Katrina R
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Well I have gone through the same thing when I was younger. There is nothing wrong with you, but you might want to talk to them, you might have some insecure issues with your parents that need to be brought up so talk to them about it, they will understand and will try to help reasure you. DOnt be affraid!
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geni
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You are obviously feeling very anxious. This may have be due to hormonal upheaval. I suggest you explain what is troubling you to your parents or ask to see a doctor. aeverything is going to be fine. X
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oramac
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It is not easy to think of loved ones passing away but it is a natural part of life.
It is very scary to think about that at any age but especially when you are starting to grow up and have so many things to deal with. But, you will be fine. I would suggest that you talk to your parents about your fears...take care..
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David M
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I think we all go through this at some point in our lives. It's natural to fear losing a loved one. But the best thing you can do besides pray for them is to live each day to the fullest with them. You'll be glad you did once they do eventually pass away. Imagine how you'd feel looking back and realizing that instead of getting to know them better and building a great relationship, you wasted time worrying over their passing. I hope it doesn't happen for a very long time, but in the meantime, love them and tell them often.
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Corona
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I am a mom of 2 and I feel this way too about my sons. I often get very sad at the thought of losing one of them to some horrible disease, or even my little one to accidently eating something that will kill him (he is allergic to nuts). Just live each day to the fullest...tell your parents you love them everyday, spend time with them and enjoy them while you all have each other. I think it is normal to sometimes feel this way, but if it takes over your every thought, then you would need to seek help.
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Lucha Jim
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I'm sorry your scared but the best thing to do is try not to worry about it. Death is a natural part of life.... everyone has to go through it, and it could happen at any time.....but most likely it will happen a long time from now. So dont worry and just enjoy the present
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Pookeygirl
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This is a normal fear for your age. I suggest you talk to your parents and explain how much this is bothering you. Talk to a counsellor at school or someone if you belong to a church. Have you lost a relative lately that may have triggered this fear? I went through something similar at 14 after my grandfather died and I had my 1st panic attack then. Please try to talk to someone because this fear will consume you and you will waste all your time worrying about your parents instead of just enjoying their love.
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sandia
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it's okay, i used to have dreams like that too. just deal with it, and if you need to, talk to a counselor or even your parents. it's a phase that i went through too. i used to have the same thoughts as you. just find someone to talk to. maybe a sibling, and if you're an only child, a close friend.
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baba
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I am heartened to hear that that in this world still there are thirteen year olds that would love and think of their parents so much that they would lament idea of losing them. this modern culture teaches us many strange attitudes towards ourselves -- it is important to stay with the natural love that we feel for our parents in this life, and it is natural for a child or adult to be sad or even fearful of the idea of parents or any loved one passing. Death is part of life and by loving life and accepting its many parts though time, death takes it proper seat or position in our minds and hearts. There is nothing wrong with you or you loving your parents this way such that you would worry for losing them.
Have you expressed these emotions to them?
Thank you.
Blessings
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Wickwire
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It's normal for the teens to be fearful of their parents passing on. I went through the same thing at your age. When I told my father, he told me it made him happy only because it proved he and my mother did a good job of raising their children. The reason they gave life was so we could be happy and help where we can. He said he needed to work on teaching us strength to hold our heads up and live the good life they hoped we would when it was their time to go.
Dreaming that your mother passed away only means that her life is going to change somehow. It symbolizes an old part of her leaving and a new part being born. That's a good dream.
Be of good cheer and give your parents all the hugs and love while they are with us.
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SoSickWitIt!
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Death is never an easy thing, becuase we wonder why are we born to die in the first place. I have the same issues sometimes, especially with my daughter. My fear is that something terrible will happen, and I won't be able to go on with life. You have to believe and trust that God will protect you and know that when we go, we are in a better place. We all have to go someday, but hopefully your parents will be 100 years old siiting in a rocking chair on the front porch. Make sure that you live life to the fullest, and have no regrets. Life is too short. Make sure your parents know that you love them, and tell them everday, so that if something were to happen, you will know that they left this earth knowing how much you really loved them. I hope this helps you sweetie.
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Tyler
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you dont have a problem. ive thought about this too. try not to think about it, your young, so i assume your parents aren't old, you all have many years ahead of you.
talk to them about it, they will comfort you
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kristina s
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Honey i dont want to take the place of a doctor or anything but it sounds like you might have a touch of anxiety might not be a bad thing to talk to your parents about or even a doctor would help, i do the same i have two kids i worry about them and when i started my depression medication it got better, so talk to your parents about it, dont be afraid too, its the best thing you can do.
