I am very depressed.please help?

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Rebbecca A	If you are looking for love get a dog. Really, I'm not kidding. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

The Wail of a Banshee	The best help when you feel low is from your family or Doctor Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Michael J	Try to get er back Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jackie_jabar	The only way you are going to get over the depression is to get out and do something even if it is walking around a mall. The more you stay home and dwell on your problems the worse the depression will get. If you care for your girlfriend then call her and sit down and talk out your problems. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

murrayc	you need a kick in the butt. don't feel sorry for yourself as there are ppl much worse off. put on your big-boy pants and snap out of it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

annie	happiness is always a choice Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dr. Souc	You really need to see a doc. Not just for some med but see someone you can talk to and try and work on some of the issues you are dealing with. It will wonders if you use your meds like you are suppose to but combining this with working with a counselor will get you back to feeling normal. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Karen M	You first may want to find out if your depression is cause not only by your situation around you, or if you are clinically depressed. Talk to your doctor, he/she may be able to give you something to get through this. It is good you have activities to keep you busy, but I know what you mean when you still feel lonely. Anytime you loose someone that plays a big part of your life you're going to feel that emptiness that played a big part of your life. This is normal. But sometimes we tend to depend of others to make us feel complete. And that is where we can get into trouble. So staying active and finding things that make you happy is so important. It is also important to find others you can talk with or who have shared in some of the pain and loneliness you feel right now. Find a group you can join and talk out your feelings who share in the same thing. As far as your girlfriend goes in wanting to come back, I can't advice you on that. I don't know the reasons she left. I would advice that until you become complete in yourself, meaning that your life is meaningful without the need of someone or dependency of another, you will find yourself hurt again. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

durga	sorry to hear your story.i'm also an indian lady going thru the same plight.you are a bright engineering student who has the will power to lose 50 pounds and will b joining a good firm in a short time.you have an affinity for music.continue that.think over why your girl cheated you.anyway isn't it good that she left b4 b4 you got married to her?maybe something better is in store for you.don't make yourself a bechara.be strong and people's attitude will change.try it.it works.i've tried it.good luck n god bless you Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

CarolYapTengco	Only YOU can decide whether to be depressed or not. Stand up. Take control of your life! These, like everything else, will pass... Strive to live, not just exist! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lanek	you do have a great future....as far as your girlfriend.....do you trust her...was this a one time thing????..people make mistakes...if you feel that she made a mistake and you love her it can work out.....trust me been there done that...been married to the guy who cheated on me for 34 years....hasn't ever done it again....family...you need to back away...keep a distant relationship because they are your family...maybe they will change and maybe not...time does change things...there are lots of good people out there...go find them...do volunteer work...work with kids...kids can melt your heart......might find some pretty nice people out there....church etc.....go for it....been through alot of the same stuff...seek counseling if need be...they can really help you work thru things...gotta find one you like and trust though Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Daniel	Go to your doctor, get written up for an antidepressant. It sounds to me like you need it. Your doctor can advise you better than anyone here on yahoo answers. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Danielle	I think you need to calm down and get your head together sweetheart. Just sit quietly for a moment right now and work things out in your head. When you say you don't know how to handle this it sounds like you are panicking abit! Are you of school age? If so, tell a teacher. If not, contact your local GPs who can give you someone to talk to. (You can do this if you are of school age anyway!) I understand how you may feel, I felt this way for a few years too. I got someone to speak to, and she really helped me through my problems. I still talk to this lady, and she's a good friend. Maybe it is best for now to not go back to your girlfriend. I know everyone makes mistake but since you're in this delicate state it may be best to have some space for abit, because if she makes another mistake it could really hurt you and make you worse. There are lots of website you can visit that will help. I will put one of them in the source that really helped me too, there are loads of people there to talk to, and you won't feel so alone anymore. It is a website to help selfharmers, but it is also for people who are depressed, not just people who self harm. Anyone with problems can go there. Just join the forum, introduce yourself, and you'll meet some new people you can talk to. One little thing I could say - Do you have a goal? Maybe learning an instrument? Mine at the moment is losing abit of weight, if you have a goal it keeps you busy and gives you something to be motivated for. Listen to upbeat music most of the time. Listening to down music can make you feel worse. Get someone to talk to, and remember it's OK to cry. People forget this and feel depressed by holding it in. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

