Im all alone!?

Show all answers

Post your answer

megpavlikova	No matter how deep the hole seems to be, trust me, that is NO answer, and your life is worth more than you think. You've got college ahead of you, and that's a life-altering experience, sweetheart. You can't possibly know what awaits you, and you're lucky to have the chance to go. You're never alone in this life, even if it feels that way, and once you get to school, you're going to meet people who think and feel just like you, and people who make you feel like the lovely, intelligent and worthwhile person you are. Hang in there and if you're having a really rough time, reach out to some people online. Chances are there's someone else out there who needs to talk, too. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kimberly K	I've felt the same way. I'm just like you. I've just over come that stage right before school ended. The one thing different is that I just became a sophmore in hihg school. I know excatly what your feeling. Trust me don't end it. You will regret it. let me tell you a little about myself. I'm always overly happy. I always have been and never knew why. I always looked on the bright side of things, was always the strong one for everyone else, the sholder to cry on. I was always there when some one needed me most. Everything was going well..... or that is what people thought. I can hide my emotions very well. No one could ever tell that something was wrong with me. The only people that knew were my three closest friends. My family had no clue. My life was taking a deep plunge downwards. I mean everything in my life was ruined from school to family to my emotions. I've always kept everything togeather in good shape. You see through veries tests I found out I was the peacemaker. That is true. I put that into my life and found out where it all fits. I couldn't keep things togeather anymore. My family was fightiing alot, I had three projects to do, exams were coming up, one of my grades was slipping, I had a choir concert coming up, I was having emotinal problems with my friends and the list just keeps going on and on. I didn't know what to do anymore. I wanted to just die. On top of that I'm ugly and Fat. No really I am and I'm not ashamed to admit it. People told me I wasn't and all that crap too. I realized I could only see my flaws. I have ever since I was little. It was hard to because I felt I had to live up to my sister's reputation. She was the perfect daughter litteraly she was. Being born after her made me fell like I was such a let down. It even seemed like my friends liked her better than me. I wanted to die so badly. But they ( my friends) wouldn't let me. They stuck it out with me through it all. The invisable Kim wasn't lnvinsable. They helped me through one thing at a time. First they helped me with my falling grade. Lacey would go to the teacher at lunch with me every day so I could make up the work and pick up my grades. Lacey was just another me. I mean exactly. Rue had all her classes with me so she watched over me and helped with anything she could even emotionally. We called each other our soul sister. She did one project with because she was my partner. The other ones we just reminded each other of it so we each could get it done. Claire made sure I had fun and that I realized I wasn't as bad as I saw myself. She is 2 inches taller than me, pretty, and thin. She was a cool person to be with and made friends where ever she went. She and Lacey truelt think I'm beautiful with all their hearts. They made me realiziee that I'm fat but I have all the right curves. I have a flat stomach, big butt. my arms aren't really that flabby, but my legs are a little big. You have to know me to undrestand. Now I embrace my fatness. Yes I'm loseing wieght. They love me no matter what i look like. When i tell them i'm loseing it and they fell my musle they tell me how proud they are of me. That really means a lot to me. I still think I'm ugly but not as ugly and I know I'm fat but I'm loseing weight. I tackled on thing at a time. Yeah it was extremely hard to go through it all, but it was so worth it. You just may need a little help from time to time. Talk to your closest friends and if they are good friends they will help you through it all everystep of the way. Then once you get one thing taken care of then you move on to another and another. It takes time. Now I even went on my first date because I took a chance and my friends helped me on the way through that too. I went on a doulbe date but that is besides the point. They helped me get to that point. You are not alone. Justsee the better side of things and hold your head high becaues you will get through it and things will get better. Just learn to let things things go and confront your problems and don't let them rule your life. If you think your fat go on a diet. I suggest eating smaller portioans. Tha's the only thing I'm doing different and I'm loseing weight. You can always change anything in your life. It's your life so take tha reains and go in the direction you wanty to go. I hope you understand and that it is helpful to you. I will always be hera for you if you need me. Don't give up what ever you do. Sorry for the terrible spelling. My spell cheack isn't working. Hope it was helpful. Love, kim Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

me too	Just remember you will and can see this person again.About you being fat and ugly I'm sure that's not correct every one has beauty in them and there is aways some one for some one to love don't even think about ending it all.I myself have thought about it ending it all lately for other reasons but try not to think like that.If you have Health you have hope.God bless you and all that you do. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

