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Michael B	Be careful. If what you have been told is true then the man should be in jail. But there are a few things to consider. 1.....The girl may have been fantasising or lying. Children do lie, and especially about this sort of thing. 2.....The accusation has been reported, and the school authorities and police have taken no action. Now in the current climate of opinion, you can be sure that if there was any credible evidence at all, a prosecution would have followed. I have worked in schools, and know that for every real case of abuse there are several accusations which are either malicious or fantastic. Smoke does not always mean fire. 3.....In this sort of case the police usually go "fishing" - interviewing other potential witnesses in the hope of turning up more victims. When the man was suspended, the whole school probably knew what for (you can't keep that sort of gossip quiet!) and any other victims had the chance to come forward. The fact that no other victims turned up suggests that there aren't any. Perhaps there wasn't the first one. In a word, don't get carried away. You are obviously emotional about this, and understandably so, but bear in mind the possibility that the whole thing might be fiction. If he is guilty, the truth will probably come out soon anyway, and you won't see your teacher again for a long time. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ms.me	i don’t know if u know that story ,it goes like this there was once a king that had really big ears and used to cover them with his hair , only his wife and his barber knew about that .. so his barber dies and he has to look for a new barber that he trusts to keep his secret .. he spread in his kingdom that the king needs a new barber ..every barber in the kingdom wanted to have the honor of being the king’s personal barber ..but the king would have them to go through a test of trust and if they don’t pass he would kill them ..anyways ,only one man made it ..and now he was the king’s barber ..when he saw tha kings ears ..he didn’t commenet and did his job and left ..he faught the earge of telling his wife about the king’s ears ..he needed to tell someone ..so he traveled far away from town and found a well.. he started screaming in that well"the king’s ears are so big , so big like a donkey " he felt better now that he let it out .. while he was getting ready to leave he saw the king and his gaurds on their horses haunting ..suddenly they all heard someone saying "the kings ears are so big, so big like a donkey " the barber looked around and realized that everything ..flowers ..wind ..grass was saying that ..everything that was supplied by that well’s water .. i really couldn’t understand what is the moral from that story , i guess it means u better keep other ppl ’s secrets and not try to let it out coz it only makes things worse ...as soon as i read ur Q i remembered that story .. this girl didn’t tell for a reason that u might not understand ..so stay out of this coz u might hurt the girl not the teacher ..i’m not an expert but that is what i think .. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥KeLsEy♥	Know what, tell your friend that you are going to report it because you ARE her Friend. She might get mad at you but she will thank you when its all over. Maybe if you can find other people who he did it to then they will report him too. A lack of evidence??? who would lie about something like that???? Nobody!!! I think that you should report it again. But this time to the school and to the police. Get a good layer and take them to court. And if they don't have money try Child line. I hope it all works out. with love ♥ here is the site for child line i really hope it works out.♥♥♥♥♥ http://www.career-courses.net/index.cfm?key=ov_166&v=overture&a=1207617715&c=PCDI&cat=child+care+166&ad=11403035011&mt=search&emt=broad&est=child%20care%20course%20on%20line&st=Child%20line&drop_id=AZ&OVRAW=Child%20line&OVKEY=child%20care%20course%20on%20line&OVMTC=advanced&OVADID=11403035011&OVKWID=78762235511 Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

TwinyC	you have to tell. people have to know about men like him! there are too many people like him in the world and it is just not right! you would be doing the right thing by telling someone as you would be protecting other students! do what you think is right not what people on yahoo answers tells you to do! but that is my opinion on this topic! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

quest?	I can imagine how terrible you feel.Knowing something like this and being unable to tell is a heavy burden to bear.I think the victim ought to tell her parents or at least some other member of her family so they can give her the necessary support and report to the authorities.People like the teacher should not be walking around free because he definitely will abuse other vulnerable children.Unfortunately,those who should deal with these matters do not always use their senses.If something was reported that led to his being suspended,then they should have reported to the police and let them investigate.Please talk to your friend and get her permission to tell someone who can help as even you are too young and inexperienced to bear this burden alone.Don`t worry about snide remarks about telling us on Answers.It`s a sensible thing to do because you did need to get it off your chest.All the best with whatever you eventually decide to do. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