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college_student
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aw, you're still young. None of us are guaranteed tomorrow so spend as much time with them while you can, and just let them know how much you love and appreciate them. I do the same thing with my husband, I think it's normal when you love someone. I'll tell you something my dad told me a long time ago and it helped me. You can't spend your life thinking about death because then you aren't really living. Enjoy each day as it comes and when something does happen (hopefully when they are very very old) you'll be older and better able to handle it.
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ENJOY THE TIME UI HAVE WIT UIR PARNETS SOMETIMES IM AFRAI MYSELF AND I FIND MYSELF AFREAID BUT THIS IS LIFE NAD THIS WILL HAPPEN ENJOY UIR TIME WIT DEM AND IT WILL MAKE UI GLAD WHEN THE TIME COMES FRO THEM TO DIE THAT WILL BE THAT TIME BUT RIGHT NOW ENJOY THEM!!
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realgirl
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alot of us go through that. unfortunately we will all die someday so dont worry about the things that cannot be controled. enjoy your parents now!! be good to them
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bramblerock
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I too used to worry about that stuff. My mom is now 89 and just had her knees replaced. If I had spent all my youth worrying I would be a mess too. Death can take us at any moment. Once a death takes place people grieve and then they go on. We learn to cope because we are in it. You can never tell how you will react to a situation until you are in it. When My dad died in 2000 I was amazed at how calm I was and how excepting of the death. Sure it was hard but as time went on it got easier. You need to put this worry to the back of your mind and get on with youth. If you can't do this then you should speak to your parents, maybe yo need to speak to a psychologist. At 13 your worst worry should be the D you got in math or which boy will ask you to the dance.
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bigleybill
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You probably have a mild form of depression and that is not unusual for a female your age. Your body is going through many changes and it takes time to adjust to them. This will pass with time but if it doesn't talk to a school councilor about it or an adult you know and trust. Good luck.
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JUSTME
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I remember going thru the same thing when I was your age, and it is perfectly normal. You do not have a problem at all.
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menome b
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Please talk to Mom or Dad about your fears and what you should do if something does happen to them. Ask your parents if they have appointed a guardian for you. Knowledge will help you deal with your fears. And, don't forget to tell them that you love them, all the time.
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Lil.E
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Dn't worry.
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OPFlGuy
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First off let me say that I am not a religious nut ... I believe what I believe and I attempt to push these beliefs on NO ONE.
With that said I am in no way attempting to be mean by saying that they are going to die. The fact the matter is that you also will die one day.
There are only several promises in this world that kept at 100% and that is one of them.
Now if you really think about it. Is your problem with the fact that you and your parents will die or are you unsure about what death is and if they will be going somewhere better?
I will give my personal opinion.
I DO believe that there is a god and there is an after life.
Heaven forbid BUT if your parents got sick and they were suffering would you have a problem with death if you knew for a fact that they would not be gone (truly disappeared) but had moved to a place where there was no pain and they would be able to be happy and you would one day see them again?
If you go around the world and ask people to prove to you that there is a god then you will probably be looking for a long time. That is where the word faith comes in. You have to have faith no matter what you believe in.
As a side note .Scientifically.. I do not believe everything that the bible says as it was created by man with the help of god. But it does say that god created us in his own image. Upon death what is the 1 thing that that the body lacks?
as an example:
If you move your finger how does this happen?
Yes muscle but look deeper. The fact is an electrical impulse is sent from the brain the make this happen.
Pretty much all you do is controlled thru this.
This upon death is the only thing that they body lacks. It leaves your body.
Again scientifically - everything is this world and out of this world contains energy.
So do you think that you have a soul? Something leaves your body, is this not correct?
I could type a book on this .. Go on and on and on.
Overall your parents will die as will you. Life will go on and you will be with your parents again.
As it stands now your parents love you and wish nothing but the best for you. If you have these concerns talk to your parents, they are there for you and will help you through your thoughts and you might figure your own way as well.
Remember everyone has had these same thoughts at one time.
