My boyfriend "I'm not a Cocaine addict as I only take it on weekends" Is this true?

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xando2u	I don't think he's an addict because if he was he would need it everyday and couldn't live without it. Since he can go the whole week without it that means he only has recreational drug use. If you can't handle it you should get out of the relationship or ask him to stop using. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

fajiiita	It should be you or the drugs. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kafka	Of he enjoys doing his crack on weekends!He's an addict and you should seriously leave him. if u did have kids he'd be a horrible influence not to mention he'll just be WAY more strain on ur money. if he uses more coke on weekends and were to have some seizure or accident while high u'd have to pay fines, medical bills, and mayb have to hire an attorny if it gets that far. he'll just be lke this oversized kid who wants ur attention and money and expect u to pay for all his stupid mistakes. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mary-Jane	Yes, he is an addict. Even though he only does it on weekends, he is a drug addict. If he can stop doing it, then he's not. Why would anyone want to be so stupid? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Katie D	he is an addict Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mr-K-	He is an addict. Get him to leave it for a period of time, if he is not addicted it won't be a problem. You'll soon find out. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nuf said	there are people who do it more than that, but i consider my mates who're weekly users as addicted.. but not full blown addicts. the money thing is only gonna get worse. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kenetik30	Whether he took it on weekends or everyday you have to recognize it as an addiction and talk to him about all the consequences of using coke. If you want him to stop you may want to persuade him to go to rehab and you'll help him with it. but, you have to think about yourself. you have a life too and you shouldn't waste your life away because your significant other is killing himself slow. you have to make some choices. either he stops and you both build your relationship to be stronger than ever, or you have to end this relationship in order for you to be happy. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

d4247	Ya think? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Blondie	Why on earth would you date a guy who does any type of drugs? Especially one thats a hard core drug? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Rowan	Don't think he's an addict, but taking that amount for long periods of time wont be doing his heart, nose or brain any good at all. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Boudica Warrior Queen	I would suggest that you find help for him. Be there to support him but also look after yourself. It will only be a matter of time before his employers cotton on to his habit. If he can abstain during the week with support and help he can kick this habit. If not the habit will kick him big time. You have a life too and if you intend sticking with him you must approach him with the idea of him getting help and support. All the best...and take a small break away from this person so you can sort your own needs out too. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MazdaMatt	Tell him its you or the blow, choose. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

littlejlev	so long as he takes it.... how bout you 2 work out a deal, you quit cigarettes, he quits Cocaine, they are both dangerous and deadly, not to mention, think of all the money you would save!!! good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sarah C	I don't really think it matters if he is an addict or isn't. What he is doing is destroying a future you could have together. This is not a new thing as he has been doing it for 4-5 years, and it is unlikely he will change without reason to do so. I think you should end the relationship and find someone else! He spends way too much money on drugs = no house, no kids etc. Your weekends must be really boring if he spends them high. He has probably fried his brain and is a total bore. He is probably not emotionally there for you. Leave him asap! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Glow	In my opinion an addict is someone who has a habit in which they can't break when they want to. Maybe the problem is he doesn't want to quit. I think maybe the bigger issue is that he should be a clean, drug-free parent when you two decide to have kids... and not as much about having less money due to his drug use. He needs to quit and maybe you need to give him an ultimatum. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

gbwaters@btinternet.com	He's putting his addiction over your future, and you're the one that pays for food and housekeeping. If he loved you and wanted a future with you then he should stop or at least spend no more on coke than you spend on fags.. If he won't change dump him or go on Jeremy Kyle Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Andrew B	He is addicted, although he only takes it at weekends, it sounds as if he needs it every weekend. It's up to you but I don't think kids should be around a Cocaine addict. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥ Minki ♥	Weekend users, weekday users, if he is doing it regularly then it's a habit. Whatever way he tries to dress it up or down, it's still wrong. You are obviously considering your future, but he isn't. Addicts always deny it and he won't admit there is even a problem. Speak to a professional for advice and good luck x If Amy Winehouse said she only took it at weekends, would you think she was an addict or just funtime Amy? http://www.cauk.org.uk/Self%20Test.html Do the test and see what happens! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