majnun99	I felt pretty much the same way. I went to a doctor and got on medication. It helped a great deal. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ryan R	Well there is alot happening in my family, My aunt has 3 types of termanal cancer and the doctor said she only has a few weeks to live. I still contine day by day and you can to! You need to take anything positive you can find and use it to your advantage. DO NOT RESTORT TO CUTTING YOURSELF! I tried that once and i kinda got addicted to it, i dont do it anymore. If you do need to cut yourself use this method, Wait until the scars are healed and not visible until you cut yourself again.. This will help you not to hurt yourself that bad. ALSO DO NOT CUT YOUR WRISTS, that can cut you vains and that can lead to death. Everyone has bad moments and get through them, i hope you do to! Be Strong Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

DSY	yes maybe you should speak to her and explain that you miss her although you cant stand that she cheated on you and that you dont know if you can gain that trust back which you need. It will take time but if you think that you can forgive her maybe its worth it??? Or you could get out there and see if you meet another person? but give yourself time you will be lonely if you have just split up but it doesnt help that you dont have your family for support at this time. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Medicsgirl	If you are seriously depressed then you cannot "will your self to be happy".Depression has to do with a chemical imbalance.Seek medical attention for your peace of mind. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

vulcanjjb	When I am depressed I watch a movie with a happy ending. 'Under The Tuscan Sun' is one of my favorites. The past cannot be undone, there is only the future. That is where you must focus all your energy. Maybe this quote from Oscar Wilde can help you some: 'Regrets are a waste of time. It is the past controlling your future'. Look at your situation objectively. The healing begins when you forgive yourself and her. Set achievable goals for your future, raise the bar for the next one. Life is a journey, it happens one step at a time. Seek help from a professional if you must. Good Luck to you!!!!! P.S. You may also want to read this book, 'King, Warrior, Magician, Lover' by Robert Moore and Dog Gillette. Caution, it only works if you can be totally honest about yourself when you read it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kavita .	I know how you must be feeling. I just realised that the people, friends and family members are all fake and liars. It was such a blow to realise that the people you trusted the most, turned out to be so insincere. They use you and abuse you and leave you bleeding by the sidewalk. All you can do is get up, dust yourself off, walk tall and tell yourself "It's My Life and I can live it Anyway I like". We all learn from our mistakes, and will be more choosy in future whom we can trust. If you feel that you can trust your girlfriend, and know that you love her, call her and talk to her. A burden shared is half a burden. Good luck and wishing you lots of Happiness :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