**** Later addition
Sorry I guess it took me too long to type and put my thoughts together. You added that you do not want to talk to your parents. That hurt me. Althought I am just 34 I have a 13 year old son and if he ever had any feelings of anything I would want him to come and talk to me. I know that you say that you do not want to but not only could it help you. I know that being a dad it would make me feel good that my son felt he could approach and trust me for help.
Good Luck .
CS ---
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lilpurpledog
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Talk to them. Let them know how you feel. They will probably tell you to not worry about it, but ask some important questions like which relative will you be staying with if something happens to them both at the same time, about wills and all that. They won't get too detailed but it should put your mind at rest on the technical side.
As far as missing them. It is part of life to deal with death. You may need to talk to a counselor or minister right now to help you understand your feelings.
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thinkaspell
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Relax. It's okay to feel that way. Is there some reason for the way you feel? Look at the facts, and then look forward and realize that you have a long life ahead of you. Prepare yourself now for the life you will be living. Gain all the knowledge you can from your parents when they are here. Someday your children will feel the same way for you. You obviously love your parents very much, as most of us do. We all have to let go of our parents in one way or another at some point in our lives. You don't have to do that yet, so relax and enjoy what time you have with them.
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mmgirl_11
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I'm 12 and am going through the same thing right now! My mom has clinical depression/anxiety disorder and i worry constantly that it is a deadly physical disease causing her symptoms. Throughout the last 5 monthes i would just cry and cry. Just last night i had a nightmare about her dying. Amd then my dad acted really mean about it. I woke up and sobbed my heart out. I'm scared of it now more than ever. I'm just coping right now. You have plenty of time left with them. Enjoy it! Be grateful for them, and respect them. Dont think about things like that. I hope you feel better soon. I know how hard it is for you. Another thing, praying has always helped me. And trusting god and having faith. I dont know if you are religious or not, but it does help me feel better.
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zealot144
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You do not have a mental problem. You are simply apprehensive about a very real, though very unlikely, personal loss.
If you feel this same apprehension about a great many things in your life, then you might be considered phobic or paranoid. But, a lot of young people fear the death of their parents. It is not abnormal, so don't worry about it.
You may want to talk to them. Your fear of their death may be a substitute for some other potential loss. Are you thinking one or both of them might pack up and leave? Is the marriage troubled? Do they not give you enough attention? Is there some other issue? Discussing this with them might reduce your fear.
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guneap66
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Yeah I agree with the other posts. Don't think that your feelings are weird... Most everyone thinks about it at some point, and it is supposed to scare you. Talking to them about your feelings should help you feel better.
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am12658
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i am 50 my parents are in their 70 they live on their own i love them but i too know they will be gone some day, i call them and i see them some times to show them i love them but i want to thank god for keeping them in good health till he takes one of them then i will deal with haveing to care for the other one. i lost 2 brothers and i just hope my parents go before any more of us children i think that hurt me more to see then lost the children then anything els. just enjoy them and stay away when you move out but stay in touch with them. and i wish you many more years with them.
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Scooter
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Don't spoil the time you have with your parents by worrying about when you won't have them. They are your security at 13 and of course you love them. It can be normal but you shouldn't obsess about it. Hopefully it will be a very long time before you have to face that and you will be at a different point in your life and better able to cope with the loss.
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yo mama
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Ack, its so horrible to look at yourself and wonder if you have serious mental issues...
I would say that the best way to know how serious of an issue this is, is to look at the effects its having on your life. How much time are you spending thinking about this? Are you skipping school or not hanging out with your friends because you're worrying about your parents?
If it seems like its stopping you from getting through your life as you would like to, then by all means, get some professional help, I can tell you it's lovely.
If not, you might want to think (talk to friends, journal, etc) about why you think about this so much.
Hope that helped, love
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butterfliesRfree
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No baby..........it just means you love them and you really need to show them that everyday. What a heart warming question......I'm 49 and I used to fear the same thing when I was your age. I also came LATE in life (my oldest brother was 16 yrs older) and I lost my mom when I was in my early 20s and my dad after my baby was born --- it was hard.....but ya know -- although they are gone....they really aren't. You have to understand that parents WILL ALWAYS BE WITH YOU. I'm a grandma too so when I go, I have to spread myself thin!!! What a wonderful question. You should share it with them because ya know what? We don't know what's going to happen tomorrow and if I heard this from my kids when they were your age.....my heard definitely would have melted and it would be something I would never ever forget.....aaaaaahhhhh--- I like you and I don't even know you --- I guess I just feel your heart. :)
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