gorjess_b2	When you feel down, go and help someone who is worse off than you. Seriously, do some volunteer work -- there are sooooo many opportunities to help others. It will make you feel good, put you in touch with other decent people, and keep your mind off your troubles. :o) Plus it looks good on your resume, and will keep you busy so you don't snack! EVERYBODY feels ugly sometimes. So, this is just a hiccup. You'll be ok! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

miss_xiong03	awww poor thing..be strong and think positive..find something to do so that way it will keep u busy...and dont forget no one is perfect..!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tenaciousd	You need to expand your circle of friends. College is a great place to do that. Be optimistic, you are about to begin a new phase in life. One most people find very exciting and rewarding. This would be a very bad time to "end it all." Certainly you want to see what happens next. You are probably not fat and ugly but I will tell you most assuridly that I am. I was in college and there were many others, to include members of the opposite sex that wanted to date me who were just as fat and ugly and we got together and had a great time. I gues it was a good thing that getting naked on Datona Beach wasn't really my thing because I never felt deprived of a good time for my appearance. If you are very superficial just get over it and you will have a good life. There are many people there. Whatever you're like, you will find others like you. Do take advantage of available counseling services while you are there. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

woody	get on with ur life.U shudnt be too dependent on 1 person.Go out and make some friends Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

onlyme	Apologise to your mum and let her know how you feel about yourself and maybe she can help you. Look forward to starting college and it will probably be good for you,you`ll meet loads of new people and it will make you feel more confident. As for the person who`s going away,a month isn`t really that long if you keep yourself busy,my ex now left to go to Australia for 4 weeks and i thought i`d go insane but i kept myself busy and went out with friends and before i knew it he was standing on my doorstep!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ROCKABILLY RULES!	COLLEGE IS GOING TO BE REALLY FUN, SO DONT WORRY... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pvanderstighelen	well you answer some questions or ask some more or go for a walk in the sunshine lose weight and get a nice suntan or go to the gym ..or go for lunch with your mammy and stop fighting with her she loves you .....so cheer up do you feel better now you have downloaded ... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

julie m	You sound very depressed, people who are depressed usually have a poor body image, at least that what I have always encountered. If you friend is only going to be gone for a month then they are coming back, it is not the end of the world and just think of all you will have to talk about when they get back. Starting college sounds fanatastic, but a little scary, you will be ok though and it will get your mind off all the other bad things in life, if you let it. If you really feel that you are fat why not start a new exrcise program, get the blood pumping also get the good feelings going too, sounds to easy doesn't it, remember Just Do It! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

munchie	See Dr about how your feeling i know whats its like when someone goes away you worry about them try to enjoy your self remember they will be back soon you could join a gym and wear make up make yourself look pretty going to collage good be the best thing you will make new mates and have fun don't take this to be the end has its the beginning i do believe 1 doors closes another opens good have fun xx Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

candi k	get your life together, make a plan your new rule is, i will only eat natural foods fruit veg chicken and fish, i will only drink water. i will force myself to smile at atleast 10 people every day and i will walk everyday to college at which i will work really hard and get top marks, i will make many freinds will be very successful in all that i do and therfore will be very happy. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kaylora	To speed the time of your friend's absence, write them a letter every day. In your letters, tell of what you did each day. Don't make them sappy "I miss you, I love you" letters, make them entertaining. You may not have to mail every one, but write them. Then when they return, you can spend a great reunion reading them. To deal with the arguments you're having with your 'mam', you need to sit quietly and ask her why she is opposed to whatever the topic or activity is. Then you can share your viewpoint with her, and work toward coming to an understanding. This is a big step in dealing with any type of relationship. If you can discuss differences quietly with family, then you will be able to manage them in all manner of relationships in the future. If you're feeling "fat & ugly" (trust me, I can relate - I'm only 5'4" & weigh 180#), then the first thing you need to do is empty your closets! Get rid of all those clothes that don't fit. They only torment you, so why keep them? I'm sure they're nice enough to make someone else's life better. They certainly aren't helping you at the moment. Then do some shopping for yourself - and buy some nice foundation garments - get some fresh new look that fits properly. You'll help both yourself & someone who's life isn't going so well. And if you'd like to change your body type (lose weight), then this is another good topic to discuss with your mother. If you're living at home, then she probably prepares your meals. Plan some menus with her, and help to prepare them. You'll be showing your 'mam' that you're interested in helping the family, as well as learning how to take care of yourself. And to ward off the desperate feelings of frustration, plan a good walk every day. Get out there and really stretch your legs out. Even if you only walk 1/2 mile each day (which is the equivelant of walking around about 3 city blocks), you'll be improving your posture, your muscle tone, and "airing out" your emotions. The hardest part of moving on with your life while key elements are changing around you is breaking the inertia. Get up, get moving & move forward... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

