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(:	just keep thinking that it could be worse.. i know it really doesnt feel like it could be but it really could.. if you just keep thinking positively about yourself and your life then you will feel a lot better Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ronaldr763	I know you don't want to see a counselor, but you should see a psychiatrist. Your symptoms are the same as mine, and I was diagnosed Bipolar (depression and euphoria). They could give you some medicine which will take away your depression. I feel very sorry for you, because I know what you are going through. God Bless You :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sweet-cookie	This is one of the classic signs of clinical depression Go and tell your Doctor about it , i am sure he /she will be sympathetic and also give you some temporary medication, to help you cope . Most people go into depression at some time , in their lives and need help . So you are not alone in this Don't worry it will ease off and you will feel your happy self again, soon all best >^,,^< Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lsenn	Get busy doing something you enjoy. If you are in college, I'd think that studying would be a big distraction. Distractions help when one is depressed. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

zia k	best things to do ask to ur parents i hope hope they will helps u and love u Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pringles	I feel for you, it sounds like you have no one to lean on at the moment except your new bf. Friends dont always understand how we feel when life is not treating us fair. You can and will get through this difficult time in your life and one day believe me look back and it will be a distance memory. I dont understand your parents wanting you to move out but if that is there wish, maybe you could ask a tutor at college for help they may even no of somewhere that you could stay, you have not mentioned any other relatives but if you have some maybe it could be worth a visit to them. I truly wish you well and hope that in time you will be back on your feet, please stop crying you will spoil a pretty face for your new bf. take care x Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mkandfa4rever	pray to god Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Holly S	Sounds like you are stressed. Try taking up a hobbie to try and take your mind off things and keep you occupied. go for a walk, take a long hot bath, read a book, go to church, or maybe read or watch something uplifting. Try not to worry about things so much. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

princesstiptoes	its really hard when you are feeling down, don't give yourself a hard time. give yourself a break and do something for you, something you really enjoy. try to keep yourself busy, but f you need to cry then just do it, you will probably feel a bit better after a good blub. hope you perk up soon. xxx Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

huckypeep2	You really need to figure out for yourself what makes you happy and pursue that.Sometimes it means that you tell everyone else to screw. If that doesn't help, try medicines or changing your diet and exercise. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jan	You are depressed. I wouldnt suggest you see a counsellor, simply because they don't work for everyone, and it would appear they don't work for you. But I would see a doctor, and get some treatment for the depression, it won't get better by itself. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Rachel Bitchface	Keep a journal and write everything in it just writing it down will help you feel better about it. Give yourself time explain to your friends that your sad right now but you won't be that way forever and try to keep yourself busy. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LAURENCE B	Words wont help I take. You will have to immerse yourself into an activity you enjoy this will refocus your mind and let you move on and upwards. dwelling isn't good Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mimi149	think about the positive things, try and get a job to make money to move and to keep yourself busy. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Goldy	Honey, what you need to do is think about good things and not think about the CRAP going on in your life. It sounds like you have a lot to deal with and I understand exactly where you are, because I have been exactly there. I have beaten clinical depression on my own more than once with no meds and no doctors. This is not for everyone, and it is not easy, but I also didn't feel that counselors helped and I didn't want meds. You need to start with a physical foundation for your new, positive and happy self. Eat plenty of fruits and vegetables, preferably fresh. Avoid sugary, salty and fatty foods and white flour. Avoid hydrogenated oils and high fructose corn syrup like the poisons that they are. Avoid artificial sweeteners and artificial fats. Be a label reader. Learn about nutrition. Be sure to eat enough protien but not too much red meat. Drink plenty of water and take a decent quality Multivitamin every day. (Centrum, or the Costco equivalent are actually pretty good, and inexpensive). Be sure to get plenty of sleep and reasonable exersize. Keep your house/room and your car clean, you'd be surprised how much better you'll feel just being in a clean environment. Surround yourself with people who are positive and supportive, and avoid people who bring you down or put you down in any way. This may mean getting some new friends. Join clubs or activities that do things you are interested in, you're in school, so these should be pretty easy to find. The above is all the foundation for the real work. The real work is to think positively, to actively avoid negative thoughts and actively focus on positive thoughts. This sounds much easier than it is. You probably have developed habits / patterns of thinking of things from the past that were upsetting, painful, embarassing, whatever. You need to stop that! *Feeling immediately follows thought*, so if you are thinking of negative things, you are going to have negative feelings. If you are thinking of negative things all the time, you will have negative feelings all the time. When you find yourself thinking of negative things, conciously force your mind away from them and focus on thinking of postive things. It can help to have a 'default positive thought', something that is a good thing that you feel good about that you can conciously turn your thoughts to when you notice you are thinking of something negative. You need to do this every time you start to think negatively. I'm telling the truth when I say that this is very very hard, but if I can do it you can do it. You will backslide, just dust yourself off, and get back on the positive thought trail. What you can also do is try smiling. There are scientific studies that have proven that smiling actually releases chemcials in the brain that make you feel better. It's weird but true, and I've proven it for myself. Try smiling, even if it's a totally fake, stiff smile, when you are alone or driving, or whatever. Keep that smile plastered on, it's subtle at first but it does make a difference. Also, when you smile at people, even for no reason, you'll be amazed at the results. Smiles, like yawns, are contagious and a person who smiles a lot is spreading good feelings all around themselves. I can tell you from experience that the above works. I have been conciously working on being happy, on thinking positive thoughts for more than 10 years now and I am happier than I have ever been. Right now I have things going on that 10 years ago would have freaked me out copmpletely...and they don't. I do what I can do, I make the best decisions that I can and take action on them, and then I just don't spend much more time thinking or worrying about it because all that does is make me feel bad. It takes time to change habits. You'll get results right away in your immediate feelings each time you avoid negative thoughts, but changing the thought patterns will take several weeks to be at all visible - keep at it - this will work. I still backslide every now and then but I catch myself quickly and my normal thought patterns are now very positive. If you are at all interested, you can also read some Dali Lama, anything you can find on practical applications of Quantum Physics and anything you can find on how to be happy. It won't all apply to you, and it won't all be right, but if you even find a little seed of an idea it's worth looking for. Best wishes, good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

