.There baby woke up around 4am and my sister-in-law got up with her to change her diaper...it is hard on her and she's very young....she totally lost it when my neice wouldnt stop crying and when she opened her legs to change her she yanked pretty hard,twisting her thigh and breaking her leg. If he wont help himself then you and you're baby need to leave before he hurts you guys. No one here can help him or you...he needs to help himself and so do you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

okGO!	you can do 2 things: 1) leave him and take your baby with you or 2) call the police so you can get him some help before he turns physically abusive. please hurry and do something before things get worse. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Goddess Kitty	Oh my gosh! I feel so bad for your and your baby girl. If you have someone to go to (a friend or family member), please consider going to stay with them for awhile (only if you believe it is safe to do so). Also, call a help line asap. I understand that you love him, but he needs help before things get any worse than they already are. You say you are afraid...and that worries the heck out of me!!! Please do something as soon as you can.....PLEASE. Sending prayers for you and your little darling Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

BluSoSexy	Did you no about this before yall got engaged...but umm yea u should probally RUN AWAY and never return Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

christopher d	get rid off him... before it gets worst... may be counseling? or wat about law enforcement agency... this is a very serious issue Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lovedietdp	Don't marry him until he gets his condition under control. No matter how much you love him you can not fix him. He has to want to fix himself. I personal feel that you should run and don't look back. From experience (my parents) it will only get worse. And it is also bad for the kids you might have. I know it will hurt at first when you break up but there is someone special out there for you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dirty D	Lay down the law. Tell him he needs to start taking his medication and seeing a psychologist or you will leave him. If he is not willing to then for your own safety you have to leave. Bipolar does not get better left untreated. For the sake of you, him, and your child he needs treatment. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

John	he needs help, call his docter and when you know he is about to have an episode take your doughter upstairs and in her room, try to put her to sleep for a while until he is done, she doesnt need to see that. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Roberts Baby	my cousins bf is that way they have a 2 yr old and he went away to mental health and came back and was good for like 3 days and then he got abusive hurt her and the baby, id get out of there why i can be4 u end up hurt. try writing him a note telling him how it makes u feel when he gets in one of his moods and tell him that u love him and will be there for him no matter what but u cant deal with his outrages especially now that u have a 6 week old baby, he should understand and try to straighten up. MEDS dont work trust me they tried like 12 diff kinds on me and none helped me. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ballzy	He needs to be medicated otherwise leave him. There will be no happy ending without medicine. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

4kids4dogs	you put up with him now ... but what about your daughter ... do you want to sentence her to a life of listening to all the yelling - Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Katze	He needs serious counseling by himself and with you! Go to your Family Doctor and tell him about it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mt. Kilimanjaro	get rid of the bastardd Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

up all night	one word worries me. FIANCE??? are you seriously considering marrying this lunatic? what if you are not home and the only one there to reep the rewards of his tantrums is your daughter???????? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

quamquam	the answer is that you don't cope with it, you get help. just because he doesn't hit you doesn't mean it's not abuse. don't confuse love with a fear of leaving or a fear of the unknown. there are women's shelters that you can go to that are unlisted and often hidden. call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). if you think you're not safe, you aren't please get help as soon as you can. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Janiffer	I understand completely what you are going through. Although I did not have a baby with this guy, I dated a bipolar man for seven months -- seven months of absolute utter torture. Even though you have a child with this man, you might consider dumping him ... and soon. It just gets worse and worse and if he doesn't take his meds, he is obviously not serious about taking care of his condition. Leave him, for your and your child's sake. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ya-sai	Get out of there while you can. This is not a healthy situation for you or for your baby girl. Go to a shelter, go back to your family, just get away from there..NOW Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

SuzieQ92	My husband's uncle was married to a woman with bipolar. She really needed to be in a mental institution, but no place would keep her more than a couple of weeks at a time. It was a heartbreaking situation for him. The problem is that even when people with bipolar are taking medication, they almost always quit taking it at some point because,"they feel so good". I hate to say leave him, but for your safety and your baby's you probably need to. Especially since his episodes involve so much anger. Yes, he needs to see a psychiatrist, but you have to get out now........while you still can. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jack	He needs to be hospitalized for his, and your good. You need a support system, you should not have to handle this by yourself. Speak to the prescribing doctor and tell him/her what is going on. Ask for advice. Contact a local mental health agency and ask for advice. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

landerscott	Dump him like a bad habit. Scrub him off. He will NEVER change he will only get worse. Your child will be in danger. Clear enough? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Guzzy	run...run a way.... find a new boy friend. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No