Im pregnant again ,im scared of having another baby,im 19 with 3 kids already?

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LIZZY	Sweetie you are 19 with 3 kids. Are they all by the same dad. you need to get on Birth control after this one. Or get your tubes tied (this can be undone) I know that you are scared and don't need people telling you. WHAT ARE YOU THINKING but sweetie. Can you take care of four. do you have the money and suport. You can give your child up for and adoption. I am just saying this is an option. There are so many couples out there that can't have cildren and that are loving. I know a lady who adopted a little girl her and her huband tried for 10 years to have a baby and coulding. They adopted Christy. She is so loved they let the mother come and see the baby when ever. If you have an open adoption i am sure that thatis a possablity. Go to a church. that is what this young lady did. It is a hard thing. But you need to think of the children you have now and this one. You really need to pray alot about this. I am sure God will help you though Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kelly	All I can say is WOW, birth control comes in many ways. I would have my tubes tied and burned if I was you. And don't be scared, I too was scared when I had my 2nd and last child, then I had my tubes tied. I feel sorry for you in a way, I was very uncomfortable with my 2nd child, so I know how you feel. There are clinics sweetie, they can help you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

a kinder, gentler me	Dang! You're a baby-machine!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Roxanne M	I am sorry to hear about your situation. 19 w/ 3 kids ALREADY..is alot and now a possible 4th. There is not much that any one can do for you, BUT YOURSELF. You need to think about ALL of your options, and think long and HARD about this.....I do not know your current financial situation or living situation or anything of the sort but adding one more to the bunch will NOT make things any easier if you are struggling now. Your children, everyone's children deserve the best we/you can give them. They do not need to suffer because of the parents/parent stupid decisions. I believe that the "ball is in your court" right now and you have to make a choice that you can live with. A lot of people will say bad things if you have an abortion, but quite frankly, that is nobody's business but yours. It's your body and you do what you feel is right, for you and your family. You all need to be stable, mentally, emotionally and finacially. I am not religious, I do believe in God ( a FORGIVING God), we are not perfect, no one is. I have a child, and I HAVE HAD AN ABORTION. I have experienced both ends of the specturm. If now is not the right time, then it's not the right time, only you can decide that for yourself, no one else. You will be forgivin ( I don't care what ANYBODY says)...you have already put 3 beautiful souls on the planet...Don't be so hard on yourself. Sometime things are not meant to be, maybe this is one of them. Whatever you decide to do, please GET BIRTH CONTROL...so in the future, you will not have to worry about this situation AGAIN! Best of Luck in whatever you do!!! And don't believe the HYPE, you won't go to hell or whatever the "religious freaks" say..GOD LOVES ALL HIS CHILDREN, FAULTS AND ALL!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

juicy-lips	Have you heard of birth control? I find the best method is KEEPING YOUR LEGS SHUT! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mark S	Seeing as how everyone shared their opinion of your situation I'll instead try to offer some advise. I think you need to give this baby up for adoption. You sound like you have more than what you can handle and there are plenty of parents who despreatly want a child and can afford it. You maybe able to get medical expenses paid and a little extra. Next think about this being your LAST CHILD. Find out about birth control or possible tubes tied. Whatever best fits you but remember this has happened several times now so you might need something that is gaurnteed and not under your control. Now for the children you currently have. Can you afford them? Can you properly raise them and provide for them? Financially and emocionally? You have to do what is best for those kids. They need you to help them and make the right choices for them now. Do you want them to make the same mistakes you have thus far in life? Get help for yourself and seek the track to life. Create goals for yourself and try to follow through. I am sure you don't want to be called all the names that people have given you here, but what else can you call a woman in your position.... I also suggest not having a boyfriend or husband or any relationship with a man outside of friendship. Find yourself before you decide what else you might want. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