D'arcy	'Blow' him off... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Fefe B	hmmmm lets see, he's happy to put it first before spending money on you or rent/food etc- you think! he's only taking it at weekends (trust me if he's addict hes taking it everyday) Cocaine is dangerous and very addictive, he is risking his and your health and safety, its very expensive do you know if he owes anybody money??? i suggest its an addiciton if not dependancy, he putting it before you and you are human, Cocaine is a substance!!! you are worth more then a substance leave before you get dragged down! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Durango	This is bad news....it will only get worse. Ditch him! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dels replies	He is a plonk head, Dump him straight away Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rab2344	Yes - he is an addict. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cheekyleopard10	All my mates were the same. Every fri and sometimes sat they would take it, id stick to the stella. They was a mess during the week, and you could gradually see them slipping downhill. Packed in jobs etc. Its definatley a slippery slope. Ive yet to meet anyone who can just stop taking it for a month. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

merz	If he's spent £480 so far this month, sounds like he spends a grand a month on the stuff. The question you have to ask yourself is, IF he wants what you want, and IF he's not addicted, what is stopping him saving that £1,000 a month and putting it towards your future... ? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Andrea C	No need to explain yourself. An addict, is an addict, is an addict. If he's still taking it, no matter how many times he's taking it, he's addicted. If he feels the need to keep doing, for FIVE YEARS NOW, then yes hun, there's your answer. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mr. Right	Yep, he's a functioning addict. He's got the same mentality as an alcoholic who binges on weekends. Because they can function during the week they don't think they have a problem. Well, it's causing a problem with you and your marriage. So it is a big problem. And I'm sure on the weekends he's good for nothing. Unfortunately this type of addiction is the hardest to treat since the addict doesn't think they have a problem and don't focus on treatment. Best thing for you to do is stop being an enabler, take a stand and tell him the behavior must stop and you won't stand for it no longer. My guess is he'll choose coke over you. Sorry. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Raven Eyes JPA	Irrespective of whether or not he is an addict sweetie, he is obviously putting the drugs before you. That's not a good situation to be in. Do you really want to live the rest if your life like that? Good luck to you whatever you decide. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mr. Taco	If you only murder people on the weekends, are you still not a murderer? You need to dump the boyfriend before he gets you in serious trouble. If you love yourself, your family, and your friends, you'll get over this loser as fast as you can. Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nyskiermom	There are few ways to define addiction. One is biochemical, which seems to be the definition he's using. He seems to think that if he only uses on weekend and not every day, then that must "prove" that he's not addicted. What he is failing to realize is that he always goes back, always uses, never takes a weekend off. What that means is he uses for two days, then goes through withdrawal for 5, then uses for two. Cocaine withdrawal is a depression, more sleeping, loss of motivation. It doesn't look like heroin withdrawal (shaking, vomiting etc.) and you can keep going to work so it is often overlooked. If he can do 3-5 grams in a weekend, then he has a tolerance, and if he uses with regularity (yes) or if there is a pattern to his use (yes) then he's addicted. The other theory of addiction has to do with whether or not the use of a drug interferes with normal functioning. He would argue no since he continues to go to work and earn a paycheck. However, you say that this is a financial strain, that it is preventing moving forward with marriage and kids. Then this is definitely interfering with his relationships, it is definitely interfering with his day-to-day living (if you moved out could he pay the bills?). It is just a matter of time before it affects him legally or he loses his job for poor performance. He is an addict no matter how you look at it. You don't want to marry a Cocaine addict, you don't want to raise kids with one either, so you need to draw a line in the sand. He gets help with this and stops or you leave. If you do leave he would actually feel the financial strain of his addiction, and that might be a good thing. So sorry about this miserable situation, good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No