My dad has a brain disease, that will kill him... i dont kno if my friends can help... should i tell them?

this disease is eating his brain away hes 50 years old... it makes him forget how to talk and think... he also is making my mom break down to a sad mess... the docters have no clue how long it will take for him tho have no brain, it could be 5 years or 20 or 2 years. seems like 2 years cuz its gotten worse. help me

sparkles	It almost sounds like Alzheimer's . Just be there for him and be patient.

Grumpus	I am sorry to hear you have to go through this. Our friends are there not so they can fix our problems, but because they share what is happening in our lives for better or worse. Tell them what is happening so they can be there for you -- support you, and help you keep your chin up.

shawty right thurrrr is a ten!	It always helps to talk about things like that. Tell them, sweetheart, you'll be glad you did, even if you think your friends aren't very sympathetic, they might surprise you! I'm very sorry to hear about your father. I hope it takes 50 years.

Timothy C	i think you should tell your friends if they can help they wil help you, and you must also have faith in your dad cuz he's the only 1 you got

Matty S	this is my past life it happened and just made me cry reading this :( my mum found it hard dealing with it for many years it happened before i was born im 20 now he passed away when i was around 11 years old my life is a total mess being brought up with a worried sick mum and a dieing dad i had a bad up bringing i am fked up in the head trying to correct the errors made by my past isn't easy to do when your mind isn't as much as a sponge as when you as a child having to be conscious of the problems in my life facing them on dealing with it isnt easy for me. tell your friends if you feel it will help you

jesus c	u should tell ur most trusted freinds that care about u and know they can be trusted it is good to let things out a bit instead of keeping things bottled up inside hope my advice works =

clanger76	You should let your close friends know what is happening. You will definitely need a strong support system as you and your family goes through this hard time. Spend as much time with your family now as you can, and try and be strong. If your friends are truly good friends, they will be right there with you to hold you up and support you.

XxDaNnYxX	wow are u kidin? well if u havent already told them theres a reason... so its all up too u they cant help u 100% but if they are good griend they will understad and well.... if u told all of us u can tell them

John M	Yes you should and Pray is very strong, it has worked before and it can work for him dear. My brother in law has a brain turmor that only could have half removed thru his eye. He is still alive 5 years later after kemo just one time. A lot of Pray and smiles and kind words give us all reason to live and try to live longer thru better living.

QT Patuty	Absolutely you should! It might be hard to tell them but it will help you a lot to get everything out of your mind and for you to not worry and stress so much. Friends are there for you when you need support just as you would be there for them if they needed help. Talk to your friends about this and you will feel a million times better. My parents recently went through a divorce (I know, completely different situation) and talking with my friends helped me out so much and made me so much more calm and less depressed. Good luck!

StarDust	Tell your friends, not because they can help, but because you need to let it out. And yes, they will help in the sense that they'll be there for you when things get worse, and you'll be able to rant to them and (if they're true friends) they won't mind and they'll just listen. That's the greatest help in the world. I'm so sorry for you. A close friend of mine went through the same thing (brain disease in father), and we (his friends) were all there for him. Good luck, and again, I'm so sorry.

gldjns	I think your friends should be aware that your dad is so ill, and that's the reason he talks and thinks strangely. They should treat him like any other person, and that's with kindness and respect. I do hope he's getting the proper medical care for his condition, even if it's incurable. I'm so sorry to hear that, and I will keep him in my thoughts and prayers, and your mom and you also. God bless!

Babies on board	your friends can't help your dad, but they can help you. and honestly, your life will change so it will be help them understand why you may not be able to do all the things you used to do,or if you are more emotional. You need to understand that everyone doesn't know how to deal with these things. Maybe you can talk to someone, a counselor or someone, because it sounds like your mom can't be there for you right now. talk to the doctor and find out if there's a group or something for kids who'se parents have an illness.

edwardzs lover! ³¹°	omg im soo sorry!! :[ u shud tell ur friends .. theyr gonab there for u & help u out through ur tough times .. but im so sorry bout ur dad .. never heard of thta disease .. :[ hope he lives for a longer time ..

Creebo	only tell ur friends if u feel comfotable

Al	Yes, your going too need your friends for moral support and encouragement in the days ahead.....this is a cruel battle for your Dad your family......My prayer's are certainly with your dad and family........

Snow Globe	Yes, you should tell your friends. I don't think there's any way they can help him, but if they come to your house, they will understand what's going on and act right around him. That will be encouraging to him and your mother. Give you mother all the support you can -- she needs it. Make sure other people know what she is going through and that she gets what she needs to keep going and stay healthy. If you can talk to a church person or even a counselor at school, they might hook you up to some group who can make it easier for your mom.

f1ran1ky	yes, i think you should tell your firends (only if you are really close tho) friends can be the best support sometimes

Winston Wolfe	That's horrible! Yes, you should tell your friends. Your friends should be there to help comfort and support you. They can't do that if they don't know what you're going through. Hang in there!!!

Peggy	If you have friends who you think would be good listeners and help create a positive support system, I would encourage you to tell them.

minnie66_1	Yes I think you should tell your friends cause its always nice to have friends to talk when my dad was dieing i had friends that i told and it was nice to have them to talk they can help you.

KS	sorry about your dad :( You should definately tell your friends. You need all the support you can get during a time like that.

rebecca1	Yes, tell your close friends, so that they can be supportive during this difficult time. I am sorry for what you are going through.

Mattwack	Friends can help u through anything. No matter what happens ur friends will always be there for u.

alannabanana	YOU SHOULD TELL THEM. EVEN iF THEY DNT KNW WHAT YOUR GOiNG HROUGH..THEY CAN ALWAYS MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD WHEN YOUR DWN.

Ann M	Definitely talk to your friends - you need someone that you can talk to about this. Talk to your mom as well -she needs you as much as you need her at this point. And talk to your dad -make some memories.

skcoleidlog	Whatever you feel comfortable with. I definitely wouldn't go around telling the whole world, but talking to a few of your close friends will probably make you feel better.

slagathor238	Your dad isn't the only one suffering. You need to talk to anyone you can about your problems. It's therapeutic.

*Pucca*	don't tell them that it is a BRAIN EATING DISORDER...just tell them he is very ill or has a bad disease...but if they don't help then just leave em alone and try to do the best to help him yourself!!!

OMG!	Oh goodness. Help your dad and console your mum. Help them. Be with your dad as most ad you can. You can tell your friends. Hopefully, they'll help you. But most important is to be with your family. Especially your dad. They totally need you and you must be there for them. Help your dad by talking to him and please talk to your mum! Best of luck, God Bless!

future OD 09	I would say that it would depend on how you feel. I can actually say that I understand where you are coming from. I don't know how old you are or your whole situation, but whenever I was in middle school my dad was diagnosed with a dementia (brain disease). Unfortunately, I lived in a small town, which allowed for little privacy. I know that people in my town talked about him and my family, which was even more hurtful, but I never really talked about it to anyone. Perhaps it would have been better for me to talk to my friends about it, but I just didn't want them to pity me or treat me different and I didn't think that they would be able to understand anyways. At that point, all I wanted was a normal life at least at school so I never told any of my friends. I honestly don't know what my friends knew about my dad, if anything, but they never asked and I was glad for that. However, I do think that you may want to get some help for your family. Trust me, I know how hard it is on the family. I really feel for you , but just know that one day, you will be a stronger person for it. I agree with the person that said to make some memories with your dad. I'm sure that your dad isn't exactly a "normal dad" or even the "same dad" you used to know, but he is still your dad and you will be thankful for the memories and PICTURES of him one day. I wish you best!