OwddaMaRoom	maybe anti-depressants will help you.I feel your pain and have been here, keep your head up and just have faith that everything will be okay Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

peachy1660	This is something that is souly up to you. You have to reach deep down and depend on nobody for your strength except yourself. Things could be so much worse, clean yourself up, lift yourself high, get a job, get two if that's what it takes, keep yourself busy and help you to feel good about you. You don't need a boyfriend to help you feel good it starts inside of you! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lilly-babe	Try listening to up lifting music. It really helps also remeber " what doesn't kill you makes you stronger " so try your best to get through this cuz it will make you stronger. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

missashleyvee	Ok lets see if we can break this all down effectively. 1. your parents want you out. so why not start searching for a housemate or two and that way you can split the costs and it will be cheaper than supporting yourself alone. if you have NO money then you should try to work a part time job in your free time and save some. in the meantime, keep busy and try to not be home so often, and try to sit with your parents and see if they could help you come up with a plan, or tell them your working really hard to and if they could give you a chance to get things going. 2. your ex. well theres nothing you can do about that but grieve it out. we all go through it. it gets easier with time. nothing you can do really except let time heal. perhaps you can take different walking routes to class for a little while so you dont have to run into him, or try to talk to him and have closure so the process of healing will be easier. i would have suggested staying solo for a while becuase its not healthy to jump from one relatioonship to the next. you need to give youself time to heal and be free to do the things you want and maybe couldnt when you were involved. 3. if you're constantly crying all the time maybe it wouldnt be so bad to have some kind of therapy for a while...whether it be kick boxing, or a yes a therapist, or someone you can sit and talk with who is neutral and can help you come up with some coping strategies. exercise, boxing, whatever. take out your frusterations. i think if you try all of this you will start feeling better. remember that this rut you are in will not last forever. in the meantime do everything you csan to get yourself out of it. its all up to you and you should take charge, you will get there, i promise you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Waino	there is love in the world for you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MZ.NEZ	Well i have been depressed before and it isnt fun. All i can say is that surround yourself with positive peeps and try to relax. BREATH Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lilfireyballofhate	Try going to a Psychiatrist... honestly, they can listen to your problems, and possilby prescribe you medication IF it's needed. If not, than try to focus more attention on your new boyfriend, you said that you only get to see him once a week, what about calling him on the phone and telling him how you feel about life in general. Who knows what might hapen, you may end up moving in together. I can't stress this enough, communicating is THE single most important thing that everyone can, and MUST DO. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

magicmunchkins	See about getting on some kind of anti-depressant drugs if the counseling alone is not working. Other than that, eat right, exercise, socialize, and have short and long term goals, so you have something to focus on and look forward to. I have had depression myself, so I know how it feels. I hope you feel better soon. :-) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Pappy	You do have to much to deal with so STOP RIGHT NOW!!!!!!!! Make a list of everything that is bothering you. 1) Parents 2) Boy Friend and so on...................... Prioritize them in order of what problem are worst.......... Then after that is done right down possible solutions to these issues at least 3 possible solutions for each issue (get your Friends or someone you trust to help you) find solutions. Then start a plan of action pick your best solutions and put them into action.remember you can not solve them all in one day be patience but keep moving forward to solve them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ROOTS	Find a supportive friend, reassure yourself constantly, You'll be fine Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

surfing_freak23	You need to find something to do to get your emotions out safely. Some people don't do this and one day they flip out and possibly hurt themselves or someone else. You could try writing your emotions in a diary, take up some kind of sport or form of exercise (boxing, running, etc..), you could also find someone you trust to talk to, so you can let everything out. You can't keep your emotions contained, so don't try. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bmac	Sounds to me as though you are stuck---and that it's your doing, Alex. Counselors DO work if you can be honest and you have a desire to get better. Your attitude won't work. Come on, you're 17 (yes I read your previous post on this from 2 weeks ago). If you are really in THAT bad of a situation with your family, you have to contact a service that can help you. You sound like you're in the UK (flat?) so contact NHS Social Services. Get all the help you can. http://www.nhs.uk/England/SocialCare/Default.cmsx Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