munni	this secret keeping is harmful I advice you to go and tell concerned authorities in order to stop further messing around Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

purplezelda	you have every right to be angry when anjustice has been or let and evil that has been done. the question i asked , who did the investigating the police or was it the school, one will try to cover it up so there is no publicity., be there for your friend because of the instance she will feel: it is her fault, and the prevert as many others will put the blame on the victim, or make the victim feel guilty because if it gets out thats when the pervert will play the innocent., and use such excuses my family will be hurt, etc.be there for your friend and i will pray that justice is done. you are right a trust was broken which in school these lessons of trust. you a excellent friend. i can answer this question because i was a victim and sure wished i had had a friend or even better family at by my side. i went through this all by myself except the Great Spirit was with me. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dee	Well so far it looks like everything that could have been done has been... and you've manage to keep your word to your friend. I'm rather impress with you. For a young person sounds like you have your priorities straight... and a good friend. Sadly the legal system doesn't seem to work in the favor of the victims anymore. Let God do his work. This man will be brought to light... trust that! Just be there for your friend and offer her support and comfort. Let her know it isn't her fault.. Unfortunately we live in a sick world. That's why I never wanted to have any children so that some sicko could put his paws on them... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

adobeprincess	I am sorry about this unfortunate situation. I am glad that you told your mom. Keep talking to your mom about it and I can understand why your friend does not want you telling more people. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ALLEN B	Any particular reason that you ask this question under mental health ? If an offence was reported I assume there was a thorough investigation which did not produce even a little evidence, because I suspect in these circumstances any doubt at all the person in question would have been transferred. Unfortunately the evidence that anything occurred is the word of your friend. You can be sure that your own teacher will be aware of any investigation, the outcome and the reasons for the initial investigation, if indeed there was one as I'm not sure if you only have your friends word for that, otherwise if a criminal act is reported the police would have wanted to speak to you with reference what your friend told you. I don't have the confidence in you friends word that you may have and I'm also aware that this is also someones career and possibly marriage that is in jeopardy. I think you should encourage this friend to make a statement to the police, if they are being truth full they have nothing to lose and everything to gain. From the information you have given I doubt they will take you up on this sensible offer, if they do, be supportive and let the professionals do their job. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

I wonder	i would not tell anyone directly, because, your friend has confided in you and not everyone understands the situation, just like Michael B some might think she is lying so just keep quiet for now. Having said that, you cant ignore Michael B... the incident could be fabricated, and a fraction of imagination... so dont get involved YET... sounds selfish but you have to be careful. *DIscuss this with your friend again, tell her how its making you feel, and that you are concerned not only for her safety, but her friends and your friends. Maybe you alongwith the other friends could come up with some way of letting people know what he's done and to be careful. If its all fabricated, there wont be another victim. If it HAS happened he'll be careful not to repeat this. If he DOES repeat it, and there IS another victim you can then catch him and there'll be enough evidence/witnesses. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

BlueApple	What a terrible situation. I empathise with you, my niece has been through exactly the same thing as your friend and has had to leave school because of it. You've got 2 major issues to resolve here. One is your feelings about this teacher. They are quite justified and I admire your self control. Justice has not been done and it isn't fair. The second issue is your isolation at school on this matter. You want everyone to know but your loyalty to your friend makes it impossible. Most of the answers on here have got the thumbs down. I've no way of knowing for sure if that was you but if it was then I'm going to stick my neck out and say this. You have the power to overcome this yourself. You are a strong person, a loyal friend and your integrity shines. This teacher has already caused enough harm. But if you allow his actions and the injustice of the situation to continue to eat away at you then it's a bit like giving him a bonus prize. He is a 'bad man'. You are a lionheart. Stay strong. This time will pass. I wish you peace in your heart. If it wasn't you doing the thumbs down then you have some very good advice in the other answers. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

