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langdale	first thing is first please try to calm down , no wonder you are feeling depressed you have had alot of crap in your life there is nothing wrong with been depressed as long as you get help , everyone at some time in there life does. find out weather you doctors have a councillor from my pass experience doctors don't really help from what you have said i think you are but you are , the one that can help the most is you try to make the decision that you don't want to carry on like this talk to someone and get help . the fresh start could start right now it WILL get better you have everything to live for if i can help let me know i was depressed for years until i maded the decision that bloody life is to short and i am buggered if i am going to waste it xxxx Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

charliegirl	ok.... first of all take a nice deep breath... relax, it sounds like your just unhappy with your life at the moment and there are lots of simple things to do make it 100 times better! now im not going to try tell you what to do but ill give you an example of what i did, i was in the same situation, 1stly i sold my house, it wasnt worth all the pressure i was under, we bought a smaller house a bit further out of town instead, then i quit my job, i was working as an accounts manager and had only meant to work there a few months while i figured out what i wanted to do with my life, i ended up working there 3 yrs, i figured out what i wanted to do and got a job doing that, i also joined a gym so i was healthier, happier from excercising and meeting new people, its hard when your an adult. i had been unhappy in my relationship before, partly i was jealous because he had everything he wanted, he loved his job etc. when i got my new job and was going out more things where a lot better, i was content inmyself and more independant. i hope this has helped you, people use the term depressed way to much, al it is is an excuse to feel sorry for yourself and not do anything about it, just decide what you want and go for it, it may look hard before you start, but i promise its not and its worth it in the end! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Katri-Mills	I once had the same symptons, but without the debt, the daughter and the annoying partner, and thought I was depressed, but it just turned out I was manically unhappy. SLIGHT difference. So you hate your life: change it. Tell your partner how you feel. Get him to take a week off work so you can both have a bonding session with your daughter. If you find you can't be genuinely happy, then yes, you're probably depressed. But if you get to be quite happy, make some changes. By the way, if your daughter is reaching the age of two, well, it's called the terrible two's for a reason. It's just a stage. Partner annoys you? I think they annoy everyone to be honest. Don't like your reflection? Get a haircut. Don't like your name? Change it. Think your doctor won't want to see you cry? Well look at it this way, who are they going to tell? Patient doctor confidentiality, you learn to love it. And if you really are depressed, the only way you're going to get Prozac is by telling them the truth. As for your money problems, by the time I've finished uni, I'm going to be at the very least, £21,000 in debt. But you know what? I couldn't give a stuff. It's just money after all. Bits of paper, scraps of metal and numbers printed or scratched all over them. Money is money is money. It's not important. Just keep trundling along, get as many application forms as possible for various jobs, even if they sound menial and pathetic. I find that having a small job, even if it's pathetic, is better than having no job at all, because at least you are getting some sort of money in. And no one's going to lock you away. My ex-bestfriend had voices in her head, she still does, but you know what? She's allowed to wonder among the living, no one locked her away and no one ever will. Depression isn't quite sane mindedness, but it doesn't mean you belong in an asylum. Some very lucky people with depression can actually understand things more clearly with their condition. Another old friend of mine was like this. He did some strange things but later on we found out that he was always right to do so. So to summarise... if you're unhappy, do something about it, if you're depressed, see a doctor, and be honest. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Gordon	I think you are depressed and need help. your Doctor should have spotted this if your are "breaking down" when you see him/her. ask to see another Doctor .maybe you would feel more comfortable with a female doc. they won`t think your a loon" but they will give you the help you need. I am a fellow suffer with many of the same problems and have been for sometime so I do know what your going through. your daughter needs her mom so PLEASE talk to someone ASAP. maybe a good friend would be willing to help? A call to the Samaritans may help because the service is completely confidential (you dont have to be suicidal for these (excellent) people to listen) Hope everything works out for you xxx Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Metro Man	Ya that is definatley deppression. Was it a certain event that started all this or has it been pretty consitent through out your life. Their are different kinds of depressions and they each can be treated but you really need to explain every detail to the psych so he can either prescribe you the right kind of medication or counsling. Good luck to you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ted zzr11 turbo	when you say you hate your life is it because your not pushing yourself hard enough to make some changes? personally i have had exactly the same feelings at different stages in my 37 years, not allways my own making but each time i have had to change something i do in my spare time. do you go to the gym, sure makes you feel good after the first few trips. what sort of people do you associate with? are they holding you back? do you really hate looking in the mirror? do you smoke? you are stuck with your body and mind till the day you die, but you ll allways have your sole, you know that bit inside that is really you. set yourself some personal goals, maybe fitness or better education.