Does a drug addict ever go back to living a normal life?

Boyfriend is into drugs and been in and out of jail. He lies and doesn't care about his life....

♥§Łəəpү Caŧ Eүəs♥	He can....but he's really got to work for it. Try to motivate him to start a new. If he doesn't put the effort into it, I'm afraid there isn't much hope. You might want to reconsider this relationship...
kimmers	hey, it always depends on the person themselves, some go back to living a normal life some stay in tha fast lane and just continue to ruin there life, if this is the case with your boyfriend, let go and let him ruin his own lif enot yours,
gordon18mscotland	Hardly ever. Is this the man you fell in love with? I suggest you leave him and find a good man that will treat you right.... lieing is not treating you right! I hope it all works out for you :)
kjh	Handling some one who is addicted is a very hard thing! it is a battle I`m not sure if you could handle , I`m not sure how old you are? but thank goodness your saying boyfriend and not husband!you could get sucked into that life of darkness! it can ruin your life set him free and see if he can straighten up! It can be done.
.hershey.squirts.	They can if the individual is really motivated.
Ben Benjamin Benny	Not without a radical experience, I'd suggest a near death experience, or getting an appearance from Jesus Christ. Else no, exept if he is a kid, than you can still influence him.
IamwatIam	The addict has to want to change. And just because he says he wants to change doesnt mean he really does. And just because he says he wants to but cant does not mean he doesnt want to. It is a very confusing condition. If leaving him for good and moving on with your life is not an option you want to work for, than I suggest that you go to a support group for people who love addicts. Narc-anon or Alon-on. I am a recovering addict so I know it is possible to get clean and change, but it is a slow painful process and I have hurt many people In my life that I care about. So hang in there and do what you need to do for yourself, maybe you can lead by example.
Francine M	Until he admits he has a problem and wants help for himself (his discission) there is nothing you can do for him.
Vher	Yes. He has to be subjected to a rehabilitation center for an effective program for drug dependents.
BELINDA B	My former sis in law just died 3 weeks ago--accidental overdose. She had lived that way for 30 years or longer--lying, conning, deceiving people in any way, losing her kids, on and on I never wished her death, but to answer your question, THAT is how long it can go on and your love and all the love in the world won't change it, only he can. Get yourself some help and go find someone who loves you and you can have a hppy life with. If he doesn't care about his life, how can he care about you?
kandi	Hey Kalichick, I am a recovering addict. I have gone to rehab twice. From a personal point of view life can never be the way it was before I became an addict. I have been off the drug for 11 months now, and even though I'm not using, I Still feel like an addict. Its a tough call about your boyfriend. I have my children, my husband and my church supporting me but still its soo hard. Addiction is a chronic relapsing disease. Those are the facts, you make the choice.
mother love	why are you holding to him
What a guy!!	Get out while you can. He WILL destroy your life, no matter how nice he is. I have seen it happen to too many young people. Move on, find somebody else, or you'll end up with nothing, with him in prison and probably kids to bring up yourself.
emma m	leave him Kali... he can have a normal life yes, but he will only do that if he chooses it. let him clean himself up - away from you, get a flat, & job, pay the rent buy food etc...be there for him if you must - but get your own life rolling now - trust me on this one... i have been there and wasted 7 yrs of my life. if he fixes himself up then you and he can work towards a future. and know that he may well regress throughout his life, back to this level. the best support you can be to him is to stop enabling. that means, no money otherwise you enable him to buy drugs.. if he is hungry and says thats what its for, make him a sandwich. no sleep overs... thats enabling to live at his lowest level and knwo that he can take drugs and still have a place to sleep with you.. and so on and so forth...... lots of luck emma x
Dominoes	they will never go back to there old state of mind after already loosing all those brain cells and it will more in likely get worse before better i recommend reconsidering if this is the type of relationship you want to be in
Sue C	It is just like any other addiction. YES, you CAN go back to living a normal life, and a GREAT life. You can get your family back, have them tell you they love you & are glad they have you & your love again. Get a good job & good friends etc. BUT, the addict has to want it more than anything. Has to get straight & want to stay straight, join a group & work the program. I mean realize that it's life or death eventually, because that's what it's going to end up being. Be it drugs, alcohol or any other life threatening addiction. Until they reach their bottom, NOTHING/NO ONE is going to be able to do a thing about it. Only THEY can do it. Honestly, don't be around to have your heart broken time after time again. Why would you subject yourself to just getting hurt when you have to be the strong one & remove yourself from it. YOU are NOT going to change him, no matter what you say, how hard you want it, HE has to do it himself. You take control of YOUR life & go for a better life for yourself. One where you can be happy, one where you won't know what he's doing in the future. Please get out now for YOUR sake! Let him hit his bottom & don't enable him in any way. Be free for once, you deserve it & only you can make it happen for YOU. I wish you ALL the best, be strong for YOU...