smcin728	Get over yourself and stop whining. Ending it all would only cause the ones you leave behind pain and heartache. You have friends. You're on your way to college. Do you know how many people would love to have the opportunity you have? Life is not all about you. Grow up and stop being selfish. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

moonsister_98	Oh please don't. You will be robbing the world of your beautiful self. You really need to find a professional to talk to. I would suggest a therapist because they don't cost as much as others. It's hard to lose the person you talk to but don't give up. Please don't hurt yourself. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Git	I would start by not ending it all. That's pretty much the last decision you will make and it would be a bad one. Self esteem is a hard thing to come by; it can start by realising that most people in this world worry about their appearance, size, shape etc. It is a natural worry and those that do not are not normal. Only you know if you are a Good and decent person, if you are then you have little else to worry about. Regarding your friend going away, I am afraid that is just part of life. Separation is something you have to learn to deal with. Its not easy but it is also not fatal. I do hope you feel better soon and try not to argue with your mom. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

x_mzz_666_sinz_x	college will keep you busy dont trip...also your exterior doesnt matter looks come and go you will always be the same person inside...love yourself n quit dissin on yerself.. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

paul s	The important thing to remember there is always someone worse off than you you only have to watch the news or the documentaries on Discovery Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pamela_m24	You could make like this is a mini vacation for you. Go out, get some fresh air, take in a movie, go window shopping. Do something different than your normal daily routine. Take a different route when driving or going somewhere. The change of pace won't make your woes go away, but it will put a different spin on the 'same old, same old' routine. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cubalishus	Hey, what a damn life, look you are what you are and if you want to lose some weight then do it sensibly, cut out the junk and crap foods and eat fruit instead of sweets, stop worrying what other people think of you or you will end up spending all your life worrying over them and don't they just love it when they get to you, broaden your shoulders and say to yourself to hell with them, my life, business, tuff on them, there are times in our life when we all have someone we love that goes away from us even for a short time, have you become a bit relyant on this person, are you feeling they are the only person that understands you, look I know you so do not want to hear this off a stranger, but please talk to your mam, ask her to sit down and ask her what you can do to stop arguing with each other all the time, she is a mom and has had so much life experience and will be able to understand a lot of what you are going through right now, talk to her about your problems because I think you will find she has had a lot of the same sort herself, she was your age once too, you are starting a whole new way of life soon going to college so you obviously are an intelligent person with hopes and ambition, I think you are worried about that and are having confidence crisis about how you are going to fit in with new people, stop worrying college is a great thing and everyone is so different than they are at school, you will be treat different and make good friends, I went through the same thing myself but it changed my life and it will your too, you are one beautiful person so stop worrying ok. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Syzygy	Would you talk to your best friend that way? "You are fat and ugly." "You suck" etc.? No. You need to try and respect yourself, treat yourself like a friend. We are all our own worst critics. If you can't get the negative thoughts to thought, start countering them with poiitive ones. For short term comfort..Ask yourself... what makes me feel good? Treat yourself to a favorite activity...take a hot shower and drink a cup of tea and curl up with a favorite show or book. Take a walk in a favorite place. Most important... " Whether you are sad or happy it is wise to remember you are in progress." - Maya Angelou Think of all the reasons why you are lucky. You have a house, and plenty of food, you live in a country where you can go to college. College is an amazing adventure. You will learn so much about yourself and the world. Keep your chin up and remember that even though youve been fighting with your mom she loves you very much, and its normal at this time in your life. RE: your weight.We all have issues because were surrounded all the time with skeletons in sexy outfits portrayed as the ideal woman. It is a constant struggle to keep our confidence. So many girls and women develop eating disorders and the rest are always dieting and obsessing about their weight. If you workout or exercise or watch what you eat do it to be healthy and fit- to breath better or run faster. Loving yourself and accepting yourself exactly as you are- every last inch of thigh and belly- is the best thing on earth you will do. Its a struggle, and you'll always have days where you feel insecure, but just try to focus on how lucky you are. I mean seriously- I met this woman recently who lived in this mansion in Malibu, with a pool and gardens. It was so fancy. But she was in bed because she had gotten in a car accident. She used to be adancer, but now she has trouble getting around. We are so lucky to have these beautiful healthy bodies that can dance and run and play and love. My dad is very overweight and struggles with it and I gain weight easily- I was heavier in high school. I've had plenty of days of being negative to myself and I've been through obsessing over food. What I learned was that dieting doesnt work neither does feeling guilty or denying yourself certain foods. The best thing you can do for yourself is feel good and love life. Savor the flavor of the food you eat- take your time and never feel bad. Food is a gift. And hey when theres a snowstorm or other disaster- those with 15 extra pounds will live longer. Focus on being healthy and happy. Go see the movie "REal Women Have Curves" Remember that what makes a woman sexy is her confidence and read this poem over and over out loud until you believe it PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm not cute or built to suit a model's fashion size But when I start to tell them They think I'm telling lies. I say It's in the reach of my arms The span of my hips The stride of my steps The curl of my lips. I'm a woman Phenomenally Phenomenal woman That's me. I walk into a room Just as cool as you please And to a man The fellows stand or Fall down on their knees Then they swarm around me A hive of honey bees. I say It's the fire in my eyes And the flash of my teeth The swing of my waist And the joy in my feet. I'm a woman Phenomenally Phenomenal woman That's me. Men themselves have wondered What they see in me They try so much But they can't touch My inner mystery. When I try to show them They say they still can't see. I say It's in the arch of my back The sun of my smile The ride of my breasts The grace of my style. I'm a woman Phenomenally Phenomenal woman That's me. Now you understand Just why my head's not bowed I don't shout or jump about Or have to talk real loud When you see me passing It ought to make you proud. I say It's in the click of my heels The bend of my hair The palm of my hand The need for my care. 'Cause I'm a woman Phenomenally Phenomenal woman That's me. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

