DEPRESSION, how do you cope when the world you know is falling apart?

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neilsby@btinternet.com	Be thankful to be alive, to have access to a computer, and to have time to ask questions. Some people have less. I'm not belittling your depression, but I find that putting my life in context helps me when I feel depressed.

angel G	don't know been suffering it for years myself wish there was a way of coping but never mind.

Pietrus	Accept the truth... 1. There is nothing you can do to stop the world from falling apart. 2. It's not your fault 3. There is nothing permanent, so why should the world be? 4. There is nothing individual, eveything depends on another. If you accept the above as truth you may become a great expectator or a helper for every one that is in dispair beacuse their world falls apart... may even be able to make your piece of the world a little better.

deltagremlin	think you will come out the other side, time moves on, life changes, just got to deal with what has happend & say thats it, start again.

Indy500	Look beyond it...suppress all the black and focus on that little thing that shines for you always. We must all have some little highlight in our life, whether it be kids, or a friend or something else. Fixate on that good thing and know that you will eventually come through the other side. It's all I am doing at the moment.

bwonder48	You're suppose to focus only on the positive and jump from one good thing to the next. If there is nothing in front of you then you have to go back to the last good thing that was part of your life. The whole point is to avoid falling into that hole that most people can't get out of. You have to admit that the negative exists, but ignore it to the point where it doesn't bother you.

bob k	Get help as soon as possible. There are miracle medications out there. If you can't afford it, see your priest, minister, rabbi, etc. NOW!

Zasu	You just do. The world is always falling apart - you either enjoy the ride or live in a constant state of agitation. Chicken little comes to mind.

monkeytroubleaj	go see a psychiatrist. i am on depression medicine and it really helps me, but see a psychiatrist.

faerie_rachie	I read 'when things fall apart' by pema chodron (not sure if spellings right. and Did my best to ride out the storms.

rockstar102	hey i am rite there with u on that and all i really do is go to my best friend and let everything out and then they usually understand so thats wat i do or i talk to my mom and i no that sounds really corny but parents have some of the best advice if u are really willing to listen to them

lee b	step back from it all look at it all from someone elses prospective its hard to think when your stuck in yhe middle.....also if you cant do anything about it ......you cant do anything about it...move on and learn from it ....

pullthetrigger	i don't really cope. if you've seen my previous Q's and some of my answers you'll know why. i try to distract myself from the real world. going on here helps me as it gives me something to do and i get to focus on other people.

Monana	get help. find out about seeing a shrink, they can give you help to retrain your thinking and determine whether or not it may be helpful to also give you medication. good luck!

Hoptoad City	Change your life style. Start every day with a walk outside. If you can't go outside, do something new everyday. Even if it is just going somewhere new everyday, like a part of town you have never been to, a different Starbucks, a wooded area, a park you have never been to, etc. But get out. Get involved with your community. Define to your self what is falling apart and identify the things that are making you feel bad. Write them down. Depression comes from refusing to deal with or take ownership for things in your life.

Mister2-15-2	First get your wants aliened with currant reality. Hold life you want together as much as possible and start rebuilding. And remember person that said it's darkest before dawn got lost in mine and is still trying to get rid of bird in hand. Smile and think of some dumb reason for smiling.

foxymoron	ahhh sorry to hear life is tough right now for you... i recently had some tough times as well, lost job, had a bout with cancer, getting divorced and currently having a custody battle of my life... needless to say i did have those days when i couldnt get out of bed... or worse... ya know.. it really helped me to create a network of friends and family... i kept my life in perspective, with the ol' addage, it could be worse.. i could have terminal cancer, you know... blah blah blah... meditate and try to get some fresh air and exercise... good luck honey

Black Rainbow	The simple way to put it is...I DON'T COPE! I sleep usually if I like that, get really angry or write notes to my family about how much I am going to miss them. But I never end up giving the letters to them.

alfiegirl	life is full of ups and downs you can go from total happiness to despair in minutes how you feel right now will pass although you may not be able to see an end in sight hold on to the good things try to shut out the bad and keep telling yourself that you will get through it it just takes time talk to someone for support if you can maybe see a doc if you feel that bad and remember no one knows what tomorrow brings its a new day something wonderful could happen to you focus on all the people that you love and who love you and believe me although it may feel like you have nothing you want to go on for it will get better best wishes to you

pablo escobar	Life if tough for some. I find walking in the forrest is the only thing that calms me down now.Its modern times we live in. Its not natural for human beings to live like this. we have evolved sure, but hey enough is enough. Visit the nearest large woods and spend all day there. All your worries will be absorded by the trees. They do it for me every time.