erin.savage	Once a person truly wants to live a sober life...they can. I am doing it because I truly want it. That is the only way that they will be able to make it work. As for their life being normal...I would say that I focus a lot on my sobriety but it has had positive effects on just about every aspect of my life. So I consider myself to be living a better than normal life. http://www.whatwinnersdo.com is my personal addiction site, feel free to check it out.
weaver268	Hello ,i am an addict staying at a veterans center i have been clean for 3 1/2 ,years a person that is an addict or alcoholic,cannot quit for; you, mom, dad, or god. The only person he can do it for himself working a balance program ,going to N.A. meetings . I am older i had to fall to my bottom, which means i fell down to my knees, I dropped down to my knees in deep pain asking god for help asking him for help with in three minutes a friend drove me to the veterans hospital ,i stayed there 28 days not enough time for a true addict the only thing a true addict that does not work a honest program gets is, JAILS / INSTITUTIONS / OR DEATH / He has to be selfish and dedicated to the program of recovery if he goes to meetings every day for one year without using that is a big start, he needs to go to counseling and even a recovery home for a while and visit you on a week end ,here are some things you might have to do, DON'T GIVE HIM MONEY , don't let HIM HAVE A PITY PARTY,TELLING YOU ABOUT HIS PAST WOES ,NO ONE UNDERSTANDS HIM ONLY YOU DO, You should go to ALA-NON MEETINGS for a little these are girlfriends,boyfriends,wives,husbands, children, of ALCOHOLICS & ADDICTS They will show you the in & outs of the addicts ways they will try to monipulate you
BigTomz	Why be with someone like that. Many drug addicts recover, but it doesnt sound like he has the attitude to ever do that.
simplesimon	After rehab he/she needs to go to support groups such as NA3-4 times a week. He needs to want to quit though on his own. He can't quit the habit because he wants to please you or because you want him to quit. Many times they just learn to control it better & never quit. Many individuals do break the habit & other's never do. My advice to you is give him all the support you can & get him involved in NA (Narcotics Anonymous) you might need to go with him awhile. He has to stop associating with his friends that do get high...He has to change day by day. But he has to Want to change otherwise he is only fooling everyone around him. Good Luck to both of you.
miss.zandra	clean break, im sure you have done your best, but even though u dont do that sort of thing you will be assisiated with it for being with him, tell him he needs to either go cold turkey or its over. If he chooses for it to be over... well it just goes to show that he doesnt care about u enough which means u shouldnt care about him.
Clown Knows	A few do, but if he does not care... then no.
Peter I	I was once an addict. What made me stop was my mother in pain at that time. that made me stop everything and do better.
domenicathesims2player	omg.the way hes oging he won't get his life straight i can tell you right now.
start 6-22-06 summer time Mom	SO SORRY to hear this, unless HE wants to change then no matter what any one says or does he won't change . Has he ever tried to go to AA, that can be a BIG help if he faithfully goes & tries his best to change ( like I said , if he wants to )
lady d	kali he will only go back to a normal life if he wants to! you can not force him to care about his life. you can give love and support up to a point, but you also have a right to a normal life yourself.be careful and good luck!
BlameMe	From experience you can go back to a normal life, but it all depends greatly on if that person wants to change! There have been so many that go to re-hab, jail or loose all they have ever worked for and yet still no changes then again there are others that can flip a switch and see where there life is and could be if they were to get off the drugs and they change. Just give them the benefit of the doubt at first, its a long, hard, struggling process but if that person wants to...then they will and can!
curmudgeon	very rare. it is time for you to move on.
☆BTriX☆	It can be done, but with extensive therapy and rehab. He has to want to change, or else it will never happen. If you or anyone else tries to force him he will just continue to hurt himself.
Petey	he has to want help
the Boss	He will probably never be 'normal,' but people are unique. If he changes his ways, then he can be a good person, but will never see things the same way as a person who has a different history. To answer your question, I think he can be a worthwhile person if he chooses to change and gets the support he needs to do so.