iNerd™	be happy! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sassynspunky03	Just like you I hate fake people. I don't know how old you are but you need to seek counseling. It is hard enough to deal with depression when you are an adult but it can be dangerous if you are a teenager.I think the best thing for you is to seek counseling and possibly medication. I'm sorry that you feel lonely all the time but that is part of the depression. Keeping busy may help alittle but it's not going to solve your problem. I hope you take my advice because I have been in the same situation as you are. Good Luck and don't feel alone. There are people here that will help you if you ask. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Stephens F	First, you should look at your self and see what you can do to make yourself happy. To first truly love another, one must learn to love one's self. Secondly, fake people are everywhere.. you change your world by living your life as an example of how not to be fake. You cant change everyone in your life, but you can influence your world to be better by your actions. It sounds like you need to find your "Inner Peace" and to do so, you need to find you. You are alive and breathing, so there is hope. You cant change today, or yesterday but the wonderful thing about life, is that you can change tomorrow. Stay strong, and learn to forgive. If you love your GF, then give her another shot, it will take time, but you can learn alot about yourself in this too. It may sound risky but you never know, she may end up loving you more than you expect just by the very fact that you have accepted her even with her mistakes. Again, it is risky. But going into it, I would take the route of going at it slow.. learn to be her friend. For it to work you guys have to be best friends. But if you dont want to work it out, then cut it off because it will just bring back memories... Again, remember... Every day above ground is a good day... you can make it. Just take it one minute at a time.... and learn to love yourself.... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mJc	Hey kid, I'm sorry you're feeling so down. Life can be pretty tough sometimes - that's for sure. First off, you should make an appointment to see your doctor just for a general physical. Be honest with him or her (doctors are pretty clueless unless we're upfront with them). You should, of course, eat only healthy foods and get in a fifteen minute walk each and every day where you force your mind to pay attention to your surroundings (block off past problems, block off future problems; just be in the here and now). Finally... past behavior is a predictor of future behavior. Stand your ground and do not take your cheating girlfriend back. There is a woman out there somewhere who will cherish and respect you and the love you have to offer. Keep your eyes and heart open for her. I wish you all the best! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Vipassana	Welcome to the normal world. People will cheat on you. People are fake. Most people focus so much on their own lives, that others feel lonely. The first step in improving your situation is realizing that you are not unique in this, that you are not alone in your suffering...that in fact....it's all perfectly normal. You can grow from there. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jeff c	U might just need to talk to someone... my father always said to me when i was feeling down" theres always someone in worse shape than you...count ur blessings" good luck bro and this will pass sooner than u think Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jeejee P	Don't think about now, how it's sad and depressing, think about the future. Try to solve your family's problem with a little help of friends, and probably, your family might be rich or better. Don't think about how your girl cheated. There are better girls around you who can care and like the way you are. Don't look for a girl tommorow. Look for one now! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Private I	Hi there Kris...Wow..you have so much going for you...you really do!! You have a crappy family? So do I, and I've had to just let it go..I cannot live for them nor change them..I had to think and actually teach myself that I do not have to be like them, I don't care for what they do, so, I am not involved in their behaviors and I will not be pulled into their sh!t...as for your girl.. sheesh, (I'm a gal) my guy did alot to me, I truly loved him, and I do now..even though he did all he opted to do and went to jail for it..I care, yet again, will I sacrifice me for caring for him? NO..for if the trust is so broken that it is severed, it is time to move on in life. Cheating is rather an extreme breach of trust in a relationship..so now you have to ask yourself..Is that trust severed? If so, put yourself out in the world to meet other gals and set yourself free!! You are so young...take time for you and treat yourself well...choose not to get involved with the 'fake people'..take the time to know who people are before letting them get close enough to devastate you...But so important..Life is not perfect, nor is it imperfect...it is simply what you make it, whether or not you opt to learn from all experiences, both good and bad!! Let go of yesterday.. just keep the lessons and look forward to tomorrow having a wealth of experience and learnings to carry you into the future...I'll bet you'll do well in life..you seem Gentle, introspective and intelligent...now find within you the patience of waiting for the next experiences and lessons..never to forget they come in the most unusual forms!! Try to rest yourself when feelings of wearyness come from the downfalls in life~~get readied to experience a wonder!! Hugs~Hope~Health & Happiness to YOU Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dragoness_65584	Sorry to hear this, but I can relate. I am not sure if getting back with her will help if you are not willing to forgive. Because if an argument arises...it will come back up in your mind...or the trust factor has been lost. I would say move on and start dating and find someone else that can be honest in the relationship and not take you for granted. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

PuppiLove..x	I have a really close friend who is really depressed atm..I feel so sorry for you..x But don't worry, do you have family you can talk to? Have you gone to the doctors or tried councelling? If you need someone to talk to contact me through yahoo..x Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sci55	Time to find a counselor. That way you'd be talking to someone who could help. The problem with other people (including family sometimes) is that they don't always have your best interests at heart. Talk it over with someone who will have a fresh perspective, and who is focused on helping you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chicagoboars	do you have anyone you can talk to in real life (not on the internet, i mean)? a favorite teacher/counselor, an aunt/uncle, etc. if you are a minor most medical options will likely involve your parents (in the USA), so that's why I suggested a teacher or school counselor...they might have resources for you. i promise you will find that talking to someone who can help you is a good way to sort through your emotions and the problems you face. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No