De	If there is one victim there are probably more. You should tell your friend to tell this guys boss. No one who is smart will hold the girl responsible for what happen. Your suppose to trust your teachers. Letting people know may make other victims come forward and stop this for good Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ambivalent Bittern PJA	This is a horrible situation for you and the victim. As you say, though, it seems like everything that could currently be done has been done. I strongly advise you to take up the offer of counselling because this will help you identify the particular things that are really getting to you (not that they shouldn't get to you! - but that it's easier to manage when you know more precisely what it is and why it gets to you). It will also be a good safety valve for you and hopefully provide you with some support. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mhchicetawn	Without evidence there really isn't too much you can do. You can warn other students whom you see getting close with him. If this teacher is a popular teacher, your friend may be right. People may turn on her. Try and talk to someone who doesn't work directly within the school system such as a member of clergy or a detective who works in the special victims unit of your local police department. Can you talk to your parents about this? Unfortunately, you are going to have to trust and confide in an adult. If your parents don't fit this bill...try another adult relative. As far as your teacher being his best friend...I know it's hard...but remember that your teacher didn't offend. How many friends do you have where you disagree with their lifestyle or the things they do. If you feel this teacher helped cover for their friend then perhaps you are wise to keep your distance. Who knows what else they helped this teacher cover for. Here in Philadelphia, we have several reporters who don't have a problem reporting discrepencies within the school system. See if you have anyone where you live. Also, try contacting John Walsh (Americas Most Wanted). He is an advocate for children and hates molesters since his son was molested before they killed him. I think you have a decision to make and it won't be an easy decision. By keeping silent, you are enabling this guy to continue what he has been doing probably for years. I don't think that this is a secret you can keep. I think you would feel real bad that you found out he has victimized other kids and you knew that if you had said something it could of been prevented. After everything is over, I think your friend will be glad you said something. She needs help. Hiding what happened to her will only hurt her in the future. What this teacher did to her will never go away and it will ruin her life. So...tell. Save other kids from what she went through and save your friend too. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

srracvuee	take advice from the social services they will take it further despite lack of evidence as you say there are a few ways this man can face defending himself again Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

SH2007	Hi, I am so sorry for your friend, it must be awful for her to see him in school and to have gotten away with it but she did the right thing to report it and you sound like you have been there for her completely and are a really great friend! Has she ever considered moving schools? i don't know if that's an opinion and i know some people will think that , it proves he's won but continuously being reminded of what happened to save face can be self harming too. I think you should actually go see the counsellor at school. You do actually need it, this is a lot to take on board. I had seen a counsellor at school before and i do in uni too. Gthey are not there just for people who are crazy or who mave major problems, minor problems or even worries are enough for anyone to deal with, they are confidential completely, whereas no matter how much you trust a friend, sometimes they still talk for various reasons. A counsellor can be like a friend, please at least think about it, you only have to try it once, if you completely hate it you don't have to go back. I am sorry for you, youhave taken so much on board...you have done everything you cand and remember other people who are infact more responsible for yoru friends safety such as her parents and the police are aware so you should'nt feel you have this all on your shoulders, but you are suffering so please seek counselling , it could help so much or why not try ringing childline for some further advice? best of luck to you xxx Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

juicyfruit02938	you need to sit down with the victim and really talk to her about it. you have to tell her that it's ok for her to be totally freaked, but she has to try again and you have to work together if you want to get rid of the guy. he really should be in jail. tell her people might think differently of her, but not in a bad way. people will want to help, and it will get rid of his popularity. you have to get more people involved and work together to get rid of him. she is the evidence, she has to stand up. just tell her this. youre gonna have to really work at it though. you have to talk to the victim first, and come up with the plan with her. you're gonna have to keep it from everyone else until you can convince her. this is probably gonna be extreemly hard but it'll be better than keeping it in youre a good person for keeping it in so long. secrets,even little ones, are super hard to keep. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MICHAEL P	Full marks to you for talking about it on here! The one plus point here is that you will leave the college within the next year or two and as such this man should then become history to you. The other thing is that these kind of things, in varying degrees, happen constantly throughout life and experience will tell you that you simply have to deal with them and don't let them take you over. I am afraid that 'lack of evidence' is a major issue in whether the police prosecute or not. The CPS must have a virtual watertight case to move forward and this man has been extremely lucky as it seems one word against another. Having said that, he has had his collar felt and the matter will remain on file, you can bet. The police are probably as anxious as you to prove a case against this guy and their frustration must be on a par. If the man has committed the offence to other young people, then they must come forward and report it. That will probably cement the case being reopened. The one barrier here is that he is a responsible fully fledged adult and you are just heading that way, so he probably has enough confidence to shake you off. But you have done well to pen this matter on here and I congratulate you for that. My advice is to let this matter lie and not take you over ..... if he is as guilty as reported, then the matter is bound to reoccur and you can only hope that the law will get him this time. In the meantime, you should have a course tutor or even the deputy head that you may wish to express your feelings to in confidence? Schools are places of all round development , not just academic, and you should be able to raise a personal problem where the school is involved. Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

