I think my boyfriend may have Obsessive compulsive disprder?

To paint you a picture, I am 21 (Female) and live with my boyfriend in an apartment in London. He owns and operates several companies with his fathe and we live very nicely. We have a huge family and lots of friends. I have in the last few months being seeing some odd things in my boyfriend that seem to have come out of the blue. I will list them.

He has a phobia of tissues and if there is one on our table in restaurant he will get someone to take it away. Also at home.

I have seen him lock our door and then unlock and lock it again is if counting the times he does it. He has to touch things a certain amount of time and seems to get annoyed with himself when doing it.

Making sure our fridge door is shut all the time by pushing it.

I have also discovered soap in a case in a jacket pocket and packets of wipes.

It seems he is on edge all the time and looking round the room all the time.

There are lots of other things. When I mention it he just dismisses it as nothing.

Jennifer S	I think he also has a form of OCD. You might want to ask what his childhood was like, or if he has relatives with this OCD tendacies.

Me	It sounds like he might but, you know the drill the only one who can tell you is a dr. good luck!

kenny_the_bomb	My brother has OCD and I can tell you for sure your boyfriend does, too. It usually starts appearing in later teens and early adulthood. The brain gets 'locked' like a skipping cd and is stuck on a motion. My brother checks his alarm clock or combs his hair for hours. They are also really nit-picky about certain things, in terms of germs and order. Everything has to be tidy, neat, and clean.

gameplan_xtreme	Uh-oh, you're in trouble. Try to talk to him about it and insist that you should dicuss what's going on.. it sounds so serious. You gotta make him realize he's getting odd. But at the same time, try not to offend him as much as possible, so do it as casually as you can. And DON'T BRING UP SHRINKS YET, he'll lose confidence in you. Try to ask about his work, how's his business going. Maybe he's doing those OC things for "goodluck" cuz business for him is doing bad these days.

Miss. Advice	tape him? heh...show him what he does i suggest he sees someone about this, it isnt normal and obviously has never happened before, right? did you notice a certain event that happened beforehand? trama may hav triggered it, counceling can help. he sounds a lot like Adrean Monk on the uSA show MONK (dunno if you have seen it or not)....but he should seek help. you you go talk to a psychiatrist about it, see what thier opinion is about it, how you oculd get him to go so youwould sotrt of be there on his behalf...ya know? I hope all works out well, hopefully, it's a phase, if not, I'm more than certain there are meds to calm his nerves. BTW, yes it sounds exactly like OCD

Lotus	Sounds like it could be OCD. Urge him to see a doctor.

♥Ava♥	Well,it sounds like he has a form of it. have him talk to someone about it.

?	It does sound like OCD, but if he's not admitting to it you're going to have trouble getting him to a doctor. it might not be a bad idea to seek out professional advice from a therapist or some such on how to deal with it.

browneyes	Has he gone to a doctor? Maybe he does, I saw this one show on MTV.......True Life....and it was about ppl that had OCD and it showed how 3 different ppl had to do "rituals" in order to be able to live their lives "normal". The fact of the being is that maybe he does this things without knowing. You should take him to the doctor it is curable so there is a good chance he can get better but you shouldn't waist any more time, take him now that you are just noticing instead of later. I suggest you sit down and talk to him and ask him first of all why he does it. If he tells you he hasn't noticed it , ask him if he is willing to go to the doctor just to check it out. Well i hope he gets well. Best Wishes!!! ~browneyes~

Utopia	Get him to take Fish oil pills with Omega 3

vinible2006	Leave everything a mess and see what he does. He'll soon get annoyed by his actions and stop. Open the Refridgerator Door, keep the regular door open. Leave a tissue or towel on the table on purpose. He is the new and improved MR MONK!

Chloe	Have you seen the TV show Monk? Seriously, try and convince him to see a doctor. It sounds like OCD and it will probably get worse without treatment. Stress can bring on these symptoms to the point where you are now noticing them. If he doesn't get help, it will drive you crazy, I'm sure of that.

cruiser	I have a husband and 3 children with OCD. I definitely would say your mate does have it. I know this may sound cruel but, think twice about staying with him. I can't tell you the torcher my kids and husband go through. If I would have known my husband had it before we married I would not have married him. It is hereditary and chances are your kids will have it too. There were also 2 attempted suicides by 2 of the 4 people in my family that have it. There is no cure. There are medications that will help a little but its just that a little. It is a horrible mental disorder. My kids are now 37'34 and 25 and it is horrible. If you remain with him you will see it only gets worse as they age. There are more things in his head which you cannot see that they go through. What you see is on the outside, what goes on in the inside is alot worse.