snowwhite22003	You probably have an eating disorder and depression. Seek out the help of a professional and get treatment for these. there is counseling and medication, it works, I have had both of these and recovered. Good Luck, Hon! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

professor_not_Mr.Howell	Time to press the "grow up" button... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

elf	go out get some nice clothes or other things that cheer you up, go somewere fun with the person who's going away so you'll have a fun memory to last till they come back, go visit them or they you and if that's not possable write to each other send silly little things or call each other. a month is hard especialy if you're used to seeing eachother all the time but it'll get hard at about 2 weeks but by then you're half of the way through it and you just have to last the next 2 weeks. and the day they get back it will seem like it just flew by, just keep yourself occupied till then. as for the college thing, change is always scary, but honestly it's not as big or as scary as it seems, you'll meet a lot of nice people and a lot of friends. most of the friends i have now i met through college, i didn't think there were so many people like me but in being myself and putting up with the pants people i met a lot of good people. and if you find out you don't like it there are so many options open to young people that you don't even think about till you look back at it. i'm sure your not fat or ugly even if you think you are, we all over exsagerate our own flaws. if you are realy that unhappy with your body use the 5 weeks you have till you start college to inprove yourself, take up swimming and walking. change your hair eat differently, healthyer, a good 3 meals a day with less takeaways and fat. start some hobies like a martial art or riding or anything, archery. i have to say "ending it all" for such a young person with so many options they've not explored or just because they can be bothered to try or are scared of doing seems a bit stupid. there realy are many things to do. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

M B	Moooooove out Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LisaJ8765	hey you. keep your head up high. no-one is fat and ugly...you be strong alright,cheers Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mlm1975	you need to talk to a counselor. Please check in the phone book or do something Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chris brown's gurl	u need to shut up and betta start feeling gud bout ur self also take gud care of ur body bcus if sumone else thinks u r ugly( they r only saying to make them selfs feel betta) i mean its ur life u gotta live it to da fullest and stop sitting around feeling bad for ur self dats not da best way to deal wit it, jus hit da gym a couple of days in a week . TAKE CONTROL OF UR PROBLEMS DON'T LET UR POROBLEMS TAKE CONTROL OF U. ending it is da dumbest thing u can doo u have got a whole life ahead of u neva kno wat the furture holds for until u get there. learn to have fun and it dont matter if u r fat or skinny jus enjoy living in ur body cus at the end of da day u r still beautiful. It all about how u see ur self (ppl see in the same way u see ur self) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

'Dr Greene'	Don't be down. It's ok to feel that way from time to time. You have something to look forward to, so just keep going. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No