:	You need to talk to a professional please contact the NSPCC http://www.nspcc.org.uk/helpandadvice/helpandadvicehubpage_wda33340.html If you contact them it has to be followed up but they will also keep your details confidential. Talk to them. You really need to talk this out with someone. The other option is Childline http://www.childline.org.uk/ Talk and off load this or it could make you ill. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dia	PLEASE, do the right thing TELL someone that moron doesn't have the right to be around kids! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Robin C	Please tell your parents, they will know what to do. Other young people are at risk while he is still in contact with children Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

:]	you need to tell somebody. your friend has been violated and if you were a true friend you'd say something. One of my best friend went through the same thing i thought i was doing the right thing by keeping my mouth shut, but i was wrong. you need to do this for your friend and future student who may be violated. Please say something. and please do it ASAP. Your friend is going through a rough time. I understand her pain. if anything get a voice recorder or a video catching him. it's your best bet. I hope something is done soon. for the sake of your friend and others. best of luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Brunette_Beauty	u should report to the police, who cares, lack of evidence, if i'm thinkin what ur sayin, that guy is a perv, and nneds to be put in jail for now, and get rid of his teaching ...ah what's it called?....well he shouldn't be a teacher!!!!!!!!!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sophieb	They said there was no evidence, and you said "He knows that I know, because I make it clear to him without even needing to say anything" What if your friend made it up, or what if it's not that serious of a matter? I'm sure both of those involved are being watched. It's one thing to call a spade a spade but does your friend really know what sexual abuse is? A kid (or kids) can ruin a person's life, their career, their income for life, the income for their kids to survive, and get them jail time so you better be darn certain something has transpired before you take it out on someone or spread untrue rumors. Nothing ever that someone has said is a secret and you need to learn that. More than likely if not you then the other friends of that girl are spreading the rumor. If no one has, from interviews and proof, that something has transpired then forget the rumor. I'm not saying it didn't happen I'm just saying that many times kids have a crush on their teacher and they dream things happened (dream either in the daytime or during the night), or they exaggerate because they have been turned down. I suggest you forget the matter, forget trying to show this man you are aware of something, and get busy with your school work and more important things in life and mind your own business. If it makes you feel any better just know that life is like a boomerang and if you send it to someone it will come back to you in your own life. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Wiz	Have you tried childline Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cameltrophy3	You have to go and tell someone, dude. get off the computer and go tell someone. Do it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jay	wow. to be quite honest. i think it's bogus that you are not telling someone. he could be abusing another child as we speak. whats not saying anything going to do? nothing. you need to report him to the police... not the school or principle or whatever. the police because not saying anything is just going to make it worse. who knows, he can abuse your friend again and it can keep going on. just say something. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mallory	You need to bring this child to the superintendent. She is living evidence. If they don't believe you, threathen to tell the school board, and if they don't listen, do! This man NEEDS to be fired and he NEEDS this on his permanent record. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cat♥Eyes =^..^=™	I am surprised that the investigation did not find more victims. Are you positively sure that what this person told you is true? If so, find someone older to confide in, perhaps a person you trust in administration. If what the victim told you is true then this man needs to be stopped..you know he won't right? and I would hate to have you feel the guilt of knowing you could have prevented another young person from being victimized by someone in a position of trust. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No