*Mystic~Singer*	Go to your doctor, it may be depression. if it is, he can prescribe medicine for you and hopefully you will get better. Good Luck! :) P.S. do stuff you enjoy every second of your free time, it should help you keep your mind off the bad things. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jamie_0778	crying can be healing. you have a lot of hurt that is coming out and if you don't release it somehow then that's unhealthy. I think that you crying is just your way of releasing the hurt. If you can't get over it then maybe you need antidepressants? I know you don't want a counsellor, and that's understandable. They never worked for me either, but the antidepressants might help temporarily until things get a little easier for you. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jeanette M	have you gone to the doctors for an anti depression pills....that helps . Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Rodney C	Hi Alex, First of all Alex, I want to say that I hear you. Life can be so overwhelming. Sometimes it feels like it is never going to get better... But I am here to tell you that it does. I thought my life had bottomed out 11 years ago. When I wasn't living in my car, I slept in my buddies’ closet for $50.00/mo. I was an alcoholic and didn't know where to turn. I am not going to bore you with my details, but what I will tell you is that it can and will get better, if you choose. What I am going to share with you were three words (or seeds if you will...), that were planted in my head. And as time went on, these seeds grew and changed my life. Understand that I am not a doctor or hold any degree in helping people. I am just someone who has been there and found a way out. These three words allowed me the choice of changing, but I had to place the effort, and it was so worth it. I am going to be tactful and honest, but first and foremost I am a straight shooter. The three words that I would like to share with you helped me mainly, believe it or not, because I did not understand them. I had to, not only, learn what they meant, but how to apply them so that I may live a better life. I encourage that even if you know their meanings that you look them up again. It may help you get a fresh, new perspective on what you already know. The first word is: Self-esteem When I was first taught this word, it was not in a very cordial way. It actually came to me as a word nearing a nervous breakdown. As I like to put it: it was the salt in the wound. However, it changed me forever, and I hope it does the same for you. Here is an example: "my new boyfriend is pretty much the only good thing in my life right now..." Often times people who are suffering with low self-esteem find "outlets" or ways to focus their energies on other people or things rather than themselves. This causes tremendous strain on the relationship while it is being used as a crutch to keep you "feeling good". Our emotional standpoint (or balance) needs to come from within. We need to love ourselves first, before getting into a relationship; therefore we have something to offer the other person. The best part is that when one of you are down. The whole relationship doesn't crumble; instead, the one who is down can be helped up by the other who is not. However, if one person is constantly down (from low self-esteem) then the other is constantly lifting them up, and that is not a healthy relationship. The next word is: Dependency Now this is the one that took the most time to incorporate into my life. And every now and again, it rears its ugly head. However, this word can help establish boundaries that will help keep you from falling or at least make it easier. Imagine dependence as a scale. On one end is dependence on the other independence. Use this scale to rate where you may find yourself, thus figuring out if it is a problem or not. ______________________________ dependent ------------------- independent Dependence is the attitude of you. "You take care of me." "You come through for me." Or, "you don't come through for me." Then I blame you for the results. It is very "you" oriented. Independence basically means that you are free, free of external influence. That is the control or support of others. You can get what you want from your own efforts. Independence is the attitude of "I". "I can do it." "I am responsible." "I am self-reliant." "I can choose." Excerpts from: Stephen R. Covey The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Ask yourself this question: Do you rely on others to get things done? When you learn to become independent, relationships take on a whole new meaning. You don't have to rely on someone or something else to get you through. The last, but certainly not least: Rejection I understand, from your letter that you know this word well. But do they know how deep your pain is? Do they know how long you have been stuffing the hurt under the rug? Do they know how hard it is for you to smile? Do they know how many years you cried quietly in the darkness? The reason I know is because I've been there. And I also know the way out. I know how bad it hurts. I know about feeling numb. I know that I didn't (or couldn't) want (or have) any conversations because I couldn't make it through without bursting into tears. No conversation could help and no one understood? Or so I thought... People just don't understand how painful it is. They don't know anything about your silent screams... but I do. Please understand that there is an answer. Please know that there is a way out. I swear to you that this is just my testimony. It is the truth. Please trust me. Make one more phone call. Not to me, and not to a shrink. They are my friends, and have figured out how to remove the pain, and how to help us live again. It worked for me. I am getting absolutely nothing out of this other than I don't wish for others to suffer like I did. My friends’ names are Duane and Kevin Lawrence. There phone number is 1-800-free-495. Leave them a message if they are not there. I promise they will call you back. Let them know that I, Rodney C, told you to call. I owe God and this family my life... Your brother in Christ, Rodney C 7 "Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. 8 For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened. Matthew 7:7, 8 Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No