(i went to college at the age of 29 and was amased at how good i felt learning some thing new) you dont have to tell anyone just in case it doesnt quite go to plan. maybe even change your partner? you can do anything you set your mind to but dont do it if you dont want to. time is a great healer and in a year or 2 you can look back and be proud of what you have acheived. lifes crap situations are coming at us thick and fast but you ve survived for 27 years now, you have a daughter to make you laugh, bring her up in a happy home enviroment. i tell myself i must try harder what ever the situation. you can make the changes happen, commit yourself to it. you said your self you just want to stop it all and have a fresh start....... DO IT! life is made up of peaks and troths and we need the 'bad' times to enjoy the 'good' times.and remember "people help people who help themselves!" good luck and enjoy what ever it is you decide to do. ;-) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Robin	I don't think for one second that you are a complete loon. In fact, after you wrote your question, I bet you felt a bit better? If us women were completely honest, we have all felt like that at some point, but just won't admit it. Maybe the doctor is not the answer you are looking for but counselling. You can then vent all you want to say (without the pills). That's what they are there for. Try it. Good luck to you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Doug B	You're not just depressed, you're clinically depressed, and your doctor should be taking more notice of you. Severe post-natal depression can last for years, unfortunately, especially when there are other factors in your life to complicate matters, such as those you mentioned. One question though, do your parents love your daughter? If so, can't you use your daughter as a way of rebuilding your relationship with them? It sounds like you need their support, but don't know how to ask them. Give it a try. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

AbdAllah	Hello I will suggest a complete change of your life and the way you look at things-did you ever think of spirtual causes of your "crisis"?- and tell you about a better alternatice of the doctor. What about your relation with God? The first step to find yourself is to find your God and know Him the true knowledge. Do you really know Him? Do you really love Him? Have you tried to ask him and tell Him everything in your head and let your tears down as you like? Remeber that Allah (God) is more merciful than your mother and father. He says in His book : "When My servants ask thee concerning Me, I am indeed close (to them); I listen to the prayer of every suppliant when he calleth on Me; let them also with a will listen to My call and believe in Me; that they may walk in the right way." Quran 2-186 If you really would like to have a fresh start, give your soul a chance to breathe ! To breathe the truth. If you want to have peace in your mind, you have to be in peace with your God first. That is to respect Him, love Him, and adhere to His Instructions. I invite you to learn about your Lord from an Islamic point of view. The view that repsects Jesus (peace be upon him), and glorifies God. http://www.sultan.org And here you can find the stories of many women who really found themselves in Islam: http://thetruereligion.org/modules/xfsection/index.php?category=4 May Allah bestow His Mercy upon you Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

CHRIS S	ask your GP for a referral to a counsellor that will help i'm sure Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Pink girl	What a sad story, my heart goes out to you right now. You do sound depressed, but depression can take on many forms - so stop labelling yourself, you will not be seen as a loon, just someone who really needs some professional help. Top priority is to get yourself back to your GP and tell him/her exactly how you are feeling. Print off your question and hand it to them if you're not sure what to say - it Say's it all for you. You have a daughter who is totally dependant on you and your partner, you have got to get yourself better for her sake - she really needs you. Your situation will only get worse until you seek some help - you've made the first brave step by asking Yahoo. You know yourself that you are not well - there is no shame in being ill, if you had a broken leg you'd go and get it fixed wouldn't you? Depression is a valid illness that can require medication amongst others things. Once you start to feel better within yourself, then you'll be able to tackle all the other things on your list that seem to be causing you problems - simply because you'll feel stronger. I've been there, and I know how hard it is. Just take one step at a time, you can get through it - just not by yourself. Take care. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Red	Read Alice Miller's Dance of Anger. It is really helpful. You also might want to try some meds to get you motivated again and once the ball is rolling, you can be happier about the life choices you've made. You might make new friends and that will help a lot. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Wiz	Doesn't your GP employ a cpn to whom you can talk for as long as you want Has your GP asked you to fill in a questionairre about how you fell either pqh9 or a HAD score would help him diagnose you. Go back with everything you have said here written down and Gps are used to people crying or you could go and see the practice nurse Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Supergirl	Woah stop right there...take a breather... Blimey you are stressed!! Right, starting from now..book a weekend away (by youself) Get your partner to look after your little girl... While your away..get your head sorted..go for a long walk in the country...think about what you wanna do to change your life... 1) You don't hate your life..life is a meaning...think about it when you get to your 70's and you think back "what did I do in my life" You'll regret it..Live your life to the full! 2) You lost your job..Im sorry to hear that...to get yourself out of the house, why don't you help others? Vuoluntary work (You'll get paid from JSA -Jobseeker's Allowance) 3) Debt...look at this Web: www.payplan.com 4) Ask you Partner to back off abit, but you do need him...ask him for a hug and explain whats going on in your head. 5) Your parents...I find that quite sad that you never got on with your parents...I suggest you meet them half way and ask for help. They can take your little daughter for a while till you get sorted. Life too short and it's not too late to try and get on with them. 6) You hate where you live...Move...talk to your husband and suggest to move. If he won't, leave him and get a place of your own and get onto Housing Benefit. 7) Sometime you wish you never had your daughter...That beyond and out of order saying that about your daughter..Theres people out there who are childless and wish for a baby but can't have one and go into debt to have a baby of their own..You count yourself Lucky. Im sure you are the best mum to your daughter. Don't make the same mistake that you doing to your parents now, would you like your daughter not get on with you either?Think about it! 8) If you want to change yourself and about yourself, well then it's up to you..well we aren't gonna do it for you..! Put everything behind you...life too short for this carry on... You are making yourself ill..you carry on like this well then it's up to you wheather you want to be bang in a loon place. Your just not thinking straight...think about the one you are affecting, your little girl and your Husband. You are going to lose the ones who loves you. Stop it now. I wish you luck and all the best for the future. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pegs_down	go see a doctor they wont lock you up,you need help and they can give it to you dont be afraid to tell them everything theyve heard it all before. good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

blogmart	Weather or not you can give your self the official label of "depression " is irelevant . You certainly have a great deal of aspects to your life that are giving you some level of discontment . Alot of these things would become more manageable if you had some to talk to about this stuff ... My advice is .... No 1 .... Talk to someone . No 2 .....write down the problems that YOU have some control over in your diary and set yourself some time to try and solve them ... this may take time ... No 3 ..... Write down the problems that you have NO control over and then when you have done that , place that peice of paper in the bin No 4 ......Write down that things in your life that your happy and proud about , .,when youve done this .. place it close to you . maybe in your purse or bag or something like that ,,, When your in the poo .... keep moving ... it will get better .. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

teabag 1968	you need to talk to somebody if it is not the dr try the samaritans.With regards to your debt contact citizens advice and they will advise you accordingly.Dont give up though i saw somebody close to me in this situation and 15 years down the line she is free from debt and leads a very happy and secure life.good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

shirley p	Go back to Doctors and have a good cry and get it all out in the open. You are definately depressed and you can get help for it. I was given medication because everything was getting on top of me - just like you -and they really do work. Taking something to help doesnt mean you are going to end up addicted. I'm now taking my little tablet every day and just getting on with it. You know - when Im feeling really down I just think of those that are really in a true state at the moment. People suffering with terminal illnesses - in which I know of some. It makes you wake up a little and notice that lifes not so bad. Remember, you can always declare yourself bankrupt and clear the debt issue..........you can always move on without your partner as you obvioulsy don't love him that much anymore......you can always contact your parents and at least make some good with them even if you still cant stand them much. You can always move to a different area..........some people offer great jobs accommodation and most importantly, dont ever hate looking in the mirror..........You obviously have very low self esteem. Lock yourself in the bathroom and give yourself the best pampering session you can. I promise you will feel immediately better. Whatever you choose to do................I think we all forget sometimes that it is 'we' who are in charge of our own destiny and if you really want something..............go make it happen! Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Oh Nooooo!	It sounds like you are gong through some tough times and need to evaluate what you really want out of life. What can you let go of, and what is really important to you? It's easy to feel sad and frustrated when you don't feel as though you're moving forward in life. You'd be amazed at what finding a goal and taking steps towards it can do for your whole outlook. It's good to talk to someone, but this is really more about you being honest with yourself. You need to know that you have the ultimate control over your life experience. You need to know that the bad things in your life aren't so bad because you chose them. There is a reason for every choice we make. If the reason isn't worth it, make a different choice. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Bunny Feet	You sound like you're having a really rough time, I really sorry to here that ::hugs:: Anyone would feel down going through what you're going through, ask your doctor for a referral to a psychologist if you feel you can't talk to him/her. All health professionals are here to help and will take the time to do this. I hope you find one you feel you can open up to. They won't lock you up because you're depressed unless you are "a danger to yourself, or others". I've include a couple of links below. These are online tests which can help you to diagnose if it is depression. These aren't a substitute for a doctor, though : ) There are a lot of support groups on the Internet where you can talk to people who have been through (and are going through) what you are, and can offer lots of really good advice and coping strategies. Take care of yourself and your little girl... I'm sending lots of positive vibes your way - it gets better, it really does : ) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bluebottle	oh ....my heart goes out to you ....yes you are depressed ...please go to the doctors again and tell them everything ..you really need help ...if you feel you cant say everything you want to the doctor ...write it all down and give it to the doctor when you arrive ...it is never easy to admit we need help ...it is often that we feel concerned that people wont understand ..or feel we are weak .....you are not alone there are many who suffer the same feelings ..........lets us all know how you get on ....... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dirtyapev2	talk to someone...you need to get how you feel out in the open with someone not connected to you. if you dont feel comfortable talking to a doctor about this, you could try the samaritans, or even a counseller. bottling it all up like this will do you no good at all (trust me). speak to someone impartial and then eventually when you have got your head around these issues you will be able to discuss things with your family/partner/friends. with the debts, try talking to the citizens advice bureau...they may be able to help... you're not a loon...you just have a hell of a lot on your plate... good luck ps. in my view dont take medication for this...that will only be tackling the symptom not the problem Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kelly	they wont think your a loony at all. That is was depression does. My sister was feeling like she could actually kill somebody, how loony is that! No seriously though you really do need to go get help from your GP, they will refer you to the relevant person. Trust me your not the only person that's broke down in the doctors room. This kind of problem needs professional help otherwise it will only get worse. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Chencha	Darling, you're not a loon. You're just stressed to bits! What you really need to do to start with is find yourself a new doctor! I'm not saying any doctors are bad..it's just that you need one that suits YOUR personality & needs! Then you'll feel safe to tell all & know you won't be locked up. Not that you would be if what you've written is the truth. I'd be bawling & climbing the walls in your situation too! Hang on..I've been there! All except for the "I hate seeing my name written down"..I couldn't look. I finally had a fab doctor who told me I was stressed & depressed rather than just writing me endless prescriptions for drugs that I would never fill. I denied depression (staunch cow!), so he just smiled, gave me a hug & a brochure to take home & read. The following week I was back in his surgery & blubbing like a baby (stupid brochure)..very embarrassing! My honey of a doctor spent the time with me discussing alternative treatments rather than racing straight into anti-depressants. We talked about my circumstances. In the end we agreed that I would take a 6-month course of anti-depressants & he referred me to a counsellor. It took a while for me to pull myself together, with a lot of help from good medical professionals, some special friends, & a couple of awesome family members. Honestly, don't be scared to go 'shopping' for a good doctor for you! HONESTLY, you're not crazy or a loon! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nicolefrenzy	you must be depressed to say you wished you'd never had your daughter you need to see your GP and tell them everything your not a loon your depressed its an illness Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Elle J Morgan	I wouldn't say so-This is all fixable-Depression is when you can't fix it- I do think you are low and don't have anything good to aim for right now- You have to turn it around Being positive is a good start and so is asking for help- However I wouldn't start taking anti-depressents cos that just hides what's going on- Depression is an inverted state of mind-Being positive is the only thing to change it- As for the debts and being out of work-If you don't own your home then I would recommend bankruptcy-Cos you will end up with bad credit anyway if you don't make the repayments-I did it and it changed my life-I got a fresh start. Make changes and your life will feel so different- I have 3 girls-In January I had to leave my home and alll our belongings cos my ex was violent- I went into a refuge 200 miles away- I got rehoused and started from scratch- I was suffering from postnatal depression as baby was 5 months old and I'd recently seen a woman run over by 3 cars- I cut off all contact with my ex,filed for divorce and bankruptcy- Then I started thinking about what I wanted to do-The first thing was a holiday-so I saved up and took my girls away-Then I booked driving lessons-Bit by bit It all got clearer and I felt better. I am now thinking about having a nice Xmas,my driving test is in 4 weeks and I'm going to start my law degree next year with the Open University. You can do it !!!!!!!!!!!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

fred	you not only sound depressed but desperate for help. you don't hate your daughter you just have so much going wrong at the moment that you can't stand anyone making anymore demands on you and sadly your daughter comes into that category. try writing down EVERYTHING that's going wrong in your life, write how you feel and then try going back to the doctor, don't try i explain how you feel just hand over the letter, this way he/she can see what stress you are under and help you the best they can. if you can fight the depression then you will be strong enough to deal with your other problems and also start to enjoy your life and your daughter again,once the pressure that you are under begins to lift you might even start to like your partner again, believe me i know what it feels like, best of luck !!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Obsequious	Yes, you sound depressed. If you have trouble talking at the doctor's office, and I totally understand the breaking down & crying part and not being able to talk, then write things down! Do not be afraid to write things down and hand it to the doctor when you get there. Of course, don't write a book. Keep each thing brief. I have done this many times. You sound just like me when I'm not on medications. I'm sorry you are feeling the way you are. I hope you get the help you need soon. If you do not have an appointment scheduled with a doctor soon please make one as soon as possible. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ponderpink	Don't tell the doctors all your thoughts no way! You must hold back but the word they are looking for is Depressed It would be perfectly acceptable to say, "Doc I've been feeling so depressed lately do you know of anything that can help me?" Antidepressants could be the answer for you as they are for alot of people and YOU deserve and your SWEET, SWEET innocent child deserves to feel your absolute love and adoration reflected back at her when she is looking to you for approval, NOT regret! Your child deserves the best of you and if you can't do it on your own DON'T you dare put your pride ahead of your own child. Get on antidepressants. The key to finding a cure for your depression is to keep trying different meds...UNTIL....okay Good luck babe! :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kirsty d	Firstly dont be scared that they will lock u up .. you will only be sectioned under the mental health act if u are a threat to ur own or someone elses life . It does sound like u are depressed .. the doctor is there to help even if it takes and hr of their time ..sit and talk to them , tell them every thing . If ur debts are that bad contact the Citizens Advice , they can give u impartial advice .. You could go bankrupt , a friend of mine did she owed nearly 20 grand, yes she had to go to court and state why she was in this mess , but believe me she is happier for it . i think it cost about £400 to go bankrupt . She was discharged from bankruptcy after 12 months .. her life is so much easier ( although if u own a property i would think wisely b4 doing it ) You have problems with ur self esteem due to ur depression , once the doctor has recognised they will either get u to c a councillor or prescribe drugs .. and the drugs do work .. i know because i am also on them , yes it will take about a month . but u will see the light at the end of the tunnel It is common that we want to push away the people most close to us at a time when we are feeling low .. but in time u will feel differently i hope this helps :o) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

btownsbabyblueangel	yes, it sounds like you are depressed. maybe you could think about counceling. it might help to just talk to someone about your problems. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No