Is virginity overrated?

I'm 17 and I'm one of two virgins out of all my friends. The rest always talk about sex like the girls on Sex and the City, and then make us feel bad about wanting to wait for someone specia...

I'm 17 and I'm one of two virgins out of all my friends. The rest always talk about sex like the girls on Sex and the City, and then make us feel bad about wanting to wait for someone special. They say it's really not a big deal and it's so great once we start, we'll never stop and they're just so public and trashy about it.
I'm worried that when I go to college in the fall and in the future, guys will freak out about it too. Is being a virgin and saving yourself for someone you care about overrated? Now I just feel stupid and immature, and like the guy will just look at it as a red flag or an annoying thing.

Falcynn	You're probably acting embarrassed about it, and so you're friends are just ripping on you because they can tell it's a sensitive subject for you. Just ignore them and act like it's no big deal to you and they'll let up. My friends used to make fun of me for being a virgin too but since it doesn't bother me at all they stopped making it an issue around me. However they still make fun of a couple of my other friends who are virgins, but only because they act so sensitive about it :P

Jojo	To make things short, if you don't want to lose it then don't; don't jump onto the bandwagon for the hell of it. Who cares if everyone else lost it, worry about yourself and how you feel about sex. You'll find that special one and when you lose it to them you'll be glad that you waited. Sex is suppose to be a special thing, but promiscuity is such a big thing now that people often forget that.

Shannon	It is not overrated at all and I sincerely wish I would have waited. Don't feel pressured to go all the way do whatever is comfortable with you. I know a lot of people are going to be telling you this. If the guy thinks its annoying and thinks that you should be having sex with him hes a waste of your time.

Ethan	Nope, its something to be proud of! Look at me! am a 20 yr old guy who is a Virgin! were are a rare breed lol. There is NOTHING wrong with waiting for the right person. I'm hopeing my future girlfriend will have done the same thing lol

FASHii0NADDiCT	No, it's more virgins in the world then you think. People just be lying about it.... To fit in. Just be you're self and wait for the right person.

Blondie T	im using my kid sisters acccount and i agree with fabul - wait till your old enough to have sex with a MAN not a boy!!!! I doubt that 17 yearold boys are good lovers. your friends are insecure and are lying to fit in, or having having bad sex to apease thier horny boyfriends. If i overheard a bunch of highschool girls talk about sex like that id snicker at the fact that the have probably never even had an orgasm but think they are cool for letting thier boyfriends do them for 2 minutes and now think they are the **** or whatever. seriously its much better if u wait a few years.

vahmp_scene1	lol no. its all just fine. tell them to f*ck off :) at least your not at a risk of STDS :D haah

Nicole J	You don't necessarily have to wait to you care about someone, just do it with someone you are not going to regret it with-does that make sense???

( :	no i dont think it is even tho youll prolly be disapointed when its over in like 2 minutes youll be like i waited all this time and thats it ( =

erynnoherynn	no. it's not overrated. i think it's fine to be a virgin. i waited until i was in love. and i had sex with my current boyfriend, but it's okay if you want to wait. to be totally honest, losing my virginity wasn't as big of a deal as i thought it would be. i thought it would be like a rite of passage or soemthing, definitely wasn't. don't do it until your ready. and to be honest, alot of guys prefer to have sex with virgins, that way they know the girl is clean and hasn't been "used" so don't worry about it.

Me	I thought i was the only person that feels this way. I have had experiences where guys just expect me to have sex with them when we are just making out. Don't ever be forced to do something you don't want to do. When you are ready and have that someone special that is great :). You obviously don't sound like you want to...and if you do you will regret it and feel horrible....

Babs	It sounds like calling your friends trashy is an accurate ussumption. You should be proud of your decision. You sleeze friends are going to end up with an std or a baby. Who the hell sits around bragging about having sex. Stay strong and find new friends.

Ryans_Princess	I lost mine in a way i wish i could really take back. I felt so low when i finally met someone and couldnt give all of myself because someone else had already taken it. Just ddo what you feel is right and you will be happy. If the guy freaks out his obviously not the guy you want to be with.