Woody Black	Everyone gets depressed. Especially the people who always seem very happy go lucky, life of the party etc. They're the most depressed of all -> if your lifes falling apart hold onto as much as possible- keep your head and ride it out. It'll pass.

innocence_lost	I've had lots of depression and I know its sooo hard. Its a disease and sometimes you just cant get it to go away by yourself. One good thing I did was write.. I dunno if your into that tho. Another this is find some good music to listen to - sometimes the lyrics can explain your pain or just flat out make u feel better. Most importantly talk. got anyone who you trust to talk with? If not, I say this and i mean it honestly I am always here for help. Like I know that alot of **** happens, and I've been through alot and maybe I could help.

betty	You have to have people you can turn to. You have to also find a way to get organized so you feel like you have some control back in your life. Do something about all the things that are bothering you. Be proactive. Don't let those things control you and weigh you down. But yes, talk to a counselor. Get some anti-depressants from your doctor...it will really help.

joojoo29	see your doctor and get anti depressants. they saved my life.

RotundSwede	For me.. It takes therapy. I found myself in a super low state of depression and finally got to the point that I HAD to go seek some help because I was having trouble coping.. And I will say, even though I'm not "perfect".. The therapy definitely keeps me from falling apart any more than I was..

JJ	You take things one day at a time, one hour at a time if necessary. Seek counselling and go to your Dr. who may prescribe you medication to help you over this part. Never stop believing that things will get better because life is constantly changing and where you are now will not be forever.

Asa Rica	Talk to someone you trust - talk about it - don't try to solve problems alone. Reach out!

Dawn73	This is how I cope. I take one day at a time. Each day I set out to do one positive thing and pat yourself on the back for doing a good job. Fight the fear that you have, its the only way that I know. Its not nice but just keep reminding yourself everday that it will get better. It never goes away but gets easier to manage as you learn ways of coping with it. Good luck and try and remain as positive as you can. D73

Gaby	... im asking the same question ....

smplyme132	You only take on those things that "YOU" can change. You leave the rest in the hands of God. You have to believe in something, so believe in "hope", "faith", and "love". Your personnel world will take on a new personification! Depression will eventually lift because your not carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. :)

h s	Hang on for all you're worth. I really struggled with this in the past - it getting easier now - but still can't go into town by myself, can't always get up in the morning, don't look after myself . . . . the list goes on. How did / do I cope? firstly I went to the doctor - got anti-depressants - took a couple of tries, but found one that really works for me. I also found a really good counsellor - luckily shes a student counsellor at the university i went to and i don't pay. shes also really good cos i'm not doing a course at the moment, but she still sees me! Then - and just as important as the first 2 - I got myself a really great support network, and that included getting rid of people who were not good for me (including my husband!). Then I started to take things one step at a time (sometimes literaly!!), I have so little motivation that if i said - 'right - today i am going to clean the house form top to bottom' there is no way any of that would happen - but if i say - ok today i'm going to do 1 bowl of washing up - there is a fair chance that that will happen! (and sometimes I can then go on and do more) Don't be hard on yourself - you are suffering from a disease - if it was a broken lag and you couldn't do stuff that would be ok, but because its something that can't be seen, and something that most people don't understand (sometimes especially those suffering from it!) then you are expected to carry on as 'normal'. Find things that help you stay comfortable - I suffer from really bad panic attacks, but find that using a MP3 player, and having a cuddly toy with me helps to keep me calm (and yes - at 38 i walk down the street holding my cuddly toy in my hand - and stuff what other people think if it helps me!) Also - try to work out the cause of the depression - mine is a result of being sexually abused as a teenager - its only by working on the cause of the depression that we can hope to have a long term solution ie healing!