CharWiz	It looks like he does, but that is not problem. You just have to learn to deal with it and he has to become conscious that he has this problem.

shadowman	Yes he does. Watched a program on TV several months ago about that. There is help though. Speak with your doctor and get a good referral to a specialist that treats that disorder is my suggestion.

katiara2@rogers.com	He may have been watching too much Monk. Seriously, it sounds very possible. Some of his behaviours are like mine but I just have anxiety. Does he seem anxious as well? If he does, perhaps you can bring his attention to that rather than focus on the OCD behaviours, so that he will see a doctor. My old bf came to me years later to apologize for behaviour when young. He was only happy after diagnosed and able to put a name to what he was feeling. Good luck.

cassandra t	From my experiences, he defiantly has obsessive compulsive disorder(ocd) The most common symptoms are obsessive thoughts if i don't touch that door 10 times right now I might die or obsessive thoughts, which could be anything that he thinks of constantly that he can't seem to get out of his head even if he wants to. The best advise for you and him as well, is to see a professional. I'm sure that will be hard because he might be too embarrassed to mention theses things to someone for fear of being "weird", or "odd", but just assure him that there are so many people with the same thing, and he is not alone.

Paul	It's impossible to diagnoze somebody with OCD based on what you tell here, but it seems like your bf has a problem. Could be stress-related, but the sooner he deals with it, the better. My guess is that he's noted the change in himself, too, and that he feels bad about it and probably hopes it will go away. And it may. If it doesn't and he's still in denial, my suggestion is that you talk with either a good doctor or call a therapist (preferrably a cognitive behavioral one) and ask them how to proceed. Ask his parents or a family member you trust (from his family) to help you, they may also have seen his odd behaviour. Obsessive compulsion acts are about control and reducing anxiety, and tend to expand over time, so if that's what he has, he needs professional help.

ThePartyGirlPrincess	Yes I would say he has OCD. I lived with a man that was diagnosed with the disease. It was miserable...for both of us. Repetion, counting, all things to do with numbers drove me nuts! Seek help for the both of you and good luck!

Logan	Slap him crazy woman!

kristen8182	It sounds like he may be obsessive compulsive from your description. There is nothing wrong with him though, just his way of coping with certain things. Some medicines help, but I always thought they made me more jittery and anxious. Just try to be understanding and help out sometimes. He will love you all the more for it.

Belle Noir	He seems to have a lot of the symptons... germaphobia, counting, unexplained rituals, etc... Take him to an OCD specialist or something.

Randy G	I'm not an expert but it sounds like an obsessive personality according to John Hopkins University web-page. Not all obsessiveness is bad as long as it doesn't interfere with your job or relationships; sometimes it is just quirky.

Ananke402	First, (tap, tap, tap) let me welcome your boyfriend to the OCD club!, but don't shake my hand! Second, he does need help! It only gets worse without consultation. If he's developing new habits, he's under new stressors and actually closer to breaking down. Good luck!

♫ Mad Luv ♫	It doesn't really seem to be doinging anything harmfull just annoying! But i would take him to see about it! maybe there is something he can do!

vicvic*	It's highly likely that he is OCD and that he is embarrassed by it. He may not want to "fix" these behaviors so going to the doctor may not be an option. If you love him, you might have to accept that these tics come with being with him. Or there's drugs for it, but that's his decision.

♫Pavic♫	good god, it seems that you're living with a psycho, get out of there before it's too late. everyone has a little phobia, but he has way too many... you never know what it might happen. just leave...

Tim	That is pretty much the textbook symptoms of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. Wiki: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Obsessive-compulsive_disorder OCD UK: http://www.ocduk.org/

Prep♥™	umm tell him to fo to the doctor

freelancenut	Sounds like a pretty classic set of symptoms to me, but I'm a consumer advocate, not a pro. If he doesn't get treatment, for goodness sake don't marry the guy. This thing gets worse.

ilikegum	Wow. I'm not an expert, but it does mimic exactly what I've seen on television regarding OCD. From what I understand for some that live with OCD, things "have to be just right". The unlocking and re-locking of the door seems to be just that. If I just witnessed the soap, packet of wipes and the request to remove someone else's Kleenex, I would have thought he is simply weary of germs - just like me. However, the other clues you give seem to add up to something bigger. I'd see a specialist, when he's ready to confront/admit his possible OCD. Know that many people and their spouses live just fine with OCD. Depending on its severity, it may just take more time and patience to get things done. My best of wishes to you in identifying/dealing with this concern.