~king of bling~ Areeb	dont worry its just fine

Steven W	of course not! u need to wait until u have found the person that you truely love and you will know when the time is right. u dont want to give it away to someone that you might regret later.

Krazy4Stitch	I think it an excellent thing.....and A LOT of guys like virgins and will try their hardest to be the one. So when you get to college be careful however you do have soem power over some guys. However in my opinion it really is how you feel. If you feel like a kid because your still a virgin, I think you are not very proud of yourself. Be PROUD you're still pure compare to your friends.

Toby K	NO its not

cind	Look stop caring about what others think. No matter what some people wont agree and others will applaud you for sticking to your beliefs. Guys want easy girls ...one night stands. Men want real women who are confident and have morals. So as long as your confident with your choice to save your self then its fine..infact it's great. Once you lose it to that someone special he will see you as a big reward because you were all his. And you wont have regrets about giving it up because of some lame imature peer pressure. Let your friends be and you be your self. Sex is great for the moment. But with the wrong person it's down grading. You will hear your friends complain after awhile...or they might hide it from you because they dont know how to talk about it with you because your the 'virgin' but thats fine and its normal. By the way under age and careless sex is OVER RATED! i mean 1 of 4 people has an std! and so many teens are at home changing diapers. So take your time.

Amanda C	when i was an immature teen i would've said that yes it is overated. but now im 23 and i feel it is underated.

Keehaaw	every girl wants their first time to be with someone she cares about theres nothing wrong with that - its the way it should be! the girls that give it up for anyone usually regret their first time so i recommend waiting till you're comfortable with the guy

Nicole	i think the actual act of losing you virginity is overrated. its just sex. its prob gonna b awkward the 1st time. if your not comfortable with the person u will prob regret it. but your friends making fun of u for saving it for now just isn't right. i'm one of the only virgins of my groups f friends and we talk about it alot. i still know what they're talking about so its not a big deal. but they respect my decision not to have sex for the time being. and most of them even the ones who enjoy sex now regret having there 1st time with the preson they had it with (that's excluding the ones still with those people) anyways its up 2 u. good luck! :]

Fluttering Leaves	No, your friends are wrong. Save it for the right guy and the right time.

tlk	just wait to you feel comfortable. if you dont want to then dont, if you want to then go for it, but dont wait because someone tells you to, wait because you want to. i dont see how saving it for someone special is bad, its just innocent.

needaansa11	its not immature but to have sex is not a big deal and to wait for a special some1 it will be more beneficial to u also girls being trashy about it r the actual immature ones

Jammin Jade	Just look at them and think to yourself how stupid they are for having sex at such a young age. Just because they're ready for it doesn't mean you need to be! I think you're doing the right thing. You keep your virginity however long you want. No one else has the authority to tell you when you should or shouldn't loose it. Just have trust in yourself and keep up your self esteem. It's best not to loose it young from my own experience. And it's not overrated, silly. It may be said a lot, but that just means their are more people out there choosing what's best. And that's a good thing. (:

Sexy Vampiress	Sorta, its a yes and no thing. I liked being a virgin because no one could call me a whore or a slut, but after i lost it, it really wasnt a big deal. and if a guy freaks out that you are a virgin then he totally wasnt worth it anyway!

tiaprae	Virginity means something different to every one. It's true we've been raised in a Sex and the City kind of ideal, but it's nothing to be ashamed of. There are plenty of guys out there that would prefer to take it slow, and sex isn't the only part of a relationship. If your virginity means something to you, hold on to it until you feel ready, not because your friends were ready before you.

shrink	Virginity is no big deal. Don't do anything until you're ready to do it! And... once you're sexually active, it doesn't mean you'll become all trashy like your friends. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders, so don't be swayed by your silly girlfriends. Good luck.

Juje	Real guys like it, trashy men hate it. Stay a virgin till you really want to lose it to the right person.

Plea for Peace!	If it's something that feels right to you, don't let anyone get in the way of you living your life as you see fit.

spongeworthy_us	It's completely a personal choice and there's no point in being in a hurry. My first time was when I was 19. But yes, it is overrated.