turner_kristine	First of all, what is your question? Well I am 18 with one child right now but, believe me when I say I want a whole football team. If I did not want kids or at least this many this early on then I would do something to prevent it. Birth control (especially pills) are very affective. Maby you should try them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Naomi	You DO know where babies come from, don't you? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jessa	It sounds like you haven't had a lot of emotional support in your life or from these answers. Look into speaking with someone from Planned Parenthood or similar organization. You can tell them all your concerns and without judgment they will tell you all your available options so you can make the best choice for you and your children. I'm sorry for your pain, love yourself and your children. Keep people that bring you down out of you and your childrens lives. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Julie	Become pro-choice please! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rrasimas@sbcglobal.net	You're also stupid. Don't you know birth control? Try saying no for once in your life or just keep your legs crossed for awhile. More welfare children, just what we need. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rebelicious_angel228	ummm 19 with 3 children and one more on the way, ummm have you not figured out what causes this? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Topher	Simple. Stop having sex. Poor life choices are usually rewarded with large considerable consequences. By making better choices (celibacy/ better birth control) you can prevent further burdens. By having more children, you are affecting the ones you already have more than you are affecting your own life. Think about the kids you already are taking care of and consider how the choices you will be making are going to affect their lives in the long run. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Roo	u really should be using birth control if u don't want to get prego. try sleeping w/ ur pc. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

besthing	You have every right to be scared. If you are that concerned you should look into a better form of BC. why are you scared? Is it financial reasons? That is a lot of kids for 19 yrs. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

shanthicharuvil	why are u doing all this in the first place? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pandora the cat	I guess you have not learned that having a baby with a man will not make him fall in love with you. And, it's too much pressure and responsibility to place on a child. How would you feel if you were a mother and your daughter started having babies at 16 years old, and won't stop? What would you think? What would you think if you were the children of a 16 year old mother who does not even care enough about herself to improve her own life, by completing her education, expanding her skills and experience, and increasing her earning potential so she could provide for (or contribute to) a family? I would recommend that you consider adoption (if you are pro-life) or abortion (if you are pro-choice). Having another baby right now will not only decrease your quality of life, but also the quality of life of the children you already have. Also, you should have your tubes tied, since you do not get how to use birth control. Do it for your children that you already have. When your children become old enough to go into daycare, you should start taking courses or training for an adequate job or career that will ensure a future of opportunities for your children. Start by living your life as you wish your children would. Be a better example to them than your mother was with you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

momie_please	I think that 3 is already too much..Im speaking like this because im 24 with 3 kids. Its alot of work to have 3 little kids and im sure they are back to back. My advice to you would be to take care of the ones you have now and get yourself back on track and in College is possible. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

freebird	i hope you have help and that the daddy or daddies are involved. you are young but you have to devote the next 18 years to your children.do the best you can.if you are intitled to financial help,get it.work hard,do everything in your power for those kids.it won't be forever but it is a long road.you will still be young when they are all grown.and please have your tubes tied on delivery of your last child. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cassandramn	Get an abortion, and birth control or get your tubes tied. Plan ahead. seek some counseling. Something more is going on with you.Why do you keep "allowing" yourself to get pregnant. I think you need counseling. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

GG	I am not being mean or judgmental. You do not have to have a 4th baby. You have options. I am not going to list them because I will get slammed with hateful remarks. Call someone and talk to them. The phone book has the numbers. I became a parent at a very young age. It is very very hard. Please after this child think about Tubal Ligation. I did. Good Luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Wite Out	thats pretty bad. i recommend practicing celibacy. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

..................	close your legs! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

TJ	stop ******** and use some prottection. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sweet southern charm	feel sorry for you, after this one you need to get fixed...not unless you can afford to have more Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Faeldaz M	I recommend the Bob Newhart solution: STOP IT! You know what causes your problem. Stop doing it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cookie	Scared?? After having 3 kids, I'm guessing your not worried about the delivery but about providing for these children. Or are you? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lydia r	ask your doc about a tubil.love the baby ,love yourself. and be healty Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Just_gone	You had better start taking contraception seriously, for your own good. Consider having your tubes tied. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

krisaquarius	I hate to be a smart*** but have you ever heard of birthcontrol? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tdreamer26	i'm thinking that some form of birth control should be used...i can see one time slipping up but 4 times...haven't u learned already? get ur tubes tied, or a hysterectomy....but whatever you do, take care of those babies and if you can't....let someone else Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No